00:00I was obsessed with you three months, four months in.
00:03I was like, definitely need to be with you.
00:05Period.
00:06Yeah.
00:12So how did we meet?
00:15It was like five years ago, give or take.
00:18And I had an event downtown.
00:21I was plotting and I was like, I need to figure out this dude.
00:24So I invited you to my event.
00:26I thought you were straight.
00:28I thought you were straight.
00:29And when you left, you gave me a hug.
00:31And the hug, I was like, he's gay.
00:34Wow.
00:34And I was like, yeah, that's going to be my man.
00:37When we next hung out, it was a very interesting situation.
00:42Very interesting situation.
00:44Because I was going through a pivotal time in my life.
00:46So where was our first date?
00:48In a hotel.
00:51Not just in hotels.
00:52Embassy Suites or something.
00:53It was an extended stay.
00:54Extended stay.
00:55This is so bad.
00:56Off the freeway.
00:58And I'm thinking like, oh, like you're just staying in the city for whatever reason.
01:03I had no idea that she was actually like living in the extended stay for the time being.
01:07So after the extended stay, we went on a couple of actual proper dates that were outside of the extended
01:16stay.
01:16And then Hurricane Harvey.
01:18And then Hurricane Harvey happened, which I think probably was like the jumpstart into it.
01:24Some time went by.
01:26Yeah, we moved in together.
01:27Well, I moved into your place.
01:28True.
01:29I honestly feel like it felt kind of quick.
01:33So we drove to see my family.
01:35And that was like 13 hours.
01:38For me, like taking you home to see my family, it was weird.
01:41Like it felt very normal and natural as like something I wanted to do.
01:46But it felt very kind of like you're important to me.
01:49They're important to me.
01:50So this is what I was terrified.
01:52I mean, I knew that they were going to love me because I mean, I mean, but I was a
01:57little nervous.
01:58I think like one of like one thing I enjoyed the most is when I like was watching TV on
02:03the couch at your mom's house.
02:04And like I fell asleep and like I woke up and she was like making food.
02:09It felt like I was at like my mom's house.
02:11Like I felt at home.
02:13And that was I think the first day.
02:14Why did we break up the first time?
02:17Why did we break up?
02:18I don't even want to say the first time because I don't want there to be a second time.
02:21I think the timing was wrong.
02:22Yeah.
02:23We started living together really based off of like convenience.
02:26We had kind of just met.
02:28And then I feel like we honestly both started like really seeing who we were at the time.
02:33through like living together, which is not smart.
02:37And I think the type of relationship I was wanting back then, I'm not sure if I was fully mentally
02:42ready for it either.
02:44But I was like expecting a relationship that in my mind, like looked a certain way.
02:51And I was expecting things from you that I don't think you have the space to give.
02:56I will say the reason I think that we didn't have the most successful goal the first time was because
03:03a lack of being able to understand and communicate to each other in the healthiest way.
03:12And I think part two, I actually really like calling it that.
03:19I think part two, like we learned from the lessons in the first go around.
03:26I do think that you understand me better than most people.
03:29Yeah, you're someone that like you, you need a lot of grace, but I wasn't always in a space to
03:37like give grace.
03:38I think I've always been like so structured about stuff.
03:41And so now I'm able to like pause and and allow grace hear you out and not just only hear
03:47my own, like how I think things should be.
03:50I mean, that's so gracious of you.
03:53So gracious of me.
03:56We didn't talk for what, like two years or so.
03:58We ran into each other in Target.
04:01In my mind, I was like, oh my God.
04:03I think I texted you and was like, hey, it was good to see you.
04:06And you actually responded.
04:07And I think we ended up like meeting up to like talk.
04:12I also was under the impression that you were in a relationship, which I was like, this is very inappropriate.
04:16And then you're like, oh, I'm not in a relationship anymore.
04:19And I'm like, oh, great.
04:20So now there's no excuse to get out of this.
04:23So then we started talking.
04:25I don't remember when this was.
04:27I mean, we were obviously like kind of communicating a little bit.
04:29But I text you like out of the blue when I was watching Insecure.
04:34And the season finale had like just went off of Insecure.
04:36And I was like, are you my Lawrence?
04:39I do remember that.
04:40Yeah.
04:40I think that I think after that is when we end up having one of these like long.
04:46Yeah.
04:47Drawn out like.
04:49Fool come to Jesus moment.
04:52What's next for us, Dom?
04:54Now after part two has started.
04:57I want to continue like having fun with you and exploring and having adventures.
05:02What are we going to do in the next five years?
05:07What does that look like for you?
05:10It starts with never breaking up with you again.
05:14I mean, we're moving in together again.
05:18That's going to be fun.
05:19Are you excited?
05:20I am excited.
05:21I get to totally revamp your house.
05:23And then at some point you're going to propose.
05:26And when you do that, we have a wedding to plan.
05:29Solid year to plan.
05:31Most of it is planned already.
05:33I'm not proposing to you.
05:34Played and simple.
05:35Not doing it.
05:36Boom.
05:36Bam.
05:36You want to talk about why I'm not proposing to you?
05:38In the two years that we are broken up, I got engaged.
05:44So, Cervantes has made it very clear that I will not be getting proposed to twice.
05:51He also got engaged like a couple months.
05:55I got engaged three months after we moved out.
05:58Yeah.
05:59And so.
06:00Very Kim Kardashian.
06:01How does it feel to love a black man?
06:05It feels like a privilege.
06:08And it feels exciting.
06:11I definitely understand how you mean like a privilege because we're not all privileged
06:17enough to have this experience and have it openly and freely.
06:22And we definitely don't come from that at all.
06:26So, it feels good to be able to like love a black man freely and also be able to like
06:32share that love with our friends, our family, the people we work with and, you know, just
06:39like the public in general and like do it in a way where there's no like holding back.
06:43Like it feels like something that I get to do that like not everyone has been able to do
06:50and can do.
06:51I get to do it with someone that like I actually really love.
06:55Like love is beautiful.
06:57Black is beautiful.
06:58You're beautiful.
06:59You're beautiful.
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