00:00How are you guys doing out there today? Good morning New York City. This is the Morning Roasted Podcast and I'm your host Caleb Thompson and this is the place where we make your mornings matter the most.
00:11I hope everyone's having a great day out there today. I hope everyone's getting up like I always say and say programming your day as you should say, you know, programming your day.
00:22You're telling yourself, man, hey, I'm going to have a great day. Something good is going to happen to me today. You know, I'm blessed to be awake.
00:30I'm alive. You know, just those I am affirmations. I'm wealthy. I'm healthy. I'm loved. I am prosperous. I'm successful.
00:38And also putting action behind those things as well. But it all starts in your head. It all starts with how you see yourself.
00:45You can say something to yourself and say that I'm this and I'm that. But if the emotion doesn't come with that saying or say it enough times until you believe it.
00:53And there's a lot of people out there that lie so much that they will say something so much where they believe they own lies.
00:59So take the same insanity or delusion and put it towards something positive so that you can manifest positive results.
01:08So, yeah, so this episode is called decision decision making under pressure.
01:17This decision making under pressure exercise and emotional intelligence.
01:23So I'm going to give you three top points here as we usually do.
01:26I'm going to give you these three top points.
01:27And, you know, hopefully this is something that will be able to help you, especially early in the morning starting your day.
01:33It's always good to, you know, here's something positive when you first wake up in the morning.
01:40Excuse my voice.
01:41You know, we have these podcasts at 6 a.m.
01:43Sometimes I do pre-record these podcasts and sometimes I don't.
01:47So, you know, you're going to get there with real authentic just waking up on me.
01:51So, you know, excuse the voice.
01:53But I try to, you know, just tune in and focus in and hone in on the message.
01:59So, once again, this episode is called decision decision making under pressure exercise and emotional intelligence.
02:13Exercise emotional intelligence.
02:14Sorry about that.
02:15Okay.
02:15So, like I said, three top points.
02:17The first top point, learning to pause before reacting.
02:19Now, this used to be a big thing for me.
02:21Sometimes you can get so caught up in the moment of an interaction or a moment of something happening that, you know, it could throw you off guard.
02:31It could throw you off guard.
02:32It could make you want to react out of your emotions very quickly without thinking about the consequences.
02:37All you're thinking is, and sometimes these situations happen where you feel like, I'm right.
02:41You know, I'm right.
02:42They're wrong.
02:43So, you know, you want to let it be known.
02:46You want to let it be known that you're right and they're wrong.
02:49So, you'll react rather quickly.
02:53But, you know, through experience, you know, I've learned that my first reaction under pressure isn't always my best decision.
02:59So, sometimes, man, your first reaction is not your best decision.
03:02Sometimes you have to wait.
03:05You have to wait until you kind of cool down or sometimes you have to hear a whole matter before you react.
03:12Because, you know, even though you're right sometimes, sometimes just for peace sake or sometimes just for out of wisdom, you have to let someone think that they want.
03:21Okay.
03:21If you know the sky is blue and someone is coming with all this false information and talking about electrons and neutrons and how the sky is really red and you're looking at it clearly like, man, it's blue.
03:33Now, I'm not saying not everything that you see is what it is when it comes to another sense.
03:39No, but I'm just talking about if I look at a building and it has a gray brick, it's painted, bricks are painted gray.
03:45And it's obvious someone is telling me, man, no, man, that building is purple, man.
03:51You know, it's not gray, it's purple.
03:53Well, let me put a totally different color.
03:55It's not gray, it's red.
03:56And then you're looking like, man, clearly, you know, this guy is colorblind.
04:02But, you know, sometimes you have to just, for your peace sake and for your energy sake, do not spend so much time and energy trying to convince someone of something that they're not willing to accept.
04:12Sometimes you just have to know the truth for yourself and you just have to know your truth and you just have to move forward in life.
04:17You know, everyone is not going to see life through your lens and through your eyes.
04:22And not everyone is going to want to adopt the way that you feel.
04:26And one thing I've learned that a lot of people do not like the truth.
04:31When they really hear the truth and it strikes a nerve or makes them feel some type of way, you know, they will take it as if it's a racial slur.
04:42You know, the truth is like a racial slur to someone who's not willing to change.
04:45The truth is like a racial slur to someone who's not willing to level up or willing to let go of some things.
04:54You know what I mean?
04:55So, you know, we all need the truth and whether it hurts or not, we do need to be open to accepting it.
05:00A lot of times we can be open to accepting things that will hurt and harm us, but we're not open to accept things that can help us advance in life.
05:08And that's where, you know, we need to have balance.
05:10But I've trained myself to pause, to breathe and create space between emotion and action.
05:16That pause, it really gives me clarity and it keeps me from making choices I later regret.
05:21And a lot of times your choices doesn't have to be physical actions.
05:24Like, you know what I mean?
05:25Like you want to put your hands on someone.
05:27Sometimes those choices could be just saying something that's so hurtful.
05:31Sometimes you have to give people grace and mercy, man.
05:34If you're having an argument with your spouse, your business partner, you know, or someone, a family member.
05:42And sometimes you just have to be like, man, they just don't understand.
05:46You know, they just don't understand.
05:48So let me be the bigger person.
05:50Let me let them have this one just for peace sake.
05:53And then later on, I will say what I have to say, but not in a way that's condescending to them.
05:59But I had to understand that, man, I know I'm right.
06:02And I know this is this and that is that.
06:05So let's just let them have it, you know, and we can move on.
06:08But if it gets to a point where it starts to affect, take a toll or affect the relationship, someone has to stand up and correct it.
06:14And it's good to nip things in the bud as soon as they happen.
06:18But sometimes, you know, you just as long as it's not a reoccurring event, then something should have happened a long time ago.
06:26But if it's just been an argument or a misunderstanding, you know, a lot of people that has been married for years, they'll tell you that, man.
06:35Sometimes you just have to learn to forget.
06:38You know what I mean?
06:39Sometimes you just got to have amnesia.
06:41You know, if you want to stay together, everyone's going to make mistakes.
06:43You're both human and it's not worth it.
06:45And that's the same way I'm going to say in business and business.
06:49You know, you need to be compensating.
06:50You guys need to make decisions because your family's livelihood is on the line.
06:55Not saying that's not the same thing with marriage.
06:57You have to treat business like a marriage.
06:58But I'm just saying, man, sometimes you have to give grace.
07:01Sometimes you just have to let people have it.
07:03Sometimes there has to be some compromise there.
07:05You can compromise in your decision without compromising in your morals.
07:09You know, basically saying that, you know, I'll go this far, but I'm not going further than this.
07:14You know what I mean?
07:14But if you want to do that, that's going to be that's going to be you.
07:17I'm not going to take any parts of it, but that's your decision.
07:20Do what you want to do.
07:21So but number two, understanding my emotional triggers.
07:26This is another big one right here.
07:27Understanding my emotional triggers.
07:29See, somebody could and I've kind of been to the point where I've been hurt so bad and so much that to the point that, you know, kind of built a steel wall around me where somebody could call me something, say something.
07:40It really doesn't bother me.
07:41You know why it doesn't bother me?
07:43Because I've already went through that pain of feeling how that feels for someone to be called that or someone to be looked at as that.
07:51And even unjustly, you know, even a lot of unjust cases and lies, you know, that I've been through that it's not not me.
08:01Anyone that really got to know me.
08:02A lot of times, man, when you when you are with someone or you have a relationship and someone doesn't feel like they got what they wanted out of you, they didn't get the money they wanted.
08:13They didn't get to use you the way that they wanted.
08:15They didn't get certain things from you.
08:16And then, you know what they'll do, they'll deal before and you just say someone has a mask and you reveal who you know, who they are.
08:24And not saying you're going to tell anyone they will hurry.
08:26They were like hurry before you and try to tell all your friends, try to tell all your family that you are who they are so they can try to flip the script on you.
08:36You know what I'm saying?
08:37So, you know, sometimes, man, when people don't get to use you the way that they want to use you and people can't control you the way that they want to control you.
08:43They'll come with all these false narratives to try to destroy.
08:46If they can't destroy you physically, you know, they don't think you don't think that someone who is jealous of you or someone that wants to use you, but they can't use you the way that they want to use you.
08:55They'll try to kill you.
08:56You know what I mean?
08:57I hate to say it like that, you know, but they will when they know that they can't kill you.
09:01They'll at least try to kill your character and kill your name.
09:04They will try to get ahead of the curve and start to spread all these lies and false narratives about you.
09:09Because if I can't harm this person, then I can at least kill their name, kill their character, let people think that there's somebody that they're not.
09:17And then that way that will cause rejection and that would, you know, close doors in their face and stuff like that.
09:22So but eventually the truth does come out.
09:25So, you know, don't worry about that.
09:26But you have to understand your emotional triggers, man.
09:29What really gets you mad, man?
09:30What really takes you off?
09:31Sometimes you need to stay away from some of these situations and these people and these places.
09:36If you every time you go to a place, it triggers something in your triggers anger.
09:41Every time you talk to a person and you know that this person is triggering, you know what I mean?
09:46You know that just because of their personality or their character, you're going to be triggered by them or just because of their stupidity.
09:53You know, you know, every time that you're around this person, you're trying to go right and they're trying to pull you left.
09:57What you need to do is you need to separate yourself.
09:59What you need to do is you need to separate yourself.
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