00:00So I had my natural hair out.
00:01I remember opening the door and you're like,
00:04oh, you look so beautiful.
00:05And I could, I feel like I cried.
00:08You make me feel beautiful all the time.
00:10You are beautiful all the time.
00:17The moment I knew that I wanted you to be my husband,
00:22and not to say I'm insecure about my natural hair,
00:24but I never showed like my natural hair to anyone before.
00:29I was like, I'm going to prepare myself right now
00:32to show this man my natural hair.
00:35And I want to see how he reacts.
00:37And I want to see if he changes or if like that bothers him in any way.
00:42And you're like, oh, you look so beautiful.
00:44I was like, this, this is the one.
00:46Like, I've never felt so comfortable with someone before in my life.
00:48Ever since then, you're helping me take out my weave,
00:51take out my braids.
00:52And the next time we saw each other
00:56was when your brother's girlfriend at the time,
01:00she messaged me on Twitter and she was like,
01:04my boyfriend's brother is interested in you.
01:08We started texting.
01:09I remember immediately being like,
01:11not that I wanted to be your girlfriend right away,
01:15but I really wanted to get to know you more.
01:17Like you were very interesting
01:18and you were so different from other guys.
01:21Do you remember when we made it official?
01:24You just asked me like, I want you to be my girl.
01:27And I was like, I remember feeling butterflies
01:29like going all over my body.
01:31And I was like, okay, you know, I was so shy.
01:33And I was like, hey.
01:35I remember after leaving your house that day,
01:37calling all my friends and being like,
01:38I'm not single anymore.
01:39So just so you guys know, like, I have a man now.
01:43I remember you saying to me,
01:44I know you want me to be your girlfriend.
01:46Yeah, I used to say.
01:46I know you.
01:48I feel like when we first started dating,
01:51I was very childish.
01:52Not only was I childish,
01:53but I was very petty, like super, super petty.
01:57I feel like now you've molded me
02:00into the woman I always wanted to be.
02:03And then I think about the conversations we have now
02:06and I see the growth in myself.
02:07It took you for me to be the woman I am today.
02:11I remember a conversation you and I had.
02:15This conversation helped me grow a lot.
02:18You told me I'm too predictable.
02:20I remember.
02:21And I was like, whoa, oh my gosh, predictable.
02:25So she knew I was going to ask her, blah, blah, blah.
02:28And that kind of like changed my life.
02:30That kind of changed my mind, my mindset.
02:33And it helped me grow.
02:35It helped me to keep you on your toes,
02:38like do new things, like new conversation,
02:41new places, new events.
02:44Like it just helped me to grow into the man that I am today.
02:48Just always wanting to make sure you have new experiences
02:52and not doing the same things over and over.
02:54As soon as we had that conversation within the next like three months,
02:58I saw a difference.
02:59The fact that you could take a conversation like that
03:02and really bring it to life was amazing, honestly.
03:08Yeah.
03:12You had a habit of when we would get upset, get in an argument,
03:17you would have a habit of saying things that would hurt someone's feelings.
03:22So I remember expressing how I felt to you, how that made me feel like bad.
03:31And I remember you listening to me and actually starting to have conversations rather than arguments.
03:39The first time that happened, that was probably, I want to say two,
03:44probably two years into our relationship.
03:46Yeah.
03:46Where you really listened to me and you took notice to what I was saying.
03:50And I was like, yeah, I could see myself spending the rest of my life with her.
03:54Ever since that conversation, like that's when our relationship really
03:58was just surrounded with love.
04:01Right.
04:02Yeah.
04:03I feel like my relationship role model is your parents.
04:09I grew up in a single parent household.
04:11Obviously my dad was in my life and my mom was in my life,
04:13but I never got to see that love within a household.
04:17So when I used to come over to your house and I would see your parents like hugging
04:22and like being lovey-dovey, it used to like just put a smile on my face and make me feel
04:27like
04:28they're raising my husband.
04:31I thought that for a long time before you ever proposed.
04:34I didn't know you were going to say that, but they're just always laughing.
04:37Yeah, always happy.
04:38Always happy.
04:39And I learned things from them too, you know what I mean?
04:41But yeah, I model our relationship off of them for sure.
04:45Yeah.
04:46Going on 10 years, been with each other,
04:49it took a lot of growth into realizing when I'm wrong as a man,
04:55putting my pride aside, it's hard.
04:59It was hard.
05:00You know, it's not easy for a lot of guys out there to just say,
05:03to think about what they did wrong, to go and apologize.
05:09I took a lot of growth, a lot of things we got to overcome for me to, for us to
05:14be like this.
05:15Definitely.
05:17Within the past six months since I was pregnant until now, I've seen you be a,
05:23you've always been a compassionate person, but I feel like I've seen more compassion from you.
05:27You doing the things that you need to do to make my life easier.
05:31And I've seen a different side of you as a father as well.
05:34I see the love in your eyes when you look at it.
05:38Why am I going to cry?
05:41Is it a hormones?
05:42I don't know.
05:42Okay.
05:42So I see the love in your eyes when you look at our daughter.
05:52And I'm just, I'm just so like proud of you for
05:58being such a great dad.
06:01And I just feel very lucky and very blessed that you are my life partner.
06:11I'm embarrassed.
06:14Well, thank you for letting me know I make your life easier.
06:18That makes me feel very happy because that's my goal.
06:22You were all I thought about before, but I don't know.
06:24It's just different.
06:26How does it feel to love a black woman?
06:28It feels amazing.
06:30I feel like you understand me.
06:33I can just be myself and you just know who I am.
06:38You know where my heart is.
06:39And to love a black woman like you, it's just, it's wonderful.
06:43I wouldn't want any other way.
06:45I wouldn't want any other black woman.
06:47I wouldn't want any other woman.
06:49It's just you.
06:51Let's make a toast to black love.
06:54Let's do it.
06:55Toast.
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07:04.
07:04.
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