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Lerin Gaines

Let's Talk About The Patterns We Don't Address | DISC 6: Vitality | 411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines (Episode 22)  Featuring: Coaching Sessions Thursday, Mentorship Series  Thursday | March 26th, 2026  Streaming LIVE on all social media platforms @LERINGAINES  https://leringaines.com https://linktr.ee/leringaines https://www.facebook.com/leringaines http://instagram.com/leringaines https://www.tiktok.com/@leringaines http://twitter.com/leringaines https://www.youtube.com/@leringaines https://www.twitch.tv/leringaines https://dlive.tv/LerinGaines https://dailymotion.com/LerinGaines  Song of The Day: "Unwritten" by Natasha Bedingfield Released 2004 | Unwritten  Burning Questions for Reflections! What are you avoiding that you know requires your attention?  Share your response to tonight's Burning Questions...  Text: (609) 200-1098 | Email: Info@LerinGaines.com  DM on any social media platform @LERINGAINES (Facebook, Instagram, X, TikTok, YouTube, DLIVE, Twitch, DailyMotion)  Sign up for my FREE Monthly Newsletter 'Whispers of Wisdom' for updates, exclusives, and inspiration!  Subscribe now at LerinGaines.com  #Facebook #Instagram #TikTok #X #YouTube #DLIVE #Twitch #DailyMotion #DebtFreeLiving #FinancialCoach #LerinGaines #411Podcast #RBTW #ReadingBetweenTheWines #BurningQuestions #BlackDiamondConsultations #VacationWithMe #WhispersofWisdom #DISC6 #Vitality  DISCLAIMER: The content and information provided by Black Diamond Consultations are intended solely for educational and entertainment purposes. We do not guarantee the accuracy or completeness of the materials, and any reliance you place on them is strictly at your own risk. Our content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice or judgment. Black Diamond Consultations shall not be liable for any errors or omissions in the educational and entertainment content or for any actions taken based on the information provided.  411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines DISC 6: Vitality Track 22: Let's Talk About The Patterns We Don't Address ©️ 2026 Black Diamond Consultations Network LerinGaines.com

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03:59And now, here's your guide through it all, entrepreneur, mentor, and founder of Black Diamond Consultations, Laren Gaines.

04:18Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome on in, everybody.

04:21Welcome to the 4-in-1 podcast.

04:24This is Coaching Sessions Thursday, and this is part of the live, this six vitality.

04:32I know that I know that is a mouthful, but this is an awesome, amazing experience, and I'm so glad

04:39that I have a special guest joining me tonight.

04:43So without further ado, let's get right on into this thing here.

04:50So, song of the day, song of the day, I don't know what we do, so it's time to go

04:53ahead and get this thing done.

04:57So, unwritten.

05:25People who mocked me, people who mocked me, people who tried to shut me down, people who said that a

05:31lot of these things that you still see here today would not work.

05:34And I had a special friend, a mentor that told me, Laren, we write our own stories in life.

05:41You can do and you can be anything that you want to be and do.

05:46And I know one thing, in order for me to get to where I am and to get to where

05:53I'm going, I had to become a different person.

05:56I had to do certain things.

05:59And I still have to do certain things either to maintain and get to where I'm going, but it was

06:09just an unwritten story.

06:11And I decided to write, speak, because my words have power, your words have power.

06:17And I decided to shift things and move them into a different direction.

06:20And today, I'm overjoyed and sort of thrown back, you know, when I think back five years, six years ago.

06:32They say that, you know, some people are going to hell, heaven versus hell, but I don't have to worry

06:42about going to hell because I've already been there.

06:45So there's a such thing called hell on earth.

06:49And once you've hit your rock bottom, once you've been there and you realize that I'm not doing this again,

06:56you'll be able to start writing your own story.

06:59I wrote myself up out of my terrible situation.

07:02You can write yourself up out of whatever situation you're in today.

07:05So just know that it's not the end of the game.

07:08It's not the end of the story.

07:10Your story is just unwritten.

07:12Song of the day, unwritten by Natasha Beddingfield, released in 2004 off of her album, Unwritten.

07:19So I have a very special guest getting ready to come in.

07:24Miss Blanco.

07:27So Sasha Blanco, we're getting ready to bring her in.

07:30So ladies and gentlemen, let's go ahead and bring to the guest, lady of the hour, recording artist, Sasha Blanco.

07:49What's going on?

07:51How are you?

07:52Hey, what's going on?

07:54How are you?

07:54I love your intro.

07:55That was beautiful.

07:57Thank you so much.

07:58I love your outfit.

08:00I love the fur.

08:01I like it.

08:02I like it.

08:06So is your story unwritten?

08:10Yes.

08:10It is very much still unwritten.

08:12I am writing it every day, literally.

08:16That's what's up.

08:17That's what's up.

08:19Now, you're a recording artist.

08:22Yes.

08:22How long have you been in this game?

08:23Just, you know, reintroduce yourself.

08:25I know a lot of things have changed since you've been on the platform.

08:28So let's just act like we're the first song.

08:32Yeah, for sure.

08:33Yeah.

08:33I've been in the game, the music game, for the last 10 plus years.

08:38You know, I'm not going to tell my age, but I've been in this game like pretty much all

08:42my life.

08:43I started off singing in church, started recording when I was like 18, you know, doing shows and

08:49stuff like that.

08:50And it landed me where I am now.

08:52You know, I have partnerships with different, you know, people, labels, distribution companies

08:56and stuff like that.

08:58And I'm just really grinding, you know, I do shows when they want me to perform, you

09:03know, stuff like that.

09:04I love writing.

09:05I'll probably get back in the studio in the next couple of weeks to do some things that

09:09I really, I heard a couple of beats that I really want to get on and really kill it.

09:13So I'm just doing me.

09:15I've been around in the music industry.

09:17I love what I do.

09:17Music is my life.

09:18I feel like it's something I was born to do.

09:21So that sounds so amazing.

09:26It's just, you just, the energy with it just, just gets me so hyped up.

09:30So a lot of different things you spoke about, you know, you spoke about your childhood.

09:35You were started singing in the church and stuff like that.

09:39Me being the spiritual person that I am today with that background and with the work that

09:47you do today, you know, I got a, you know, a bunch of different artists, you know, that

09:51I'm interviewing this week.

09:53I'm so intrigued and I want to know, how do you, um, intertwine both of those?

10:00How do you make sure that your spiritual being is on point, your spiritual life is on point

10:04versus with the work that you, you do?

10:07Um, yeah, that's a good question because I, I had to really find balance.

10:12Like ever since, like when you grow up singing in the church, everybody literally expects

10:16you to be a gospel singer, you know, but I had to remember that I'm an artist as well.

10:21And I love all types of genres.

10:23So I made sure that just because I can write a gospel song and record one, that doesn't

10:28mean that I have to be in that genre.

10:31I can pass it on.

10:32I can still record it, still get residual from it.

10:34If I want to is still do whatever I want to do.

10:37You know, I had to find that balance because I literally, when I started really being on

10:41Facebook, I would have people that was going to church with me and like, when are you

10:44going to start back singing, when, where's the music, where's the singing, you rap now?

10:48And I'm like, yeah, you know, so, but they don't understand when you're, when you just

10:53talented and you want to write, you just want to write what you feel, you know what I'm saying?

10:57And I'm not going to just let, because I grew up in the church, stop me from doing

11:01everything that I can do.

11:03So I found that balance.

11:04I found that balance of not even really caring about it.

11:08Yeah.

11:08I understand they have this older secular music.

11:10Like this is, but I don't get too involved into it.

11:13I know that I love rap music, hip hop, R&B.

11:16And if I want to write a gospel song, I'll write a gospel song.

11:20Yeah.

11:21I find myself today being very cautious about the type of music that I, I listen to it all,

11:29you know, that's what I do here, but I don't stay in it as long as I used to.

11:34Cause man, I used to be in it.

11:35I used to be in it, I felt it, I breathed it, and then my life started to become what

11:41I was in at the moment.

11:42And I didn't know how to pull myself out.

11:44Now I know the power of music and I know what it does and I know it can move masses.

11:49So I find myself in certain genres these days, but I love the, the mixture of how gospel has

11:59crossed over into the hip hop R&B world.

12:01Yeah.

12:01Let me tell you, I'll be rocking first thing in the morning, like my, my, um, tradition,

12:07you know, people, traditional church back in the day, that's not what goes on in the world.

12:12I'll be like, it's the first thing.

12:15Right.

12:16That's, this is what I don't know, but it's just, it hit me in that way.

12:20So for us one day, just give us one of those records one day.

12:24So we, we in the club, right.

12:27But, but mentally it's taking us somewhere else.

12:30You know what I'm saying?

12:32Yeah, no, definitely.

12:33And it's so funny.

12:34I have at least a gospel song that I've sung like twice in churches before, like one, the

12:39same song for my uncle funeral.

12:41And, um, and then the same song for like a program or something at church that they wanted

12:46me to really do it for.

12:47So everybody be like, when are you going to record it?

12:49We're going to record it.

12:49It's more of a slower song, but it's not as hip hop.

12:52But, um, just a footnote to what you were saying, I've been in like Uber cars and stuff

12:57and I'd be hearing some rap stuff.

12:59And next thing you know, they've been making Jesus where I'm like, oh, this is a gospel

13:04rap song.

13:05Well, you can't even tell the difference.

13:06So I was going to, you know, kind of get into that too, you know?

13:10So, yeah.

13:11They call it, uh, what was I listening to something on my playlist?

13:15It was, uh, um, trap gospel.

13:19Yeah.

13:19Straight up trap.

13:19Yeah.

13:20Is that okay?

13:21So they call it trap gospel.

13:22Okay.

13:23Mm-hmm.

13:24Yeah.

13:25Okay.

13:26See, I was getting into it.

13:28I was getting into it, but yeah, I was rocking one day and I said, oh, okay.

13:31I got you.

13:32Yeah.

13:35So you, um, been in the game for 10 years.

13:38You've got a lot of different things going on.

13:40I love your social media presence.

13:42Um, you definitely do the thing.

13:44Um, how does someone like you stay in the game that long?

13:49What?

13:49What was it like?

13:51What is it like?

13:52You know, honestly, it's, it's, it's, it's like a, um, it's, it actually makes you want

14:00to go harder.

14:01Like each year that you go, because you do have those times where you'd be like, you

14:05know what, maybe, you know, Hey, I'm good, but you know, maybe I could take a step back.

14:09But it's like, when you kind of start getting those feelings, you'd be like, no, it just

14:13don't sit right with me to just be like, no, I'm just going to let this go.

14:16Like now I'm just like, it just doesn't seem right to me.

14:19So you really have to push through, you know, any artists that say, Oh, it's a, it's a walk

14:23in the park.

14:24It's not because sometimes if you're not getting the pay that you, the pay that you want to

14:29get paid, or, you know what I'm saying?

14:30Like people will make you think that it's nothing going on when, you know, when you

14:35turn around and look at everything, you look at your social media, your, your presence,

14:39like you said, all of that stuff, people, the way they take to you and then your accolades

14:42and what you've been doing is like, nah, I just got to just keep on going because there's

14:47levels to it.

14:48You know, you got to put everything into perspective when you, you know, kind of look

14:52at the game and how it's going, the female rappers and stuff.

14:55So you just don't let that discourage you.

14:57You keep going and stay authentic to yourself, you know?

15:01Yeah, that is so true.

15:02I was just today, I was sitting here like, you know, some, I, I, I, I study so much.

15:09I work so much, um, on, you know, everything I have here that I want to call it, um,

15:18overwhelmed or anything like that.

15:19I think I call it overload.

15:22I take in too much.

15:23I just want to consume and learn and, and grow, but we can only do certain, you know,

15:30so much before we need to take a rest.

15:32And that's also important when we end this game, I found myself in the past, giving up

15:37on a lot of projects, abandoning a lot of different things, making crazy decisions because

15:41I didn't rest.

15:43And, um, that's so important, you know, the, the, the Sabbath day to rest, give your mind

15:51some time to, you know, reset.

15:56Yeah.

15:56So how does self, how does that look?

16:00How does your self-care routine look when we start to get those thoughts?

16:04Cause we're human.

16:05Like, okay, I could just throw in the towel, forget this.

16:08I don't want to do this.

16:10I don't want to do it.

16:11It's worth it.

16:11What does your self-care routine look like when those thoughts happen?

16:17Yeah.

16:18The first thing is same thing.

16:19Like I always say my, my thing is be kind to yourself, you know, like really take a step

16:24back and understand, like, why are you having these feelings?

16:27And is it as, as bad as you, you know, think it is, you know, um, at points in time,

16:33you

16:33know, I've had hard conversations with people like, you need to make a decision.

16:37What you're going to do?

16:37Can you take somebody doing this?

16:38Can you take this, can you take that and it kind of try to discourage you, but it's

16:42like, you got to understand your journey is different.

16:45It might not even be as bad as you think it is, you know, and it's better to try and

16:50fail than to not try at all.

16:52And that's what keeps me going.

16:54Like I used to be, I used to be scared of like being successful.

16:58I really used to be like scared of like, and then you think about your family, your

17:01people that you, that's might not coming out on top of you.

17:04That's a violence remorse thing.

17:06All of that stuff played a lot into me.

17:07Like, you know, I could just chill.

17:09I could just be a, uh, I could get older knowing that I was a good artist out here

17:13one day.

17:13And it's like, no, that's not fulfilling because you do as Lord's will.

17:17You have a lot of years to go.

17:19And that's what keeps me going for the next 20, 30 years.

17:23Where do I want to be?

17:24I have to live on this earth the next 30, 40 years.

17:27So it's like, am I going to live in regret?

17:29Am I going to live in not seeing that other side or at least trying, you know, money-wise?

17:35Like, what do you want to do?

17:37So that's what keeps me going, you know, really just being tired to myself, self-reflection.

17:43Yeah, you definitely did, uh, drop a whole bunch of gems right there.

17:49You said something that, um, I, you know, deal with this as a finance coach and I had

17:56to, as well, making that decision to even become a financial coach.

17:59Do we stay stuck and, you know, I'm paraphrasing, do we stay stuck because of where we've come

18:06from or do we decide to do something a little bit different?

18:09Do we sign up for the everyday regular routine journey program, which what I call it, or do

18:18we say something different?

18:21And it's so important to be very cautious and careful when you do decide to make that

18:27decision, not to let other people's thoughts and opinions sway you one way or the other.

18:32I know you mentioned something along the lines that, uh, people, you know, got in your ear

18:38and said, can you do this?

18:40Can you handle this?

18:41This one is coming out.

18:42This one might be better.

18:43This one might be doper.

18:44This one might be hotter.

18:45What was some of the most, if you could think jacked up things, somebody ever told you that

18:50today you'd look at and you'll just be like, man, I'm glad I didn't even see it.

19:00Um, you know, it's, I, I, I'm not going to say jacked up, but I think the most important

19:05thing somebody told me was because I used to deal with a lot of different people trying

19:09to come in and like be labels and stuff.

19:12And sometimes they had it together.

19:13But sometimes they didn't, you know, when you do independent labels, you're dealing

19:16with somebody literally independent.

19:18They got their own money, their own thing going on.

19:20But, you know, it kind of got me down when, you know, I was dealing with this label and

19:24they was like, well, you could tell if they want to, if they really invest in you, you

19:28know, if they ain't put no money behind you, they don't believe in you.

19:30And this is that.

19:31But it's like, some people don't have the money.

19:34Some people don't have the resources, but they can still believe in you.

19:37You know, just little stuff like that would get you down.

19:39Like, dang, they ain't investing in me.

19:41They really don't believe in me.

19:42You know, that kind of make you think on the other side of the fence.

19:45But when you keep going and then you see somebody that will invest, you be like, okay, they

19:49just probably ain't had the money.

19:51They just probably, you know, didn't have the resources that this person had.

19:54So I'm glad I didn't listen to it and keep still going, you know, because that would

19:58make you feel like less worthy of it.

20:00Like, okay, well, maybe they got a point.

20:03But no.

20:04Right.

20:05Oh, you just opened up the gate, too, as well.

20:08When you talked about resources and money, that's what we do here on the 411 podcast.

20:15So, all right.

20:19We won't go there because I know that the industry, I've studied this.

20:23I love music.

20:24I know how it is.

20:27How important is it to have your finances and money together when you want to be an

20:31artist?

20:33Very, very important.

20:35Like, I honestly sit back and see artists that Ben made it back in the days.

20:40Like, I was just watching the Roscoe Dash clips of him with Cam Newton.

20:44And he was just saying how his manager got over on him and all of this stuff.

20:48Like, literally, I'm glad that I'm a free agent at this moment.

20:52Like, I don't have to, like, I have a partnership with the label.

20:55But to be honest, I'm blessed.

20:57Like, he's investing in me anytime somebody calls and they be like, listen, if he was just

21:02asking somebody, how can we get her on tour?

21:04What it's going to take?

21:05And he'll pay.

21:05You know, I'm blessed in that aspect.

21:07It took a long time to get there.

21:09But when it comes to finances, you definitely have to have, like, a blueprint already.

21:15Before the real money comes, you got to start thinking, like, you know, everybody be saying,

21:19oh, I'll buy my mom, my house.

21:21I do all of this stuff.

21:22But you got to really sit back and think, like, what does all of this, you know, what

21:25does all of this really mean?

21:26It sounds good.

21:28But when it's all said and done, after you pay this person, your distributors, your

21:34manager, how much you really have in your pocket?

21:36How much can you really invest?

21:37Is it enough for you to relax?

21:39Or do you have to keep grinding?

21:41How much, you know, goes to your pocket?

21:43How much goes to a savings?

21:45So, to be honest, your finances play a huge part.

21:49That's the point of you don't want to just do all of this work for nothing and it just

21:53be stripped of you and gone before you know it.

21:57That is good.

21:58That is so good.

22:00I know growing up, looking at everybody on TV, buying the magazines, posting them up

22:06on my walls and all of that stuff, I always thought, oh, I just can't wait till I make

22:10it big one day.

22:11I just can't wait until I make it big one day.

22:13That's what I always used to think until the light bulb went off and I realized that,

22:18you know what?

22:19You are already big.

22:20What you're waiting for?

22:21You have to basically, you got to do it yourself before anybody else is going to invest in you.

22:27Invest in yourself before you can think about somebody else investing into you.

22:30Because when the real money does come, when the big money does come, like you said, you

22:35have to have your blueprint ready.

22:36You have to have your business plan together.

22:38You have to have everything set up.

22:41So, like I said, your story is still unwritten, ladies and gentlemen.

22:44So, start writing those blueprints.

22:47Start getting that master plan together.

22:50And, yeah.

22:52No, definitely.

22:53That's right.

22:54I like that.

22:55I like that.

22:56Now, with that being said, you definitely got to be careful when folks that come across,

23:02they're not always, you know, they don't always mean you well.

23:05Yes.

23:06As you start to invest in yourself, as you start to build yourself up, you get some

23:11whack people that come through and want to run games.

23:14Yes.

23:15So, you have to be spiritually equipped.

23:18You got to be mentally equipped, not ready to just go ahead and sign the first contract

23:22or the first deal that comes across.

23:26As a woman in a business that, in some cases, is predominantly run by men, how important is

23:35it for you to make sure you're equipped spiritually, mentally, physically, and financially?

23:41Yeah, definitely.

23:42Like you said, that is the most important thing I've been learning that a long time ago.

23:46Like you said, it is a male-dominated industry.

23:49What I do know is that once you come at your craft to where they see you take it serious,

23:57a lot of men, they'll flirt with you.

23:58They'll probably try to talk to you, but they know you mean business through your music.

24:03You know, so one thing I would encourage, lady, it's okay to have that type of music

24:07out here that's sexually charged.

24:09But when you have those tracks where they know they can't mess with you, men tend to

24:14come at you in a whole different angle.

24:16They know you're beautiful.

24:17They know you're cute.

24:17They all of this.

24:18But they'd be like, listen, what's up with the business?

24:21Because we know she's not with that mess.

24:23You know?

24:24So, it's like, you know, like it's just about standing your ground.

24:27And once they see you can hold your own, it is a lot more easy to maneuver through this

24:32male-dominated industry.

24:33Because that's all I really deal with anyways are men.

24:36You know what I'm saying?

24:37Literally, seriously.

24:38But literally, it's like a respect thing.

24:41It really is.

24:42Maybe because of the way I come off, they see I'm about my business.

24:45They stick to the business too.

24:47But, you know, just finances and everything.

24:51I think that anybody that deals with me are able to see that dang she invested herself.

24:57You know what I'm saying?

24:58From the fur coats to the dizzy.

24:59Like, even small stuff like that.

25:02Your wardrobe, your hair.

25:03You know, they understand.

25:05Like, okay, it costs money now.

25:07It costs money for her to look a certain type of way.

25:09You know, I didn't get this traveling by myself.

25:12I had to invest to get whatever I needed to get.

25:14So, you know, they respect it.

25:16You just got to stand your ground and, you know, like, you know, just, you know, when

25:21you put out some hot shit and hot stuff, excuse me, when you put out that hot music, when

25:26you put out that hot music and they tend to respect this.

25:29But you definitely got to stand your ground as a woman in this industry.

25:34Okay.

25:34So, now we go on into this sector, which we can do this.

25:38And, you know, we get ready to take it there.

25:41So, I know, I know as a man, I know what we do as men.

25:45And I will tell you that, you know, as we're having this conversation, men, for the men

25:54out there that's listening, if you don't keep your lustful ways under control, it will definitely

26:01lead to destruction.

26:03Whether you think that you're playing game, you're running game, it might work temporarily,

26:09but it will lead to destruction.

26:11So, I want to get it from the female perspective, because I know how a man's mind is.

26:17I know how we can be.

26:19I've been protected against my own self sometimes, because I'll be coming some ways.

26:26Mixing business with pleasure, I had to learn that it just does not work.

26:30It doesn't.

26:31It does not work.

26:33It does not work.

26:34And I have to tell myself, Laren, I know what you're getting ready to do.

26:38Don't mix business with pleasure.

26:40Just keep it moving.

26:43How does it work from the female perspective?

26:45Do you have to keep yourself in check?

26:47Or how does that?

26:48Yeah, you definitely have to keep yourself in check.

26:51Like, I was in a situation to where I was supposed to be working with a, and could still work

26:56with him, a prominent producer, but the conversation ended up taking a left, you know, not professional,

27:01and it just went to where, you know, it was trying to be the whole thing with me, his wife.

27:09And, you know, it just went to different levels, and it never happened.

27:13And that relationship is not the same, you know, all because the business got mixed with the pleasure.

27:21Now, do I still holler at him every once in a while?

27:23Yeah, that's my dog, all of this stuff.

27:25But you can tell that it's just that, well, you know, you ain't never really, you know, hang with me

27:30like that.

27:30You ain't really never.

27:31So, I'm going to be in a cut.

27:33I'm going to be your fan from afar, support you, all of this stuff.

27:36But I'm not, I'm just waiting on you.

27:38And I went all the way, I drove, me and my, my cousin drove like 13 hours away to do

27:44work and all of that.

27:46We got some shit done in the studio now.

27:48Banging tracks, but what should have been done was a video, promotion, all of this stuff.

27:53But, hey, it got on pause, but I was willing to accept that because I know the reason why it

27:58stalled.

27:59And I don't feel no type of way about that because I'm going to keep it moving.

28:02So, yeah, I've had that, that happened before where it's like, okay, that's fine.

28:07If it's not going to happen because of that, cool.

28:10Right.

28:11I'm glad you made that decision because some people will get caught up in this game and be like, wow,

28:16you know, I want this.

28:17I want all of this extra stuff.

28:19So, I'm going to just go ahead and put myself in a compromising situation that I really don't agree to.

28:25Yeah.

28:27Now, now we there.

28:29We're going to stay there a little bit because I haven't been able to succeed in this part here.

28:35But for some people, that same scenario that you described, it will work.

28:40It can work.

28:41So, they say it will work.

28:43Do you believe that it is possible to share?

28:48We go on there.

28:49Do I think it's possible to share?

28:52Okay, let me rephrase it.

28:55Yeah.

28:56Does it require you to have a, does it require a special person?

29:01Can everyone play that game?

29:04Um, you know, to be honest, I think it's like a catch-22 with me.

29:09Like, I always said that I would, I would, if I ever explore that, that realm, it will have to

29:14be somebody I don't care about.

29:16You know what I'm saying?

29:17Because I don't know how jealous I would be.

29:20You know, you can say it's all fun and games until you see it really going down and you be

29:24like, oh, whoa, whoa, wait a minute.

29:26So, I don't know how my jealousy would be or the other person's jealousy that would be towards that situation.

29:32But I think that if you have, like, mutual friends that you might just want to hang out with, I

29:37think that it's fun if you want to get that experience and do you.

29:40I don't see it as nothing wrong.

29:41But if you're doing it with, like, your wife and somebody you really love, you have to really be prepared

29:47mentally for that to, like, to me, it will replay my mind often.

29:50And it's just different when there's somebody you love.

29:53You question yourself, like, okay, after this, do they want to still do something with them?

29:58Like, you know, I don't know.

29:59That's just me.

30:00Yeah.

30:01Yeah.

30:03It never worked well.

30:04It never worked well.

30:08I'm going to take a drink on that.

30:09It never worked well.

30:10Okay.

30:12You know, you try to hype yourself up thinking that you could play that game.

30:17But, yeah.

30:18Yeah.

30:20Yeah.

30:24This has been a great experience.

30:27I definitely do appreciate you.

30:29We still got more to go.

30:31Let everybody know where we could follow you at and get your music and all that good stuff.

30:37Yeah, you can find my music on Spotify.

30:41It's on Amazon Music.

30:43You can Google Seisha Blanco.

30:45Follow me on my Instagram, at Seisha Blanco, Boss Ass Blanco.

30:50Or just Google Seisha Blanco.

30:51That'll lead you to my social media, you know, where my music is and all of that good stuff.

30:57So what do you have coming up that's new?

30:59What do you got?

31:02Right now, I have a few things coming up.

31:05Actually, in works, I might be able to...

31:09I know I'm going to be able to probably pitch my music to Zaytoven.

31:14You know, he's future producer.

31:16I end up linking in with this guy all by me just reaching out to him, literally, and just asking,

31:22like, what's the tea on that?

31:23And then after we talked, he was like, listen, I got you.

31:25I'm finna...

31:25You know, I know this person, that person.

31:27So could be possibly me and Deb, Antony, Waka Flocka Mom.

31:31Hopefully, I get a chance to, like, meet her.

31:33Or, I don't know, she's looking for female artists.

31:35I probably just want to get in her face, talk to her, let her hear my music.

31:39And I submitted my music to Zeus Network.

31:43Hopefully, my latest single with DJ Trance, Superbad.

31:46Hopefully, they'll consider that for one of their shows and stuff like that.

31:51So I'm really just doing the footwork behind the scenes, you know, and then just looking into some shows.

31:56Other than that, I'm just really, like, grinding and keeping my mind focused and ready for whatever opportunity comes my

32:02way.

32:03Yeah, that's what's up.

32:04So, now, tomorrow, we have Mr. Danny Lopez coming on right after you.

32:12So, funny enough that that's how I got introduced to you through him.

32:18So, can you tell us about how that whole story, how'd you meet him?

32:23You know what?

32:24To be honest, he is such a cool, dope person.

32:27And I still have yet to meet him in person, in person, but just literally over social media, like, he

32:33has just been supportive, shared my music, had me, I think, on one of his shows or maybe had one

32:38of my sons' rotation or something.

32:39But it's just a mutual love or respect.

32:42Every time I see him, he's one person.

32:43I don't care what he throw out there.

32:45I'm liking it.

32:46It don't even matter.

32:47Like, like, like, like, you know, he is so cool to me.

32:50So, yes, love for him.

32:52Yes, if I could do a heart, I could.

32:53This is the other heart.

32:55Love.

32:56All the way from Belgium.

32:58I love the international, how, you know, different artists link up now.

33:03Social media.

33:05Yes.

33:05I believe the pandemic has allowed us to do that type of stuff.

33:08It allows me to be here today.

33:10So.

33:11Yeah, no, definitely.

33:12That's true.

33:15So, on the coaching sessions Thursday here, you know, I'm a financial coach.

33:21I love music.

33:22I just wasn't willing to, you know, give up all of the music.

33:26And, you know, I drank my wine on Wine Down Wednesday.

33:29So, I sort of, like, got it all.

33:31Just whatever we do here.

33:34So, accountability starts with holding ourselves accountable.

33:39So, the brilliant question that I have for you is, what is one thing that you're willing to share that

33:45you know you've been avoiding, but you know you have to do some work on it?

33:53Whether it's something that you're working on spiritually, you know, you need to pray more.

33:59I'm just giving you some examples.

34:00Whether it's mentally, you know, that maybe you need to stop scrolling so much on social media.

34:07Physical, you know, okay, I might need to stop eating whatever I eat, you know.

34:13Me.

34:14That's me.

34:15Maybe, I know, yesterday, I had one of those days yesterday.

34:19Or, you know, financially, I know that I should be, you know, investing into this sector or investing into this.

34:27What is it, one thing that you know you've been avoiding?

34:30Yeah, one thing, like you said, is, like, recently is avoiding is me locking down my diet to the T,

34:37getting ready for, like, tours and everything I really need to do.

34:41Like, you do definitely want to be physically all of that ready, you know what I'm saying?

34:46Like, even before it's time for you to hit the stage and all of that.

34:48So, me, I want to just, like, mentally lock in because I stopped smoking and drinking.

34:53So, you do put on a little bit of weight when you stop drinking and smoking.

34:57So, now, you know, I talked to my nutritionist the other day and she really gave me some great tidbits

35:03about counting my total carbohydrates and all of that.

35:05So, that's what I'm going to start locking in more of because, like she said, don't even worry about the

35:10calories.

35:10If I can kind of lock in my total carbohydrates, I'll get to where I want to get to.

35:14And just not being hard on myself as well, like, I have to realize I'm doing a lifestyle change, you

35:20know what I'm saying?

35:20Like, any time you stop drinking and smoking and all of that type of stuff, sorry, you stop drinking and

35:26smoking, all of that type of stuff is different, you know?

35:29So, yeah, sorry, a guest just pulled up.

35:32Unexpected.

35:34It's okay.

35:35So, do you ever get to the point where you're like, man, this is just, this is just a lot?

35:41I, do you get overwhelmed with that?

35:44Because, yeah, they, people want you to look a certain, you might want yourself to look a certain way and

35:48feel a certain way and you might give yourself some goals, you might have some different challenges.

35:53Do you ever just, sometimes just be like, forget it?

35:58Yeah.

35:59Yeah, I do.

36:00Yes, I do.

36:00Literally, I have so many goals.

36:03I try to start tackling them at one time.

36:06I learned not to overwhelm myself and I'm like, you're going to be okay.

36:10You know, like I have so many expectations for myself, but the fact that I stopped drinking and smoking, you

36:15know, it's just been like 10 times better ever since.

36:18So, now, anybody that is coming in, whether it be male, female, what advice do you have for them coming

36:30in wanting to be into this business?

36:35Yeah, I think my advice for them is to be, is like, really take it serious and, you know, don't

36:41try to compare yourself to anybody.

36:43You got to understand that your fans are your fans.

36:46And I seen that online years ago.

36:49I used to try to, you know, like, try to, you want everybody attention.

36:53You want everybody, because you do like, how else I'm going to get famous.

36:56But you got to realize that literally the people that love your music, that's who you post for.

37:02That's what I had to realize.

37:03Like, I don't care if only one person like it.

37:05Guess what?

37:06It's so many people I see in person.

37:08You're doing a music.

37:08That's who you're doing it for.

37:10And once you know that, everybody else will start following.

37:13So, literally, be you, be yourself, because that's what makes you authentic.

37:17Don't compare yourself to nobody because you don't know their story.

37:20You don't know what they went through.

37:22You don't know what they're going through.

37:23Yeah, I know that's right.

37:25Yeah.

37:26Female artists that has so-called, as we said, made it.

37:30Give me, like, your top three.

37:33Top three female artists that made it?

37:36Yeah.

37:39I'm going to say Lotto, Megan, and Cardi B.

37:46Okay.

37:47Now, you name Cardi B.

37:52She's doing her thing.

37:53She's out there.

37:54She also does some things that are a little out there.

37:59Yeah, she does.

38:00Yes.

38:05How vocal do you think you would be if you woke up tomorrow and everybody in the entire world knew

38:14exactly who you are?

38:15You have, let's say, Cardi B's, the Nicki Minaj status.

38:24Yeah.

38:25Do you think that these ladies sometimes say a little too much, or do you think they say enough?

38:33Yeah, I think, with Cardi, I think that that's just her personality.

38:37And she says a lot of stuff that I would never say, but that's just Cardi.

38:42You know, like, I respect her, and see, her fans are literally, they are ride or die, like, literally, I

38:49almost got into it with her fan, like, two weeks ago, because I said something about Tasha Kay and her

38:55situation, and they came defending her, and I'm like, wow, her fans are diehard.

39:00But they like that unfiltered, off-the-cuff type stuff, like me, I like to think about what I say

39:05before I say it, and I don't, Timmy, I don't have to be a certain type of out there, like,

39:09I'm just gonna be me.

39:11But it works for Cardi.

39:12You know, people think it's funny, it's banter, that's her.

39:15You know, like, I just respect Cardi, because we've seen her from love and hip-hop, and I respect the

39:20grind, I respect how far she came, you know?

39:23And with Megan and Lotto, I just love them, because they write their music, even if they got writers, they

39:28write the majority of their music, I love that.

39:30We've seen Lotto come from, I watched her literally on the rap game, with Jermaine Dupree being young, writing her

39:37little raps at 12, 13, 15, however old she was, to now.

39:41So that's why I respect both of those ladies, yeah.

39:43That's what's up, I didn't know that that's where she originated from, okay.

39:48Yes, yes.

39:53Now, the way God made you, or it's okay to have some augmentations, because in this industry as well, that's

40:01something that happens as well.

40:02So, and you got men who love it, I'm going to say men and women who love it, and men

40:10and women who are like, no, whatever God gave you, it is what it is.

40:14Or do you think, eh, just a little bit in the middle, I could do, enhance a couple things of

40:18what God has given me, or we just going to go all the way in.

40:20And what is your take on that?

40:24Yeah, to me, enhancements, to me, I think that you got to do, like, I used to be on the

40:29side of the fence where, you know, like, I'm not changing, I wouldn't ever change.

40:32Why would you do that?

40:33You know what I'm saying?

40:33But it's like, when you think about it, and you be like, okay, I am the only one that have

40:37to wake up and look at myself every day.

40:39Like, people going to see me every other day, but I have to literally look in the mirror and be

40:43like, you know what, girl, you fine, you look good.

40:45So, whatever makes you happy, to me, you got to do that.

40:49Now, to me, you got to have a limit, and you don't want to take it to the streams where

40:53you don't look, you know, too much far off from where you was, because to me, that starts messing with

40:58you mentally.

40:59You know, and, you know, just be safe with it.

41:03You know, BBLs, they're not FDA approved and stuff like that, but yet, so many females get them.

41:08And the butt shots, they are, I guess, if you get them done in the right way, but a lot

41:12of women got them done on the black market, and that makes them sick.

41:15It's not as healthy for them.

41:17So, anything you do, you just be careful.

41:20Now, with me, I would definitely get my teeth done, because I want my teeth to, like, last for, like,

41:25the next 30, 40 years.

41:27So, I would get my teeth and everything, you know.

41:31Right, right, right.

41:32Yeah, but other than that, yeah.

41:34I got you.

41:36I will say, I'm going to say one artist's name, excuse me, one artist's name, Lil' Kim.

41:47Yeah.

41:48What do you think of Lil' Kim?

41:51I love her.

41:52I love her voice.

41:56I love what she stood for, and, like, literally, I grew up, when people say they grew up listening to

42:01her, literally grew up listening to her.

42:03You know, and I think it's unfortunate how the pressures may have, you know, made her do a lot more

42:12extensive surgery than she should have, you know.

42:15And I'm not saying she don't wake up and regret it.

42:17Like, you know, I would hope that she just finds a middle place where she don't think she has to

42:22do it.

42:22Like, I just seen a picture of her last week.

42:24It looked like she's, like, there where she might want to stay.

42:27But, you know, it's just unfortunate that she got away from her real originated look all because of the industry.

42:34And we just never know the pressures of the industry, you know.

42:37So, but I love her music-wise.

42:39I love her down.

42:41Yeah.

42:41That would be something which people may agree with me, they may not agree with me, but that would be

42:47something that I say, like, when people say they sold their soul to the devil, you know.

42:53I don't believe that they really, you know, literally.

42:57But basically, the pressures of it, I have to do this, I have to stay, I got to compete with

43:03the person who's coming behind me that looks this way and looks that way.

43:07And when you don't have your business intact, when you don't have contracts and deadlines and exit strategies and track

43:16and on track, you could sign yourself up for something that you're not willing to do.

43:22Like, go on tour for however long and have to tour because you have to pay this or you have

43:28to pay that.

43:30Yeah, that's true.

43:32And then, of course, I've never been in there, but I heard that a lot of artists, if you don't

43:40look a certain way and you don't sound a certain way, they're not going to release your music.

43:45And then you go back and then you try to lose this weight, you try to do this, you try

43:49to do that so that you can go back and say, okay, is my album ready to come out now?

43:53And then there's all these strings and you end up being a puppet, so.

43:58Yeah, gatekeepers.

43:59Yeah, I think that, but, like, the best thing that has happened now, like they say, you can be an

44:05independent artist and make it on your own now without those limitations because of social media.

44:11People like who you are.

44:12Like, if you think about, like, perfect example, and I commend Lemmy Plummer.

44:18I don't know if you'd be watching Baddies with Zeus and stuff, but out of all of those females that

44:22got their body done, augmentation, everything that they got, he ended up signing Biggie.

44:26You know what I'm saying?

44:28Biggie, everybody probably, why she didn't get surgery, why she didn't, but she signed.

44:32You know what I'm saying?

44:33And that's a testament to where you ain't got to be the smallest, you ain't got to have the BBL,

44:37the distance, that.

44:38That girl signed a good contract with Zeus, I'm pretty sure.

44:42And he know what he doing by, like, stepping out and be like, you know what, you don't have to

44:45be that pressed up, this, this, BBL, this, this, that, to get signed, to make your money, to tour, to

44:52really enjoy a good lifestyle.

44:53So that's just a testament to what you're saying.

44:56You know, back in the days, like, it was a point in time, you right.

45:00Like, about five, six years ago, that's the pressure that I was feeling.

45:04Oh, you might want to drop this way, you might want to, you got to do this, you got to

45:07do that.

45:08And then it started becoming to where, when Lizzo came out, and then you got Sexy Red, and then you

45:12got other females that don't, then all the barriers start breaking.

45:16Then you got artists that don't even care how they really look.

45:19And then other female artists that they think, that they be trying to clown on social media, you be like,

45:24damn, she on?

45:25Like, how'd she get on?

45:26You know, Love & Hip Hop, you see the three, four hundred pound females on there, and they got a

45:32platform.

45:33And you're like, nah, this, it ain't no more gatekeeping no more at this point.

45:36You just got to go.

45:38No, you just got to go.

45:42I know that's right.

45:44All right, so we are up against the clock.

45:47We got to go ahead and pay some bills.

45:49This has been a great conversation.

45:52Go ahead and let us know one more time where we can follow you and listen to your music.

45:58Yes, you can find me on TikTok, Seisha Blanco, at Boss Ass Blanco on Instagram, Facebook, Seisha Nicole Jordan, Facebook,

46:06Seisha Blanco.

46:07You can Google Seisha Blanco.

46:10I'm on Spotify, Apple Music, pretty much everywhere.

46:13You can pull up my music, do some TikTok videos to it, find my music.

46:17Do some good videos to it, have it in the background.

46:20Just put it in Seisha Blanco.

46:22It'll lead you to the right space.

46:25And one last parting gift you want to give to us.

46:29What would you like to leave us with?

46:33Just keep on going.

46:35Stay motivated and keep your eye on the prize, keep your foot on the gas, and don't stop going until

46:40you are where you want to be.

46:42Don't forget that your success is different from somebody else's success, and don't let somebody else's success define your success.

46:50I know that's right.

46:52Thank you so much.

46:53It has been a pleasure.

46:54You're welcome.

46:55And we will talk to you soon.

46:58Okay.

46:59Take care now.

47:00You too.

47:01I'm trying to get a good little screenshot.

47:04Hey.

47:07This iPhone, it's the new iPhone.

47:11You got it?

47:12I didn't cut it off.

47:13Lord, I didn't cut it off.

47:14Lord, my son is going to get on me.

47:16He's like, Mama, how are you not out of work?

47:17Okay.

47:20Take care now.

47:21All right.

47:22Have a good day.

47:23You too.

47:26All right, ladies and gentlemen, that was Seisha Blanco.

47:30Yes, that was a great, great experience.

47:34Lots of great conversations around loving yourself, staying focused with what you want to do, not being overly concerned with

47:45the next person.

47:46And I know we speak about that constantly, making sure that you are not comparing yourself to the next person,

47:52because your story is unwritten.

47:56Write your story.

47:58Don't be focused on writing somebody else's story.

48:01Most importantly, how all of these things tie together, you know, the spiritual, the mental, the physical, the financial aspect

48:10of it.

48:12Whatever you want in life.

48:15I'll put it this way, the best way to say it.

48:18Ain't nothing in life free.

48:21I'll say that again, just very simple.

48:23Ain't nothing in life free.

48:26You're going to have to pay one way.

48:28You're going to pay spiritually.

48:29You're going to pay mentally.

48:31You're going to pay physically or you're going to pay financially.

48:33In some cases, you might pay emotionally, depending on the different situations that we get ourselves into.

48:42Great episode tonight.

48:46On that note, ladies and gentlemen, if there's anything that you heard tonight that inspired you, anything that triggered you

48:55to say,

48:56Hmm, I want to learn a little bit more about what goes on over there at Black Diamond Consultations.

49:02You can go ahead and head on over to laryngaines.com and you can sign up for that free 15

49:10-minute consultation.

49:11Again, I offer debt-free living coaching and I focus it on from the spiritual, the mental, the physical, the

49:22financial.

49:22And as Seisha talked tonight, in order to get to where we are here, at least, you know, this space

49:32that I'm in right now, this didn't happen overnight.

49:37This is intentional.

49:39As far as her being in the business for 10 years, it's intentional.

49:43But certain things have to be in order from the spiritual perspective, from the mental, from the physical, and definitely

49:52financial.

49:53We write our own stories.

49:55If you are looking at your life, if you're looking at your situation and you say today that I'm not

50:00where I want to be at.

50:01I'm not where I want to be at from the financial aspect.

50:05I'm not where I want to be at from the physical or the mental or, in some cases, the spiritual,

50:11head on over to laryngaines.com.

50:13Sign up for that free 15-minute consultation.

50:15I'm not an expert.

50:17I'm not a financial advisor.

50:19I'm not a financial planner.

50:20I am a financial coach.

50:21But one thing I do know is that, like Mickey Howard says, experience is a good teacher and it takes

50:27someone like me to know.

50:28So the only thing that I can do is share my life experience, what I did, to get to where

50:34I'm at here today and give you a glimpse of what I see in the future.

50:38I can't tell you everything because I've got to live my own way through it.

50:43But I definitely can hip you to the game on some of the things that I've been through in the

50:48past and how I'm able to sustain and have what I have here today.

50:52So head on over to laryngaines.com.

50:55I'll focus on debt-free living from the spiritual, the mental, the physical, and the financial realms.

51:01And on that note, ladies and gentlemen, check me out tomorrow for Financial Friday and I have a very special

51:09guest coming in.

51:10Danny Lopez, a.k.a. Superfly, will be on Financial Friday.

51:15And we're going to just chop it up like we do here tonight and speak about, you know, all things

51:21finances tomorrow from the European style because we're going to head on over to Belgium tomorrow.

51:29And on that note, ladies and gentlemen, thank you all so much for joining in and I will see you

51:35when I see you.

51:36Take care, y'all.

51:38Have a good night.

51:43I got to get myself together here.

51:46It's been a minute, but yeah, we out.

51:49All right.

51:50Good night, y'all.

51:53Five, four, three, two, one.

51:57And that's a wrap on today's episode of the 411 podcast and reading between the wines where growth is always

52:04on the menu and every pour reveals a little more truth.

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Let's Talk About The Patterns We Don't Address | DISC 6: Vitality | 411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines (Episode 22)

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