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00:01how's it going out to good people man welcome back to the morning roasted podcast
00:05coming live from new york city as we always do in this place we make your mornings matter the most
00:10i hope everyone's having a great day out there today man i hope you woke up this morning like
00:14i say man saying those affirmations man just trying to get your day started and i hope you
00:19have a plan and a goal to a i mean a goal and a plan to accomplish that uh create
00:26some type of
00:26road map make sure you knock off the smaller things off your list or the things that's that
00:31are most important you can set set things put things together uh according to your own priorities
00:37and what you have to do for your own personal life so i'm not going to give you a blueprint
00:40but
00:41you know uh that's just something just to look into okay so today's episode is called self
00:46awareness creates transformation so self awareness
00:54creates transformation so i'm going to give you three talk points here as we usually do always
00:59give you guys three talk points just so i can kind of keep track of the time and uh i'm
01:05trying to keep
01:05it in between 15 minutes so let's go ahead and get started talk point number one i can't change what
01:11i'm not aware of you cannot change what you're not aware of and i and i i can say this
01:18for myself
01:18it's a lot of things and even when you do become aware of it you cannot throw it off on
01:22someone
01:23else like just say someone else is the problem okay if someone else is a problem you become aware
01:28of that you now have to put together uh precautions if you still want to be in that person's life
01:34or
01:34allow that person to still be in your life you have to put together precautions in order to learn how
01:38to deal with that individual or to deal with that individual or you have to now put together
01:45a plan that can help you to transform from having that type of energy around you nothing changes
01:50unless you change so a lot of time if it is another person uh and you know uh don't take
01:56all your energy
01:57towards uh you know uh i forgot what someone called sophisticated sabotage sophisticated sabotage
02:06i mean you know exactly what the problem is you know exactly how it's affecting you but you're not
02:10doing anything about it you have studied the triggers you studied the problem you've uh studied
02:17uh the situation the person and understand how it's affecting you but you are not doing anything
02:21about it so that's called sophisticated uh stagnation or sabotaging yourself but you can't change what you're
02:29not aware of so become aware of things and find out ways uh not only how it affects you but
02:35ways that you
02:36can change it not why is this person doing this there's a lot of situations and even me myself man
02:41a lot of people do things but you have no control over other people you only have control over yourself
02:47now there's a lot of people who don't even control their own lives they live and thrive off trying to
02:52control other people very judgmental towards other people but they're not even doing anything you know
02:58it's like the people that's you know in the stands just uh a guy you know a guy that bought
03:04uh 50 ticket he's way in the stands you know what i mean trying to tell lebron what to do
03:08you know
03:09what i mean so a lot of people in life man i i also had a interview with a uh
03:14with a uh what was his
03:16name uh tucker carlson tucker carlson so tucker carlson is a political guy so i had an interview uh with
03:24his team and i went down there and they were basically telling me some mistakes he made and it was
03:30basically asking me they was asking me like okay how do you turn this into a positive
03:33how how does this happen but you know the thing that really caught my eyes that they were aware
03:39they were aware of the problem they were aware of things and places where he had messed up and they
03:45were looking for solutions they wasn't just stuck on the problem so you cannot change what you're not
03:49aware of become aware of things and uh start to change it but many of my habits and my reactions
03:56many of my actions and reactions and this decisions sorry about that guys operate on autopilot
04:03until i take time to examine them you're always going to act a certain type of way you're always
04:08have you ever heard someone say have you ever i've ever heard someone say that's just how i am
04:13yeah yeah you're right that is how you are that's just how i am i'm not gonna let nothing change
04:19me
04:19and this now okay that's different yeah that's how you are and that's how you're always going to be
04:24until you examine yourself and really feel understand what's hurting you and what's not hurting
04:29now if you want to stay a victim you stay a victim no this is not for you turn to
04:33another channel go
04:34somewhere else i'm gonna keep it real with you
04:39many of my own habits and reactions they they were the same you always get the same person
04:44until i started to see patterns man i ever seen a pattern uh once you make so much money
04:51something happens once you get so many contracts something happens that means that there's a person
04:58or a spirit or something monitoring you trying to sabotage you because they just you know people
05:04people hate people people people understand who you are people can understand if you're going to be
05:09successful people can understand that you operate different man this is not this is just people
05:14people also make a conscious decision to go out of their way to leave their family leave their
05:20attention from providing for their family leave their attention from taking care of their own business
05:25you know you have you can have people get up getting groups each person needs to go you know some
05:32people forget to even fill the the gas tank you know i mean they're worried about what you some
05:36people forget you know some women forget to make breakfast for their own husband they're worried about
05:40you so it doesn't it doesn't matter you know what i mean what other people do but all these habits
05:45these reactions and things like that they will stay on autopilot unless you uh start to become aware
05:51and start to move through those things so self-awareness will help you to identify what's helping you grow
05:57and what's holding you back and a lot of times i feel like man and and this is what i
06:00was talking
06:01about being self-aware even if you're self-aware of something happening to you and it's another person
06:05you can still sabotage yourself by being stuck on what someone else is doing
06:10that's a lot of times i tell somebody you know why why are you worried about me and stuff like
06:14but i'm i'm that's keeping me stuck you know what i mean it's like they saying you know what i
06:18mean
06:18don't focus on yourself i'm gonna keep doing stuff to you so you can focus on me and that's stopping
06:22me from doing what i need to do so the same thing that i'm telling that i i hate is
06:27the same thing that
06:27i'm doing you know what i mean you i'm worrying about myself you start meddling with me to get my
06:34attention off myself and what i'm building to put it on you because you want some attention you i guess
06:38you've never been loved so you're just like hey look at me look what i'm doing i'm not touching you
06:43i'm not touching just doing a little weird stuff so you say okay i guess you never got any attention
06:48let me give you some attention but it becomes irritating to the point that starts to you know
06:52it's a distraction just one big distraction but i cannot take all my time and energy and focus towards
06:57talking about what someone else is doing i need to start to find solutions immediately and see what i
07:01need to do i'm still going to stand my ground and stay where i am but
07:05a lot of times you will become the thing that you despise if you do not understand the uh the
07:12the cycles of it the repetitions and become aware of how you can create a solution to move forward
07:18and understand that so you can pass that test you know some people just going to do things just
07:22just because they want to uh not discourage you but uh distract you you know they know you're building
07:28some they know you're minding your business so people do those things so you have to worry about
07:31what you need to do but the moment you become aware of a pattern is the moment that you gain
07:37power to change it so if you don't become aware of what's going on you're going to always go through
07:41the same thing you know what i mean uh it's easy it's easy to be manipulated if you're going through
07:47life every day you know you can easily be manipulated because you have no restraint you have
07:51no direction you have no discipline towards trying to achieve anything so you know uh when i was when i
07:58was
07:59younger uh anybody came up with a suggestion i was with it because i had nothing to do
08:03man you want to go let's go over this person's house and let's go uh over here and smoke let's
08:08go
08:08do this and man you want you want to run to you know uh uh coney island you want to
08:12run to you know
08:13just all you know you know why i did it you know why i can get up and move around
08:17and do whatever i
08:18wanted to do now i stay in new york city now but i'm saying this as in the reference so
08:22you know you
08:22know why i did that because i didn't have any i didn't have anything i wanted to do you know
08:26i was just i
08:27was just down i had too much time on my hand but when you start to uh build things we
08:33start to build
08:33things and start to create goals that you need to achieve for yourself not for anyone else not for
08:38competition not to try to you know shit on anyone else but to make sure that you accomplish when you
08:44everything that you do you make sure that you do it to the point that when you on your death
08:48bed
08:49when you on your death bed that is guaranteed everybody's gonna die i don't care when you're on
08:53death bed don't sit on your death bed with all these type of regrets and i wanted to do this
08:57there's a lot of things my dad told me that uh he was like man he used to always tell
09:03me these stories
09:04but he was like man i could shoot a roast roast in the dark at 100 yards and which he
09:08which he could
09:08he could tell you man he was a bad he was a bad man you tell me man you know
09:11uh man just all kind of
09:13stories he used to tell me that end up being true you know it was it was a um
09:19it's a movie called big fish and this movie called big fish is about this father that told
09:24his son all these stories told his son all these stories and nobody he didn't even believe him he
09:31would believe he didn't believe him because the stories were so like extraordinary so this movie
09:35called big fish is about this father telling his son all these extraordinary stories and they didn't
09:41his son was like got at the end of his life when his dad was about to die his son
09:44was like man he
09:45didn't believe those stories got to the point he's like okay i'm adult but they ended up being true
09:51so y'all gonna watch that it's called big fish but that's kind of like what i'm what i'm talking
09:54about talk point number two is uh if you're just not tuning in this is the morning roasted podcast
09:59uh this is the place we make your mornings matter the most main catchers here every morning coming
10:03live from new york city at 6 a.m eastern standard time uh today's episode is called
10:12excuse uh today's episode is self awareness creates transformation self awareness creates
10:21transformation i'm going to give you three talk points i already gave you one talk point it is
10:27you cannot change what you are not aware of but just kind of discuss when you are aware of something
10:32uh then it helps to give you the power to change it so if you if you missed that just
10:37go go back
10:37we're just now tuning in uh uh we can move forward with talk point number two with us okay
10:45one second here okay talk point number two i learned to observe myself without judgment
10:50okay so i realized that growth requires honesty but it doesn't require self-condemnation and you
10:56need to understand that as well okay yeah you can make a lot of mistakes i understand people make
11:00mistakes you can make a lot of mistakes without beating yourself down that humility humility people
11:05confuse confidence with pride and they confuse condemnation with humility it's backwards i gotta
11:14oh i gotta i gotta not love myself and that makes me humble i gotta walk around uh like a
11:20uh like a
11:21bum and like i don't care about myself and that's the definition of humility who who who came up with
11:27that who came up with if i love myself and i'm confident in my abilities and i walk around with
11:32confidence oh now i'm prideful but if i walk around i don't believe in myself i don't love
11:38myself i don't have any goals that's being humble where did that come from that is that is not uh
11:44uh
11:46uh self-condemnation and walking around full of shame and full of guilt it is not humility that is
11:53something that is something that was manipulated this is something that people manipulated i bet it came
11:58from religion too i bet somebody in a place of religion manipulated the masses into thinking
12:05that if you feel shameful and bad real bad and carry that that causes you to be humble that's
12:13manipulation somebody manipulated everybody to make people think that if you are you if you are
12:19not walking around shameful condemned over things that you've done and that's why a lot of and that's
12:24why a lot of people are are the way they are now they feel you know what i'm saying they
12:29feel like
12:29sure i'm never going to be good enough you know i don't give it i don't give a dang you
12:33know this
12:33person treated me better people turn like that because it all probably started with some type of
12:37religion some person in power in the religion told everybody you know if you don't feel bad and feel
12:44shameful then you're not humble while he probably didn't feel any of that he manipulated
12:49everybody else just to have uh control over him and he's probably the most shameful person that was
12:55out there but i realized that man growth requires honesty but it doesn't require self-condemnation you
13:03do not need to be walking around broke down like life is a piece of trash and like you're never
13:07going
13:08to make it and things are you don't need to walk around like that that lowers your frequency so much
13:12to the point where you would man i'm telling you hate to get in get in that uh uh stay
13:19stuck
13:20uh man i always heard this too man it's a verse in the bible say all all i walk through
13:25the valley
13:25of shadow of death i will fear no evil but it doesn't say that i i i camped out in
13:31the valley
13:31of shadow of death that means that man you got to keep moving and keep moving going through things
13:35and you will come out on the other side that doesn't mean that you go through one bad situation you
13:40say well it's time to set up shop here you're just gonna stay there the rest of your life being
13:44bitter you're gonna stay there the rest of your life feeling guilty and condemned and i've never
13:47done it you know y'all let let it turn you against everyone else man so you have to learn
13:53to observe
13:54and examine yourself without being so hard on yourself and uh without judgment so instead of
14:01criticizing myself of every mistake i made i try to learn from uh what i observe and i also just
14:07be
14:07real with myself man some things that i do and i and i it may not be right man at
14:12that moment but
14:12you know what i'll be honest with myself you say you know why i did it because i felt like
14:16doing it
14:16you know what i'm saying i asked god to forgive me for that rather exactly rather that's good you know
14:21i hate to say it like that cussing somebody out rather that's uh you know not doing anything you know
14:25illegal but rather that's knowing i have a meeting the next the next morning i i made drink or you
14:32know
14:32what i'm saying i'm like man i know that i i but i still get up and i still take
14:36care of business i still
14:36do what i need to do and i take days off when i need to have those days off but
14:40if it was up to
14:40me i work work work work so sometimes i have to take those days off but you know i'm just
14:46being
14:46honest you have to be authentic and real with yourself there's no if you don't if you're gonna
14:51if you're gonna play anybody in the world don't play you can't play god but don't play yourself
14:57don't trick and manipulate yourself to make you think something is right when it's not right
15:01you will feel more free and more okay with what you're doing if you understand yeah i'm the type
15:06of person saying you know what i know this i know this is wrong but i can accept and i
15:10can accept what
15:11come with it i know so you know what i'm saying that's just how i am really i'm not saying
15:17i'm doing
15:17wrong but you have to get to that point that when you choose to do whatever you choose to do
15:22you have
15:22to understand what's right and what's wrong you do not get to the point where you start to manipulate
15:27yourself into disliking a person manipulate yourself and coming up with some false evidence
15:33within yourself to to uh uh to justify the crap you anything that you're doing i'm not going to
15:40justify missing out on a hundred thousand dollar deal because i said oh i didn't like the guy's hair
15:45no maybe i was scared i was scared to take that leap i was scared to move forward some people
15:50are
15:50scared of failure but some people are scared of success i'm not saying i ever done this but what i
15:54am
15:54saying you have to be real with yourself and just say you know what i'm gonna do it anyway i'm
15:58gonna
15:58do it scared i'm gonna i'm gonna do it so you have to be real with yourself to the point
16:02but do not
16:03ever if you're gonna keep it real with anybody keep it real with yourself i mean i met this one
16:08uh
16:08i met this one girl man i used to be with she and she said that you know i'm toxic
16:13i'm like
16:14like what do you mean by that she's like she intentionally acts delusional in order to like keep
16:19drum up do something act delusional gaslighting stuff like that that just gave her excitement but
16:24you know what i respected about her you i respected that she kept it real she kept it real i
16:29could deal
16:30with somebody like that because no i wouldn't want to it's just too too much it's too draining but you
16:36know what i mean to deal with someone you don't know if they're telling the truth or not you don't
16:38know what they're so it's too draining but one thing i can respect i can respect her more than i
16:43can
16:43respect a lot of people for the simple fact that she said you know what i'm just keeping real with
16:47you
16:47i like to play delusional not not play delusional as in you know i'm gonna go go out for my
16:54dreams i'm
16:54gonna be delusional i don't care what no one says not in a positive way but in a toxic way
16:59but i could
16:59respect that for the simple fact that she told me you know what you might i might do something and
17:04then you might do it it might frustrate you and whatever i might play delusional you know i mean
17:07just to get your rag just that's that was exciting but at least at least at least she was real
17:13enough
17:13to tell him so uh it gave me that option if i want to deal with it or not not
17:17waste five years
17:18of my life or three years or two years it really wouldn't take me that long but i'm saying but
17:23learn how to observe yourself but keep it real with yourself awareness is isn't about proving that you
17:29are a flawed person everybody is flawed i don't care who you is you can shake hands it was men
17:34men that
17:35shook hands with the lord jesus christ and and and and still kill people you know what i'm saying it
17:40was
17:40it was it was men that walk walk with jesus and still betrayed him for some money he's like i
17:46don't
17:46care i don't care how many miracles you're doing like i'm i'm trying to get this money you know i
17:51mean betrayed him you know what i'm saying so don't everybody is flawed it was people that seen miracles
17:56it was people that seen the dead raised it was a man walking with the lord jesus christ and still
18:01say you know i gotta get the bag so it didn't say sorry or nothing didn't say sorry until after
18:06they
18:07took him but you know i mean seen all the miracles heard all the sermons seen seen people raised from
18:14dead seen them walk on water still say i want i need that bag so that lets you know that
18:19it don't
18:19matter how good you are to people what you do to people or how many miracles you perform or how
18:24many
18:24families you help get out of that you still have to prepare yourself for betrayal but the thing is
18:28this it's it's uh uh awareness being aware of yourself now we're talking about not being aware of
18:35what other people do to you but being aware of yourself and the mistakes that you make so you
18:39can be ordered in order to grow this is the biggest thing that's going to stop you from growing you
18:43worrying about what your brother is doing you worrying about what your sister is doing you know
18:47what i'm saying man i had a brother man i hate to put it out there but i had a
18:50brother man i love so
18:51much but then come to find out the whole time he's in competition with me how are you in competition
18:56with me and we're trying to build together i'm thinking the whole i'm thinking the whole time i'm coming
19:01i'm bringing forth my best value i'm like okay when the other day you know what i'm saying while
19:06you was at work all right i learned how to put together the business plan i understand i found
19:10four properties that we can pick from that we can uh go ahead and we can put the restaurant here
19:15he had
19:15a restaurant he had the dream but i was the one you know what i mean that was basically the
19:19business
19:20manager and helping them to fulfill that vision then it comes it comes to find out that the whole time
19:24where i'm i'm in the background learning and learning how to build and structure the company
19:29for him to bring his dream to life and i'm just going on a portion of it he's he's in
19:34competition
19:35with me and feel like i'm thinking man this is so weird man and i'm thinking the whole time like
19:40man we we about to we ain't never gonna have to work for nobody man we're gonna get it out
19:44the
19:44mud we might turn into a franchise the whole time he's mad that i know what i'm talking about just
19:49because he's older than me and it causes it caused a division where now nobody not know it
19:56where it was sure i'm not i'm good but you know what i mean where he just closed the gate
20:00on him
20:01having financial freedom where he'll never have to work for somebody else now he's still working for
20:05somebody else a couple years later he could have been four or five different stores by now but you
20:11know what i'm saying but i didn't understand that so but you have to be aware uh and understand that
20:16everybody's flawed you yourself is flawed but it's about discovering what you can approve but uh
20:22also when i observe myself uh with curiosity instead of judgment transformation is easier
20:28so you know i mean when you observe yourself man just think of man be curious about what's going on
20:33with yourself man you cannot walk through life unconsciously you know how you know how you know
20:39what makes people unconscious when they gaslight themselves that's a dangerous person that's a
20:44dangerous person when somebody knows knows the truth and that not that they tell somebody else
20:49that it's uh something different when you know the truth and you lying to yourself that's a whole
20:54different type of man let me tell you something man i would rather somebody lie to me and keep it
21:02real
21:02with themselves then then a lot of me and lie to themselves about what they lying to me about
21:09man i've always heard this growing up some people will lie so much that they'll start to believe it
21:13you know and that's a dangerous place to be man that's that's like snake is energy you do not want
21:18nobody around you that don't know how to keep it real at least with themselves you know what i'm
21:23saying if you can't keep it real with me at least keep it real with yourself and you say you
21:26know
21:26what yeah uh you know you might lie to me but at least keep it real with yourself say yeah
21:31you know
21:32what yeah i did that but hey that's just that's just that's what i did at least you keep it
21:36real
21:36with yourself whatever consequences whatever come with that you know what i'm saying that's just who
21:39i am and that's just what i did i gotta keep it real with myself even though i know it
21:42was
21:42foul or even though i know it was this and that so you know at least keep it real with
21:46yourself
21:46don't lie to yourself talk point number three i use self-awareness to make better choices so i've
21:53learned that the greater my awareness is it leads to better uh decisions and the same can happen for
21:58you too when i started to understand like my emotions my triggers my strengths and weaknesses
22:03i respond more intentionally now and i'm still working on that sometimes i respond intentionally
22:08but i i respond intentionally with wisdom and i try to keep it where it's a balance where it's
22:14not anger but it's coming from a coming from a place of experience and it's coming from a place
22:19of uh positivity even though people might receive it wrong but people's not gonna people are not
22:25gonna understand everything that you uh how you say things so you do have to watch who you say things
22:30but when you have a broad or wide audience uh like we do here like on this podcast man sometimes
22:36you
22:36just have to be completely authentic and whoever catches in whoever it's for that's who it's for
22:41you're not trying to uh tailor and tailor who you are and tailor your speech to everybody everything
22:47is not for everybody whoever's going to get it they'll get it and whoever doesn't they just don't
22:51they just don't get it man i don't have i don't have time to be running around switching things up
22:56and trying to make sure that this person isn't getting there they just don't get it they can go
23:00somewhere else and somebody else will be able to explain it to the degree that they'll be able to
23:05accept it but self-awareness helps me to align my actions with the person i want to become
23:10and the more aware i become the more control i have over my growth relationships and future
23:16man thank you guys for tuning in man this is self-awareness uh creates transformation this
23:20is the morning roasted podcast we'll catch you back here 6 a.m eastern standard time
23:25next saturday uh while we come live from new york city peace
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