00:00I feel like when we really started to date,
00:02I didn't really broadcast it too much.
00:04I posted little subtle things like,
00:06when you took me, took it.
00:07Crab legs, because you know, I love crab legs.
00:13It's kind of hard to say how we met or when we met,
00:15because I was definitely in a relationship when we met.
00:18Even though I might have found you attractive
00:20or found any type of interest in you,
00:22there was no pursuing it.
00:23I feel like Snapchat was the kickoff.
00:25At the time, I didn't know if you were in a relationship or not.
00:28I remember writing you.
00:29I think I was like, hey, what's up?
00:31And then when you responded, I just went ghost.
00:33I didn't know what to say back.
00:34I'm like, what's next?
00:35From there, that Memorial Day weekend.
00:38Yeah, that's when it kicked off,
00:41because I was in Cancun with a few of my friends,
00:45and we were out there having a blast.
00:47And I was packing to go on a trip,
00:49and then our flights got canceled for that trip,
00:51so my friends and I rerouted to Cancun,
00:54which was completely random.
00:56Like, it wasn't following you.
00:57It wasn't following you.
00:58It was random.
01:00And then when I got there, I'm like asking my friends,
01:03like, yo, should I hit him up?
01:04Like, this is really not me.
01:05Like, just shoot my shot.
01:07So I was like, you know what?
01:08Let me just send a mystery message,
01:10and I'll have you figure it out.
01:11And then I sent it to you.
01:13Yeah, I was like, so what's up?
01:14Look up.
01:14Right.
01:15I was like, where are you staying?
01:16And then you sent me your location,
01:17and then I sent you my location,
01:19and it was five minutes away from each other.
01:21So I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm licking.
01:23It's lit.
01:24Yeah, so...
01:24And once you got back to New York, you called me,
01:27and I'm like, did he leave a shirt?
01:30Did he leave, like, his passport?
01:32Why are you calling me?
01:32He just wanted to have a conversation.
01:34What's wrong with that?
01:35I don't know. It was just so weird.
01:37I'm like, this is supposed to be chilling.
01:38Like, why are you calling me?
01:40The place that I was in mentally and emotionally,
01:42I wasn't ready for a long-term,
01:44fully invested emotional relationship.
01:46Right.
01:47And I don't think that was your intention.
01:48Yeah, and I made that clear from the beginning.
01:50Like, I was super transparent.
01:52Right.
01:53Like, I made sure that it was known that,
01:56listen, I just got out of a three-year relationship.
01:59Mm-hmm.
02:00I'm trying to chill for a little bit.
02:01Mm-hmm.
02:02But we didn't deny the vibe from there.
02:04We were just hanging out.
02:05I've been to my channel, like, two, three times a week.
02:07It was more of a sneaky link type of thing.
02:10It wasn't really, we weren't really outside.
02:12Mm-hmm.
02:12It finally got to a point where it was like,
02:14yo, let's go.
02:15Let's go on a date.
02:16So we went.
02:17It was kind of awkward.
02:19It was weird.
02:19Because now we outside.
02:20Right.
02:21Then it got sticky.
02:24Yeah.
02:24Then feelings got involved a little bit.
02:26I feel like at that time, it was like,
02:28neither one of us really wanted to say
02:29that we were catching feelings
02:30because in the beginning, we were so adamant about, like,
02:33we are just chilling.
02:34Just chilling.
02:35Then we took a step back from each other for a little bit,
02:37because it was starting to get sticky, like you said.
02:38And then you said,
02:39I don't know what's stopping me from making my girlfriend.
02:42And I'm looking at you like,
02:43what would you think you got access like that?
02:45Like, I haven't talked to you in a whole month,
02:47and you think I'm just going to be like,
02:48yeah, I'll be your girlfriend.
02:49Yeah.
02:50Actually, yeah.
02:50Was I right?
02:51I mean, now, but...
02:54I think that that's what I love most about the fact
02:56that we even decided to take the next step
02:59because we didn't rush it.
03:00There was no pressure applied to it.
03:01Yeah, there was no pressure, no.
03:02I mean, there was after a while, but...
03:04Mm-hmm.
03:04...I think that it was necessary.
03:06My friends kind of knew about you.
03:08They were like, listen, you know you have feelings,
03:10so just, like, accept it and try to really pursue someone
03:13that, you know, seems like he cares.
03:15They really made me feel like I made the right decision
03:18in, like, pursuing it.
03:19It became evident that I was spending more and more time with you
03:23in less and less time with anyone else.
03:25Mm-hmm.
03:26In the beginning, I was very, very hard-headed.
03:29I was full of trauma.
03:31I had, like, relationship, PTSD.
03:33You name it, I had it.
03:35And I think as I got more comfortable with the partner that I have
03:39and just knowing how much you care about me
03:41and how much you wanted to be us versus the problem
03:44rather than us versus each other,
03:45I think it just made it easier for me to really grow as a person,
03:49as a girlfriend, and, like, as a woman, for real.
03:52For real.
03:53Three years is a long time.
03:56It's not that long when you think about it,
03:58but it feels like it's been forever.
04:00Mm-hmm.
04:00During that time, we got the opportunity
04:03to really, really learn...
04:05A lot.
04:05...what makes each other tick,
04:07the best way to handle adversity,
04:09what's the best way to celebrate accomplishments,
04:12what's the best way to give each other what each other desires.
04:16You made me feel comfortable in who I am
04:18and that I don't need to change who I am
04:20just to appease to you or the relationship or, you know, anything like that.
04:25Our growth speaks for itself
04:27because we're not just boyfriend and girlfriend.
04:29Like, we really consider each other partners.
04:32Mm-hmm.
04:32Like, enough for us to make real big-time life decisions together.
04:37Mm-hmm.
04:37Like, we uprooted.
04:39Right.
04:40We're talking about home ownership.
04:41We're talking about marriage.
04:42We're talking about families.
04:43We're talking about marriage.
04:44I don't know.
04:44We're talking about raising a family.
04:47We got a dog now.
04:48So, there's decisions that we have to make together.
04:51Mm-hmm.
04:51We're not always going to see eye to eye.
04:52And I think that we've been able to, for the most part,
04:56find a way to find a common ground on issues that we don't necessarily always have to see eye to
05:01eye.
05:01I think getting Ziggy helped us a lot, too,
05:03because I feel like, for me, I never really, ever, really, ever liked dogs.
05:06Mm-hmm.
05:07And it wasn't until, like, we knew that we were moving
05:10and you knew that you kind of, not caught all the shots,
05:13but that you'd be the man of the house that you knew.
05:15What the hell?
05:16You knew you, like, I want a dog, so we're going to get a dog,
05:20and you're going to learn to love the dog.
05:22That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
05:24No, you were picking dogs out.
05:26No, no.
05:27You wanted a huge dog.
05:28I said, let's compromise.
05:30All right, you're right.
05:31Vegas, we're coming back.
05:33Let's compromise and get a medium-sized dog.
05:35Having him definitely has helped me, like, emotionally, mentally.
05:39Like, just having someone outside of you being super excited for me to come home
05:43has helped just, like, lift my spirit.
05:45So maybe you saw further past what I could see when we chose to get him.
05:49Mm-hmm.
05:49But I love him.
05:51He loves my dog.
05:52He loves you.
05:55How does it feel to love a black man?
05:57I just feel so safe with you.
06:00You make me feel wanted.
06:01You make me feel loved, understood, heard.
06:04When I think of what I would want for my future husband to be,
06:07like, you fit every description.
06:09Damn.
06:09And you're handsome.
06:12I appreciate that.
06:13How does it feel to love a black woman?
06:15You definitely feel like home.
06:17You're definitely somebody that is like a breath of fresh air.
06:20It's like, you know, when you get to your house, you open the door after a long day,
06:24you close the door and you take that deep sigh because you're finally home.
06:29Mm-hmm.
06:29Like, every time I see you, it feels like that.
06:31Especially if we haven't seen each other for an extended period of time for any reason.
06:50Mm-hmm.
06:51Bro, you knew this already, though.
06:54I really love your personality.
06:56It's what drew me to you to begin with, and I love that it hasn't changed.
07:01I did not expect that.
07:03I was like, I'm gonna cry today.
07:04I was like, I'm gonna cry today.
07:04I was like, I'm gonna cry today.
07:04I'm gonna cry.
07:05Adios.
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