00:00If you're having problems attracting women then this video is for you. Learn the keys to
00:03attraction so you can stop asking the question why aren't women attracted to me. I'm Eddie Baller
00:07and I'm a dating coach and the owner of conqueringwood.com and I've been coaching
00:10men since 2011 to build the confidence and get the kind of women they want. So let's jump into it.
00:20Why aren't women attracted to you? Attraction is not random. There are certain factors which
00:24affect it and some of these things are out of your control but a lot of things are actually
00:28in your control. Some of which are physical but a lot have to do with your personality. So let's go
00:33over some of the reasons you may not be attracting women. The top reasons you're not attracting women.
00:37Number one hygiene. Hygiene is really important. It's probably you know you the viewer probably don't
00:41need to hear this but some of you do need to hear this. A friend of mine who's a dating coach
00:46took out a client one time and he literally had to get him to go to a drugstore and get a nail clipper
00:51and cut his nails and clean his under his fingernails because it was disgusting. And so that's not going
00:57to be most of you obviously but there are different things you can do. I had a client come over and
01:00visit as well. Flew over from the states and I was surprised because you know his hair hadn't been
01:05cut in a couple months and he didn't really have it done up you know styled the way he could make
01:09himself look a lot better. And also his beard wasn't trim right. You know nothing wrong with a beard
01:14but it was messy. Basically he just had a messy you know look going on. And I got on the schedule with a
01:18barber that I used to go to and the next day of his boot camp was way better and he did a lot better
01:24with a tracking woman when he's approaching. He had a lot better reactions and he probably felt
01:28a lot better too. Number two posture. Posture is a big one. Sometimes especially for shorter guys
01:32you complain about being short but I also have bad posture and this is also going to affect guys who
01:37are taller as well because if you're leaning forward if you're you know crane necking looking at the
01:42ground hands in your pockets your shoulders are you know forward instead of being back you're going to
01:48make yourself look a lot smaller. You're going to make yourself shorter as well and you're also going to
01:53make yourself look like you have no confidence. And looking like you have confidence and actually
01:57having confidence is really big on the list for attraction for the ways they attract women.
02:01Number three style. Style is important. It's something that doesn't have to be very fancy for
02:05men. You don't need expensive clothing but you do need a good pair of shoes and clothing that fits
02:10properly. Now there's a lot of different ways to do style so I'm not going to really cover it here
02:14but it'd be a good idea to check online or check with somebody you trust who has a good sense of style
02:19to see what you can do for yourself if that's an area you need to work on. Number four. A weak voice.
02:23This is something I see a lot when I take clients out when as soon as they go approach a woman that's
02:28really attractive their voice the the strength of their voice and the tone just plummets it goes
02:32right off a cliff even if they're kind of a manly man with a strong voice they turn into mickey mouse as
02:37soon as they're face to face with a really attractive woman because they lose their confidence. As soon as
02:41your voice plummets as soon as your voice gets soft like that it just doesn't look confident. Plus a strong
02:46voice is authoritative and that being authoritative is attractive as well. Number five. Resting bitch
02:51face. Men also get resting bitch face walking around with a frown and that frowny face isn't
02:56going to be making anybody smile back at you. In fact I see this all the time I took a client to
03:00a coffee shop asked him to get a glass of water and I noticed the reaction that the baristas two cute
03:06baristas had to him when he walked over there. It wasn't just his frowny face he also had other things
03:10going on that were negative but he also but he had that resting bitch face on and that's basically
03:15what they mirrored back to him. And when I went in there I talked to them did the same thing order
03:19water didn't do anything special I just smiled at them and a few other factors but the smile is
03:24probably the biggest one they smiled back at me instantly and if you're walking around you're
03:29wondering why people are being so negative to you that's gonna be one of the things you're gonna
03:32want to look out for. And obviously a good smile is attractive as well. Number six. Fitness. Fitness takes
03:37some time and dedication but you don't have to be in the gym all day. It's also going to pay off big
03:41dividends for how you feel about yourself for confidence and it'll even help your style because
03:45you're gonna be able to get clothing which fits better and makes you more comfortable and more
03:49confident. And hey who doesn't like a fit body and that goes for both men and women. Number seven. Eye
03:53contact. One of the big things I see a lot with guys who don't have a lot of confidence is they
03:57avoid eye contact or at least their eye contact's not super strong right their eyes are kind of darting
04:01around and it's hard especially if an attractive woman to main a strong eye contact. Strong eye contact or good
04:07eye contact shows a lot of confidence and it's also one of the keys to attraction. You want to be a little
04:11hold eye contact with a woman when you approach her when you start a conversation or and especially
04:16when you're on a date. One small study I read years ago about eye contact they took a bunch of strangers
04:20and they put them face to face like a cedar or whatever and they just made them look at each other
04:24for like four minutes or something like that. Complete strangers who had never had a conversation before
04:28and just with the eye contact alone they were able to create feelings of attraction. Number eight.
04:33A lack of balls. If you don't have some courage to go and talk to somebody you can't act boldly
04:37and just go after it basically you're gonna have a lot less opportunities plus it's also a lot less
04:42attractive when a guy's really timid. So getting more courageous growing your balls and taking
04:47chances is going to be a big step and it's to give you a lot more opportunities. Number nine. Social
04:52skills. To put everything together really well and to make it work no matter how good your style is or
04:58the courage you have you're going to need some social skills. That means the way you communicate with
05:02other people has to be effective right. You need to be able to communicate in a way that they
05:06understand and in the right way. If you're interested in somebody you want a date you want a romantic
05:11thing you can't communicate in the same way you're going to communicate with friends. Social skills
05:14also include etiquette and other things like that but this is a really big one that kind of glues all
05:19the other pieces together. Number ten. Experience. If you're not attracting women chances are you don't have
05:24that much experience with them either right. And things like social skills and eye contact and having better
05:28posture around people just being more confident overall. A lot of it's going to come from experience
05:32right. But you have to also have the right mindset to put that experience together in a way that's not
05:36going to be a weight on your shoulders. You have to be able to handle rejection basically. And having a
05:41lack of experience means also you're probably not going to know what to do with women and that's going
05:45to be a big factor too which is going to push them away often. Number eleven. Neediness. Neediness will have
05:50women running really fast. If you're needy and you get an opportunity for a date and you start acting really
05:54clingy right basically contacting too much in the beginning. Showing too much interest like you have
05:59nothing else going on and you're just way too into her like it just it's going to set off red flags for
06:04most women. And a lot of neediness is going to come from just not having options obviously. If you get
06:08one option you're going to get kind of desperate for it right because it feels like this is you know you
06:12haven't had an option in a long time and you've got to do everything you can to get this one woman.
06:16And it makes it seem so much more important than it is even though in reality if you had other options you
06:22probably wouldn't be so needy. Number twelve. Friend zoning yourself. This happens often. Guys will treat
06:27the woman they're interested in as friends and that's what they get back right. It's just basic mirroring.
06:32The cues which attract women aren't going to be there because you're acting too nice right and trying
06:37too hard to be nice or a nice guy. There's nothing wrong with being nice but being that nice guy is going to
06:44push a lot of women away because they're all going to think you're just a good friend. To learn more about
06:47attraction check with the link in the description or the comment section below and until next time conquer and win.
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