00:00Did I embarrass you?
00:01Yeah.
00:01Ron loves a hom-
00:03You love a homely kind of woman.
00:04No, I do not.
00:05So you wanna-
00:07I thought you were probably looking for like someone,
00:09and you were like,
00:09can I see her in a house coat?
00:12That's not true.
00:13Can she make a good cornbread?
00:14That's not true.
00:15That's not true at all.
00:16But also have a career.
00:18That's not true though.
00:19I didn't want-
00:19I said I wanted her to be nice,
00:21and I kind of like,
00:22I guess homely.
00:24I knew it!
00:26Homely.
00:26That's not homely.
00:32All right, how did we meet?
00:33Hench.
00:34We met on Hench.
00:35Okay, so I was on my way back from a cross-country road trip,
00:40and I stopped in New Orleans,
00:42and I was like, let's swipe.
00:45And we matched, and you were like,
00:48oh, like, I haven't seen you around.
00:50Like, or something like that.
00:51I was way smoother than that.
00:53And the fact that you did this just-
00:56You said something like that.
00:57And you were like, when am I gonna see you?
00:59And I was like, what about tonight?
01:01I was scared.
01:02I didn't think I was scalping.
01:03To me, I wasn't like, it wasn't murdered scared.
01:05It wasn't that level of scared fear,
01:07but it was kind of like a rob scared.
01:10You know what I mean?
01:10Yeah, you thought I was gonna rob you.
01:11Yeah.
01:12And then we just saw each other every day after that,
01:16and that's our story.
01:17And now we're getting married.
01:18And I think the big thing, like, you know what I'm saying,
01:20we moved in together.
01:21You moved in with me.
01:22Don't make it sound that way.
01:23That's not true.
01:24That was the big decision in our relationship, though.
01:25It came, like, at the day three.
01:27That is partially true.
01:29Yeah.
01:30So, I was staying in an Airbnb,
01:32and so I'm gonna go back to New York,
01:35and then we'll figure it out.
01:37And you were like, I don't want you to leave.
01:39No, I said no.
01:40You were like, don't go baby.
01:41That's incorrect.
01:42No.
01:43Oh my God, no.
01:44That's what I was saying.
01:46No.
01:46I was not living here.
01:47Yes, you was.
01:48You was living here for a while.
01:50Okay, yes.
01:50I had a key.
01:51I had a key.
01:53You got a key.
01:54You were coming and going as you pleased.
01:56I had a key.
01:57And I was staying here.
01:58But I wasn't living, living here.
02:00Yeah, grocery, you got your name on the milk.
02:02What are you talking about?
02:03I had a home.
02:05That you did not live here.
02:07No.
02:08I had a home.
02:09Okay.
02:09Okay.
02:10I think my mom was supportive.
02:13I don't think she ever thought I was crazy.
02:15There were some people around me who thought I was crazy.
02:18And they're like, who is a stranger?
02:20But my mom was like, if he seems cool, like, take a risk.
02:24It was just like, take a risk.
02:27I think, I think everybody made it about the physical thing.
02:30Yeah.
02:31Like how you let her in the house and what's going to happen now.
02:34Yeah.
02:35But no one ever asked me nothing.
02:39It's like, is she crazy?
02:41Is she a burger?
02:43I would sometimes have to tell my family and friends that.
02:47I'd be like, it's also risky for him.
02:50Like, I work from home.
02:51He leaves the house every day and I have the key to his home.
02:54Like, I could ransack this bitch.
02:57Take everything he got.
02:59I'm glad you thought that way, dude.
03:01Like, sort of risky for him too.
03:03But, you know, we're both being a little risky.
03:08We started talking about forever.
03:11Immediately.
03:12Like, soon as, I would say like, two, three months in,
03:16we started talking about marriage and being together for a while.
03:19Yeah.
03:20I don't think that we ever avoided those conversations.
03:24On our first date, you were like, what are you looking for?
03:28Do you want to get married and have kids?
03:29And I was like, eventually, yeah.
03:30And you're like, then say that.
03:31Like, say that like, this is what you want in your life.
03:33And, and then you like, you have to start from a place of honesty like that.
03:37I mean, I always felt like it was comfortable having those conversations.
03:40Yeah.
03:41I never felt like it was like wrong or like, I shouldn't be talking about this.
03:46I was too early.
03:47Yeah.
03:47You know what I mean?
03:48I never felt like, and I felt like that before.
03:50And I just didn't feel like this with you.
03:53You know, coming in here, I know it wasn't easy for you like, moving in this house and trying to
04:00make it a home.
04:00Wasn't nothing on the walls.
04:02Like, you, you gave me space to be here and you were like, have at it.
04:06Like, what do you need to do?
04:08And I think that there were times that that was definitely uncomfortable for you.
04:11But you still gave me space to do that.
04:13I remember talking to my little brother a few months before I met you and he was like,
04:17well, what are your like, what are you looking for?
04:20And I felt like I had a very simple shortlist.
04:24Okay.
04:25Shoot.
04:26A career.
04:27Got that.
04:28Come on.
04:29I said open to therapy, open to travel.
04:33I'm three for three.
04:34Yeah, you are.
04:35Black.
04:35Black.
04:36Four.
04:37I ain't miss you.
04:39Family oriented.
04:40So those were the things that I feel like I would say like, that was what, I was like,
04:44those are straight forward things.
04:45And then, and like you said, five for five.
04:48Tall, tall, dark and beautiful.
04:50Uh huh.
04:51I wanted her to be kind to me.
04:53Uh huh.
04:54And I wanted her to be like a homemaker.
04:56I want to be married because I feel like you are my person I report everything to.
05:03You know what I mean?
05:04Whether it be good news or bad news, like I'm coming to you first.
05:08And I always want my best friend by my side.
05:10For me, it's like a crown of achievement.
05:14Like, you know what I mean?
05:15Like this is one of the best things I'm going to do in my life is marry you.
05:18Yeah.
05:19It's not a question for me.
05:21It's just, you're my family.
05:25How does it feel love a black man?
05:27Complex.
05:28I'm happy that I love a black man.
05:33I'm like, yes, Scott.
05:36I love someone and he's a dark skinned black man.
05:39I won.
05:40You know?
05:41I think that loving you has felt tough sometimes.
05:45When we talk about what it was like for you after the murder of George Floyd,
05:51that's not something that's theoretical.
05:54Your experience of that was very intimate.
05:57It's not about like what it must be like to see the challenges,
06:02the racism, the violence that black men in America experience.
06:07Like that is right there for you and a part of your experience every day.
06:11And I like don't know always like how to be there for you.
06:15When like the world is harsh and unfair and violent towards you.
06:22I can't take that hurt away.
06:24I can't take away the like complicated things that you were feeling in that moment.
06:30And it's tough to just be a listening ear sometimes and like not be able to help the person you
06:35love.
06:35And that's the sort of like complicated part.
06:38What's it like to love a black woman?
06:40Well I feel understood.
06:42And I feel heard.
06:43I feel safe.
06:44So it's funny to hear that you say like you don't know what to do.
06:46You do everything just by being here for me.
06:49You know what I mean?
06:50Sometimes I feel surrounded by who you are and your love.
06:55And I carry it with me every day.
06:57It feels great.
07:00And that's the kind of thing.
07:00You know what I mean?
07:02That's a good idea.
07:02I'm confused.
07:02I'm confused.
07:02I've never really thought of it.
07:02I really enjoy my life.
07:02I love you.
07:02I love you too.
07:02A little bit more, I love you too.
07:02You see a lot of things.
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