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00:00Okay, how's everyone doing? Welcome back to the Morning Roasted Podcast. This is your host, Caleb Thompson.
00:06If this is your first time tuning in to the Morning Roasted Podcast, we are usually here at 6 a.m. Eastern Standard Time.
00:14Excuse me, every Saturday, every Saturday morning.
00:19Today's episode is going to be, you don't have to have it all together.
00:24You don't have to have it all together.
00:26First off, man, I would like to thank everyone for watching these videos.
00:29I try to start every message with gratitude for the simple fact, if it wasn't for you guys watching these videos, my reach wouldn't expand.
00:39So like, share, subscribe to these videos, and also just share it with someone else, someone else that you think that could use it.
00:49It doesn't always have to be your message.
00:51Sometimes it's up to you to discover something.
00:55And even though it's not useful to you at that current moment, you can pass it along to someone else.
01:01So just do that.
01:02You know, if this is something that you don't need help with at this time, you can pass it to someone else.
01:09Okay, so for the next three weeks at the Morning Roasted Podcast, we are going to be having a grief therapy series.
01:19Grief therapy series.
01:20Anyone that's went through anything that's caused grief, they don't know how to handle their grief.
01:24Whether it's a bad breakup, whether it is death within the family, death of a child, or just some traumatic event.
01:32Maybe you're coming back from overseas, you're still going through a lot of grief, a lot of PTSD, things like that.
01:40These next three episodes for the next three weeks, it will be part of our grief therapy series.
01:49So, and this is number one, and this is you don't have to have it all together.
01:53Now, I want you to understand something before we move forward with these messages.
01:57Now, I'm not encouraging weakness, but I am encouraging, I'm not even encouraging a balance.
02:05You know, I am encouraging you to embrace things without breaking.
02:11You know, embracing your emotions, embracing the things that are happening, but also finding a healthy way to cope with those things and to continue to move forward.
02:20So, embracing it without breaking, you know, and sometimes you have to face it, let it go, back up for a little bit, and then revisit it when you're strong enough to revisit some of these things.
02:32But I'm not encouraging you to just bow down, to give up on life and saying that you don't have to have it all together.
02:39You know, it's just go with the flow.
02:41Some things are not going, you don't have to go with the flow.
02:43Some things you have to face, you have to face it with strength, courage, and even while you're in fear, you still have to face these things.
02:50That is the only way that you're going to get better.
02:52That is the only way that you're going to get stronger by facing situations, not running from them, and not allowing the situation to overcome you, but you overcome the situation.
03:02So, I just want to put that disclaimer out there.
03:05You know, I'm not encouraging you to just fall apart, you know what I mean?
03:09And it's okay if you fall apart.
03:11It's okay if you just lay there, you know what I mean?
03:13But I am encouraging that if you need to take a break, you can embrace certain situations without fully breaking, having your soul broken, having your spirit broken.
03:25So, you know, it's okay to go through that emotional turmoil as long as you're going through it.
03:31Man, there's a verse in the Bible that says, I walk through the valley of the shadow of death.
03:38You know what I'm saying?
03:39Now, I fear no evil, but I walk through the valley.
03:40It doesn't say that when I get to the valley of the shadow of death, I start to build a house there.
03:45I start to build, you know, I started to set up, you know, a tent there.
03:50That means you do not camp out in the valley of the shadow of death.
03:54It's that I go through it.
03:56So, you're going to be going through some things, but you do not set up shop in a toxic relationship.
04:01You do not set up shop in a toxic pattern.
04:03You do not set up shop.
04:05I don't care.
04:06I don't care if you've been raised your entire life doing some old family pattern.
04:12You know what I mean?
04:13Man, if it comes a point in time, man, where it's been brought to your attention that this is not healthy and you're the one that's supposed to break that cycle,
04:20do not give up your responsibility and your position to be a light in your family, man.
04:25It's just some things just have to change, man.
04:27You know, you hate to live your entire life, die just like everybody else.
04:34You know, your dad was an alcoholic.
04:35You died an alcoholic.
04:36You know what I mean?
04:38Your mom gossiped her whole life and talked about people behind her back, friends and all, and you're using the same pattern.
04:44You know what I mean?
04:45So, you know, someone has to break the cycle.
04:47So, but this is one start that I want to give you guys.
04:51I don't know where that came from.
04:52Someone is going to listen to this and they needed that piece of information.
04:56So sometimes I just like to go with the flow.
04:58It may be off topic, but it has to be needed.
05:01Something pushed me or pulled me to that point to share that information.
05:06So number one, once again, you don't have to have it all together.
05:10You heard my disclaimer, but number one, you have to give yourself permission to fall apart sometimes.
05:15And this is what I mean by give yourself permission to fall apart sometimes.
05:20Every person on this earth is limited.
05:23If you are a human being, you are limited.
05:26Being pretty is only going to take you so far.
05:30You know, you have a lot of women.
05:31I'm a baddie.
05:32Being a baddie is only going to take you so far.
05:34There's only so much that your beauty is going to get you.
05:37And then that's going to fade at a certain age.
05:39You know what I mean?
05:39There's so much that your money can get you.
05:42Your money can't buy you integrity.
05:44Your money can't buy you discipline.
05:46Your money can't buy you.
05:47Well, some people can't be bought and they can't get respect just by having money.
05:51But if you lose that money, you know what I mean?
05:53You no longer have respect.
05:55But certain things or certain gifts or certain things in our lives can only take us so far.
06:02You know, every human being is limited.
06:04So this is what I mean by sometimes you have to give yourself permission to fall apart, understanding that you have a limitation.
06:13And then once you get to that point where you are limited, sometimes you have to surrender.
06:18You have to surrender to the situation and go through it.
06:21There's no more running.
06:22Sometimes, you know, there's a difference between fighting through something and fighting against something.
06:27You know what I mean?
06:28You can fight through something.
06:30That means you can go through it getting stronger while not falling apart.
06:34And then there are some times that you can fight to not go through something and you are delaying your growth.
06:39So but in this situation, allow yourself to fall apart in those situations.
06:43And what I mean by fall apart, I mean that sometimes you have to break down and do the shadow work.
06:48If I'm fighting something, if I'm fighting something, I'm fighting something.
06:51And then I need to let myself fall apart or fall into that situation.
06:56So certain areas or aspects of my life that need to be highlighted can be highlighted so I can work on those areas.
07:03You never know that you lack patience unless you've been put in a situation where you have to wait for something.
07:07And then that area of your life is what needs to be targeted with your energy to make sure that you can grow in that area of being patient.
07:14It's hard to be patient sometimes.
07:15It's hard to love people who mistreat you.
07:18But certain areas.
07:20But that is how you raise your rank in certain areas of your life and raise your energy by attacking these these shadows.
07:30These things that want to keep you bound, keep you stuck.
07:32But you have to give yourself permission to fall apart.
07:34Sometimes you have to fall into that situation.
07:37You have to embrace it without breaking.
07:39You have to understand that, OK, you know, this is where we are.
07:42This is where we are.
07:44And sometimes you have to somebody that's listening.
07:48As soon as you know something, it's good.
07:50It's good that you fell apart.
07:52You know why?
07:53Because if you were if you would have never fell apart, you would have never changed your life.
07:57You would have kept picking the same guys.
07:59You would have kept picking the same women.
08:02You would have kept, you know, you would have kept working at working at.
08:06And I'm not saying nothing about anyone that works nine to five.
08:09Everyone is not meant to be an entrepreneur.
08:10But you would have stayed at that job that worked you like a dog and knowing that you deserve more money, knowing that you deserve the respect, knowing that you deserve the race.
08:20But they're using you, working you like a dog and you still can barely pay bills.
08:23You just got to a point where you just said sometimes you have to get to the point where you fall apart and sometimes fall apart equal and being fed up.
08:31Sometimes you have to get to a point where life is so hard, where you are fed up and it's time to make a change.
08:36You know, I know some people that can go to through the roughest things in life and it can't change them.
08:41They're still running from change, knowing that change is the only thing that's going to get them to the next level.
08:46How do you want to be a millionaire, but you don't want to change?
08:50How do you want how do you want to have a have you want your kids to have everything you never had, but you don't want to change?
08:56You know what I mean? How do you you cannot get to new levels with the same mindset?
09:00If I want to leave, if I want to go from a thousand dollar making a thousand dollars a week and I want to make five thousand dollars a week.
09:11There's something in me that has to change to a five thousand dollar a week mindset.
09:17You know what I mean? You can't go from a quarter million dollars a quarter to a million dollars a quarter unless something in you changes.
09:24You have to say, OK, I'm going to have to sacrifice something here. I'm not to do this.
09:27I'm not to do this. But something in you has to change.
09:30Your strategy has to change to make sure that you can scale that business to a higher level and make sure you can scale your life to a higher level.
09:36But you cannot have hopes and dreams, a million dollar dreams.
09:41But, you know, you can't say you can't have a champagne taste on a Kool-Aid budget.
09:46It's something that you have to do to make sure that you can get the Kool-Aid.
09:50But I mean, get the champagne budget. You can't have a champagne taste on a Kool-Aid budget.
09:54So you need to you need to develop the mindset on how to make the champagne budget so you can have you can you can satisfy that champagne taste.
10:03So that's that's something that you need to understand.
10:06But I used to believe that strength mean holding everything in.
10:10Now I understand strength only looks like honesty.
10:13So strength is really being honest with yourself.
10:15I'm going to tell you some some people think that the weakest people in the world, the quietest people in the world, the most loving people in the world.
10:21It's not that's not true.
10:23A lot of people that are quiet, they've seen a lot of things that you probably haven't seen.
10:27People think running around, pulling the nuts out and doing all these extra things is making them look tough.
10:33When they're really stupid, you know, I have someone say this, you know, the smartest person always outlive the toughest person.
10:42So the smartest person always outlives the toughest person.
10:45You got someone every time someone says something to them, they're ready to fight.
10:49They're ready to fight.
10:50They're ready to go crazy.
10:51And then they can end up getting shot, stabbed, killed because they don't know they don't have enough wisdom to be like, you know, I don't have to fight every battle.
10:58So sometimes, man, just for just for me to make it home to my kids, I got to let them have this when I'm probably never see those people again in my life.
11:04So I'm just whatever.
11:05OK, you got it.
11:06But I'm still going to make it home to my kids.
11:08You can find somebody.
11:09And that's the smart person.
11:11But somebody who who's just looking for entertainment, you can lose your life off road rage.
11:15You can lose your life and just some of the some of the most uncanny situations that really didn't require that much force from you.
11:26So, man, you have to be careful with those things.
11:28But real strength is it's honesty, man.
11:32That's what strength look like.
11:33Strength looks like that.
11:34You know, I mean, I'm never going to get I'm never going to be able to vacation once a year and do things that I want to do unless I start to do the research.
11:41I cannot have the life that I want to live unless I start to move different, do things different.
11:49So that's what strength is.
11:50Strength is really educating yourself.
11:52Strength is really understanding what you're going through and not running from it, but going through and being honest with yourself.
11:58And so many times I need to be I had to be honest with myself.
12:00So I know who I am.
12:03I'm solid in my identity and who I am.
12:05But some situations it calls for me to say, man, this is only something that God can fix.
12:10You know, this is you know, I can only do so much.
12:13I'm I'm I'm strong.
12:14I could do this.
12:15I could do that.
12:16I'm very gifted.
12:17But some things in life, man, you can't fix it.
12:21Money can't fix it.
12:23Your family can't fix it.
12:24Nobody you call.
12:25You can have a net network with a net worth full of six hundred billion dollars.
12:30But no one can fix certain things.
12:32Some things are going to happen in life that no one can fix.
12:34No one can just regulate and fix your emotions.
12:36That's a spiritual thing.
12:37You're going to need something to help you to get out of that rut.
12:41You know, you're going to.
12:41So, you know, you're going to go through things that no money can fix.
12:45So money isn't everything.
12:46You know, you you you lose a child and you do think some money is going to fix that.
12:50I don't care how many brunches with mimosas you go through.
12:53It's not going to.
12:54You're still not going to be the same.
12:56I don't care how many times you go fishing with your buddy is still not going to be the same.
13:00I don't care how many times you go hunting is this not going to.
13:03It's not going to be the same after certain situations or circumstances that pertain or pertain around grief.
13:12You know what I mean?
13:13Going through grief.
13:14But, you know, a lot of times I remind myself that grief is not linear.
13:18You know, I don't have to perform healing for anyone.
13:22You know what I'm saying?
13:23So I allow myself to to cry.
13:25You know, I don't I've been me.
13:27I don't cry.
13:28You know, being not saying that that's a bad thing.
13:30But I've been through so much that I'm kind of callous, not callous in my emotions.
13:35You know, my heart is spiritualist, but I'm just kind of callous towards being sad.
13:40You know what I mean?
13:40I don't I don't believe that, you know, being sad really, really helps me.
13:45But sometimes people uses that as some people use as an outlet.
13:48Some people cry.
13:50Some people do other things like some people, you know, go to the gun range.
13:53Some people cry.
13:54Some people, you know, they have other things that they use in replace of crying.
14:00But if crying is one thing that you do to help you to feel better, by all means, do that.
14:05But, you know, cry, pause, cancel plans.
14:08Some people cry and some people eat ice cream.
14:11You know, but, you know, whatever your outlet is to relieve pain in a healthy way.
14:18You know, I'm not saying, you know, every time you go through some pressure, you know, engage in self.
14:25Self-pleasure or engage in becoming just wasted, you know what I mean?
14:31So I'm not saying that, but allow yourself to find a way to release those emotions in a healthy manner.
14:39But, you know, you need to pause.
14:40Sometimes you need to counsel some plans, some plans that you had.
14:43Man, you need to counsel those plans or simply sit in silence, man, without apologizing for it, man.
14:48Just sit there, sit there in silence.
14:49Get yourself together.
14:50I know I notice a lot of people do not like to sit in their own energy.
14:53They always need to be busy.
14:55They always need to be talking about someone.
14:57They always need to be judging someone.
14:59They always need to be comparing themselves.
15:01Sometimes you just need to sit alone, figure out what you like, what you want to do, and just focus on your own life and see how you can boss your own life up.
15:09But, you know, I accept that messy emotions are still valid emotions as well.
15:14So even though you are going through those messy emotions, they're still valid when you're going through grief.
15:22When you're going through grief, sometimes you can get angry.
15:24You know, you can have, like, an emotion that's so angry that, you know, people don't want to be around you.
15:29You know, you can snap it any moment.
15:31And sometimes you can go through such a deep sadness that people don't know what to, where you just have a blank stare and people don't know what to say to you.
15:37So I've experienced all these emotions from one end of the scale to the other end of the scale.
15:43So, man, but you do need to find a healthy way to heal throughout the grief process.
15:51Okay, number two is release the pressure to be strong for everyone else.
15:56So this is something else, man.
15:57I recognize that, you know, just constantly being a strong one become emotional.
16:02It could become emotionally isolating.
16:06So you don't have to be strong for everybody else, man.
16:10Sometimes you have to let people bear their own burdens.
16:12If you are going through something, if you are going through something and you cannot take time out for yourself because you're trying to be strong for everyone else, who's going to be strong for you?
16:21You do not let your mind snap.
16:24Do not go through a period of, do not let your mind snap.
16:31Don't go crazy.
16:32Don't go through something that's going to make you wig out for the simple fact that you're trying to be strong for everyone else.
16:40Who's going to be strong for you?
16:41You need someone that's going to be strong for you as well.
16:43But sometimes, man, you just have to allow people to bear their own burdens, man.
16:47Allow some people to go through things on their own.
16:49So if you're telling that joker, you know what I mean?
16:52If you're telling that joker that he needs it, I don't know why I'm saying this, but if you're telling that joker he needs to get a job and he don't want to put the work in to get the job, but he's always asking you for money, for liquor.
17:02You know what I mean?
17:03Somebody needs to draw the line.
17:05You know what I'm saying?
17:06So you don't got to be strong for everyone else.
17:07You don't want to break your back for everybody else.
17:10You know what I mean?
17:11In order for it to be peace or be strong for everyone else in your burden.
17:15Some people, man, you need somebody that's going to bear the burden with you.
17:18You do not take time, take your time, energy, and attention and be walked all over on because people know that you're strong.
17:26A lot of times people put unnecessary burdens on your back.
17:29Have you ever had someone, they know that you're the strong one in the family.
17:33They will call you with unnecessary information about someone else, load all that bad negative energy on you, and then they will hang up and now they're relieved.
17:44It's called the transfer of energy.
17:46So you can transfer energy just like and just like if there is somebody that dibbles and dabbles in witchcraft.
17:55You know, if there is a judgment or something that is supposed to come back on them, karma, they can transfer or redirect that karma to someone else.
18:04You know, it's a real thing.
18:06They can do an exchange and do an exchange and, you know, and it's real.
18:11And that goes back from sacrifices in the Bible as well as an exchange before someone sacrificed an animal for their sins.
18:22You know what I mean?
18:22They would transfer their sins onto that animal before slaughtering it, you know, and that was an original pattern to sacrifice for your sins, the original pattern that God gave people.
18:33So that transfer of energy is still being used today in destiny swaps and things like that.
18:39But I want you to know, man, you don't have to be strong for everybody else.
18:42And I want you to understand the vulnerability does not mean does not make you weak.
18:49You know what I mean?
18:50It makes you human, man.
18:50Sometimes you have to be vulnerable.
18:52You have to be open.
18:53And sometimes I tell people this all the time.
18:54If you don't want to if you don't want to be real with other people, sometimes it's hard to be real with people.
19:01And, you know, and I'm not saying that, man.
19:04And I don't being real is not telling everybody your business, but sometimes it's hard to to tell people things that they really don't know that they'll use against you later.
19:14Sometimes you can be vulnerable with people and people can take that that vital information that you share with them and they can use it to attack you or they can use it to ruin, ruin your name when they can no longer use you.
19:25The only people that attack you with information that you gave them while you were in a vulnerable state is people that wanted to use you or wanted to get close enough to you to sabotage you or use that information to try to control you.
19:36When they can no longer control you, they're going to take every piece of information they've given you and try to destroy your name.
19:41So you have to be careful.
19:42So that's why a lot of people feel like they have to be tough and they have to be hard because, you know, in those vulnerable situations, they had some jackass that they that they were with or some piece of crap that, you know what I mean?
19:55Manipulated them into opening up and then they totally destroyed the character and the name of a person during those vulnerable moments.
20:02So that's why I feel like, man, I can never tell anybody anything.
20:04You know, I'll keep it to myself.
20:05So and that's called is causing emotional heaviness where you feel like you don't have an outlet to get rid of those emotions or to to express those emotions with someone that's genuine that will really sit there and pour back into you and build you up.
20:19Instead of taking those things, putting them in there, using them as bullets and putting them in their emotional gun to shoot at you later when you say or do something that they don't like.
20:29But I remind myself that healing is not a competition or a timeline to impress others.
20:33Man, something and nothing is a competition and nothing is a timeline.
20:37And I want you to know this, too.
20:38Some things I may go through, man, I may heal very quickly.
20:41You know, someone may do something to me, offend me, and I may be able to brush it off and continue to move forward and not let it ruin my day.
20:47Not everyone has that capacity.
20:49So you can do one thing to somebody.
20:51Somebody could get cut off walking across the street and they can take that one situation that happened to them and they can tell their cousin, tell their mom.
21:00They'll talk about it all day.
21:01You know, instead of them instead of them going to the post office like they were supposed to do, they were supposed to, you know, go go over here to the doctor's office.
21:10But the whole day, they're not even able to focus on the blessings or the opportunities that's coming around because they've been sidelined by one person walking in front of them while headed while being cut in front of the line in the bus line.
21:24Or, you know what I mean, something happened on the subway and then they're calling.
21:27Don't you know that this is so-and-so, man, jumped in front of me at the bus and now you and then you call your cousin.
21:33Yeah, man.
21:33You know, y'all talking and then you tell about this situation.
21:36Then you go and you're talking to somebody and you tell, man, yeah, you know, man, you know, you know, Jose, man, he, you know, don't you know that, man?
21:43And sometimes, you know, you just, man, telling you let that one incident ruin your entire day and now you have nothing else to talk about.
21:50You are lingering in that negative energy and you don't want to do that, man.
21:54So, but I do know that, man, I remind myself that healing is not a competition or a timeline.
21:59But like I said, man, not everyone heals at the same time.
22:01So you do have to be patient with people.
22:03If you have a couple, you know, if something happened to your spouse's mom or they're going through something, you have to really understand that everybody does not heal at the same time.
22:13Man, I was actually with a woman a while back, man, that ended up losing her baby, ended up losing her first son.
22:21She had two more kids and then she had three kids after that.
22:24But that was something that was really hard for her to heal from being her first child.
22:28And she always brought that up even after being blessed with two, three other kids.
22:32It was something about that that happened or the way that it happened that she didn't really disclose to me that it really took her a long time to heal from that one incident.
22:43And, you know, so, you know, not everyone heals at the same time.
22:47But what you can do, man, is pray for people, be there for them.
22:50And it kind of helped them to understand that, you know, some things, you know, you have some things are unreplaceable, but some but you need to move forward in life.
22:59You need to find a way or find a ground where you can still honor honor that loss in some type of healthy way.
23:06But you need to move forward.
23:07It does not need to be emotional baggage, you know, even though that was hard for her.
23:11So I've witnessed that not everyone heals at the same time.
23:15But number three is I embrace the healing process.
23:18I embrace healing as a process and not a destination.
23:22There is not a certain point where you feel like I'm completely healed.
23:25It takes time because once you go through one thing and you're getting over one thing, something else happens, man.
23:30We are living down here on this earth, in this world, man.
23:33And it's inevitable that offense is going to come.
23:37It's inevitable that people are going to do things to you.
23:41They're going to lie on you.
23:42Some people, you know, some people be good to you, too.
23:44There are some good things that are going to happen.
23:46It is a balance of life.
23:47You know, what you put out is what you will get back.
23:50But there are some things that you do not put out that you will get.
23:53You know what I mean?
23:53They say good people die young, but a lot of good people are lied on.
23:57A lot of good people are cheated on because they feel like good people are weak or people that really care about people are weak.
24:04So, you know, a lot of people can do a lot of good things and go through a lot of things that they really don't deserve.
24:10And even people who do deserve certain things, you know, you you know, sometimes they don't deserve the weight of that.
24:19You know, sometimes you can feel sorry for people, even though, you know, man, every time my brother is around, you know, he's stealing, he's stealing, he's stealing this from me.
24:27He's stealing that from me.
24:28But next time you see him, you know what I mean?
24:30He's completely homeless and he's on the street and he's going through that.
24:32You're like, dang, you know what I mean?
24:35I hate, you know, I hate certain things that you do, but I don't wish this for you.
24:39So, you know what I mean?
24:41And so, you know, but I accept that some days will feel like progress while others will feel like setback.
24:48And that's all part of the healing process, man.
24:50Not every day is going to be a chipper day.
24:52Not every day is just going to be, you know what I mean, a day where, you know, you feel like you're operating at peak performance.
24:59And some days will feel like setbacks.
25:02But I want you to know, as long as you don't quit, as long as you continue to face these situations head on, these emotions head on,
25:08that you will continue to make progress even when it feels like a setback.
25:11Sometimes setbacks are progress.
25:13Sometimes people don't know that, but sometimes you didn't, you didn't get the lesson that you needed and you needed to be set back.
25:19Because if you try to take a third grade mentality to the seventh grade, you're not going to, you're going to get outworked.
25:27You're going to, you know what I mean?
25:28You're not going to, you're not going to, you're not going to be able to operate on that level.
25:33So sometimes a setback is kind of to re-educate you or to give you a test over again.
25:39And that really is progress.
25:40Sometimes setbacks are progress to help you to understand and pattern recognition and certain other things to help you to move forward.
25:47Like they say, a minor setback for a major comeback.
25:50So sometimes those setbacks are good to re-equip you with certain pieces of information that can help you to excel a little bit later on.
25:58But I also understand that grief can coexist with joy.
26:03And that's what some people don't understand.
26:05Don't you know that you can be joyful, but you can, grief can coexist with joy.
26:11Don't you know that fear can coexist with faith.
26:14Some things you have to do by faith while in a state of fear.
26:18You know what I mean?
26:18That means being brave.
26:20So in some things that, you know, you can be joyful, but be still, grief can still coexist with joy.
26:28So don't get it wrong.
26:29You can be a happy, peaceful person, but that doesn't mean that anxiety doesn't try to coexist with that and take over that peace or try to live with that peace.
26:39You can be at peace in every area of your life, but this one area of your life could cause anxiety.
26:43But both of those feelings can coexist.
26:45People say, man, where fear is, you know, faith can exist.
26:49And that's not true.
26:50Some most things that you do in this life, you're going to have to jump off.
26:54You're going to have to jump off to the jump off the cliff.
26:57You know what I mean?
26:58By faith while in a state of fear, but having faith while you're in that emotion of fear.
27:04So fear and faith can can coexist and grief and joy can coexist at the same time.
27:10So don't don't get it wrong.
27:11It's two sides to every coin.
27:12And that coin is still one coin with the same value.
27:15So don't don't get that twisted.
27:19And you have to understand that you you don't have to feel guilty when you laugh again.
27:24So, you know, when you go through a lot of things, man, don't feel guilty about laughing again.
27:29Sometimes you can go through so much grief and that trauma tries to keep you from laughing again.
27:34It makes it feel like that if you laugh again, if you're happy again, you are abandoned, abandoning or forgetting what happened.
27:42Like, you no longer care and things like that.
27:44Yeah, I can care that I lost a friend or something like that.
27:48But I cannot let that control me.
27:50I can care that I lost a job or lost a parent.
27:55But by me laughing again doesn't mean that I abandoned I abandoned their legacy or their memory by me laughing again and forget not fully forgetting that.
28:07But just moving on with my life.
28:09So a lot of times when we let people go, we have to break away from your family, your mother, your father and your siblings because, you know, they just can't see the vision that you have.
28:17You're starting to you're starting to understand that, man, they are causing me more grief than help.
28:23You know what I mean?
28:24So, you know, a lot of times people make you feel guilty.
28:28I want you to feel guilty for being happy again.
28:31When you were when you were around, they all put their baggage on you.
28:35They always talk about you.
28:36They always say what you aren't doing, what you can do better.
28:39And half of their lives aren't even as good as yours.
28:41So but, you know, but when you start to break away from these people and laugh again and have joy again and have peace in your home and you're starting to go up, you're starting to boss your life up.
28:52They were trying to make you feel guilty for being happy, you know, happy without them.
28:56But if they're in your life, you're never going to be happy.
28:59So sometimes you just got to you got to choose yourself.
29:03Sometimes you just got to choose yourself, man.
29:05But I give I give myself grace when I'm triggered and or when memories resurface unexpectedly.
29:12So you will have some memories resurface unexpectedly.
29:16But, you know what I mean?
29:17Just give yourself grace, man.
29:18You know, it's a lot of things that I went through, man, that I feel like I was completely healed from it.
29:24Like I feel like, man, OK, I never have to worry about that again.
29:27Five years down the line, some triggers that.
29:29And you know what I'm saying?
29:30And then it pops back up again.
29:32Or you completely, you know, put time, energy and attention towards, let's say, semen retention or not drinking or anything like that.
29:41And then later on down the line, those certain things surface, things pop up again.
29:46So I want you to give yourself grace, you know.
29:48And right here, man, I'm just going to be completely honest with you.
29:50You know, we're not we're not here to sugarcoat anything.
29:53And there's no children that listen to these podcasts, my understanding.
29:57And if it is a teenager or something, this is probably some information they need.
30:00They need a lot of things that I went through.
30:03I went through at an early age, eight years old.
30:05You know what I mean?
30:06I went through things dealing with my family.
30:10You know what I mean?
30:10My mother using my energy.
30:12You know what I mean?
30:12Taking certain things from me that God has blessed me with and dispersing it throughout the family because no one else was blessed like like me.
30:20No one else had that that had that light like me.
30:22So she was still and taking certain gifts, give it to other people in the family, doing exchanges.
30:29So, you know, I've been going through that my entire life.
30:31You know what I mean?
30:32Living with a family of 14.
30:33You can just imagine how depleted I was with you.
30:37Your mother wants something to happen.
30:39A lot of things that were mine and a lot of things that were left to me should transfer to, you know what I mean, using certain means of going to certain altars, transferring to my brother because that was her favorite child.
30:52And she could she could mentally control him.
30:54You know what I mean?
30:55He was just like wrapped around her fingers.
30:56So she would take certain things and certain aspects from other children and gifts and then give it to him because she already know if she needed some and she asked him, he would be he would be able to give it to her.
31:07But she wasn't in physical health to be able to use those gifts to a point where she could make revenue or generate capital on her own.
31:16But she would find certain vessels of people and children and swap certain things to her own to our own liking.
31:24So I was raised like that.
31:26So you can just you can just imagine how depleted I was, man, dealing with the family of 14, going up with a lot of, you know, warlocks and witches and, you know what I mean, in different altars.
31:38And then on top of that, religious magic as well.
31:42People don't know about that.
31:44Religious black magic where people use certain scriptures and verses in the Bible, the power of the word of God to manipulate it.
31:53The power of the word still exists.
31:55You know, it still exists, even if you use it in the wrong way.
31:58So some people can use certain psalms, scriptures and certain things like that.
32:02It's called religious black magic.
32:03So, you know, there are people in the church that use religious black magic to manipulate and control energy.
32:08But they really don't have a relationship with God.
32:11They are just using the power of the word and scriptures as, you know, as talk points and as things to control certain things.
32:20So, man, but that's what I was raised raised around.
32:23So but just give yourself some grace, man.
32:26You know, remind remind yourself, man, not having it all together does not mean that you're failing.
32:31It means you're becoming so, you know, this is the morning roasted podcast.
32:36This is the place where we make your mornings matter the most.
32:38I will come alive from New York City as we usually do.
32:40We'll see you back here next Saturday, 6 a.m.
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