00:00You never know. I didn't know if it was going to take me two years to get pregnant or two
00:04minutes.
00:05So we made the decision, we started trying, and thank God I got pregnant fairly quickly,
00:12but did not expect to be pregnant in the middle of a pandemic.
00:19So we first met in 2012 when you showed up at my doorstep looking for headphones.
00:25Correct. Do you remember when I asked you to manage me?
00:27I was like, oh, this could be my opportunity to, like, get back into music and, like, I really believed
00:34in your talent.
00:35I was like, I'm going to figure this out.
00:37So what point did you feel like it became romantic?
00:42I feel like nowadays people really think that, like, it was romantic from the start,
00:48and that is, like, not okay for me because I was actually very serious about being a manager.
00:53I don't know why you laugh either.
00:54I was really serious. I was not even interested in you.
00:57I would say six months in is when you started, you know.
01:02Six months.
01:04Four?
01:05Like, four months?
01:06Yeah, because you were managing me, and I was in the studio working,
01:09and then one night you decided to come and work with me.
01:12No, it was, you were sleeping in the studio, and then you started sleeping in my room.
01:18But then when we started dating was when I was just, like, I'm going to have to marry him.
01:24I literally just, like.
01:25I was never looking for something serious.
01:28I was just, like, oh, wow.
01:30Like, look what God just, like, blessed me with.
01:34We were, like, ill-prepared, and it was so deep, so quick.
01:38And we were, like, friends. We really were friends first.
01:40You were a fun friend.
01:44Am I not fun now?
01:45No, you're fun, but in different ways now.
01:47What's, like, the funnest, wildest time from the earliest days?
01:51So, remember Tanzania?
01:54That was insane.
01:56And my family was, like, you're going to Tanzania to support your sister's wedding,
01:59and you're, like, I'm going to.
02:02And you bought a ticket right away.
02:04We jumped on a flight, and it was a great experience.
02:07I mean, it was so wild because you literally painted it, like.
02:12I thought we were, like, coming to America, like, coming to Tanzania.
02:15Yeah, and then it was just, like.
02:18It really was like that when I was a kid.
02:21Right, but as an adult, I think no one cared anymore.
02:25Right, no, I mean, I guess, like, yeah, if I wasn't coming with, like, a bunch of money for everybody.
02:29Right, they just were, like, gone.
02:32Oh, he's here on a tourist visa. It's okay.
02:34Yeah.
02:34I feel like our families are so different.
02:36Like, my families are, like, black American.
02:39Yours is, like, Tanzanian.
02:41And there is, like, a difference there, like, just culturally.
02:45Yes, yes, there is.
02:47But it's amazing.
02:48It's a beautiful difference because we really are people of faith, you know?
02:52Yeah.
02:52And even though we come from different faiths, like, grew up in different faiths, we still share the same beliefs.
02:58Yeah.
02:58How do you think that we've grown over the years?
03:02Woof.
03:02That's, like, a really loaded question.
03:05It doesn't have to be.
03:06I think, well, we've grown from me managing you to us dating to us performing together.
03:14A lot of our major fights over the years have come from being in a relationship but also working together.
03:20But I think in the past, I'd say two years, we've really, like, done the work with lots of prayer,
03:29right?
03:29Like, so much prayer.
03:31We've tried therapy, which is great.
03:34Love couples therapy.
03:35So good.
03:37And so I feel like our relationship has just grown to be, like, healthier and understanding, like, healthy boundaries.
03:44I don't know, like, any issue that I've ever had with you is just an issue I've had with myself.
03:49There's all these qualities that I just adore about you and I've only just noticed more, more incredible qualities.
03:56And we went through some hard shit, you know, like, you know, from your grandma dying to my grandma dying
04:04to, like, generational trauma, like, to then, like, me being diagnosed with, you know, bipolar, you know, and you sticking
04:12by my side during, like, my manic episodes and stuff like that.
04:16How did you feel about, like, when I was diagnosed with bipolar and how did you take that?
04:24Like, how did that hit you?
04:26Woof.
04:26It hit me, like, it was crazy because I feel like it was triggered.
04:33And then when they put you on the medication and you had the seizure, in that moment I thought I
04:39was going to lose you.
04:40So I think, like, even though everything leading up to that moment was so crazy, I think it really put
04:48everything into perspective as far as, like, my love for you.
04:52It was like, I don't care about anything.
04:55Like, I love him and I'm going to, we're going to figure out a way to, like, work through this
04:59and it's probably going to be really difficult, which it was.
05:03But I knew in that moment, and I knew all along, but when something like that happened, it, like, literally
05:10shook me to my core.
05:12Um, and so it was, like, it was a lot of hard work.
05:16I'm still, like, kind of, like, digesting it, you know, to be honest, just seeing your, your, um, dignity during
05:25that time and, like, how you never despaired and how you never lost sight of, like, you and our love
05:33and, like, your love for me.
05:35I think it sounds really, really dope.
05:37When you were diagnosed with bipolar disorder, it kind of changed everything.
05:42And we came back to New York to really be close to family and really just, like, established kind of,
05:49like, family bonds.
05:51I feel like I just can just love you to death, and I feel like you're not used to that,
05:56but I feel like it's, like, what I've said from the beginning, seven years, that you need love, even though
06:03you may reject it.
06:04Like, you love to be loved on.
06:07How do you feel about being pregnant right now during quarantine, during COVID?
06:12How have you been, like, feeling?
06:15Well, when we started trying, I feel like COVID wasn't a thing, but, like, coming back to New York, I
06:21definitely feel like when we first got back, I was probably, like, I don't know, grade, whatever level, because I
06:31was just, like, I don't trust anyone.
06:33I don't trust anything.
06:34I can't even, people are way too close to me on the street.
06:38What do you think?
06:39How have you felt about this pregnancy in COVID?
06:42Well, I haven't been pregnant.
06:44No, you haven't.
06:45But I do think that, you know, it's been good, because I don't want nobody around anyway.
06:52Like, I would rather everyone just keep their distance, and when the baby's born, you know, we can talk about
06:59that.
07:00Okay, young Stetser.
07:02How does it feel to love a black woman?
07:07It feels great.
07:09It feels like loving God.
07:14It feels like loving Mother Nature, like Earth.
07:17It feels like the most fulfilling thing to do with my life.
07:20It's to love a beautiful black woman like you.
07:24Thanks, Dave.
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