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Engaged couple Ebony and Ron met on Hinge when Ebony stopped in New Orleans on her way home from a cross country road trip. Their instantaneous connection led to Ebony staying in the city after their third date which happened to be the third day. They both describe the fast pace that kicked off their relationship as risky but 100% worth it. 

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Transcript
00:00Did I embarrass you?
00:01Yeah.
00:01Ron loves a hom-
00:03You love a homely kind of woman.
00:04No, I do not.
00:05So you wanna-
00:07I thought you were probably looking for like someone,
00:09and you were like,
00:09can I see her in a house coat?
00:12That's not true.
00:13Can she make a good cornbread?
00:14That's not true.
00:15That's not true at all.
00:16But also have a career.
00:18That's not true though.
00:19I didn't want-
00:19I said I wanted her to be nice,
00:21and I kind of like,
00:22I guess homely.
00:24I knew it!
00:26Homely.
00:26That's not homely.
00:32All right, how did we meet?
00:33Hench.
00:34We met on Hench.
00:35Okay, so I was on my way back from a cross-country road trip,
00:40and I stopped in New Orleans,
00:42and I was like, let's swipe.
00:45And we matched, and you were like,
00:48oh, like, I haven't seen you around.
00:50Like, or something like that.
00:51I was way smoother than that.
00:53And the fact that you did this just-
00:56You said something like that.
00:57And you were like, when am I gonna see you?
00:59And I was like, what about tonight?
01:01I was scared.
01:02I didn't think I was scalping.
01:03To me, I wasn't like, it wasn't murdered scared.
01:05It wasn't that level of scared fear,
01:07but it was kind of like a rob scared.
01:10You know what I mean?
01:10Yeah, you thought I was gonna rob you.
01:11Yeah.
01:12And then we just saw each other every day after that,
01:16and that's our story.
01:17And now we're getting married.
01:18And I think the big thing, like, you know what I'm saying,
01:20we moved in together.
01:21You moved in with me.
01:22Don't make it sound that way.
01:23That's not true.
01:24That was the big decision in our relationship, though.
01:25It came, like, at the day three.
01:27That is partially true.
01:29Yeah.
01:30So, I was staying in an Airbnb,
01:32and so I'm gonna go back to New York,
01:35and then we'll figure it out.
01:37And you were like, I don't want you to leave.
01:39No, I said no.
01:40You were like, don't go baby.
01:41That's incorrect.
01:42No.
01:43Oh my God, no.
01:44That's what I was saying.
01:46No.
01:46I was not living here.
01:47Yes, you was.
01:48You was living here for a while.
01:50Okay, yes.
01:50I had a key.
01:51I had a key.
01:53You got a key.
01:54You were coming and going as you pleased.
01:56I had a key.
01:57And I was staying here.
01:58But I wasn't living, living here.
02:00Yeah, grocery, you got your name on the milk.
02:02What are you talking about?
02:03I had a home.
02:05That you did not live here.
02:07No.
02:08I had a home.
02:09Okay.
02:09Okay.
02:10I think my mom was supportive.
02:13I don't think she ever thought I was crazy.
02:15There were some people around me who thought I was crazy.
02:18And they're like, who is a stranger?
02:20But my mom was like, if he seems cool, like, take a risk.
02:24It was just like, take a risk.
02:27I think, I think everybody made it about the physical thing.
02:30Yeah.
02:31Like how you let her in the house and what's going to happen now.
02:34Yeah.
02:35But no one ever asked me nothing.
02:39It's like, is she crazy?
02:41Is she a burger?
02:43I would sometimes have to tell my family and friends that.
02:47I'd be like, it's also risky for him.
02:50Like, I work from home.
02:51He leaves the house every day and I have the key to his home.
02:54Like, I could ransack this bitch.
02:57Take everything he got.
02:59I'm glad you thought that way, dude.
03:01Like, sort of risky for him too.
03:03But, you know, we're both being a little risky.
03:08We started talking about forever.
03:11Immediately.
03:12Like, soon as, I would say like, two, three months in,
03:16we started talking about marriage and being together for a while.
03:19Yeah.
03:20I don't think that we ever avoided those conversations.
03:24On our first date, you were like, what are you looking for?
03:28Do you want to get married and have kids?
03:29And I was like, eventually, yeah.
03:30And you're like, then say that.
03:31Like, say that like, this is what you want in your life.
03:33And, and then you like, you have to start from a place of honesty like that.
03:37I mean, I always felt like it was comfortable having those conversations.
03:40Yeah.
03:41I never felt like it was like wrong or like, I shouldn't be talking about this.
03:46I was too early.
03:47Yeah.
03:47You know what I mean?
03:48I never felt like, and I felt like that before.
03:50And I just didn't feel like this with you.
03:53You know, coming in here, I know it wasn't easy for you like, moving in this house and trying to
04:00make it a home.
04:00Wasn't nothing on the walls.
04:02Like, you, you gave me space to be here and you were like, have at it.
04:06Like, what do you need to do?
04:08And I think that there were times that that was definitely uncomfortable for you.
04:11But you still gave me space to do that.
04:13I remember talking to my little brother a few months before I met you and he was like,
04:17well, what are your like, what are you looking for?
04:20And I felt like I had a very simple shortlist.
04:24Okay.
04:25Shoot.
04:26A career.
04:27Got that.
04:28Come on.
04:29I said open to therapy, open to travel.
04:33I'm three for three.
04:34Yeah, you are.
04:35Black.
04:35Black.
04:36Four.
04:37I ain't miss you.
04:39Family oriented.
04:40So those were the things that I feel like I would say like, that was what, I was like,
04:44those are straight forward things.
04:45And then, and like you said, five for five.
04:48Tall, tall, dark and beautiful.
04:50Uh huh.
04:51I wanted her to be kind to me.
04:53Uh huh.
04:54And I wanted her to be like a homemaker.
04:56I want to be married because I feel like you are my person I report everything to.
05:03You know what I mean?
05:04Whether it be good news or bad news, like I'm coming to you first.
05:08And I always want my best friend by my side.
05:10For me, it's like a crown of achievement.
05:14Like, you know what I mean?
05:15Like this is one of the best things I'm going to do in my life is marry you.
05:18Yeah.
05:19It's not a question for me.
05:21It's just, you're my family.
05:25How does it feel love a black man?
05:27Complex.
05:28I'm happy that I love a black man.
05:33I'm like, yes, Scott.
05:36I love someone and he's a dark skinned black man.
05:39I won.
05:40You know?
05:41I think that loving you has felt tough sometimes.
05:45When we talk about what it was like for you after the murder of George Floyd,
05:51that's not something that's theoretical.
05:54Your experience of that was very intimate.
05:57It's not about like what it must be like to see the challenges,
06:02the racism, the violence that black men in America experience.
06:07Like that is right there for you and a part of your experience every day.
06:11And I like don't know always like how to be there for you.
06:15When like the world is harsh and unfair and violent towards you.
06:22I can't take that hurt away.
06:24I can't take away the like complicated things that you were feeling in that moment.
06:30And it's tough to just be a listening ear sometimes and like not be able to help the person you
06:35love.
06:35And that's the sort of like complicated part.
06:38What's it like to love a black woman?
06:40Well I feel understood.
06:42And I feel heard.
06:43I feel safe.
06:44So it's funny to hear that you say like you don't know what to do.
06:46You do everything just by being here for me.
06:49You know what I mean?
06:50Sometimes I feel surrounded by who you are and your love.
06:55And I carry it with me every day.
06:57It feels great.
07:00And that's the kind of thing.
07:00You know what I mean?
07:02That's a good idea.
07:02I'm confused.
07:02I'm confused.
07:02I've never really thought of it.
07:02I really enjoy my life.
07:02I love you.
07:02I love you too.
07:02A little bit more, I love you too.
07:02You see a lot of things.
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