In this video, I'm going to show you if it is really possible to be in love with someone you have never met before, and what to do in those cases.
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00:00So I got a letter from a guy who says he's in love with a girl. That's great, but the problem is that he's never actually met her.
00:05I mean, he had a brief encounter with her, but she doesn't even know who he is, and she doesn't even know her name.
00:10Now, obviously, there's some major problems with this idea that he loves her when he's never even talked to her.
00:15So let's go into the letter.
00:21Quick note, I've changed some major details in his name, so there's no way to tie him to his letter for privacy reasons.
00:27But the gist of it is the same. And so here's the letter.
00:48So you, the viewer, may see a few problems with this letter and this idea that he loves her.
00:52So leave those in the comment below if you have any ideas where the issue is.
00:55But I'll go into a few of my ideas about why this is wrong.
00:58He's asking if a girl that he's never met formally likes him.
01:02Can you really like someone you haven't met?
01:03I mean, you can. You can see media personalities, and you can like what they're presenting, but you don't know them personally, right?
01:10If you met them in person, it might be a completely different story.
01:13Their media personality may be really different than their in-person personality, or just your chemistry may not work.
01:19So yes, we can like a personality or an idea of a person, but we can't really like someone personally, like on a one-to-one kind of basis without knowing them.
01:27Worse yet, he says he's in love.
01:29But this is a classic case of infatuation.
01:31You can't really love someone that you've never met.
01:33It's basically a fantasy, right?
01:35Because he has a fantasy idea about this girl based on her looks, right?
01:38And let's be clear, this is 100% about her look.
01:40Yeah, she may walk nice, and she has a nice smile, and he kind of sees her in the hall, and she looks really good, and he's really attracted to her, obviously.
01:47That's all fine and good, right?
01:48We can obviously be attracted to someone we don't know, just 100% based on physical attributes.
01:53But we can't really love them.
01:54That idea is really weird to me.
01:56The idea that you're going to love someone that you've never even talked to.
01:59In a relationship, when you start getting serious with somebody, it's because you start to get to know them.
02:03And sure, you can fall in love with the wrong people, but usually you're going to learn about their true character by being with them, right?
02:09When shit hits the fan, are they there to support you?
02:11When you're having a bad time, are they there for you?
02:14Can you trust them?
02:15Can you rely on them?
02:16This stuff takes time to actually learn about somebody, right?
02:19You don't know if somebody's character is truly what it seems until you really get to know them, and you go through some times with them, especially tough times.
02:25Those are usually the best ways to figure out if somebody is a really good match for you.
02:29Friends too, really, right?
02:30You can have a fair-weather friend, and you can know them for years, maybe even decades, and you don't know they're a fair-weather friend until shit hits the fan, and that person just disappears suddenly.
02:39When you need help, when you need support, they're gone, and this happens frequently, right?
02:43So we can all get surprises like that.
02:45I've had surprises like that in the past with fair-weather friends who disappear when there's actually a challenge in the way.
02:50And this idea about loving a stranger that you've never even talked to is really a dead-end street.
02:54The vast majority of the time, nothing's going to happen there, right?
02:56He hasn't even talked to her.
02:57He doesn't know how to talk to her.
02:59He's just building up this idea in his head about who she is, and he loves her, and he wants to marry her.
03:03Like, imagine that somebody you've never even met, you want to make the ultimate commitment to them.
03:08That's kind of crazy talk in my mind.
03:10And I'm not saying he's crazy, but this idea is crazy, right?
03:13It's just not a healthy idea.
03:15You really need to get to know people and also have options, right?
03:18I don't think he has any dating options, right?
03:19He's just infatuated with this one girl he sees at his university.
03:22And when you truly have options, you get to choose who you are with.
03:25If there's one option, it's not really an option, and it's not a choice.
03:28You can have a choice to ignore that option, but when you're desperate and you're a horny young guy, you're probably going to jump on it.
03:33Let's be real here.
03:34And so this guy's infatuated, but you know what, in extreme cases, when somebody's really infatuated with somebody they don't know, that's when stalkers are born, right?
03:41For the right personality type.
03:43Somebody builds up a fantasy in their head about somebody they say they love, they think they love, and they get obsessed with him.
03:48And again, I'm not saying that's this guy.
03:50He's not.
03:50He's obviously just seeing her, like, randomly in the hall or on the school grounds.
03:54But this kind of stuff can develop out of these ideas that you love somebody when something's so intense like that, even the idea that he wants to marry her, right, is really not healthy in any way.
04:02So if you're a guy who thinks you love someone that you've never met, or you hardly know, or even worse, somebody on a personality you see on social media, it's time to take a step back and reanalyze your life, really, right?
04:12Do you have options?
04:13Do you have dating options?
04:14Can you make a clear-headed choice?
04:16It's kind of like shopping when you're hungry.
04:17You're usually going to make bad decisions.
04:19Those chocolate bars are an easy buy, they're cheap, and they're quick, and they'll satisfy your hunger quickly, but they're not going to be satisfying in the long run and may be bad for you.
04:27And that's the way I look at dating options.
04:28If you just have one dating option and you're really hungry, you're not going to make the best choices, right?
04:32So if you don't have those dating options, it's time to create abundance in your life.
04:36Create options so you can actually make a choice.
04:37If you want a long-term relationship, a girlfriend or wife or anything like that, or another relationship type, you need to have options to make a good choice.
04:44And if you want to learn how to create that abundance in your life, check out the link in the description on how to approach women.
04:48That's going to give you some ideas on how you can start meeting more women.
04:50That's the first step here.
04:51Or if you want personal one-on-one help, also check out the link in the description for coaching options.
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