In this video, I'm going to show you how to get more dates in the daytime without going to bars or clubs.
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00:00How do you talk to a woman you meet during the day? This is a question I'll usually get from guys who are used to the nightlife and parties and going to bars, but they're not used to meeting women in the daytime without alcohol. And there are some crucial differences between meeting women in the night and the day, but mostly it's a mindset thing and there's a few other factors as well that come into play as to whether or not you're going to have success or not. So keep watching if you want to learn how to get more dates in the daytime without going to bars or clubs.
00:24I'm Eddie Baller and I'm the owner of ConqueringWin.com and I've been coaching men since 2011 to build their confidence and meet the kind of women they deserve. And I know what works from thousands of personal experiences as well as watching my clients infield, regardless of their height, age, race, looks or financial status. So let's jump into it.
00:45Some differences between meeting women in the day and the night. The main difference is psychological. It's all about what's happening in here.
00:51Because when you go to a bar or club, you know it's made for socializing, right? People are there to socialize, they're dancing together, there's drinks, there's alcohol, which changes the way people interact as well.
01:01But in the daytime, you don't have an environment which is conducive to meeting other people, unless you take charge and you create the opportunities yourself.
01:08And that can be kind of scary when nobody else is paving the way for you, right? It's all up to you.
01:12And since there's no alcohol, all the courage you use is going to be real courage. It's not going to be false courage, which is influenced by alcohol. You actually have to have some balls.
01:20Alcohol will mask insecurities and it will also prevent you from really developing yourself, right? You're not going to develop really good social skills when you're drinking a lot.
01:28And one of the effects of alcohol, besides creating a false sense of courage, is that it brings down your inhibitions.
01:33And if you're confident, you can actually have a similar effect in the daytime too. You can go and talk to women naturally and feel comfortable with them without the alcohol.
01:41So let's talk about how to do that. How do you talk to women you meet during the day?
01:44So I'm going to outline a few simple steps here that you can use to start meeting women in the day right away, as well as building your confidence so you can do it more effectively.
01:52Number one is energy. It's not going to be as high as it is in a club and when you're drunk, but you need to have a good energy when you go talk to somebody.
01:58Because if you go in there monotone, nobody's going to want to communicate with you, right?
02:02It kind of acts as a repellent if you're talking monotone.
02:04And usually that comes from nervousness. And this is something that I see a lot from clients.
02:08So basically the main idea is that when you go in, you should have some enthusiasm, right?
02:12Be excited because you're talking to a really attractive girl that you just met.
02:16Number two, starting the conversation. There's different ways to do this.
02:19You can do direct approaches or you can do indirect approaches. It really depends on the situation you're in.
02:24Some situations it's not really appropriate to go direct, but most of the time on the street and in other situations as well, going direct can be really good.
02:32It just basically comes down to telling her why you're talking to her, right?
02:35And the way I like to do it is by explaining a bit about what was happening right before I went to talk to her and then tell her why I'm there.
02:42It's because she's really cute or fill in the compliment of your preference.
02:45And the other way I like to do it is with simple observations that could be, you know, usually it's going to be in a grocery store or if I'm in a coffee shop.
02:52It's just really about making a comment about the situation or about something that she's doing.
02:56And there are just really too many ways to start a conversation in this way.
02:59So I'm not going to go into all the details, but I'll leave a link in the description.
03:02You can go check out for more details on how to start a conversation with a casual opener.
03:06Number three, once you're in the conversation, focus on connection building.
03:09Don't be a number hunter because the phone number doesn't really mean anything unless you make a connection.
03:14If you get a phone, you can get a thousand phone numbers and nobody's going to contact you back if you didn't actually make a connection.
03:19And I've seen this happen before of guys getting a lot of numbers, but not getting a lot of responses back.
03:23And the best way to make a connection is by focusing on her, right?
03:26Everybody's favorite topic is themselves and you should be curious about learning about her anyways because you just met a new girl.
03:32Number four is eye contact.
03:33You need strong eye contact.
03:35You can't be darting around the room and looking at the ground and acting nervous like that, right?
03:39You want to keep strong eye contact and have intent behind it too, right?
03:42Feel your attraction for her while you're looking at her.
03:45Don't, you know, act like she's your friend or something.
03:47Number five is body language.
03:48If you don't have good body language, not only are you going to tell her something that's not positive about yourself,
03:53but you're going to tell yourself that you're not confident either, right?
03:56So you should be standing tall.
03:58Your shoulder should not be rolled forward.
04:00Necks shouldn't be craning forward and your hands should not be in your pockets.
04:03Basically stand straight and have good posture.
04:05This may be very difficult if you have a habit of bad posture and that's going to require focusing on your posture as well as doing certain exercises,
04:14which you can find on YouTube.
04:15Number six is voice.
04:16Voice is probably one of the most common problems I see when I take clients out to talk to women as, you know,
04:22they might be confident with me and they're speaking with strong voice,
04:24but as soon as they go talk to an attractive girl, their voice just falls off a cliff.
04:29And now they sound like Mickey Mouse and it's all very attractive for the girl and they don't sound confident anymore, right?
04:35So you want to keep a strong voice.
04:37Don't go and start going.
04:39Don't go into whisper mode.
04:40That's really bad because a strong voice will say you're confident and it shows authority as well,
04:44which is another attractive feature for women.
04:47Number seven is ask her out.
04:48After putting all that effort in to go talk to her, don't just walk away without bothering to ask her out.
04:53Even if you think the conversation didn't go that great, you never know.
04:56It might have actually gone well.
04:57She might be interested.
04:58So just give it a shot, ask her out and then see what happens.
05:01And finally, just a note on how to actually build confidence to put this all together and make it work.
05:06It just really comes down to repetition, getting out there and talking to a lot of people, right?
05:10And don't just focus on the women you're attracted to, but get into conversations with everybody.
05:13Focus on being more social overall and it's going to build your confidence socially
05:18and it'll make it easier to talk to attractive women as well.
05:21For more details on how to approach directly, check out the link in the description.
05:25If you have any questions or comments, leave a comment below.
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