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On this episode of Dear Black Love we meet darlings Skyh and KJ. From costars to sweethearts, this newly engaged couple from BET's "Sistas" are sharing their story along the way.

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Transcript
00:00You came into the quick change area and you were like,
00:02oh my god, that was a very, very nice job, Sky.
00:05And one of your cast members was like,
00:07is Sky the only person you see in here?
00:08And he said, I said what I said.
00:09And I was like, thank you.
00:18What was the spark that drew you to me?
00:20First, it was your voice.
00:23At the airport, we were getting ready to load up for season two.
00:27But I was recording the experience of going back to season two.
00:32And I saw you.
00:34And I was like, we're ready for season two.
00:36And I'm with this guy.
00:38What's your name?
00:40I said, I'm Sky.
00:41I'm Sky Black.
00:42I said, who do you play?
00:44And you said, Jacoby.
00:46And I said, well, what do you do this season?
00:48I come in and I shit up.
00:51My heart went, doo-doo, doo-doo.
00:58I go to hang out with one of my cast mates
01:01while we were in quarantine.
01:03And you were walking to rehearsal.
01:05And I was like, hey, how are you?
01:06And I say this all the time.
01:09And we had our first actual conversation for real.
01:12Privately away from everybody else, not on camera.
01:15And we started talking about family.
01:17And you did the girl woman thing where you put your head to the side.
01:23And I was like, and I did the guy thing where I was like, yeah, you know what I mean.
01:28Yes.
01:29That's what I'm talking about.
01:31That's the thing.
01:32And then we stayed in that position.
01:35It was weird because we didn't know what to do.
01:37It's like we know we wanted to pursue more.
01:40But at the same time, I felt like I got to keep my job.
01:43You got to keep your job.
01:43I was like, oh, there's something there that we be like.
01:47Yeah.
01:48No, but that was the thing I remember the most.
01:52Out of all of our interactions leading up to it, that's when I was like, oh, wait.
01:56This is different.
01:57We didn't start dating until after Sister's season two.
02:01Yes.
02:01What was it like making her transition from that moment to the romantic special moments?
02:11I was actually a little shocked that I was still in your mental orbit.
02:16I was like, yo, if you need any advice, if you need some help, like, yo, send me your number.
02:21And then I called immediately.
02:23It was like.
02:24I was like.
02:27Wouldn't that have been horrible?
02:29First of all.
02:29And then you corrected me.
02:31I corrected you.
02:31And then I called you immediately.
02:33Immediately.
02:34And we stayed on the phone for three hours.
02:37We were talking about your, the passing of your father, the anniversary was coming up,
02:44which allowed me to be open because I immediately said, hey, I know how you feel.
02:47Yeah.
02:47Because.
02:48Yeah, because my father passed.
02:50We didn't have a transition because we both were so intentional.
02:53I'm ready for something real and you're ready for something real.
02:57So let's build something real.
03:02How did you tell other people?
03:05It was tough for me to tell people because I had just exclaimed that I was going to not
03:14date anybody for a year.
03:16I remember you said that.
03:17When did you at least tell mama?
03:20Immediately.
03:21I told her after our first date.
03:22I don't know this.
03:23After first date?
03:24Yeah.
03:25What?
03:26It was the best date of my life.
03:27Yes.
03:28I called my mom was like, mom, I'm getting married.
03:36What is the easiest thing to love about me?
03:40And what is the hardest thing to love about me?
03:42The easiest thing to love about you, there's a unspoken loyalty that means a lot to me.
03:52And that's the easiest thing to love about you.
03:54The hardest thing, which is a good thing, is that I have to take accountability for my
04:02shortcomings.
04:03You call them out for my growth.
04:07The thing that makes it hard is that you have to search yourself and say, yes, I need
04:10to work on this.
04:11Yes, I need to work on that.
04:12It's hard because you forced me to take self-inventory a lot.
04:17So, yeah.
04:19Aw, baby.
04:21You gonna cry?
04:22Yeah.
04:23You don't mess up your makeup?
04:24Aw, come here, baby.
04:25I love you.
04:27Love is really sweet.
04:29It's true.
04:32What is the easiest thing and the hardest thing to love about me?
04:36The hardest thing is that you're such a giver.
04:41Yeah, whatever.
04:42I just gave so-and-so and da-da-da-da-da.
04:44And I, nah, man.
04:45You know, I felt it on my heart.
04:46You know?
04:47And it's just like, baby, but you needed that.
04:50You're like, nah, it's fine.
04:51I'll get another one.
04:52Like, it's just like, it's just this giving spirit that you have.
04:56Sometimes it hurts you.
04:59Heavy is the head that wears the crown.
05:01And sometimes your head gets heavy.
05:03Sometimes that's hard, you know, to watch.
05:06So many easy things.
05:07Your honesty.
05:09You just are like the most persistent, consistent, loving person I have ever met in my life.
05:19That makes me feel good.
05:21You should.
05:21That makes me feel good.
05:23I mean, um, my dad was like that.
05:25So my dad's my hero.
05:26I know.
05:27So, um, thank you, baby.
05:32Who?
05:32There's onions up in here, eh?
05:33Yeah, there's someone cutting onions.
05:36Onions?
05:39For the engagement before you proposed to me, what were you feeling?
05:45What were your feelings?
05:46I was talking to my grandmother and my family about, um, how do I do this?
05:51How do I make it special?
05:53Cut to we get to Miami.
05:55And we have all our family.
05:56We have both of our families together.
05:58And it's this special event.
05:59I got nervous the moment I started speaking.
06:04I've always felt the fire of my dreams going for me.
06:09And now I have the fire of building something for a person I'm so beyond in love with.
06:15Like, um, I started thinking about my dad and my dad wasn't there.
06:19Mm-hmm.
06:20And I just saw it and I was like, you know, I was just like, I didn't realize how deep
06:26my love is for you.
06:29Like, I know I'm completely a hundred times a thousand percent in love, but it's just like, I understood the
06:38definition of soul mate and soul tie.
06:42And then I started to get nervous.
06:44I was shaking.
06:46Like, I remember it.
06:47You were shaking.
06:47And I was like, what's happening?
06:49Yeah.
06:49And I was like, um...
06:50I've never seen you like that before.
06:51Uh, it was the first time, one of the first times in my life where I felt like it was
06:56life or death for me.
06:58Hmm.
06:59Hmm.
07:00I am like, I know my baby and I know that something's wrong, but I was just trying to gauge
07:05it before making an announcement.
07:06Like, we have to go to the ER right now.
07:11We have to go to the ER.
07:12Right.
07:13What did you feel in that moment?
07:16I just remember being worried about you.
07:20And so I was like, he's stressed out, because all he's doing is this.
07:28Before I knew it, that ring was out.
07:31And I was like, give it to me.
07:39I just felt warm and fuzzy.
07:41Rapid fire emotions.
07:43It was just love everywhere.
07:44I was like, surrounded by love.
07:47So how do you envision our wedding day?
07:49And how do you envision five years from our wedding day?
07:53It's going to exceed our expectations.
07:55Life is different when you do it with a life partner.
07:57That's right.
07:58Five years from now.
08:00That's an empire at the rate we're going.
08:04100%.
08:04How do you envision your wedding day?
08:07Can I get my notepad?
08:09How do you envision us five years from now?
08:12Scroll, swipe, swipe.
08:13It's going to be either two things.
08:14It's going to be the most grand thing that I can conjure up.
08:20Or because of our schedules, it may end up being very intimate and very small.
08:26But it's certainly going to be full of love.
08:28It's going to be, you know, my motto is stay lit and stay woke.
08:31So, you know, five years from now, I feel like we'll be in a nice little groove.
08:35We'll definitely have, you know, ideally we will have started a family.
08:40Oh, yeah, definitely.
08:40I'm excited to be a father.
08:42Yeah.
08:42Yeah.
08:43And I'm excited to be a mom.
08:45And still loving each other.
08:46Still spending quality time and still have a fire and passion for each other.
08:50That's not even a question.
08:51I think that's what's important.
08:52Like, you know, life happens, but it's still this.
08:55And that empire's going to be there.
08:57How does it feel to love a black woman?
09:01Incredible.
09:03I was raised by a black woman.
09:06You make me feel seen in this career choice, in this day and age.
09:12That is something that I never thought I would have.
09:16Transparency, you know, my mom wasn't in my life.
09:19I didn't think I would have anybody after my grandmother.
09:24It's the best thing in the world.
09:28You're the best thing in the world.
09:31It feels incredible.
09:35You are way beyond more than enough.
09:40You wear my makeup.
09:43Mission accomplished.
09:46Thank you for watching Unbothered.
09:48Where are we going?
09:49Food.
09:50Food first?
09:52Immediately, yes.
09:52Immediately, yes?
09:53Yes.
09:53Cool.
09:54And then, Jim.
09:56Oh, you worked.
09:57You worked out.
09:58I did.
10:00That's why I get up at five.
10:01I was just.
10:02Once again, yes.
10:03I'm a black woman.
10:03I was just a good lady.
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