How To Get A Girlfriend If You're Ugly

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00:00How to get a girlfriend if you're ugly. If you're watching this, then it's pretty

00:03self-explanatory what you're here to know. But the ways to overcome this challenge and

00:07attract the kind of women you want may not be as straightforward as just becoming good-looking.

00:11But keep watching and learn how to improve your looks, how to attract women even if you're ugly,

00:15and how to get into a relationship regardless of your looks. I'm Eddie Baller and I'm a dating

00:20coach and the owner of conquerandwin.com and I've been coaching men since 2011 to build their

00:24confidence and meet the kind of women they deserve. And I know what works from thousands

00:27of personal experiences as well as watching my clients infield regardless of their height,

00:32age, race, looks, or financial status. So let's jump into it.

00:40Am I too ugly to get a girlfriend? Firstly, probably not actually. But it kind of depends

00:44on your standards. And a bunch of other factors too. But too many guys act like all women are

00:49looking for these super jacked, model-looking dudes and that's just not true. And if you think

00:54that's the standard or maybe you're watching too many Instagram videos, that may be causing

00:58your problems in your dating life. And maybe you feel unattractive now, but how much more

01:03good-looking would you have to be in reality to get a girlfriend? Maybe you can't get a model,

01:07but you really don't need a model to be happy. You just need to match who you're attracted to

01:11and someone who has the same kind of lifestyle ambitions that you have. Because the success of

01:15your future relationships depends on a lot more than just looks. And that includes your looks.

01:19So stop obsessing over them. Now having said that, anything is possible for you. Maybe you will

01:23get models. I had a client in England and his goal was literally to date models and he ended up doing

01:28that. Now he was actually a very good-looking guy. But that wasn't the reason he got models. The

01:33reason he got models is because he started going after them. He started asking them on dates. He

01:36started approaching them and learning the skills and the confidence to do so. And of course those looks

01:41probably helped too. Because hey, it is a given. Looks do have an effect, but they are not everything.

01:45But how you feel about your looks will have a major effect on your confidence, which will help you

01:50attract and approach women in the first place. And improving your looks is probably one of the

01:54easiest ways to build your confidence, just to begin with. But I'll cover that later. So first,

01:58how to get a girlfriend if you are ugly. Now you might be ugly, but it's not likely that this is the

02:02only obstacle you're facing with dating. Attraction between men and women works differently,

02:06depending on which side of the coin you're on. If you're a man, you're 100% focused on looks.

02:10That initial physical attraction is really, really vital. And women do like looks,

02:15but that's not the only factor for them when they're attracted to the men. It's about our

02:18behavior, how we act, our confidence. So I already mentioned confidence, of course,

02:22but let's go into some other factors as well as confidence, which affect attraction. I'll cover

02:27these in more detail in a second. But first, I'll just go over a quick list of what the different

02:31things that are going to affect attraction for you when you're trying to attract women. Number one,

02:35confidence. Number two, assertiveness. And number three, social skills. Now, here's how to attract a

02:39woman even if you're ugly. Number one is confidence. This is going to be the end result of a lot of the

02:43other items on the list. Your confidence is going to be built up in different ways. But having that

02:47confidence, having that self-assured personality goes a long way to attract women. People notice.

02:52Women don't want to be around a guy who's unsure of himself. How is that guy going to be a protector

02:56for her or even get anything done, right? If you don't have confidence to get anything done,

03:00you don't have confidence around her, it's not going to be great basically for your dating resume.

03:04Number two is social skills. Social skills are how you connect with people. It's your eye contact.

03:09It's your body language. It's how you use your voice. It's how you lead a conversation and even

03:13how you listen. All these factors are really important when you want to communicate with

03:17somebody and attract a woman. Number three is boldness. This is like confidence, but it's the

03:21ability to do something big or to make bold moves, right? Do something that other people might not do,

03:26right? You're bolder than they are. Also means you have more balls and you're willing to take a chance.

03:31Four is assertiveness. Also related to boldness, the more assertive you are, the more likely you are

03:35also to be a bold man, not bald, right? Nothing to have hair. Being assertive means you're going to

03:41ask for what you want or you're going to express yourself in some way to get what you want. You're

03:45not going to be passive aggressive or just passive. Number five is not people pleasing. A people

03:49pleaser probably is not going to be assertive. They're going to be putting everyone else first,

03:53but they're going to be doing it in a way that basically means they're catering to everyone,

03:58not looking after their own needs. And if you don't, if you're a people pleaser, you're really not

04:01going to please anyone, right? It looks kind of fake. Number six, being a doormat, right?

04:05Obviously don't be a doormat. You need to have boundaries and you need boundaries mean that,

04:09you know, if someone crosses those boundaries, uh, you don't move the boundary a little bit to

04:13accommodate them. It means, you know, there's a red line and people step over that line. Uh,

04:18you're walking away. You're going to stand up for yourself in some kind of way. Number seven,

04:21taking care of your mental and physical health. Number eight is cutting out negative friends or media

04:26because these are going to affect your mindset a lot. If you have negative friends who just don't

04:29believe anything is possible, uh, you're probably not going to believe much as possible either,

04:33especially in the dating world. I've had clients before who came to me and their social circle was

04:37very negative about dating because none of those guys could get dates and they didn't believe that

04:41coaching with me would work at all. And the guy ended up getting dates. And in spite of that,

04:46those guys continue being negative and they wouldn't really believe that anything would work,

04:51even though they could see the result from their friend right in front of their eyes. And negative

04:54media obviously is going to affect your outlook on life. If you're watching a lot of it, uh, you're probably

04:58not going to feel too positive and that's not going to make you feel like getting out there and doing

05:01something. Number nine is focusing on other goals besides women that will affect your, your dating

05:05life as well, because you'll have other things going on and you'll feel more confident because

05:09you're getting things done. You're achieving your goals, going after what you want. And number 10,

05:12learning how to approach women by learning how to actually approach women, uh, you're going to open

05:17up a lot of dating options for you. That's going to really explode your dating life. In a good way.

05:21I mean, your dating life is going to blow up and you're going to learn a lot of social skills and

05:25confidence and get a lot of experience, which are all things that are going to help your dating life.

05:28Now, how do you improve your looks to get into a relationship? I left this for last because it's

05:32the least important thing, but it is still important. Your self-perception about being

05:36ugly is more damaging than being ugly itself because you're not going to get out there.

05:39You're not going to talk to women. You're not going to go ask anyone out if you feel really

05:43down on yourself. So to get a quick confidence boost, work on your looks. Some of the things on

05:47the list I'm going to go over right now are quicker than others. Others require more long-term

05:50commitment, uh, but they'll all work together to make you more attractive. Number one, lift weights.

05:55Lifting weights will help you put on some muscle and probably also help you burn some fat as well.

05:59Number two, run. Running is also will help you continue that trend, burning fat and getting a

06:04little bit leaner. Number three, get outdoors. Go have an active lifestyle. Be actively doing things.

06:09Don't just stay home and play video games or other things where you basically just isolate yourself.

06:14You want to get out there and even better if you can socialize with people when you get outdoors.

06:17Number four, eat healthy. Eating healthy will affect the running and the weightlifting and your energy

06:22to help you become more physically attractive. Number five is style. This is probably the

06:27quickest, easiest thing that you could do to boost your looks. Now, depending on your physical

06:30condition, the more fit you are, the easier it is going to get style, which looks really good on you,

06:36right? If you're really overweight or you're really skinny, it's not as easy to get clothing that looks

06:41as good on you because you want something that's form-fitting and you want a good form for that form-fitting

06:45clothing. But regardless, whether you're overweight or underweight or, you know, whatever, it doesn't

06:50really matter. You can still get clothing that's going to look better on you than what you're

06:53wearing right now. Basically, just dress on purpose. Dress with a particular style in mind.

06:57Go out there. They'll just throw on some jogging pants or whatever. Style is a really big topic,

07:02so I'm not going to tell you what good style is. Go talk to somebody you trust or go talk to someone

07:06in a retail store or attractive woman and see what they think. Number six, grooming. Grooming is huge.

07:11If you have a beard, make sure it's trim. Make sure you have a beard on purpose. It's not just a big

07:16scruff. Cut your hair. Obviously, showering. Trimming your nails. Dealing with nose hair or any other

07:22weird hairs that are planning to pop up. I had a client come over here. We did a boot camp and I

07:27was kind of surprised on the first day because he came pretty well ungroomed. He hadn't had a haircut

07:32in probably a couple months and he didn't tend to his beard. Got him to do that the first day. He went to

07:37a barber and he looked like a different guy the next day. He looked like he was on purpose and he was much

07:42more attractive and he's getting much more better results with the woman he was talking to. Number

07:46seven, sleep. Sleep will affect anxiety, depression, your energy levels, even how intelligent you are.

07:53So it's really important to get good sleep because you're going to feel better and feel more confident

07:56just from getting those hours in. Number eight, teeth. This is really related to hygiene as well.

08:01Obviously, brushing, flossing, all those basic things a couple times a day. And I'm not talking about

08:05having perfect teeth because I definitely don't have perfect teeth. It's not going to matter that much

08:10as long as you don't have a tooth that's growing through from your bottom jaw right through your

08:14skull. You'll probably be okay. Number nine, smile. Something that's going to make you much more

08:18attractive instantly is just smiling. If you have a frowny face, girls and other people are not going

08:24to respond that great to you. By smiling, by showing some positive emotions, people will respond more

08:29positively to you and you're going to look more attractive. And number 10, body language. If you have your

08:34hands in your pockets, if your shoulders are rolled forward, if you're crane-necking, looking at the

08:40ground, all these things look very, you know, like you lack confidence. And they're going to make you

08:46physically look less attractive too because you're not going to be as physically attractive when your

08:50body's contorted in kind of a weird posture of shoulders rolled forward and neck being craned and

08:56looking down. Hands in your pockets. You're going to make yourself shorter by doing all these things

09:01too. And you're not going to have as broad of shoulders, which is more attractive physically to

09:04women. So keep your head up, look straight ahead. Don't walk around looking at the ground. A lot of

09:09posture problems will require exercise though. So it goes back to weight training. There's lots of

09:14different exercises, not necessarily lifting heavy weights, but just doing the proper exercises for

09:18your back as well as stretches too. I know I've made a huge improvement in my own posture by stretching out

09:24the traps here in my neck because I had a lot of tension, a lot of tension and stiffness and it was

09:30contorting my posture. It basically made it harder for me to stand straight and tall. So I had to work

09:35at it. But after these stretches, it made, you know, it made a massive difference. It was easier to

09:41stand naturally and keep my shoulders back and not doing weird shrugs and stuff like that. But the

09:46first step obviously is just being conscious of it, but then go into the exercises as well and the

09:50stretches. And now the next section, when improving looks can't fix your confidence. I'll call this

09:55plastic surgery syndrome. Sometimes improving your looks will not make you feel better. And there are a

10:00lot of examples of this. There's a lot of extremes where people just keep getting one body modification

10:06or plastic surgery after another, after another until they become freakish. And there's also other

10:11conditions too, like anorexia and other eating disorders where it just doesn't matter how skinny

10:16you are or how good looking, you'll never be good looking enough, right? So you're not going to get

10:20happy by getting better looking or trying to. So a lot of people really hate themselves and this

10:24results in a lot of self-harm. And if that's your problem, you're not going to be able to fix it by

10:28getting better looking. And if that happens to be you, it'd be a good idea to seek out a counselor

10:32or other professionals who can help you with your self-image. But for most people,

10:36making some minor changes, getting fitter, changing your clothing and grooming will go a long way to

10:43make you more attractive and feel more attractive too. But hey, look at the big picture and decide what

10:46you want. Usually doing some quick changes will make a big difference in your confidence levels and

10:52how attractive you are to the opposite sex and how attractive you feel.

10:55Anyways, that's all for today. Until next time, conquer and win.

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