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00:00How's everyone doing? Welcome back to the Morning Roasted Podcast. This is your host Caleb Thompson and we're coming live
00:06from New York City as we always do.
00:09Like I always say, man, it's early here in the morning. Sometimes I like to record these the day before,
00:15but you know, these are early morning podcasts and you're going to get the raw, authentic and waking up, grinding,
00:21hustling me.
00:22So I hope everyone's having a great morning out there. I hope you're waking up saying those affirmations. I like
00:27to stick to those. I am affirmations.
00:30No, I am. I'm strong. I'm wealthy. I'm loved. I'm, you know, powerful. I am a genius. You know what
00:39I mean? I am unstoppable. I am undeniable.
00:42So, you know, you pick your own affirmations that you will speak that pertains to your life, how you feel
00:50about yourself or how you want to view yourself.
00:53So you pick whatever you would like to pick. And man, this episode, man, is a part of our grief
01:00therapy series.
01:05This is a part of our grief therapy series. So, you know, we had another episode that was before this.
01:12This is going to be a three part series of grief therapy.
01:16And one reason why I wanted to create this series is because, man, there is a lot of people that's
01:21going through grief that really don't know how to go go through it in a healthy manner.
01:27And you can never tell someone how to go through a certain type of grief.
01:32You can never tell someone when is the best time to heal and and the duration of that time or
01:39when went.
01:39OK, now you've been in this state for three months. OK, it's time to come out of it.
01:43Now, I do encourage you to work towards one way to heal that, you know, that you will heal from
01:51grief while going through is to embrace what has already happened.
01:57So, sorry, guys, Mazzaro, man, I had to drink a little bit of coffee.
02:04So you you have to embrace what has already taken place that is going to help you through grief.
02:11So if it's hard for you to get through grief, if it's hard for you to get through something that
02:15is really plaguing your mind, your heart, plaguing your spirit, you really don't know how to how to transition from
02:21just maybe living a happy life, maybe chasing after your dreams.
02:25And then, boom, you just get hit with this this arrow of grief due to something traumatic happening in your
02:32life that was unexpected.
02:33And then now you're looking to jump back on the horse.
02:35But there is a process that you have to go through to make sure that you you go that you
02:42go throughout the emotional process or that you really learn how to regulate the emotions that comes with going through
02:53such a high caliber of grief due to a situation.
02:57Maybe it's with a loved one or maybe it's with someone that that was close to you, maybe a child.
03:03You know, so we this like I said, this is we have a three part series.
03:09The first episode of this three part series was you don't have to have it all together.
03:15And that is what we went through last week.
03:17You guys can go back and listen to that.
03:19And a couple of those points from last week's episode was, you know, that I give myself permission to fall
03:26apart.
03:27Sometimes I release the pressure to be strong for everyone else.
03:31Sometimes you just need to break away and do what you need to do and heal properly on your own,
03:37not try to bear the weight or wear that mask for everyone else, which there is a time and a
03:42place.
03:42You can wear the mask for everyone else in public.
03:45But when you get to yourself, when you break down, you have to do it in a healthy manner.
03:50That way that you can regulate those emotions properly and in a healthy manner.
03:55Now, I always say that because it is very important and vital piece of information that you do it in
04:01a healthy way.
04:03And we have another we had another point was I embrace healing as a process, not as a destination.
04:09So you have to accept that some days will feel like progress and others will feel like setback.
04:15So that's something that I wanted to share with you guys.
04:17This is part two.
04:19This is called detachment as a manifestation tool.
04:22Sometimes we don't know how to manifest healing or how to go through not going through the healing process, but
04:30how to fully manifest that energy of healing to be fully healed and whole from the situation.
04:37And I'm going to tell you something detachment, not complete detachment from the situation or acting acting as if it
04:46never happened.
04:47That's not what we're saying.
04:48We're understanding that it happened, but we are detaching ourselves from the responsibility of from that.
04:54The turmoil and the trauma of whatever happened to us.
04:58So so detachment as a manifestation tool.
05:02This is our newest episode.
05:04That's what we're going over today.
05:05I'm going to give you three points as I usually do.
05:08And with a proper introduction, this is the morning roasted podcast.
05:11This is a place where we make your mornings matter to the most.
05:14This episode is called detachment as a manifestation tool.
05:18And we're coming live from New York City.
05:23And and this is part of our grief, grief therapy series.
05:27And this is part two.
05:29OK, so number one, this is our first talk point here that we're going to give me myself.
05:34I understand that detachment is not indifference.
05:37So I'm going to tell you something.
05:38One thing that I used to think is detachment really meant like I didn't care.
05:43No, I really thought detachment means like, OK, man, forget everyone.
05:47Forget everything that's going on.
05:48I just don't care about it.
05:50But that is not true healing.
05:51People can go from one relationship to another relationship without really fully fully healing
05:56from whatever they've been through or whatever happened to them in the past.
06:00Just due to wanting to move on just because you detach from one person or from one situation,
06:06you will still carry the burden, that unhealed trauma, the unhealed burden into another situation.
06:12It's just like this.
06:13I can say, man, I need to get out of this neighborhood.
06:15I need to get out of this neighborhood.
06:17I can't grow in this neighborhood.
06:18But if I go to another neighborhood and I take the same me to a different neighborhood,
06:23I'm going to get the same results.
06:25Not saying that your environment doesn't play a part in trying to hold you back or trying
06:30to stagnate you in certain areas of your life.
06:32I'm not saying that because there are certain cultures and traditions in those certain areas
06:36and neighborhoods that have been there for generations that you can move from one place
06:41to another place thinking that you want to move forward in life and those same chains that hold
06:46those people down in that neighborhood would try to attach themselves to you.
06:50So I'm not saying that.
06:52But if you start to develop who you are as a person, there is no way that those old generational
06:57chains
06:58of that neighborhood could capture who you are or who you are becoming because you have detached
07:04yourself from identifying with those certain chains.
07:09So, you know, I used to think that detachment meant that I didn't care.
07:12Now, I know that it means I care without clinging.
07:16You know, I know that detachment means, man, I care, but I do not care enough to cling on
07:22to something that's killing me or that's draining my energy.
07:26And I'm sacrificing who I am, where I want to go, what I want to be.
07:30I want to be healed.
07:31I want to be free from this situation.
07:33So you can care about someone, a place, person or things so much that it will keep you from
07:39growing to the point where it starts to drain your hope, drain your energy, drain your dreams.
07:44Don't you know that there is couples out there that the couples want to grow, but you know
07:50why they can't grow?
07:51Because the woman, she loves her mother so much that the mother is silently sabotaging the
07:57relationship and silently sabotaging and manipulating the daughter from living a healthy
08:03relationship with her partner.
08:04But for the simple fact that her mother is still toxic and doesn't want to grow, grow.
08:10She wants to manipulate, manipulate the man that she has to do whatever she wants to do.
08:14She don't want her daughter to have a prosperous relationship.
08:18So she and then she will guilt trip that daughter or that son into manipulation and control by the
08:28manipulation of the emotion.
08:29So I want you to understand something that just use detachment.
08:34Detachment doesn't mean that you don't care about your parents.
08:36It doesn't mean that you don't care about your brother, your sister.
08:39But what it does mean is that I can care for you at a distance.
08:43I can care for you so much that I can care.
08:45I care about you, but I care about myself enough that while I'm trying to love you or why I
08:51care
08:51about you, I don't care about you more than myself where I'm sacrificing myself,
08:55my relationship, my children, my future for how you're trying to guilt trip me and make
09:01me feel.
09:02You want to guilt trip me to hold me back.
09:05So and that's a form of control.
09:07So, you know, a lot of people don't see that.
09:09People say, man, once you know, that's still your sister, that's still your brother, that's
09:13still this person.
09:14That's still.
09:14Yeah, that's that's who they are.
09:16But you don't have to let those people control you.
09:18So, man, like I said, man, you have to understand the detachment is not indifference.
09:23You know, I mean, that doesn't mean that you that you are not blood or anything like that.
09:27But a lot of people use those situations to keep their family members stuck.
09:30They use those situations to keep their children stuck.
09:33So you have to really be able to discern if someone is really for you, if they're using
09:38the love word or certain things to enable to keep you trapped.
09:43But I allow myself to feel deeply without letting those feelings control my my future.
09:49So, you know, this is like I said, detachment is not indifference.
09:53Once again, this is part of our grief therapy sessions on whatever you've went through in
09:56life, dealing with family.
09:57Maybe it's a narcissistic parent.
09:59Maybe it's the death of a child.
10:01So this is all a part of our grief therapy session.
10:04Maybe it's a bad breakup, a marriage, a divorce, a bad divorce or whatever.
10:09So I want you to know something.
10:11Listen, you have to allow yourself to feel deeply and emotionally about something without
10:16letting those feelings control your future.
10:19Yeah, you can really hate that you went through that divorce and that divorce is still you like,
10:23man, what could I have done better as a husband?
10:25What could I have done better as a wife?
10:27But you are not letting those those feelings control the outlook of your future partner.
10:32You're not saying that, man.
10:33And, you know, I don't because I went through so much trauma, turmoil, lying, cheating with
10:38this last marriage that I don't even ever want to get married again.
10:41You cannot let that control your outlook of your future and what you want to do with your
10:46life.
10:46You have to accept it and embrace it and just say, man, I chose the wrong person.
10:50Or maybe I did change.
10:51I did choose the right person.
10:53But along the way and along the journey, they fell off the horse and they just didn't want
10:57to get back on.
10:58You have to understand that people are human beings and things are going to happen.
11:01That's not really easy for everyone to understand.
11:04But I want you to understand something that your life is in the next 80 years.
11:09Nobody that's on this earth will be be alive.
11:11So don't live your life in bitterness and anger and jealousy and hurt and trauma.
11:16And I'm not telling you when to heal or how to heal.
11:18But what I am saying is that, you know, live again, man.
11:22I'm just trying to tell you, man, is life is worth living and try to live again.
11:30OK, so I remind myself also that loving something doesn't mean that I have to hold on to it tightly.
11:37And this is something and if you're just not tuning in, we're talking about detachment.
11:42We're talking about detachment as a manifestation tool.
11:46And I was always taught this in business.
11:47You cannot move forward to the next until you detach from the from kindergarten.
11:52You cannot go to the first grade.
11:54You cannot go to the first grade still holding on to kindergarten principles.
11:58So what that mean is you have to already you are taking tests in kindergarten with the hopes
12:04of moving up to the next grade.
12:06You don't want to get held back.
12:07You want to go to the next grade with your friends.
12:09You want to go to the next grade.
12:10So what I'm saying is this.
12:12I'm using that analogy as in in life, in life.
12:18I think I really don't think anyone really hits high school in life.
12:21Our life is so short.
12:22There's so many things that we have to go through and there's so many things that we really have
12:26to learn over and over and over again.
12:28You can learn something at 20 years old.
12:31You can master it.
12:32And then that the universe or God was God will send that same test back around at 42 years
12:40old.
12:40You can fail it.
12:41You know what I mean?
12:42Because a lot of us, man, we went through school and we passed all these tests and all
12:46these things.
12:47Just we learned enough just to pass the test to pass the grade.
12:50But if I ask you, you know what I mean?
12:53What does pi equal?
12:54Some people can't even answer that.
12:56No, it's 3.14.
12:57A lot of people can.
12:58Pi equals 3.14.
12:59But a lot of people cannot answer that because they learned that equation just to pass the
13:03test.
13:04And then now that they're out of school, now that they're moving on with their life, now
13:07that they've had children, they're not looking to use those those type of mathematics
13:11anymore.
13:12So so you will go through the same test over and over, over and over and over again.
13:18So that's something that you really need to understand.
13:22But OK, so just just keep those keep those things in mind.
13:30OK, so we're going to go to number two.
13:33Number two, I released the need to control outcomes.
13:37So one thing myself personally, I like to use myself in a lot of these situations because
13:43I don't want people to think that they're alone.
13:45If the host of the of the podcast uses his self in a lot of these situations, you can
13:49really understand that I can identify with the situations and I can really identify with
13:53what you're going through because I've been through certain of these situations.
13:57So I recognize that grief intensified when I try to control how healing should look.
14:03Some people right now, they are really blessed.
14:05Some people are some.
14:07Let me let me help you to understand something.
14:10Some people are so blessed, but they could not see it because they're looking at someone
14:15else's grass.
14:16They got their neck over the fence and trying to see how someone else is living.
14:20I'm going to tell you something.
14:22There's been many situations that I was in and people say, man, I would love to have the
14:25joy you have.
14:26I would love to have the peace you have.
14:28And then me myself, I'm looking at someone else's situation, man.
14:31I said, man, I would love to have a I would love to have a loving the loving wife,
14:36a wife that loves me like like your wife does.
14:39I would love to have children.
14:41You have a house.
14:42You have a wife.
14:44You have a family.
14:45You know what I mean?
14:46You look, you know, the things the things that you want from me is the things that,
14:50you know me, I want to have from you.
14:52I want to I would I would I would rather I would rather leave everything, come home to
14:57a family and help my children with their homework and live a simple life.
15:01And you would rather want to be a millionaire, work worker, work in Wall Street and have
15:08this lavish life.
15:08But I want your life and you want my life.
15:10But it's just that, man, that's what God chose for me to do.
15:13And that's what God chose for you to do.
15:15You know what I'm saying?
15:16But I would really live.
15:17I would really my heart's desire is to live a simple life.
15:20I would rather have two kids, a beautiful wife.
15:23We may own a company together.
15:25And I would rather work and come home and help my kids with the homework and teach them
15:29about stoic principles on how to be a man and you know what I mean?
15:33And how to provide for the family, how to love, love the individuals around them and
15:37not how to be played or be.
15:38I would rather live a simple life.
15:40But because of who I am, it's just inevitable for me to it's not possible for me to live
15:46like that because that's not my destiny.
15:48That's not how God created me to be.
15:50So no matter how much I want to no matter how much I want to be something else or how
15:55much
15:55I have to be who I am and I can't stop being who I am.
15:58So I want you to know something that, man, I recognize that grief will intensify when
16:03I try to control how healing should look, man.
16:06Like I said, man, some people are so blessed, but they think, man, to be blessed, you have
16:11to have all the cards.
16:12You got to have all you have you have to have everything all together, man.
16:15You can be blessed, man.
16:16There is somebody right now that wish that they had your life and they will literally kill
16:21somebody to be in your spot.
16:22You know what I mean?
16:23They will literally sacrifice some things that you're not willing to sacrifice to be in your
16:26spot.
16:27But you are naturally in places or naturally destined to be in places that people have
16:32done on man on things that would you would look at them as if they were unrecognizable
16:40to to be in places that you are naturally in just because of who you are.
16:45So, man, you really have to be careful, man.
16:46You really have to be grateful, man.
16:48You really have to be grateful for the for the grass that you have under your feet.
16:51Grief and intensifies.
16:53It's just a lot of people that want peace, but you know why they can't have peace because
16:56they're too worried about other people that they think that this person is doing better
17:01than me, this and that.
17:02So I stopped forcing timelines to just start trusting divine time.
17:06And I'm just like, man, God, whenever you want it to happen, it's just going to happen.
17:09I'm not going to try to rush anything.
17:11I'm not going to try to rush my process.
17:13I'm not going to, you know, I can get a I had got a deal with a capital company on
17:19Wall
17:20Street.
17:20They tried to pull out of the deal.
17:22You know what I mean?
17:22We end up still moving forward.
17:24But at the same time, it was just like that that that little spot right there of unknowing,
17:31just unknowing what was going to happen.
17:34You know what I mean?
17:35I just said, man, you know what, man?
17:36I just trust divine time.
17:37And if it's not meant it's just not meant, man.
17:39So I detach myself from desperation and I just choose alignment instead.
17:44You know, I just detach myself from being desperate.
17:46I'm not desperate about anything.
17:48Whatever happened, it's going to happen.
17:49If it's meant to happen, it's going to happen.
17:51And if it passes me by and it's really supposed to be a part of my life, it will circle
17:55back
17:55around and give me another shot at.
17:58So I do understand the manifestation flows better when I'm at peace and I'm not panicked.
18:03So a lot of things flow better, man.
18:04Your energy flows better when you're not panicked.
18:07Your energy flows better.
18:08Life flows better.
18:09Things happen better when you're not panicked, when you're at peace and you just let things
18:13flow.
18:14If you're just not tuning in, this is the Morning Roasted Podcast.
18:17This is the place we make your mornings matter the most.
18:20We're coming live from New York City.
18:21This is part two of our grief therapy sessions.
18:25Number one is that our part one to the series is called You Don't Have to Have It All Together.
18:30This is part two and it's called Detachment as a Manifestation Tool.
18:34So we went over three points.
18:38Point number one was I understand that detachment is not indifference.
18:43Number two is I release the need to control outcomes.
18:46And our third point here is I create space for what is meant for me.
18:50So this is something that you have to do.
18:52You have to clear the emotional clutter by letting go of what no longer serves your growth.
18:57And this really is this is the hardest thing to do.
19:00Let me tell you something.
19:01This is the hardest thing to do is start to let go of things that do not serve your growth.
19:06You want to hold on to something, especially when you have developed a relationship.
19:09You have developed soul ties or you have developed, let's say, camaraderie with some people or what is it called?
19:19Seniority.
19:20Seniority with a company.
19:22You know, you have been at that company for so long.
19:24You know what I mean?
19:24And it's hard for you to let go of things do not serve your growth.
19:28I'm going to tell you a lot of things that were forced upon me really made me grow.
19:32I was forced to leave a job because someone was jealous of me.
19:37They were jealous of me.
19:38They were in a higher position.
19:39They lied on me.
19:40They got me fired from a job that I really, truly loved.
19:42And I felt I had a purpose there.
19:44And then, you know, I ended up getting a relationship.
19:47Some of the similar things happened.
19:49So but all of these things pushed me towards who I am now.
19:53If I would have never left that job, I would have never known.
19:56I would have never known about marketing and sales.
19:58I would have never really looked into creating an LLC.
20:01My first LLC was Thompson Square Garden's restaurant company.
20:04So and I'm going to help you to understand this with grief.
20:06If you say, how does this tie to grief?
20:08I want you to understand that everything things are not falling apart all the time.
20:13Some things when you think things are falling apart, they're actually falling in place.
20:17And this is if you have that right heart posture towards where you were your head.
20:21Now, if you're thinking that, OK, this is falling apart for me.
20:25You know, and don't get me wrong.
20:26There's going to be sometimes where you do receive karma or you do receive you do receive that energy back
20:34from what you have put out into the universe.
20:37But once you have once you have went through the process of making it through those bad decisions, you've made.
20:44So once you made it through that process, because there is a process of cleansing before, you know, before you
20:51can be before you can obtain a certain level of something, you have to go through a process of cleansing.
20:58And that means that everything bad energy that you put out there into the universe, you have to receive it
21:02back.
21:03But while you're going through it, God will give you the strength to overcome it, knowing that your heart is
21:09set towards one to do better.
21:11So but if your heart is not set towards, you know what I mean, really wanting to overcome these things
21:16and want to really want to do better and to become stronger and become energetically aligned with your destiny or
21:22why you're here on this earth.
21:23And then, you know, you will probably have some trouble and you will have some some loops, you know, some
21:27energetic loops that are ingrained inside of your spirit to keep you going around the same circle.
21:32So there is a difference between that.
21:34But one thing I do like to do, I like to separate my identity from what I lost.
21:38So every time that you lose some, I'm going to tell you why I'm going to tell you why a
21:43lot of people that are rich kill themselves.
21:47A lot of people that are rich, they kill themselves because they have they have their identity is wrapped up
21:57in the materialistic things.
21:59If they if you are rich and you feel like my identity is tied into me being rich.
22:05So if you ever lost your money, then you will kill yourself because you are new feel like you're no
22:10longer yourself.
22:11I cannot live without the money.
22:12If you lose a if your identity is that's why there is a lot of people, man, they get into
22:17a relationship.
22:18And while they're in this relationship, they have given their spouse or they have given their their their the husband
22:23or their wife or their boyfriend, their girlfriend.
22:25They have given them so many soul pieces and they have been so faithful and being so faithful to a
22:30point that they have basically lost themselves in that other person.
22:34That means that there's a soul tie that has been initiated.
22:37Maybe it's been through sex or maybe it's been through mental entanglement, a spiritual entanglement.
22:42And then once that person leaves, that person leaves with certain aspects of that person's soul alive.
22:48Have you ever separated from somebody and you don't have peace, but that person left with your peace, that person
22:54left with your joy, you know,
22:55and now you have to go to a point where you have to develop the strength and you have to
22:59develop certain things to take that part, take that power back where you can have peace again.
23:04And it's just because it's because of this. Some people identity is wrapped up in their lover.
23:11Some people's identity is wrapped up in that Porsche. Some people's identities are wrapped up into that, you know, one
23:17to one point six million dollar deal, that 50 million dollar deal.
23:21Some people's identity is wrapped up in that company.
23:24So you have to learn how to separate your identity, who you authentically are, whether you have money or whether
23:31you don't have money,
23:32whether whether you make all the right decisions or whether you make a couple of wrong decisions.
23:38You have to understand that this is who I am. Embrace who you are and and and operate authentically and
23:45who you are so that your identity doesn't get lost in any material thing.
23:50Because if somebody can control you with something material, they can control your identity.
23:55You know, man, you know, a lot of people really do. It's a lot of people that I grew up
23:59around.
24:00They don't have stocks. They don't have bonds. They don't have land.
24:03They don't even they don't even have, let's say, a supercar, a Lamborghini.
24:09But I'm going to tell you what they dress. They they're wearing Dior. They're wearing Louis Vuitton.
24:13They're wearing they're wearing the highest fashion brands out there.
24:16So they look rich, but they're not rich. And you know why? Because their identity is attached to name brands.
24:23So if you strip them of all those name brands, their only pursuit in life is to look rich.
24:28Their pursuit in life isn't to really be rich because their identity is attached to name brand clothing to make
24:35them look rich or to make them look wealthy,
24:37to make them look like they have money. But they are not in a pursuit of really obtaining and going
24:41through the process of becoming a millionaire and obtaining the money
24:44so they can buy the clothes whenever they feel like it. Their pursuit is their identity is wrapped up in
24:50brands.
24:51So you have to separate your identity from what you lost. And this is part.
24:56Like I said, this is part of grief. Whatever you lost in life, man, you have to separate your identity.
25:00Even though you lost a child, that doesn't mean that you're not you're still a great mother.
25:03Even though that you lost that job, you're still a great father. You can still provide in other means.
25:07There's a million and one ways to still provide for your family after losing a six figure job.
25:13So your identity cannot be tied to anything on this earth. And that is how you control your consciousness.
25:20And this is how your consciousness cannot be controlled by the vices of this world.
25:24If I had a million dollars a day and I lost it all, I'm still going to be me.
25:29You know why it's going to be me? Because I am secure and solid in who I am apart from
25:33anything on this earth.
25:34Nothing on this earth can control me. Nothing on this earth.
25:37People can say, you know what I mean? I know how to get them. We can get them like this.
25:41We can tease them with this or tease them with that. OK, yeah.
25:44Some of those things, some of those things I might fall into, but it's not a part of my identity.
25:48That means if I don't have it, I'm not fiending for it. I'm not running after it.
25:52I'm not trying to hurt, harm or kill or manipulate or destroy anybody to have it.
25:57That's somebody that is controlled. Their identity is tied to certain substances and certain vices.
26:03And that's the way they can be easily controlled.
26:05So you have to make sure that you have to separate your identity from everything that's on this earth.
26:11I don't care what it is. You cannot attach your identity to anything that's on this earth.
26:17But what I do do is, man, I trust that what is aligned with me will not require me to
26:28beg, chase or shrink.
26:30Anything that is energetically aligned to where you're going, who you are in life and what is truly meant for
26:35you.
26:36It will not require for you to beg for it. If someone really loves you the way that they say
26:40that they love you, they're not going to have you begging on your knees.
26:44They're not going to have you. They're going to have you doing all the compromising and they won't do any
26:49compromising.
26:50They got every time, every time you got some something to say, they got they have something to say about
26:55it.
26:56And then you have to compromise or you have to you have to shrink your suggestions.
27:00So if you are in a relationship and you don't have a voice in that relationship, that means that that
27:04is not energetically aligned to who you believe and how you believe you should be treated.
27:09Will you have to wait for the person that you know that needs to treat you the way that you
27:13need to be treated?
27:13You may have to wait because not a lot of really a lot of good, but I'm saying sometimes you
27:19don't have to wait, but sometimes you can fix whatever situation that you are in for the simple fact.
27:24We're really understanding each other's value and really not really not becoming unaligned.
27:30You have to trust that what's for you. You won't be you won't have to be required to beg, chase
27:35up behind somebody and shrink who you are.
27:37Or how do you want to start a business? But because you're with this person, but before you even thought
27:42about starting a business, you're with the person.
27:44And then once you give them that idea of, man, maybe I should start a business.
27:48Oh, why you want to start a business? We got bills to pay. You need to keep your job and
27:51this and that.
27:52And those people are not energetically aligned with where you're trying to go in life.
27:56They may be energetically aligned with your circumstances and situations now, but they're not energetically aligned for where the universe
28:03or what where God is using.
28:05And because when people say the universe, they're basically saying the laws of the universe, the laws of the universe
28:11is what rules.
28:13Let me help you understand some. There is a guy, there is a guy.
28:17And then there's the laws of the God who created the universe.
28:19And there are laws inside of the universe, just like their laws in every state, their laws in the world.
28:25The laws of the universe are activated or they are either broken or they are abided by by a person's
28:34consciousness.
28:35And a person's consciousness is controlled by the person's heart, the heart or the way that they think or their
28:41intentions in life or who they are at the core being.
28:44And so a person's heart, the purity of a person's heart or the intentions of a person's heart is what
28:50rules their consciousness.
28:52What in the consciousness is basically help them to abide by the spiritual laws.
28:57But the spiritual laws are still going to happen regardless.
28:59What you sow is what you're going to reap.
29:01That means what you give out is what you're going to give back as above, so below everything that you
29:05do on this earth.
29:06It will be everything that it first happens in the spiritual, spiritual, and then it comes here on this earth.
29:12So it's all the same thing.
29:14So I want you to I want you to know that.
29:17But, man, separate, separate your identity from what you lost, what you went through.
29:22You don't have to beg, chase a string when something is energetically aligned to how you really feel about yourself
29:27and what you really believe that you're supposed to have in life.
29:29But one thing I also do, and this is a big one for me, and I want you to understand
29:32this before we get off of here.
29:34You know, I embrace surrender as strength, not as weakness.
29:37People think that when you surrender, people think that if you're not going tit for tat, if you're not fighting
29:42and you're not this and that, that you're weak.
29:44You know, a lot of times, man, some of some it is harder to be a good person than it
29:49is to be a bad person.
29:50You can you can you can talk crazy to me and I can do something to you and it can
29:55have a bad effect on me.
29:56But then at the same time, I'm supposed to take that as me being me being strong.
30:02No, I believe being strong is being able to be wise when you are a wise person and you're able
30:06to make wise decisions to the point where you can still get things done.
30:10You can still be there for your children.
30:11You can still keep your dignity and you still keep your pride and your boldness as a man and as
30:16a person who lives by stoicism without having to act like a three year old and act like a person
30:22that is not emotionally trained, doesn't have any emotionally intelligence.
30:27And you just ruin your life behind what a person says.
30:30That's a weak man.
30:31You that's that means you're weak when you cannot control your emotions.
30:35Every time someone says something, you want to fight, you want to cuss them out and this and that.
30:38That means that you are weak.
30:39You are not you cannot control yourself.
30:42So, you know what I mean?
30:43But you need to embrace that and surrender is a strength.
30:46You need to sometimes you need to surrender your emotions to your spirit.
30:51Your spirit is telling you, hey, this won't be a good.
30:53Your conscience is telling you this won't be a good idea.
30:55I don't care how you feel.
30:56This wouldn't be a good idea to clap back.
30:59This wouldn't be a good idea to go down that rabbit hole.
31:02This wouldn't be a good idea.
31:03So sometimes, man, you have to be strong enough to allow your conscience and your and your spirit to drive.
31:09Drop the bus.
31:10You know what I mean?
31:11So it's harder, man, to surrender.
31:14It's really harder to surrender and to do the shadow work.
31:17And a lot of people call that weakness.
31:19But it's more you're more of a weak person.
31:22If you're easily jealous of somebody, if you easily if you're easily envious of someone without no without no evidence,
31:29this person has done nothing to you and you're attacking them.
31:32That's weakness.
31:33You know what I mean?
31:34But a strong person would say, I don't give a damn what this person is doing.
31:38That has nothing to do with me paying my bills.
31:41This has nothing to do with me trying to create a better life for myself.
31:44And it really takes strength to not just go off the first whim of your emotions on what you're doing.
31:50So, you know, and that and that happens, too, with grief as well.
31:53So, man, just try to keep things together, man.
31:58Try to understand, man, that grief is a real thing.
32:00And, man, I really do understand, man, what you're going through, whatever it is.
32:04Related to, like I said, it's a bad divorce, man.
32:06It's maybe you lost a child, a parent.
32:10These things are going to happen in life.
32:11And the first thing I want you to do is understand to get comfortable being uncomfortable.
32:15Because once you get over one thing, something else is going to happen.
32:18But I do want you to understand that you don't have to have it all together.
32:21You can learn as you go, man.
32:22Today, you can feel like you're on top of the world.
32:24Tomorrow, you can feel like, man, things are not working out the way that you planned.
32:28But you have to keep going.
32:30You have to understand that things are going to be OK.
32:32And things are not going to break down unless you break down.
32:35So use detachment as a manifestation tool, man.
32:39Sometimes you have to detach from family, friends.
32:42Sometimes you have to attach from jobs.
32:44Maybe sometimes, man, you're working in a job with a horrible company culture, man.
32:47They're not paying you what you deserve.
32:48You're doing more work than a person that's in a position over you.
32:51But they don't want to give you a right.
32:53Sometimes you have to understand your value and say, man, you know, I know I have to pay bills.
32:57But, man, or maybe you need to do it strategically.
33:01Maybe you need to go, OK, I know they're not going to pay me what I'm worth.
33:04But I'm going to work here for two weeks.
33:05But while I'm going to work from from six in the morning and I get off at three o'clock
33:11and when I get off at three o'clock, I'm going to start developing my plan to break away from
33:15this job.
33:16Sometimes you don't just have to leave a job, but sometimes you need a plan instead of a plan going
33:20to another job.
33:21Sometimes you say, man, OK, I might go to another job, but I know how to be necklaces.
33:26So I'm going to start with my next check.
33:29I'm going to get a whole bunch of beads.
33:30I'm going to start getting a lot of stuff off Amazon on how to be necklaces and I'm going to
33:34learn how to build a website or get on Shopify.
33:36But I'm still going to work my other job.
33:38I'm still going to leave this job that doesn't respect me.
33:40Go to my other job and I'm going to, you know, start a side hustle.
33:44So once that side hustle starts to make more money or make half of the money that I make every
33:50two weeks here, then I'll start to go full time.
33:52But sometimes you just have to have that breakaway plan.
33:56But I'm glad you guys tuned in to our group therapy sessions.
34:00I hope I hope there was something in this that really helped you guys out.
34:04This is your host, Caleb Thompson.
34:05This is the Morning Roasted podcast.
34:07This is the place where we make your mornings matter the most coming live from New York City.
34:10This episode was called Detachment as a Manifestation Tool.
34:14And I hope you guys really enjoy this.
34:16So see you back here next Saturday, 6 a.m.
34:19East of Standard Time.
34:20Peace.
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