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00:00Excuse my voice, I just woke up, rough night, but I hope everyone's having a great morning
00:06out there today.
00:09Let me give you the proper introduction, this is the Morning Roaster Podcast, this is the
00:13place where we make your mornings matter the most, and this show is Caleb Thompson, and
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01:10So today we're going to be talking about the cost of avoiding hard decisions, so the cost
01:16of avoiding hard decisions.
01:19So I want you to know something, there's going to be some decisions that you need to
01:23make, and there's either a cost or a reward tied to each decision you make in life, like
01:31you know, there's a reward, and sometimes the reward is energetically, so sometimes, like
01:37just say, if I make a small grocery list, I was just talking to, you know, my child's mom
01:42about this the other day, so if I make a small grocery list, and I just start to check off
01:50the things that I intentionally, with intention, went to the store to get, I start to rewire
01:55my brain, and my brain is starting to notice of me making an accomplishment, so you know
02:02what I mean, so that's rewiring your brain, rewiring your brain for those small wins, so
02:07but what I'm saying is this, there's either going to be a cost or a consequence or a reward
02:14to every decision or every act that you make, you know what I mean, and sometimes the reward
02:21isn't really rewarding, and the consequence isn't as harsh, but still, there is still consequences
02:26to every decision you make, so that's what we're going to be talking about, we're going
02:29to be talking about the cost of avoiding the hard decisions that you have to make in life,
02:36you know, for your own life, for your children's life, for your business, for just you, let's
02:41start with you as a person, there is some decisions that you need to make at this current moment
02:46that you have been putting off, I don't care if it's from renewing your license, you know
02:51what I mean, your ID is outdated, you know what I mean, you need to go get another ID, you
02:54need to, you know, you need to, you know, renew, you know, your food stamps, I don't care,
03:01you need to, you need some things that you need to do that you know you need to do when
03:05you are struggling just for the simple fact that you won't go and do it, you know what
03:09I mean, you won't take the time out and say, you know, I'm going to do it tomorrow, I'm going
03:13to do it tomorrow, you say, you know what, despite if it rains, snow, if it's sleet or
03:17it's hail, I'm going to set apart this specific amount of time from 8 o'clock to 1 o'clock
03:22and
03:23I'm going to dedicate that time to taking care of business.
03:25If you do, if you do the hard things now, there's plenty of times that I don't want to wait
03:29in line,
03:30I didn't want to wait, you know, at HRA, I didn't want to do a lot of things that I
03:36didn't want to do, but just by me sitting there being patient, as soon as it was done,
03:40it was like something broke off of me, you know, as soon as I had, you know, I was patient
03:45and almost seemed tormented at that time, you know, by having to sit there and wait and,
03:51you know, and just, you know, so many people's there, but just sitting there through that
03:56and developing patience while I'm sitting there waiting, when it was finally done,
04:02it actually felt like it broke a weight off of me. So sometimes, man, you just have to sit there
04:06and you have to do the hard things now and you'll live an easy life later. So we're going to
04:11give
04:11you three talk points here as we usually do. The first talk point that we want to discuss is
04:16avoiding hard decisions come at a hidden cost. And we just talked about that. We just talked about
04:22having a hidden cost. You're going to pay for certain things. You're going to pay for,
04:26you're going to, you're going to pay. Let me tell you this. You're going to be paid for everything,
04:32every decision you make, but are you going to be paid in wooden nickels or you're going to be paid
04:37in gold? Basically saying, are you going to sabotage yourself or get paid? There's a price for
04:45everything. So if I went to rob a bank, there's a price for that. Yeah, I might get away with,
04:49I might get away with the money, but I still, there's still a price attached to it. The police
04:53looking for me, you know what I mean? I've taken money out of where banks are insured, but you know,
04:57but I've done some things that, you know what I mean? Put a, put a high, high ticket on me.
05:02So, you know, and then, or if I worked and got the money, there's a reward for that. So anything
05:07that you do, there is a hidden cost to it. Um, but me, myself personally, but I realized every,
05:13every decision that I delay, uh, in making, it still has the consequence. So rather you make a,
05:19a quick, quick decision, or you delay on making the decision, it still has a consequence. So you
05:25need to figure out exactly what you want to do. And you need to be able to make those decisions
05:29without, and, and hold yourself accountable, man. There's plenty of decisions I've made and bad
05:34partnerships I've gotten into. And I could say, well, if he would have done this and he would
05:39have paid this and this, that man, just hold yourself accountable, man. I just, I just made a bad
05:43decision. You know, it's not for you to feel down on yourself. It's not for you to feel like,
05:47you know, life's over, you know, then this and that, man, you can easily bounce back for a bad
05:51from, you can bounce back from a bad decision quicker. If you just acknowledge and hold yourself
05:57accountable that that's a bad decision. Don't go into the Lulu land where, you know, something
06:02is not working. It's not working out for you. I don't care if it's a relationship. I don't care
06:06if it's a job, if they don't see your value, but even if you need to pay bills, you need
06:10to start
06:10to try to figure out an exit plan. If you're at a job and every time you go to work,
06:14there's people
06:14talking about you, ganging up on you. The job is, uh, is draining your energy. You really,
06:19you really not, uh, engaged in the work that you do. You're just doing it for, you know,
06:24just to pay bills. You, what you need to do is you need to start to try to, uh, to
06:28develop
06:28a strategic exit plan. I don't care if it's a relationship, that relationship is draining
06:33you. If people are convincing you to do things that, you know what I mean? It's harming you,
06:38but they're enjoying it. You need to develop an exit plan. You need to find out there's
06:42somebody out there that's going to, that's going to love you, lead you in the right direction
06:46and the right direction. What I mean by that is that's a wide variety, uh, a mass thing
06:52because you know, what's right for me may not be right for someone else, but I mean, in
06:56a direction that, uh, can help you to, uh, live out your full potential and be who you
07:02are, be authentically yourself. Some people can't deal with people that are very energetic
07:06and goofy. You know what I mean? That's just, this is how they are. They love to laugh.
07:09They like to, you know, it's just, they're like a walking skit. You know what I mean?
07:13That's just their personality. And some people can't deal with individuals that are just serious
07:16all the time, but I'm going to help you to understand something. There is someone that
07:20loves that version of a person. They want someone that's serious. They don't want someone
07:24that's good. And there's somebody that loves someone that makes them laugh. So there will
07:28be someone, a job or a position that sees your value and see exactly who you are and love
07:33you for you. You don't have to put on a mask or be anyone else. So, but you have to
07:37understand that each decision that you delay, you're basically hurting yourself.
07:42You know what I'm saying? So if you need to, I hate to say this, if you need to put
07:48that,
07:48if you need to, you know, I know I'm, I'm an advocate for men, but if you need to put
07:52that joke on child support, put them on child support, you trying to be cool with it.
07:56You trying to be cool with this family. So you don't want to put them on child support
07:59because the mom comes to see the baby, but the mom is not, she might buy a couple of clothes,
08:03but she's not, you know what I mean? She's not taking care of the child every day, like
08:07you're taking care of them. So, you know what I'm saying? If you need to put that joke
08:10on child support, so you don't have to work and struggle, do, do what you need to do to
08:13make your life a little bit easier. And I'm not saying that you just, you know, you taking
08:17the money and you blowing it and, and, and acting like, you know what I mean? You're going
08:20to Benny Hun Huns, you know what I mean? I'm not saying that. But what I am saying is
08:24this, you need to start to figure out an exit plan from stress. Now life is always going to
08:31stress you out, but you need to start to figure out an exit plan from the things that you can
08:34change to make your life a little bit easier. So the, the, every moment that you delay in making
08:40a decision that you need to make, you're just oppressing yourself. I know some people that's
08:44in a bad situation right now and they can change it, but just because they care about what other
08:49people think that they are allowing themselves to be enslaved and they are mentally tormented
08:53and they are, their energy is drained. They're, they're not engaged. They're not happy
08:57because they're stuck in a situation and they don't want to get out of it because they're
09:01scared of what people are going to say. Well, let me help you out here.
09:05You can, even though you're in that situation, you can get up right now from your bed and say,
09:10you know, I want to start a new life and move to Silicon Valley. You know what I'm saying?
09:14And, and, and, uh, take an internship and trying to learn tech or take a class and trying to learn
09:19tech, stay at a homeless shelter and, uh, take tech classes and take, and you can rebuild your
09:24entire life just by making one decision right now. If I can say, man, you know what? Uh,
09:29I'm just, you know, there has to be some preparation, but even if you chose not to make
09:33any preparation right now, I could go to a, a homeless, uh, shelter, tell them, man, Hey man,
09:38I'm here. You know what I mean? But I'm originally from, from here or from there. You can tell them
09:42you're originally from anywhere and they can send you, give you a one way bus ticket back to where,
09:47wherever you want to go. And you can start a new life from scratch where no one knows you.
09:50And you just have to, you know, you just have to deal with, deal with, you know, not having the,
09:55uh, support system until you develop one by making connections, but you can start over anywhere.
10:01So, but there is a, uh, avoiding those hard decisions comes at a hidden cause. So the longer
10:07that you, uh, the, the longer that you, uh, delay, uh, making the decisions you need to make,
10:13it's just like this. I have, I have the money. I have, you know, the, uh, the, the, the,
10:20the desire, you know what I mean? I have the need. It's just like this. You, your house has no
10:24food
10:25in it. You have the food stamps or you have the cash or you have the credit and you're just
10:31like,
10:31uh, you know, I'll go tomorrow. I'll go tomorrow. So basically you're starving,
10:35not because you don't have the resources or don't, don't have the creativity or don't,
10:39or don't have the information that's needed to get what you need. It's just because you simply,
10:43simply won't make the decision. You're delaying from, so now you have to starve,
10:48you know what I mean? So that's, that's basically like making decisions in life.
10:51The reason why you're going through what you're going, you're starving. You're starving yourself
10:54from love. You're starving yourself from a good job. You're starving. It's just simply because
11:00that the resources are out there, the knowledge is out there. It's just simply because you just
11:04don't want to do it. I hate, I hate to use the word lazy, but you know what I mean?
11:07I like to use
11:08the word delay. You are just delaying making that decision. So whenever you, whenever you get tired
11:14enough, you, you start to make decisions. You hate to go through a situation where it becomes so heavy
11:20that you have to either break, break something. Let me put it like this. A lot of people are at
11:26that breaking point just simply because they are scared to make a decision. You will let a situation
11:31break you down to the point where you're complaining to everyone. You are, and just because you just don't
11:37make their decision to let go of something that's comfortable. You just like, you just like,
11:41oh man, you, you, you sitting there talking about the, you sitting there talking about the child's
11:45father, you sitting there talking about your wife, or you sitting there discussing, discussing all
11:50these situations with people who really don't care about you talking about other people to the
11:55point that, you know, it's way, make a decision, man, make it, make a decision. If you don't like
12:00that job, go and get another job, man. Every time you come home or every time, man, you know,
12:05we have a discussion, man, you're talking about what Susan did at the job and how the boss is a
12:09piece of
12:09crap. No, man, you, you know what? Let me help you out here. Do something different, man. Make a
12:15decision, man. You're always talking about your child's mother, your child's father, you know what
12:20I mean? And this, he won't do this and do that. You need to start to make a decision on
12:25what is
12:25going to help you to keep your peace. You know what I mean? And so, you know, find out ways,
12:29man,
12:29every, every time that you delay on, uh, making a decision, man, you are basically tormenting
12:35yourself. You know what I mean? So that's what you didn't know what free will was for. That's
12:40free will is not just to serve, serve God or to do this and that. Free will is also made
12:45to do
12:45whatever you want to do. Exercise your free will, you know, that means you can do what you can do,
12:50whatever you want to do, whatever you want to do it. You are your own limitation. I can say, man,
12:54you know what? I need to go to, I'm going to go to the store and get some coffee. I'm
12:58going to tell
12:59you what somebody can say, well, you may not have the money or you may not have, you know,
13:03uh, the resources to do that. Well, okay. Yeah. I may not have the resources, but don't you know
13:08that, uh, uh, uh, uh, I hate to say it like this, but a crackhead just made $625 sitting outside
13:15of
13:15a store and got coffee, got drinks and stuff like that. I believe, I believe that if I go to
13:21a store
13:21and I, and I don't have a certain amount of money, I believe that, you know what I mean? God
13:25will,
13:25you know, bless, bless me with it. You know what I mean? There's plenty of times, man, where my sister
13:29would, uh, she was like, man, I need to go get some groceries. We go to the store. She
13:33doesn't have any money and not saying that I didn't have the money to give her. She's like,
13:37no, are you good? You know what I mean? Everywhere I go, I'm, I'm, I'm good. I'll get it. So
13:41even
13:41without begging, she would somehow, somehow she would just come out of the store and I still
13:46didn't have the receipt and everything. She'd just go to certain places and get whatever she wanted
13:50to get because she felt like, you know what I mean? She had access like that, man. And the universe
13:56had to bend to that. You know what I mean? It had to bend to, I was about to take
14:00it to,
14:01okay. You know what I mean? Won't you get a car or something like that or get this or get
14:05that?
14:05But, uh, everywhere that I took her, man, she came out with what she came, came for. And she was
14:10just like, man, it's basically my mindset, man. You know, my mindset, I truly believe within me
14:15that everywhere that I go, that I will get exactly what I need. Either the right person will come
14:20inside the store, rather than me asking a quest, the right question or something. And she always did
14:25it was just because of her mindset. So, you know, uh, but make those decisions, man, make
14:30those decisions. Number two, clarity comes from confrontation, not avoidance. A lot of
14:36people wonder why they don't have clarity in life. It's because the things that they want
14:40clarity from they're scared to confront, you know what I mean? Just to put it like this,
14:44I hate, I don't know why I'm talking about relationships. I usually don't talk about
14:47relationships, but if you believe that this joke is, is, is cheating on you, but you want
14:53clarity, you know what I mean? You have to, there has to be a confrontation. If you're
14:57wondering why you, why there's, uh, some money missing from your check, you know, instead
15:02of being like, oh, they always do this, you know what I mean? And then you, there needs
15:05to be a confrontation. So some clarity comes from confrontation. You know what I mean? If
15:10you really want, uh, uh, uh, uh, clarity on certain situations, you really want clarity
15:15on certain aspects of life. You have to confront that area. It doesn't always say something.
15:20Sometimes, you know, I don't confront certain things because I know that it doesn't require
15:24my energy. Some things are going to be taken care of on their own, but, but there, if you,
15:29you want some clarity on some things, there was a situation where I went to a specific,
15:34uh, office, you know, and, uh, and I was denied services there. So I was wondering like, man,
15:40why, why was I denied services at this particular office? So, you know, I had to confront the
15:45situations. I made, uh, the situation, I made a couple of calls. I talked to a couple of
15:50people and then they gave me clarity on exactly why, you know, uh, those things happen. It
15:54wasn't a racial thing. It wasn't this, you know, and, and sometimes I'm gonna put it like
15:58this. And sometimes it could be racial, you know, or sometimes it could be a certain situation,
16:03but they use, uh, they use this, the system that's set up at that business to kind of mask
16:10it over. So, you know what I mean? Uh, even with a cleaning service that I, uh, I have, uh,
16:15uh, every time I book a certain job because my profile picture on that, on that, uh, cleaning
16:21job, you know, they probably say, man, this is a black guy. They don't know that I run a, uh,
16:25uh, entire company, but I just, so I had to change it to the, uh, cleaning logo, but they
16:31can see, man, this is a black guy. He's cleaning place in Manhattan. They can judge you just by
16:35how you look. And a lot of people was counseling, uh, bookings, you know what I mean? With me just
16:39cause I was a black guy, but now you just got to see me when I show up, you know
16:44what
16:44I mean? I'm, I have my own company and now you're just gonna have to see me when I show
16:48up because you know, people can judge you like that. So it, that, that can come, but you
16:52have to confront that situation, uh, confront situations to get clarity. If you think something
16:58is happening, it's a, it's a lot of, it's a lot of people. And like I said, I don't know
17:02why I'm on relationships, but there's a lot of people in relationships that they, that
17:07they're like, uh, you know, I wonder this or I wonder that. And they're on the phone
17:11telling that home girl, they're on the phone telling that dude, man, I think she's cheating.
17:15I think he's cheating, man. This is crazy. This happened. They're on the phone with their
17:17mom there. They're saying, but you know what? You don't have to worry about telling everyone
17:22is your business. If you just ask the person that you're with, like, man, yeah, check this
17:26out. You came on the other day, you smell like this, you know what I'm saying? You do, you
17:30know what's going on. Instead you'll sit there and you'll go through the oppression or
17:34the, the, the mental turmoil and, uh, about what if, and this, all you have to do is confront
17:40the situation. Now I'm not saying bust out any windows or act crazy or go to jail. But
17:44what I am saying is there are certain questions that you can ask with clarity, uh, that, that
17:49can make you to, uh, can give you access to information that, that normally, you know,
17:55there's certain questions you should ask and certain things you can ask, uh, with knowing,
17:59knowing, uh, what's going on so that you can, uh, build your peace. But I've learned
18:03personally that clarity only comes when I face things head on. So yeah, clarity only
18:09comes when you face things head on. Like I said, there's some money missing from your
18:12check. You have to, confrontation. You have to ask the boss, man. I worked these many
18:18hours, man. Why is my check short? Don't just say, man, they always do this and you go
18:22on and then they're just cutting your check every week. So man, sometimes you have to
18:25confront those situations. Sometimes it could be an error and then sometimes, you
18:29know, you know, it could be something with the clock or whatever, but you have to
18:32confront those situations. You do not get peace by ignoring decisions. That's not
18:37how you get peace. You get peace by making them. You get peace by making
18:40decisions, not by ignoring them. But when I, me myself though, when I have to, uh,
18:46confront like hard choices and things like that, I gain, uh, confidence and
18:50direction. So when I have to make those hard decisions, you only have to make them a
18:54couple of times before your brain starts to rewire itself and starts to,
18:58that's like a small win. It's like a small win. Okay. Well, you know, I don't
19:02really like to talk to people and I don't really like confrontation, but the
19:05thing is this, you start to gain some type of confidence and direction in life
19:09when you just jump off the ledge. You know what I mean? Sometimes you just, you
19:12just have to, man, you could be a good person or you can be a real, you can be a
19:16real confrontational person, but it goes vice versa. You can be real
19:20confrontational, but in this very moment, you just chose to be quiet. You chose to
19:24hold your peace. You know what I mean? And that could be a big win for you.
19:26You know what I mean? Or it could be vice versa. You know what I mean? You're not
19:29real confrontational and you just say, you know what, I need to ask some
19:32questions. I need to confront the situation so I can have clarity on, you
19:36know, that's a big win for you. So it goes both ways. But what we're talking
19:41about is the, uh, costs of avoiding hard decisions. You know what I mean? And I
19:47don't want to go too deep about hard decisions, uh, because everybody's life is
19:51different. We're not going to talk about, uh, I don't know. I'm just go with the
19:54flow of what I feel like, you know, needs to be discussed. We're not going to talk
19:58about, man, you need to stop doing this. You need to start doing this. I'm not
20:01saying that, but what I am saying is this, everyone has their own life and I'm not
20:04here to judge anybody, but what I am saying is this, you need to do what's best
20:07for your own, your own life. You know what I mean? Someone probably, somebody
20:12needs, probably needs to fix their credit. Okay. And someone does it. That's not their
20:16job. They don't need to fix their credit. They're looking on the way to how to,
20:18how to, you know, get a vehicle or they're looking on the way out to get a job or
20:22somebody needs to, you know, it's different things that individuals need to do
20:25that are a priority at this current moment that can help move their life for
20:30move my life for it. It doesn't require for me to get a vehicle, even though I can
20:34purchase one, but moving my life for it may require for me just to, uh, just to
20:40get a, uh, a document that's, uh, uh, that helps me to operate in another,
20:46another state. You know what I mean? That could move my life for it more than a
20:49vehicle. So whatever your priorities are, I forgot what that document was called
20:53too. Uh, but whatever your priorities are, that can help you to move the ball
20:58forward, uh, in your own personal life. You know, someone probably just needs,
21:02needs to go get food stamps or someone probably needs to, you know, find some
21:06remote work. They don't like working a lot of around a lot of people. You can find
21:09things online that you can do. They need to start to have some type of cashflow
21:13income without having the pressure of being around everyone, dressing a
21:17certain way. So the thing is that you, you can make those, you have to make the
21:22decision. You have to do the research. You have to find out what you want and
21:25then do it, but it's possible. So, um, but when I confront like these hard, hard
21:33choices, like I said, man, sure. I gained confidence and direction of where I want to
21:38go avoid, avoid the hard decisions. I'm getting tongues out here, avoid the hard
21:43decisions. They actually keep you stuck, but, uh, action moves you forward. So a
21:49lot of times, man, even in business or even, you know, uh, dealing with a lot of
21:53things, I didn't have a mentor, you know, besides God, but I didn't have a mentor, a
21:57physical mentor, uh, teaching me about certain, uh, companies and certain, uh,
22:01mergers and acquisitions. I didn't have a mentor really teaching me about certain, uh,
22:06things in life or about emotional intelligence. I really learned it through
22:09hardship and through experience. But the thing, the thing is this, even when I didn't
22:14know what to do, I did something. Now I'm not saying run around like with confusion,
22:19like a chicken with your head cut off. Cause you can, you can run in place. You know what
22:23I mean? You can, you can, yeah, you know what I mean? You can run in place. Uh, it doesn't
22:29mean, you know, action doesn't mean, uh, well, you know, just, uh, put, let me say
22:35like this action doesn't mean production, you know what I mean? Just because you're
22:39doing something doesn't mean that you're being productive, but with you being
22:43productive or with, with you putting that action forward, you know, it actually gives
22:47you clarity along the way, kind of like, you know what I mean? Just moving by faith.
22:50So, you know, if I don't know exactly what to do or how to do it, you know what I
22:54mean? I either do some research or I will do something that's in my regular routine.
22:59Sometimes, sometimes I don't know what to do and it just started. Well, it's not a part of
23:02my regular routine as it, as it was, but sometimes I don't know what to do. And I
23:06just started working out, you know what I'm saying? And by the time I get done
23:09working out and doing some pushups, then I'll come up with some clarity on
23:13something else, but I stay, stay, stay busy. You start to do, you start taking
23:16action, doing something, it will come, it will come to you. You know, you have
23:20access to direction. You know what I mean? Number three, this is our last one. Uh,
23:26you're just not tuning in. This is the morning roasted podcast. It's your host
23:28Caleb Thompson. This place where we make your mornings matter the most. We come live
23:31up in New York City, uh, every Saturday, 6 AM Eastern Standard Time. Uh, so we're
23:37glad, uh, that you guys tuned in, but number three, and we're talking about the,
23:41um, the hidden costs. Uh, well, the hidden costs, I mean, uh, dang, that's, that's
23:48wrong. Yeah, that's wrong too. My bad, the cost of avoiding hard decisions. So I'm sorry
23:57about that, but we're talking about the cost of avoiding hard decisions. And we
24:03gave you three talk points here. The first talk point was, uh, we talked about
24:08avoiding hard decisions comes at a hidden cost. Everything has a cost to it. Every
24:11decision you make. And then number two was clarity comes from confrontation, not
24:15avoidance. You know, sometimes you have to confront certain situations to get, uh,
24:20information or the knowledge that you need is just not going to come. Why do you
24:24think office, why do you think police officers have an interrogation room? They
24:28confront the joker, you know what I mean? Ask strategic questions to get the
24:32information they need. Sometimes you need to do that with, you need to do that
24:35with your spouse. You need to do that with your boss. You need to do that with
24:37your manager. You know what I mean? You need to do certain of those, certain
24:40things to get clarity. You need to, clarity doesn't just come to you, uh, just like
24:45that, you know, most of the time. But sometimes, you know, everything done in the
24:48dark comes to the light, you know, whether you believe it or not. So, you know,
24:52everything will eventually reveal itself. But if you don't have the patience for
24:56that, you can confront those situations. So, uh, and number three, this is our last
25:00one. Courage in decision-making builds discipline and growth. So, um, you got to
25:07choose courage over comfort and that's, uh, where real growth happens. So you got to
25:12choose courage over comfort, man. Uh, there's a lot of decisions I, I have delayed just
25:19because I knew it was going to be uncomfortable. I knew it was going to be
25:22uncomfortable. I'm just like, ah, I don't want to go out and round these people.
25:25I don't want to, you know, not these people like that, but I'm just saying, man,
25:28certain things I did not want to do. I'm just like, but you know, you have to be
25:32comfortable being uncomfortable, especially if it's going to help you move your life
25:35forward. You know, if you need to, if you need to reconcile with the family member
25:40or you need to, you know, just clear your, your, clear your spiritual debt or, or get
25:45rid of, uh, unforgiveness, uh, in your life, someone wronged you and you just like,
25:50man, I hate going to family events around all these jokers, man. Everybody in the
25:54family is fake, but you going, because you know, one person is going to be there and
25:58you guys had a confrontation. You just want to get things right with one person.
26:01So for the sake of being uncomfortable around everyone else you don't deal with
26:06just to clear the board, you know, with that one person that, you know, is going to
26:09be there. You will, you know, uh, endure that, uh, that, uh, that being uncomfortable,
26:15you know, just for the sake of doing what you need to do. So, you know what I mean?
26:19So you just have to demand courage, have courage in decision-making and that was
26:24help build discipline and growth, uh, choose courage over comfort. Uh, that's where the
26:29real growth growth happens and, uh, build discipline every time you make a tough
26:34decision. So every time you make a tough decision, learn from it. You know, every time
26:39you make a tough decision, don't be like, okay, well, I'm glad that went well.
26:42You know, you start to start to understand, man, you know, you know what really
26:46happened here. I broke through a barrier that, you know, you have to really have
26:49to coach yourself to understand that you just, you're just not a regular person.
26:53You have to understand and coach yourself that I made a decision that I've been
26:57lacking on making for five years. And once I made that decision, how did that
27:01make you feel? It made me feel good. I feel like I broke through a barrier, you
27:05know what I mean? And then all you got to do is lather, wrench, repeat, you
27:08know, like the shampoo bottle. All you have to do is take that same courage, that
27:13same effort and start to apply to other areas in your life. And you will start to
27:17see yourself winning in other areas. So, you know what I mean? Once you get, get
27:21used to making hard decisions, I would like, I like to say, instead of making a
27:25hard decision, once you get, once you get used to winning, because if you want to
27:28be a winner in life, you know, it's going to come with making a lot of hard
27:30decisions and it's going to come with making a lot of hard decisions, uh, despite
27:35what anyone thinks, you know what I mean? Not everyone is going to agree with the
27:39decisions you make, but as long as it's moving your life forward, you know what
27:42I'm saying? I'm not saying slime or snake your homeboy, just to get a couple, a
27:46couple hundred thousand. He's like, well, I have to do what I have to do for my own
27:49life. Now I'm not saying being fake like that, but what I'm saying is whatever you
27:53need to do to personally move your life forward, you know what I mean? Uh, do make
27:57those hard decisions. And then with your brain energetically, your, your brain is
28:01getting used to winning, your brain is getting used, uh, to, um, making, uh, uh,
28:06making hard decisions to move your life forward. So, you know, a lot of things
28:10it's not, it's not people, you know, sometimes it may, man, if they would have,
28:14if, if, if my dad was around, you know, or, you know what I mean? If I would have
28:17never went through that, you know, that bad relationship or, you know, I've been
28:20divorced before I've been, I've been bad relationships. I've been in certain, I hate
28:26to go there, but certain, uh, situations, but either you, either you're going to,
28:31either you're going to blame those situations. I know someone right now that's,
28:36I hate to say this, but I know someone right now that still talks about a person
28:40that they were married to over 20 years ago and they cannot move forward in life.
28:46And they are still mad and bitter about a relationship that they probably helped
28:51to ruin. You know what I mean? They probably helped to ruin the way.
28:55They, that wasn't even good for the person, but they just mad that the person
28:58left them, you know, and then put up with their boy. And they're still today,
29:0220 years later talking about, well, he wouldn't do it. Brian wouldn't have done
29:06this and this and that. You're like, oh my God, you've been in multiple
29:09relationships since then. You cannot let this person go. Like you can, you always
29:14come back. That lets you know that you feel some type of regret, but let it go.
29:19Let it go, man. You made a bad decision. Let it go. Move forward. You, you know,
29:23you, you made the right decision. It didn't work out for you. You know what I mean?
29:27Let it, man, let it go, man. You start over. It's a new day. Don't do, do what you want
29:31to do for, do what you feel like you need to do for your life. There's so many, I'm
29:35telling you, there's so many people that will be so engaged in someone else's life
29:39while their life is passing them by. You know, I'm not going to say, you know what? A lot
29:42of time I don't, I don't watch, you know, uh, not saying you don't have entertainment
29:46or, you know, people, some people play video games. Sometimes I may play music. Okay.
29:50That's different. But a lot of times I don't watch sports because, you know, they get played
29:54to play the sports, but I don't get paid to watch it. You know what I'm saying? Yeah.
29:57That's a cool dunk, but you know, ever since the history of sports, you know how many people
30:02dunk the basketball in different ways that does just doesn't excite me. You know how many
30:06people ran a touchdown, you know, in the history of the NFL and the history of college football,
30:10you know, all you're doing is running back and forth. You got, you know, but you get paid
30:14to do that. I don't get paid to watch you. You know what I'm saying? Unless I'm,
30:17and I don't gamble either. You know what I mean? We don't have a spreadsheet where,
30:20you know, I can make some money off the game. So, you know, people just, just, uh, repeatedly,
30:24uh, doing the same thing. Uh, you know, some people love that entertainment. They have their
30:29favorite teams. I'm not opposed to that, but I'm just saying personally, I don't get paid
30:33to watch you run up and down a field, dunk a basketball and you doing the same thing.
30:38And that's going to be a, once you retired, it's going to be another group of people trying
30:42to make it to the NFL or leaving college. And that's going to do the same exact thing.
30:46Make some cool dunks, make some good, cool passes. And it's just a repeatable cycle. You
30:52know what I mean? I'm not going to waste, you know, many hours out of my life watching
30:55someone do something that's been done a million times and argue about who's the greatest.
31:00You know what I mean? Well, it's going to be someone else is going to do a cool dunk.
31:03It's going to be someone else that throws a cool pass and it's going to be someone else
31:06running up and down the floor or running up and down the field, you know, but some people,
31:10hey, that's, that's your thing. That's the thing. I'm not really a sports guy. I'm more
31:13into business, but, um, but yeah, so whatever. So hard decisions shape who you become and how
31:22you move in life. So we make those hard decisions that really shape who you become. Um, you, let
31:28me put it like this before we end, cause we're about to end this here. Um, and we are, we're
31:33at 32. All right. So this is what I'm going to leave you with. One hard decision can
31:40change your life. You know what I mean? It can change your life. You can go from sitting
31:44at home to saying, you know what? I want to learn how to day trade. You know what I mean?
31:48You can learn about market structure and just by taking five hours out of your day to really
31:55sit there, pay attention and learn about how to day trade, learn about market structure.
31:59And you can, you can, you know what I mean? If you got good credit, you can go and get
32:03a loan, take that loan, put it on your account and you can make up to the profit. If you
32:10really
32:10know about market structure and you really know how to day trade, you know what I mean?
32:13You start out slow, but you can, you can eventually start to be completely financially free by learning
32:19about market structure on how to day trade, learn about the different stocks and how to trade
32:24with those different stocks. You can be financially free by taking five hours out of your day to really
32:29sit down, to learn about market structure and then take in 30 minutes to an hour every day
32:34for the remainder of that week, just to completely immerse yourself in that information. And just
32:41by that one decision, you can be financially free and free your entire family from poverty or
32:46financial bondage. That's been plaguing the family for generations. Just because one person
32:51took time to research and to learn about a certain skillset that set everyone free,
32:57you know what I mean? And one door opens another door. So you can have the money or find the
33:02skillset
33:02to make the money, but then that pressures you, uh, in ways to, uh, once you have the money,
33:08instead of just buying things and repeating the process, you know what I'm saying? And making more
33:12money and just buying things, you start to, uh, it starts to push you to understand about like ETFs
33:18and start to understand about other things like Bitcoin or Ethereum, or, uh, start to, uh, push you
33:24to, uh, uh, to learn about real estate in ways that you can start to invest that money after you
33:29have the skillset to make it. And also to teach family members about how to, uh, learn to teach
33:35them about market structure and teach them about, uh, certain things about the market, whether it's
33:39bullish, bearish, you know, if there's a, you know, teach them, teach them about consolidation
33:43and, and breakout strategies and scalping strategies so that they can become financially free.
33:50But it just starts with one person in the family, just making one decision.
33:54Somebody could, you know, I've always been big on this. Somebody can just say, man, you know what?
33:58I don't care. I can keep my regular job, but this time when I get paid this week,
34:02I'm going to take 500 bucks and I'm going to give me a vending machine and I'm going to,
34:06I'm going to, I hate to say this, I hate to say this, but I'm going to take the food
34:11stamps I have
34:11and go to a place where they sell food in bulk and I'm going to stock my vending machine.
34:15And then I'm going to, I'm going to use this as a token to earn extra cash flow. When you
34:20sleep,
34:20if you find the right apartment building, you find the right hospital or right place to put that
34:25vending machine in, then you will just have to go and fill it back up. You know what I mean?
34:29But you have to start from somewhere, you know, start to fill that vending machine up. You can start to
34:33have extra cash flow out of nowhere by you using, uh, using the situation that you're in, uh,
34:40probably food stamps and a job, you know what I mean? Uh, to get a vending machine, put it in
34:45a
34:45nice location and you can have, make money while you're asleep. So that doesn't mean quit your job,
34:49but that means when that machine does, does well in that location, you can ask the person that owns
34:54that building, if they have any more locations or if they know anyone else that would, uh, like to have
34:59a vending machine. And then just by having those connections, then you can go from just having
35:03one vending machine to having an entire route. You know what I'm saying? But you have to make the,
35:08someone has to make the decision to do something. You know what I'm saying? And they can set everyone
35:13free. So man, uh, thank you guys for tuning in. This is the cost of avoiding hard decisions.
35:18This is the morning roasted podcast host Caleb Thompson. Uh, and I will see you back here next
35:23Saturday, 6 AM Eastern standard time. Peace.
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