How To Approach Women In The Gym

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In this video, I'm going to show you how to approach a fit, attractive woman in the gym, how to ask out a cute  gym staff member, and the question of whether you should even try approaching in your personal gym at all.  WATCH NOW: How to Meet Girls for Relationships, Dating, & Sex (Exact Steps!) https://youtu.be/DcbLq0e9HLc  IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN THIS KIND OF CONTENT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS ARTICLE: https://www.conquerandwin.com/why-women-go-cold-on-text-messages-and-how-to-write-messages-that-work/  WHO AM I:  Hi, I’m Eddy Baller, author & founder of Conquer & Win.  I’ve been a dating and relationship coach since 2011, and since then I have helped men across the globe to build their social confidence and get the dates and relationships they deserve.    FOR COACHING, GO TO: https://www.conquerandwin.com/vancouver-dating-coach/   GET IN TOUCH:  If you’d like to talk, I’d love to hear from you. Emailing me at eddy@conquerandwin.com directly will be the quickest way to get a response. I try my best to reply to things but there sadly aren’t enough hours in the day to respond to everyone though I’d get there as soon as I can.    ▼ see below for links & more ▼ ✉️  Sign up to my weekly email newsletter - https://www.conquerandwin.com/contact/ 🌍  My website / blog - https://www.conquerandwin.com 📸  Instagram - https://instagram.com/conquerandwin

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00:00So you're working out and you spot this stunner in the corner of your eye who's on the treadmill

00:03and she's really fit and really attractive, just your type. But how do you approach women in the

00:08gym? If you ask yourself this question, then stay tuned because I'm going to cover how to approach

00:13a fit, attractive woman in the gym, how to ask out a cute gym staff member, and the question of

00:17whether you should even try approaching in your personal gym at all. I'm Eddie Baller and I'm a

00:21dating coach and the owner of conquering1.com and I've been coaching men since 2011 to build

00:25the confidence and meet the kind of women they want. And I know it works from thousands of

00:29personal experiences, as well as watching my clients infield regardless of their height, age,

00:33race, looks, or financial status. So let's jump into it. Should you approach women in your gym?

00:42We'll start with the question of whether or not you should even try approaching women in your gym

00:45because there are some factors here which may affect your decision. There are pitfalls to asking

00:50out a woman in your gym, such as number one, the gym is sacred ground. I guess be real. You're there

00:54to train. You want to get jacked or just fit and strong. And if you're thinking about women in the

00:59gym and you're wanting to ask them out, it's going to be distracting. You're probably not going to get

01:04as good a workout in or you're going to be there for a lot longer than you have to be. Two, if it

01:08doesn't work out, you may be feeling awkward and you may be hesitant to go back to your gym or having

01:13this kind of shitty feeling when you see her, this awkward feeling, which will also affect your

01:17workout quality. And three, you could develop a reputation at your gym. It could be positive.

01:22You know, you could be the ladies man or it could be a negative reputation. That's the guy who asks

01:26out every single girl. So those are some of the potential pitfalls, but they can't be negotiated.

01:31Number one, awkwardness. Awkwardness is very often just a feeling that you have. And if you project

01:35that at somebody else, then everything becomes awkward. If you don't feel awkward, if you go in

01:39there, you act normal, you say hi to the same girl you asked out the, you know, the same way you

01:43usually do if that was the case and you just do your normal routine, it's not really not going to be

01:48awkward. You're going to project awkwardness if that's what you feel. Two, you could develop

01:52a reputation as a ladies man. Just be careful. Don't ask everyone out and have some tact when

01:57you do it. There's different ways to do it. There's just different ways to start conversations.

02:00If you're just a social guy and you chat with everyone, it's not going to be really weird

02:04when you're talking to an attractive woman too. So that's one way you can go through that issue.

02:08And three, worst case scenario, you end up dating and it doesn't go well, or you just ask everyone

02:12out and develop a reputation you don't like and it's attracting you. You could always go to

02:16another gym, but that's really should be a last resort, right? It's not really something you want

02:20to do when you're going to your sacred ground. Now, what's the best way to approach a woman at

02:24the gym? You could try one of these methods and here's the quick list. Number one is ask a relevant

02:28question. Number two, make an observation. Number three is do a cold approach and be direct. Cold

02:33approaching is probably the least desirable. One of the options here, asking questions or making

02:37observations, just making a comment is usually the best way to go because it's more low-key in this gym

02:42environment. But now let's get into the specifics. Here are some easy low-key conversation openers

02:46that you can use at your gym. Number one, ask her what she's training for. I actually got a date with

02:51a very attractive woman at the gym I used to go to because she was doing these poses. So she was

02:55actually getting ready for a fitness competition and she looked really great. And I just asked her

02:59what she's training for. Number two is just make a relevant observation about something you see.

03:03And that can be something really simple, like the fact that it gets so busy at that time or that it's so

03:08quiet at that time or really anything else that's really, you know, mind-numbly simple. Like you

03:14don't have to have something creative. Just make an observation about something you see that's right

03:18there that can get the conversation started. Don't worry about making a comment that's super

03:22interesting or funny or any of that stuff. Just say something so you can possibly get the ball rolling.

03:27You can even ask her what her routine is, which is not really an observation, but that's a question

03:31opener. Next, cold approaching. How to cold approach in the gym. Cold approaching is a direct method of

03:35starting a conversation. You're basically telling her that you thought she was really cute,

03:38attractive or really fit, which might work better in the gym. I won't go into all the details on this

03:43video because I've actually already covered it on another video. So check out the link in the

03:47description. And last but not least, how to ask out a cute gym staff member. So I already mentioned

03:51the fact that I asked out a cute gym staff member. Actually, well, it was just a girl at the gym who was

03:56posing and getting ready for her fitness competition. And I asked her what she's training for, but she was

04:01also a staff member working there. And actually, I also waited until I found out she was leaving. She wasn't

04:06going to be working anymore. And that's when I asked her out because generally, for me, the gym was a

04:11sacred gown and I didn't go approach woman there. And I also asked out a front desk girl who also I

04:16found out was leaving. And in both cases, I got to know the staff a little bit for her. In fact, I got

04:19to know everyone there. Every time I walk in, I always have enthusiasm. I greet everyone, female or male,

04:25it didn't matter. So use the following steps if you want to ask out an attractive female staff member.

04:29Number one is make conversation every time you see her. Every time you go to the gym, chat a little bit.

04:33It doesn't have to be a long time, but chat a little bit. Ask about her day. Just basic kind

04:37of stuff like that. Number two, be enthusiastic. Don't go in there and act depressed or looking at

04:42the ground. You know, you actually want to have some energy and make strong eye contact when you

04:47go and you see her. Number three, learn about her. Actually learn about what she does outside of the

04:51gym. You know, she's working in a gym. She may be a student. She's studying somewhere or maybe she's a

04:55personal trainer. There could be a lot of different options. Learn what makes her tick. Learn about her

04:59background and what got her into the gym work in the first place. Number four, finally, is ask her out.

05:03At some point, you're going to want to ask her out. You don't have to wait forever to get to know her

05:07really, really well at the gym. But it'd be good if you have a bit of rapport for us. And then when

05:10you ask her out, it probably won't be that much of a surprise. That's all for today. Until next time,

05:15conquer and win.

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