00:00It's like you wanted...
00:01No, I did not.
00:03I just did not know what was happening.
00:05You didn't know you wanted me.
00:07But I knew you wanted me.
00:09I knew it for both of us.
00:18Do you want to explain freshman year?
00:20You just want me to tell you that I had a crush on you.
00:23So the thing is, you, as you know,
00:26were like the first guy and only guy on that campus
00:30where I was like, oh, who is that?
00:33But I didn't go anywhere with it
00:34because I was in a relationship.
00:36There's a catch.
00:37And then you were on your hot boy stuff.
00:40Freshman year.
00:41I think everybody should be single the freshman year.
00:43So we just developed a friendship.
00:45As a matter of fact, I think you were sort of...
00:47I was your wing girl.
00:48I was putting you on the girls at parties and stuff.
00:51Yeah.
00:52Sophomore year comes back around.
00:54And I was looking what?
00:55When you showed up,
00:57when you showed up that first day,
00:59black leather outfit,
01:01I remember seeing it and I felt different.
01:03I was like, why do I feel weird about seeing
01:06what was supposed to be my friend?
01:08And by then, I think,
01:09do you think we were best friends then?
01:10By that time, yeah.
01:11And then things really got interesting.
01:14My birthday.
01:15Your birthday.
01:15That's when I, that,
01:16see, all the other time that we were talking about,
01:18I had no idea you had any feelings
01:20until my birthday, you tried me.
01:22Yeah, it was multiple carpools.
01:24And then sure enough,
01:25I think one of the parties left early with their car.
01:28Yeah.
01:28And then the numbers just played out
01:29where it's like, okay,
01:30well, someone's going to have to lap up.
01:32And I was like, well, I mean,
01:33you can always sell my lap
01:35if that's okay with you.
01:36You didn't deny it.
01:37So...
01:37I had nowhere else to go.
01:41You could have figured something out.
01:42I don't know.
01:43But you chose my lap
01:45and I was thankful for that.
01:47I had put my hand on your thigh
01:48and I had whispered something like,
01:50ooh, I'm going to get in trouble.
01:51Yeah, you said it.
01:52If I keep this shit on your thigh.
01:55And then you flirted back.
01:57You the one that pulled on my tie.
01:59I like it.
02:00You pulled on my tie to the dance floor.
02:01We had a couple dances.
02:02Did we?
02:03Yes.
02:04Yes.
02:05Oh, we were bold.
02:05Remember it like it was a dream.
02:06I don't remember dancing, babe.
02:08Tried to get a kiss.
02:10No.
02:12And at that moment,
02:13I realized that you liked me,
02:16but you didn't fully trust me yet.
02:18At that moment,
02:18I started playing chess, not checkers.
02:22We've gone in some random earth shop,
02:25whatever,
02:26and I'd seen this gold necklace
02:27with a literal organ heart.
02:29And so I got it.
02:31And then when I gave it to you,
02:33I gave you a whole spiel like,
02:34yo, you're one of the only people
02:36that I know
02:38with a heart made a gold.
02:39And in that moment,
02:40I could see in your eyes
02:42Did you?
02:43Like a barrier.
02:44Finally, I just,
02:45it was me and you in your dorm room,
02:47and I was like,
02:47that's it.
02:49I'm getting a kiss.
02:50That's it.
02:51We can't keep doing this.
02:52It's been too long.
02:53I know you like me.
02:54We like each other.
02:55Let me get a kiss.
02:55And that was probably
02:56the worst kiss we've ever had.
02:58It was the first kiss,
02:59you know?
03:00It was the worst,
03:00but it was the first.
03:01Okay.
03:01We'll get ready.
03:06The first three years
03:08were interesting.
03:09Yes.
03:10What were some things
03:10you feel like
03:11we had to overcome
03:12to get to where we are now?
03:14One thing
03:14that you brought out of me
03:16was my emotional intelligence.
03:17I had two emotions.
03:19I was either good,
03:20happy,
03:20or mad,
03:21and upset.
03:22Yeah.
03:23And there was a bunch of,
03:24You pissed.
03:24Yeah, it was pissed.
03:25I think what really got me
03:27to look myself in the mirror
03:29about the way
03:30I expressed my frustrations
03:31was when you,
03:32you said it scared you.
03:34Mm.
03:36And that hit different.
03:38I feel like it hit different
03:39because it wasn't,
03:41I don't like this.
03:42Because it's like,
03:43okay, well,
03:43there's some things
03:44I don't like too.
03:45But when you said
03:46it scared you,
03:46I was like,
03:46I never want to scare you.
03:47I don't want you
03:48to be afraid of me.
03:49So.
03:49Because whenever you
03:50would like hit the wall
03:51and it wouldn't be
03:51anything between us.
03:52Like one of your boys
03:53would make you mad
03:54and like that's how
03:55you resolve.
03:55Yeah.
03:56But just even seeing that,
03:57I'm like,
03:57eh,
03:58that could possibly,
03:59I could one day
04:00do something
04:00that'll make you upset
04:01and I don't want that energy
04:02to trickle into our relationship.
04:03So yeah,
04:04I remember saying that to you.
04:05But me individually,
04:07and I don't even know
04:07if this was one through three
04:09or year four
04:09when you finally called me out
04:11on the fact that
04:11I didn't know how to apologize.
04:13Like I never said sorry
04:14when I did something wrong
04:16or like offended you
04:18or hurt your feelings
04:18or whatever.
04:20And that,
04:21yeah,
04:21it hit me.
04:21It was one day
04:22you were very clear
04:23about it too.
04:24You were like,
04:25basically,
04:25I'm used to being the person
04:26like if this doesn't change,
04:27I can't be in this.
04:28And that was the first time
04:29you took that stance
04:30like if you can't change this,
04:31I can't be in this relationship.
04:37So post-college.
04:39Yeah.
04:40Now,
04:40what did that look like for you?
04:41Because this is a different,
04:42this is two different worlds.
04:43We had completely different worlds.
04:44Two different out the gates.
04:46So because I started
04:46my YouTube channel
04:48junior year of college,
04:50I was already,
04:51I guess you could say
04:52like successful enough
04:53where post-graduation,
04:55that was what I was doing
04:56full-time.
04:57You hit the ground running.
04:58Now me.
04:59Yeah.
05:01Mr. 4.0.
05:02That was so interesting.
05:03Mr. 4.0,
05:04top of the class,
05:05summa cum laude.
05:06Man.
05:07I thought that it had
05:08everything together.
05:09Right.
05:09But I was just very ill-prepared
05:11for what post-college looked like.
05:13Yeah.
05:13I ended up
05:14saving up
05:15about $2,000
05:18or something like that
05:19buying a car
05:20and then that was my home
05:22until finally
05:24I just
05:25basically broke down
05:27and like came to you
05:28and was like,
05:29yo,
05:29I'm really down and out.
05:31I've been lying this whole time.
05:32I'm down and out
05:33and I need help.
05:34I saw you in your
05:35social media space
05:36being an entrepreneur,
05:37doing all that stuff.
05:38Yeah.
05:39And I was searching for a job
05:40but in the back of my head
05:41I was like,
05:42well,
05:42I want to be on that
05:43entrepreneurship,
05:43you know,
05:44phase with you.
05:45And you were all over the place.
05:46All over the place.
05:47Business venture
05:48after business venture
05:49I brought across your door.
05:50Yeah.
05:50At that point
05:51you sat me down
05:51and you're like,
05:52look,
05:53I see
05:54that you're working hard
05:56but you're not working smart.
05:58For yourself.
05:58For yourself.
05:59It's not even for like
06:00this relationship.
06:01Just for you.
06:01For you.
06:02Yeah.
06:02You were like,
06:03I'm not saying
06:04this is over.
06:06I basically said
06:07you got a year.
06:08They're saying
06:08this time next year
06:10we're going to have
06:11this conversation again.
06:12If we're in the same spot
06:13it would probably be best
06:14for us to just go
06:15our separate ways.
06:16The amount of effort,
06:17time,
06:18consistency,
06:18like we were working
06:19through our problems,
06:20learning my emotions,
06:21all this stuff.
06:21So I was like,
06:22there's no way
06:24that she going to leave me.
06:26There's no way.
06:27I was leaving.
06:29Okay,
06:30let's correct that.
06:31I was going to be gone.
06:32And then I started serving
06:34tables like my life
06:35depended on it.
06:36I was rolling out stops,
06:37smiling, cracking jokes,
06:38trying to get as many tips
06:39as possible.
06:40And after that,
06:41three months later,
06:42I got a little call back
06:43to the office.
06:44It was like,
06:45you want to be a manager?
06:46And I called you
06:47right after that.
06:48I was like,
06:49babe,
06:49they want me to be a manager.
06:50I don't know if I should do it.
06:51And you're like,
06:51are you kidding me?
06:52Right, I was like...
06:53Are you kidding?
06:54Hold on,
06:54I'm cutting my eyes.
06:55Something's in my eyes.
06:57Every once in a while
06:58I'll have you on my channel
06:59and people be like,
06:59oh,
06:59you should just turn your channel
07:01into a couple's channel.
07:02And I'm like,
07:02nah,
07:03this is mine.
07:04So how about we make
07:05a channel separate?
07:06I think there was also
07:08a smidge of jealousy,
07:10again,
07:10that there was a you thing,
07:13an us thing,
07:14no me thing.
07:15Yeah.
07:16And you're like,
07:17right now,
07:18we need to do what we have to
07:19so we can do what we want to.
07:20Yeah.
07:26I think something
07:27that we've seen
07:28in a lot of our culture
07:31is when people get money,
07:33they tend to blow it.
07:35Yeah.
07:36Fast.
07:36Yeah.
07:36We've always been
07:37very focused on,
07:38you know,
07:39building generational wealth,
07:40something that we can
07:41substantially pass down
07:42to our children,
07:43that can be passed down
07:44for generations.
07:45I think a big generational curse
07:46that I'm trying to break
07:47on my end of things
07:48is toxic masculinity.
07:50It's just been a thing.
07:52Guys not being able
07:53to express themselves,
07:54guys not being able
07:55to talk about their
07:56feelings.
07:57The concept of like
07:58an independent,
07:59strong black woman,
08:00I think it's amazing.
08:02But I think it can
08:03sometimes have
08:04its toxic traits
08:05because at least for me,
08:07I was just raised
08:08with saying that,
08:09like that was my paradigm.
08:10My dad passed
08:10when I was young.
08:11So in a lot of cases,
08:13it's been like
08:14my mom handling everything
08:15by herself,
08:16doesn't need anybody.
08:17And sometimes that can be toxic
08:18and I can see that,
08:20you know,
08:21in myself sometimes too.
08:28So we are getting married
08:30next year.
08:30Got the rings to prove it.
08:32Are you excited?
08:33How excited are you
08:34on a scale of 1 to 10?
08:35What?
08:36On a scale of 1 to 10.
08:38Quality?
08:40Scale of 1 to 10,
08:41quality.
08:42You've changed my life.
08:43You've opened doors
08:44and opened parts of me
08:48that I didn't know existed.
08:49The way we just laugh
08:50every single day.
08:52Every day.
08:52Sometimes there's cons to it
08:54because we have like
08:54business or whatever
08:55we need to be taking care of
08:56and we're just goofing off
08:57entirely too much.
08:58But I think
08:58just the way we laugh together,
09:00how we play off
09:01of each other's like energies
09:02and like ultimately
09:03I think it's just the friendship.
09:05Like us being best friends
09:07platonically
09:08during those years in college
09:09heavily carried over
09:10into our relationship
09:11and stayed.
09:12I don't know.
09:13Something about you
09:14and this beautiful melanin
09:16has changed my life
09:18indefinitely.
09:19Which is why I put a ring on it
09:20and I knew from the start
09:21that this is exactly
09:22what I wanted.
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