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03:00Here, we explore what it means to live debt-free, not just financially, but spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally.

03:08Every episode is part of a journey across our weekly mentorship series, Spiritual Sundays, Mental Mondays, Transformational Tuesdays, Wind-Down

03:18Wednesdays, Coaching Sessions Thursdays, and Financial Fridays.

03:22Each day holds space for wisdom, clarity, and real conversation.

03:27So grab your journal, pour your glass, and prepare to go beyond the surface.

03:33Because here, we don't just talk, we transform.

03:35And now, here's your guide through it all, entrepreneur, mentor, and founder of Black Diamond Consultations, Laren Gaines.

03:56What's going on, what's going on, what's going on, everybody?

03:59Welcome, welcome, welcome on in.

04:01Welcome to another wonderful, amazing episode of Reading Between the Wines.

04:09And, wow, we are here, episode 17.

04:13And I'm so grateful, and I'm so thankful for this whole experience.

04:19So, before we get into this tonight, of course, I have to give a very special thank you to my

04:26executive producer, my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

04:29Thank you so much for giving me enough strength, wisdom, courage to come out here and do this thing night

04:38after night.

04:39And, of course, thank you for giving me such amazing, wonderful people who support me during this whole process.

04:48And each and every one of you out there, thank you so much for joining in.

04:53I want to say good morning to all of y'all out there.

04:56Thank you all for listening and rocking with me in the morning.

04:59Facebook, I appreciate y'all early in the morning.

05:02Y'all are there with me.

05:05Thank you so much to all of the other platforms.

05:08You can catch us on, like I said, Facebook, Spotify, Deezer, iHeartRadio, Twitch, DLive, Dailymotion, and that's just to name

05:25a few.

05:25So, check out the 4-in-1 podcast, Reading Between the Wines, wherever you listen to your favorite podcast.

05:33So, it's official and we arrived and we're here.

05:37And, you know, again, I have to say thank you so much for this.

05:41You know, it's going to be a great episode.

05:44I will tell you that, unfortunately, this is going to be a dry episode.

05:50I was going to sample something, but I just error on the, I guess I'm saying that right, on the

05:58side of, I'm just basically just said, you know, let me just go ahead and sit this one out.

06:04So, unfortunately, I don't like to, you know, claim these things and put these things on me, but it's reality.

06:10I have to face it.

06:12I don't like this time of year when it's the weather the way it is, but I have a couple

06:18sniffles and what I like to call the itchy and scratchy throat.

06:24I didn't even know I was going to be able to do this podcast tonight, but I do have my

06:27tea.

06:28So, unfortunately, ladies, there will be no wine tasting tonight.

06:31I thought that, you know, like I said, I err on the side of caution to, you know, even though

06:37I have that taste in my mouth for some wine, I said, we're just going to sit out with this,

06:42with this good hot tea here, hot lemon tea with some cinnamon.

06:46So, yeah, there's no wine tasting tonight.

06:53But we're still going to have a great episode.

06:56So, let's do this.

06:57Let's get right on into it.

07:02Song of the Day, On and On, by Miss Erykah Badu, released in 1997 off of her debut album, Baduism.

07:12This was a great album.

07:13I will say this is legendary.

07:16This is classic material.

07:18And on and on.

07:22How many things in your life just keep going on and on?

07:26How many relationships that don't longer serve your purpose just continue to go on and on?

07:31How many friendships do we say, I'm just friends with them because, and now you have to deal with the

07:38nonsense, you have to deal with the drama, and you have to deal with the on and on and on

07:42and on.

07:43How many times do you say that you're going to quit that job, but you don't, and you go into

07:48work, and you still deal with the same nonsense, and the drama, and the BS, and the disrespectful situations, and

07:55they just continue to go on and on and on.

07:58Think about it.

07:59And now we're going to talk about the financial aspect of it.

08:03We're going to talk about how many times do we say that we're going to do better, but yet we

08:08don't.

08:09And now our same financial struggles and the financial issues and situations that we dealt with last year in 2025

08:17have slowly but surely creeped into where we are here right here today in 2026.

08:24And these things continue to keep going on and on and on and on.

08:28See, an old mentor told me, Laren, when you know better, you do better, and easier said than done.

08:37So many times and so often do we get so fixated and caught up and wrapped up and trapped up

08:44with social media content, you know, looking at what the next person has.

08:51Listen, that we don't look in the mirror.

08:56We don't challenge ourselves.

08:59We are so busy comparing ourselves to other people, and by doing that, we lose the game.

09:07Ladies and gentlemen, yes, we lose the game because while we're sitting there comparing and liking and swiping left and

09:17swiping right and all of the things that we do that is in this wonderful world of social media.

09:21And, okay, for those of you who are not in social media, maybe it's the people on your job.

09:27Okay, for those of the people who don't have a situation at their job, maybe it's the next door neighbor.

09:34Maybe it's the people in our communities.

09:37Maybe it's people on our own four walls.

09:40It could be family members that we're comparing ourselves to their situations, their financial situations, where they've been, where they're

09:47going, instead of looking at that person in a mirror, instead of comparing your yesterday to today.

09:55While all of this is going on, the things that we fight for and the things that we struggle and

10:02the things that we want to make better, we don't because we're too busy looking outside instead of looking in.

10:10And, therefore, the same situations, the same scenarios continue to keep going on and on and on.

10:19Song of the Day, On and On, by Erykah Badu, released in 1997 off of her debut album, Baduism.

10:28Help you here.

10:31What's one thing?

10:33What's one thing that you're going to take from this message?

10:36What is one thing that you're going to take from this podcast episode and apply it to your real-life

10:42situation so that you can stop some of the things that continuously go on and on?

10:51All right.

10:52So now, now that we got through the song of the day, and again, if I happen to mute the

10:59mic, listen, I'm just having a little situation over here where I got to get my voice together.

11:05It happens every so often, but I'm going to get through this episode tonight.

11:12So I'm going to talk about Pinot Noir, and it's called the Heartbreak Grape, and I'm going to explain why.

11:20So, admirers of this impossible, difficult grape love to debate over which California wine region produces the best Pinot Noir.

11:29There is no definite answer, but the main contenders are generally through the Sonoma Coast and the Russian River Valley.

11:38Sonoma Coast is too recently planted for anyone to be certain about its potential, but its Pinot Noirs can have

11:47exquisite perfume and considerable finesse and purity.

11:53Caneros, while fresh and fruity, is rarely complex or long-lived, and Russian River Valley delivers more layered wines and

12:05Burgundian nuances and the ability to age for the medium term.

12:11There are other areas of notes from the central and southern regions, but it is the north coast that has

12:19the largest track record.

12:21California Pinot Noir rarely emulates Burgundy, but the combination of selected sites, good clones, and sensitive winemaking is beginning to

12:33produce some of the world-class wines.

12:35So, I just learned something new. I had no idea that there were so many different variations of Pinot Noir,

12:43and it's such a debatable grape, actually.

12:50I will tell you that when I first started drinking wine, I stayed away from the red wines, but as

12:59I learned over the years, and again, hey, I'm no expert at this, but I've learned that you will appreciate

13:06the red wines in the wintertime.

13:10Tonight would have been a great night, but again, of course, you know what I'm dealing with.

13:14So, I just want to say thank you all so much for joining in on another episode of Reading Between

13:21the Wines, and next week, we're going to go ahead and do it up real big.

13:27So, thank you for joining in.

13:33All right, so now, without further ado, I'm going to go ahead and bring in my special guest, author, poet,

13:42Birdman313.

13:55What's going on? What's going on?

13:58Hey, how's it going?

14:04Well, you know, I got to get my voice together.

14:07Yeah. Can you hear me?

14:10I can hear you good, but I got to keep muting my mic every now and then, because I'm sure

14:15y'all don't want to hear me having a fit over here.

14:18Okay, okay.

14:20All right, everything going well, man.

14:22Weather is pretty decent here.

14:24Just a little windy, but other than that, it's fairly decent.

14:29Lil' Kim says, when I blow, it gets a little windy.

14:36So, whenever the wind gets crazy, I just think a Lil' Kim for some reason. I have no idea.

14:42Oh, man. There you go.

14:47I got to do something to make myself laugh, because these past couple days, oh, man.

14:55I don't like this time of year.

14:59You know, it's been different this year.

15:02You know, I mean, it's hot, cold, rainy.

15:05Hot, cold, rainy.

15:07You know, and it's been windy.

15:10And, you know, it's just been crazy.

15:14I don't know if that's what it is.

15:16I don't know if it's allergies.

15:17I don't know what it is.

15:18But whatever it is, I don't appreciate it.

15:20I'll tell you that much.

15:21It might be allergies, because I know down here, man, the pollen is real bad.

15:27And, you know, over the last couple years, I cannot stand outside like I used to no more during this

15:38time.

15:38You know, and every time, if I stay outside too long, I end up going to the doctor, getting shot,

15:46getting, you know, medication and all that.

15:49Diana, she's, you know, she's saying she won't go to the doctor, but she medicate every day, though.

15:57You know, and she medicate.

16:00And I had, you know, I had to go to physical therapy this morning, and, you know, we had a

16:08nice little walk across the parking lot.

16:11The wind was blowing.

16:12And then she said, do you want to go to the park?

16:14She said, I'm going to sit in the car while you walk.

16:16I'm like, no, take me home.

16:21You know, I can make up for it.

16:23But, you know, other than that, man, everything seemed to be going well.

16:29That's good.

16:31I want to say, anybody out there who wants to join the master class, please go ahead and text the

16:38word PEACE to 609-210-98.

16:41Again, that's 609-210-98.

16:45That master class is coming up.

16:47And if you want more information on how you can get a seat, please.

16:51And I want to say thank you so much to everybody out there who has registered.

16:56This is going to be a big one.

16:58This is a good one.

16:59Y'all definitely want to join the spiritual cost of debt.

17:03It's coming.

17:04I just had to throw that out there.

17:05Sorry about that.

17:10All right.

17:11So, you ready to get into our money hack segment?

17:15Oh, yeah.

17:17All right.

17:17This is going to be a good episode tonight, y'all.

17:20Most certainly is.

17:22I'm ready.

17:22So, what number you got for me?

17:27Let's try 20.

17:3020.

17:30Okay.

17:31Let's see.

17:35Let's see what we got here tonight.

17:40Ah, this is a good one.

17:43Don't be in a rush to cancel your credit cards.

17:45I've said this plenty of times.

17:48The length of your credit history account for 15.

18:06Let me back up.

18:08When I said do not cancel your first credit card, keep it open.

18:11But if you were to cancel a card with a long history, that could be a ding to your credit

18:16score.

18:17That said, it makes little sense to keep a card that changes.

18:22Let me back up again.

18:24I got excited again.

18:25That said, it makes little sense to keep a card that charges a high annual fee.

18:31Now, I'm going to chime in.

18:33I shouldn't do this.

18:34I should just read it.

18:35But I just can't help myself.

18:36If you have a credit card that charges you any type of fee, you don't need it.

18:42Okay.

18:43So, I'm going to continue.

18:44I had to catch myself.

18:45If you have other cards with established histories, it can be okay to cancel one card, but don't cancel a

18:53bunch all at once.

18:54The other issue with canceling a card is that it will change your total credit limit, and that will impact

18:59your credit, excuse me, that will impact your debt to credit limit score.

19:04For example, if you cancel a card with a $5,000 credit limit, your total credit limit will be reduced

19:11by $5,000.

19:12That will likely cause your debt to credit limit ratio to rise.

19:17So, there we go.

19:19Ladies and gentlemen, don't cancel your oldest credit card.

19:23Again, I can't give you any advice.

19:25Go ahead and do your own due diligence and research, but Birdman, what do you think about this?

19:30That's kind of funny that that one came up because just before I got on here on the news, they

19:38were saying how things, you know, people will start using their credit cards a little bit more because of the

19:45way the economy, you know, with the gas prices going up and everything else.

19:51And they were saying how more and more people are going to get in bigger debt.

19:57And they said that, and it's going to be because of credit card.

20:01They're going to use their credit cards more than anything else.

20:06Robin Peter.

20:08Yes, yes.

20:10And I thought that was, I'm like, you know what, that's, I thought about, well, then all of a sudden

20:14you popped in my mind because you're always talking about it.

20:16And I've kind of settled on just keeping my credit cards.

20:24I have, and I use them every once in a while just to keep them active, you know, and when

20:31I do use them, I try not to charge nothing over $100 on them, you know, because, I mean, even

20:41though I pay it back, I'll pay it back on time.

20:43That's just, I've gotten into that, I guess, that mode now where I don't want to charge more to so

20:54much where I can't keep it paid down.

20:57Because I know how I am, I'll get to a certain point and I'll just skip it and let it,

21:02you know, run out.

21:03So, I don't need that because I'm out of credit card debt right now and I want to stay that

21:10way.

21:13That's what's up, congratulations.

21:16That is an awesome place to be.

21:17You sleep better at night.

21:19Yes, yes.

21:20You sleep better at night.

21:23And you don't have to worry about your phone ringing all the, you know, by, you know, you owe us.

21:30Right.

21:30Where can we get our payment, you know?

21:32You know, you owe us, you know.

21:34So, you know, we did our part.

21:37Now it's time for you to do your part.

21:39Now I don't need all of that.

21:41Exactly, exactly.

21:43So, yeah, ladies and gentlemen, again, like I said, do your own due diligence and your own research.

21:48I'm not a financial advisor.

21:50I am not a financial planner.

21:52I am a financial coach.

21:53And my job is to help you, you know, dig deep and discover your relationship with money.

22:02And debt is definitely not something you should have a relationship with.

22:07I separated myself from debt a long time ago, and I want no parts of it.

22:14No parts of it.

22:15I agree with you on that.

22:18Yeah.

22:18They call it a separation.

22:20You can call it a divorce.

22:22You can call it whatever you want to call it.

22:23But I call it an annulment, because love don't live here, no more.

22:28Yeah.

22:29Absolutely not.

22:30All right.

22:31So, let's get into tonight's assignment.

22:35We going in your hometown, your area.

22:37We in Texas.

22:40Dallas, how far are you in Dallas?

22:45I think Dallas is like a six-hour drive.

22:49Oh, that's not close.

22:52Wow.

22:53No, no, no.

22:53It's not like me going to Austin, San Antonio, or Galveston.

22:58No.

23:01Okay.

23:02This is where the real –

23:04And it could be less than that.

23:05It could be four hours, four or five.

23:08Yeah, four or five hours, really.

23:15So, tonight, we're going to speak about what I like to call lifestyle creep.

23:20And lifestyle creep is when you get a promotion on your job, something happens, you run into

23:28a lump sum of money all at once, and you might have residual income coming in.

23:34Your life just changed, and you got an increase.

23:36You got to bump up.

23:37You leveled up.

23:39This is what happens when we have lifestyle creep, and I'm going to get into this as we

23:43go through.

23:43But we're going to help out Miss Stephanie from Dallas, Texas.

23:47And she says,

23:48Last year, I got a promotion that I had been praying for.

23:52Bigger title, bigger paycheck.

23:54Everyone around me kept saying the same thing, you made it.

23:58For a while, I believed that.

24:00I upgraded my apartment.

24:02Nothing crazy, just something nicer.

24:04I replaced my car because I felt like the old one just didn't match the new version of me.

24:08I started eating out more because, in my mind, I finally earned it.

24:13Here we are a year later, and I'm confused.

24:15I make more money than I ever have, but I don't feel more stable.

24:20If anything, the pressure feels heavier.

24:22The bills are bigger.

24:23The expectations are bigger.

24:25And somehow, my savings still looks the same.

24:27Wine nights used to be a way of celebrating progress.

24:30Now, they become moments where I sit with the quiet question I keep avoiding.

24:36Where did the raise actually go?

24:39I don't feel irresponsible.

24:41I just feel like every time my income grows, my lifestyle grows right along with it.

24:47I worked hard to move forward, but I'm starting to wonder if I've just made a more expensive

24:53version of the same situations.

24:56How do I keep growth from turning into pressure?

25:00What do you have for Ms. Stephanie here?

25:04Trying to keep up with the Joneses.

25:07You know, what got me the most about this was saying that when she said everybody was telling

25:15her that, you know, oh, you're finally there.

25:22I mean, I'm trying to figure out what you, you know, what you mean?

25:26She, you know, by they saying, telling her she's finally there, what do they mean by that?

25:33I mean, you know, everybody work hard.

25:37Some people get a nice little raise.

25:39Some don't.

25:40You know, and she started doing upgrading.

25:47Well, that's what happens.

25:49You know, and I have to say, we all, I know I went through that.

25:55You know, I had, was in an accident and I got some money and I'll never forget I was going

26:03to get me a car and I told my dad, we went to a car lot and I said, I

26:09want to pay cash

26:10for it.

26:11And my dad looked at me and he said, why do you want to spend all your money in one

26:16place?

26:17I said, because every time I get a vehicle with a car note, I don't keep it.

26:24I'm going to keep this.

26:26Yeah.

26:26I'm going to keep it.

26:27I knew, I knew what my situation was as far as how much money I was making.

26:33And this was a chance for me to get me a vehicle and give me a nice vehicle and pay

26:40cash for

26:40it instead of having a car note.

26:42I said, I have too many bills.

26:43I don't need an extra bill.

26:48And she's saying that, and then another thing she said that the car she had didn't match

26:54her position.

26:56I'm, you know, I don't understand that either because long that, you know, that vehicle got

27:03you where you want to go, that's all, that's all you needed.

27:07But a lot of people, a lot of people are like that.

27:13You know, that when they get more money, what's the old saying?

27:18More money, more problems.

27:20Notorious B.I.G.

27:21I know that's right.

27:23You know, more money, more problems.

27:25And that's the truth because what we do is, you know, she was going out a lot to eat and

27:33you fall into that trap where, oh, I can, I can do this.

27:38I can do that.

27:38Instead of saying, I need to put a little bit, you know, instead of doing that, this raise

27:46I got, try to put that up for a rainy day.

27:51And I mean, I'm guilty.

27:52I was guilty of that too.

27:54You know, I was guilty of that.

27:57You know, and I think we all somewhere down the line fall into that category one time or

28:06another.

28:07Oh, yeah.

28:09Oh, yeah.

28:10I like the fact.

28:12Go ahead.

28:13No, go ahead.

28:15I like the fact that you brought up the point that who was this raise for?

28:22Was this raise for you or for your friends or your family that they kept saying the same

28:28thing?

28:28You made it.

28:29You made it.

28:29Bigger title, bigger paycheck.

28:31Everyone around me kept saying the same thing.

28:33You made it.

28:35Here's the problem that we probably should be very cautious about bragging just a little

28:41bit too much because you start bragging.

28:44You start putting yourself up on a pedestal.

28:47People around you will big you up and put you on a pedestal too.

28:52But is it for your benefit or is it for their benefit?

28:56And by you bigging yourself up so much, you might be giving yourself a big hit.

29:01And getting way too far ahead of yourself.

29:05And pride comes first and then it's destruction.

29:09So this is a prime example of that humble humility.

29:13It works so well.

29:15Yes.

29:16And, you know, that's why I said that, you know, because, you know, when I read this,

29:21I read it over and, you know, everyone kept saying the same thing.

29:26You made it.

29:28You made it.

29:28How many people are you telling that you got a raise or promote, you know, whatever?

29:34And did you tell them how much?

29:36Because when you do that, you bring it in the wrong crowd.

29:41I know that's right.

29:43You know, you bring it in the wrong crowd.

29:47I had a friend.

29:48He played in the NBA.

29:52And I had, I had played with him.

29:55Well, that's where the Rockets, they go and hang out at.

29:59It's called the Fonday Center.

30:00I used to go down there when I was younger, play ball.

30:04So I'm not going to put, I ain't going to call the guy's name out.

30:08Well, he done passed away, passed away two years ago.

30:11But he was in that situation where he wasn't, you know, he was one, he was like making that minimum

30:18wage.

30:19And he lived in an apartment.

30:22He had a, you know, he had a nice vehicle.

30:26It was an Oldsmobile, you know.

30:29And soon as he got it, got a raise, he moved out because mostly all the athletes in Houston and

30:39the surrounding area, they move out in Missouri City or Sugar Land because that's where the big homes are.

30:45And he bought him a home out there in Missouri City.

30:50We got him a Benz.

30:51And this was after the playoffs.

30:53They had went to the finals and they had lost to Boston.

30:57And I'll give you kind of like a hint who it was.

31:01They said he was the only one that ever played decent defense on Larry Bird.

31:07And so, like, so he moved out there.

31:12His attitude changed.

31:14His friends changed.

31:16And within a couple years, man, everybody started noticing a change in him.

31:23And he thought he was better than what he really was.

31:31And so then, you know, like I said, by me playing ball, I met a lot of Rockets players because

31:38we would play down in the summer.

31:39You know, in the summer, I would play in the summer leagues with some of the players, you know.

31:44And I remember a couple of them, they got busted for cocaine.

31:54And, you know, I said something.

31:56And then he said, oh, yeah, he used to hang around with, you know, the snitch.

31:59And I'm like, the snitch?

32:01And I didn't know what they was talking about.

32:05And then I thought about it.

32:07And I'm like, oh, man, he's snitching now.

32:11And you know what?

32:12He didn't last long with the Rockets.

32:14The Rockets got rid of him.

32:15And that was some of the reasons because it was three players that went and told him that he, that

32:21we know that he snitched on us to help his other buddy, you know, get some playing time.

32:29Then he took a, yeah, then he took a leave saying, oh, I'm leaving for a religious reason.

32:36The religious reason was he was doing cocaine and he decided, and his mother, well, his mother was a minister.

32:47His grandmother was a minister.

32:49And when he went to Florida and went through a drug treatment center, but they kept it so quiet.

32:57And then they let him come back.

32:59And when he came back, when he finally came back, he had a more level head.

33:05He wouldn't spend his money on cocaine like he was, you know, because like I said, yeah, pride, pride comes

33:15first and then destruction.

33:17Right.

33:18The Bible clearly lays that out.

33:20Yeah.

33:20And then he finally, he settled down.

33:23He got married, you know, and he got out that Ben's.

33:28He got out the Jerry curl, you know, that era there.

33:32And he kind of like just kind of laid back and he was real quiet.

33:38But that kind of like leveled him off by him, had to go to a drug treatment center and his

33:45grandmother and mother both being ministers.

33:50You never know what rock bottom people have to go through in order for them to get it together.

33:55And I, I, I'm stuck on, I guess that's the right word, but I'm going to stay on.

34:03Here we go.

34:04You, you saying about the, the ministers and stuff like that from my experience, even though

34:13that they get up there and they sit up there in a pulpit and they say these great stories and

34:18lead different congregations,

34:20sometimes their households can be, be the most destructive and turned upside down.

34:25And they produce some of the most wicked and crazy things out there.

34:28But.

34:29Oh yeah.

34:32Move past that one.

34:36I, I, I, I, I want to talk about the car situation.

34:40I want to get this in.

34:41I like how you said that when you came into a lump sum of money, you spoke about how you

34:49wanted to keep a car.

34:51So you said, I'm going to pay for this car with cash.

34:56And even though I know you said it at the moment that your father said, well, what are you going

35:00to do?

35:00Why are you trying to spend your money all in one place?

35:05Um, that was a good, good tip right there that you gave everybody because it is wise to pay in

35:10cash.

35:12Now, do we spend all of our money on a car?

35:15I don't know what the situation is, but I've been in the same situation as, um, Stephanie here tonight.

35:25Where you think that, you know, you got to upgrade, you got to do this.

35:28You got to do that.

35:28You pull into a lot.

35:30The next person next to you to have a better car, you go on to work and you might feel

35:34a certain way.

35:36I ended up buying two cars because I want to, I wanted to flex going into work.

35:42I had a Camaro.

35:45And one day, and then I pull in with a pickup truck the next day.

35:48I thought that I was doing something big, but even though I still bought them with cash.

35:53Yeah.

35:54I was just spending money and I was so concerned about what somebody else thought of me.

35:57So that is the downfall of when you are so consumed of worrying about what somebody else thinks of you.

36:05But I did like the fact that you bought the car in cash.

36:07And that's exactly, uh, what, you know, I teach here at Black Diamond Consultations when it comes to debt-free

36:15living.

36:16And pay for your cars in cash.

36:18Let somebody else do the front work for you by financing.

36:22And then when they turn it in or they get it repossessed or they can't afford the payments.

36:28If you're smart enough, you'll be able to take off, you know, take that car off their hands with minimal

36:33mileage.

36:34And, you know, they've done the front work for you.

36:38Yeah.

36:38I've learned that.

36:39Oh, go ahead.

36:40Go ahead.

36:41I'll put this in here and I say this.

36:44Do you know that most millionaires, and I'll put most because sometimes I just say millionaires in general.

36:49But I'll be, I'll be smart with my comments.

36:53But most millionaires, they do not buy brand new cars.

36:58Yes.

37:01Yes.

37:01So, I, I, I don't know, I was just fixated on a car situation.

37:05I, um, I learned that because, you know, like I said, I've done a lot of counseling.

37:09And I, I learned that from talking to a lot of, you know, the clients I had.

37:16And, uh, you know, I counsel male and females.

37:22And it was most of them females.

37:24They the one that tripped me out when they say, this one lady, she just up and told me, she

37:30said, hey, a person that has just a regular vehicle, I'm with somebody with a whole lot, you know, like

37:37these expensive cars.

37:39She said, I'm not with them because they don't have no money because all their money is in their vehicle.

37:45And, and I, you know, I thought I had to sit back and think about that.

37:49And she said, look on your face.

37:51I said, I never thought about it like that, you know, cause when somebody run into a lot of money,

37:58what do they do?

38:00They go and they dress better.

38:04Okay.

38:06Clothes.

38:07Jewelry.

38:08Jewelry.

38:09Yeah.

38:10And like she said, she moved into a bigger apartment.

38:14That wasn't even necessary.

38:17See, that's unnecessary.

38:19That's unnecessary money.

38:20That's more money she putting out.

38:22And then when she looked back, she seen where her raise was, you know, it was like, she didn't have

38:29a raise because she upgraded to every, she upgraded so much.

38:36That the raise just, you know, she wiped that out.

38:41Right.

38:42And I tell people, I tell, excuse me, even my kids, I tell them, I said, man, you know, me

38:51and my youngest son was talking about that the other day.

38:55And I, and he said that that's for the rich people.

38:59He said, I can't, he said, I don't, we was talking about all, it's an area up in Austin.

39:04It's just like Beverly Hills.

39:05It's a comedy club there.

39:07And that's what we was talking about.

39:08And he said, that ain't my style, dad.

39:11I said, yeah.

39:12I said, I know what you mean, man.

39:13I said, we just go to the comedy club there.

39:16I said, as far as us going at, we ain't never walked down the street, you know, we just go,

39:22we've been there.

39:23We've been in, we've been in a comedy club twice and come to find out a lot of stores from

39:30Beverly Hills have moved or opened up, you know, shop there.

39:37And I know a lot of people who said they just go there.

39:41You know, some do go there to shop because they got the money and some don't.

39:46And one thing I can tell this lady has, has not had any training.

39:56I don't know if I want to say training with finances or she hadn't talked to anybody because of the

40:04things that she said.

40:07And it's a, it's a, it's a lot of people like that.

40:12And I mean, my, even myself and I tell people, I said, man, I didn't got out of debt.

40:18I don't have no headaches no more.

40:20I can sleep at night.

40:21I don't think about, you know, bill collector calling me.

40:27It's just basic financial literacy that most people don't know.

40:32And it affects their relationship with money.

40:35Right.

40:36That's a great way to sum it up.

40:37Right, right, right.

40:38And I just, I just feel for her, you know, but she the one made that, she the one made

40:47that move and hey, she just have to deal with it.

40:51And that's, and that is a great segue to wrap it up.

40:55I'm glad you said that because her last question was, how do you keep growth from turning into pressure?

41:00And you said she made that decision.

41:02You know, as the old folks said, you made your bed, you got to lie in it.

41:06Yeah.

41:06My friend used to tell me, Laren, we write our own stories.

41:12So I'm going to leave everybody with this.

41:14Whatever situation you're dealing with, whether it's financial, whether it's spiritually, whether it's physically, whether it's mentally.

41:22And I know it's tough love and some people may not want to hear it, but we write our own

41:26stories.

41:27So think about what you did to get to this situation here.

41:31And tomorrow is another opportunity to change it.

41:35Not saying that you're going to snap your fingers like who used to do that.

41:40I mean, Jeannie, be which you are, be which anything like that.

41:44Not saying you're going, you're going to be able to do it, but it's a step towards moving towards rewriting

41:50a new chapter in your life.

41:53Yeah.

41:54And that's basically it.

41:55And you know what, maybe, maybe if she downsized, which I don't think she would because she want every, it's

42:03again, she want everybody to look up to her and say, oh, she's doing well.

42:09But that's the first thing everybody holler, especially in the neighborhood.

42:13Oh, he done came up.

42:15Oh, he done came up.

42:16Oh, she done came up.

42:18Came up to what?

42:20You know, more problems.

42:22That's all she came up to or he came up to.

42:26And after a while, once you get it, sometimes that's unnecessary pressure.

42:29Nobody wants that.

42:30I don't want it today.

42:32I don't need nobody to look up and all that extra stuff.

42:35I'm good today.

42:38So.

42:40There we go.

42:41We made it.

42:42We made another episode.

42:46Episode 17.

42:48The promotion that didn't fix anything.

42:52I'm sorry, Stephanie.

42:54We got to work on fixing that next time around, but it ain't fix anything if you don't change your

42:59financial habits.

43:01So.

43:01Exactly.

43:03You want to let the good folks know what you got going on this week.

43:09Where are you going to be at?

43:10Well, this week is another light week as far as reading.

43:15I got one Saturday.

43:18Austin Poetry Society is going to be on Zoom.

43:22I have one Sunday.

43:24And like I said, I'm going to toss a coin on that one again.

43:28It's either going to be Artful Dodger out of New York or it's going to be Performance Poets out of

43:36Florida.

43:37I'm going to toss a coin on that.

43:39Last month, I went to Artful Dodger.

43:41I mean, like I was telling you one time, I enjoy that because of the people in the poems that

43:51they be reading.

43:53So, I mean, there's nothing wrong with Performance Poets, you know, but it's just, I guess, I guess it's just

44:04a thing that people are more friendly.

44:08I guess what it was, I had to find out exactly what it was, but I found out that a

44:13lot of poets that's on Artful Dodger are more friendly towards me than the ones from down in Florida, believe

44:23it or not.

44:24And then, you know, that's all I have that I can think of right now until next week, you know.

44:34I said that's what I was going to, I wanted to see.

44:42Yeah, next week is really going to be, I'm going to be doing two readings almost every night or doing

44:52something.

44:53I'm going to be doing two things.

44:54Yeah, from, you know, Wednesday, Thursday, and on out during the rest of the week.

45:02So, but my book, I had to return.

45:08It was done, but there was some things that need to be changed.

45:15And so I had to return, I had to contact them, and hopefully my book will be out my 16th,

45:24I mean, no, 15th, I'm sorry.

45:27My 15th book should be out, hopefully by the end of this month.

45:32That's what I said.

45:33Um, yeah, my other books you can find on Amazon slash Birdman313.

45:43Um, you can find me on Instagram, uh, Birdman31355.

45:49You can find me on YouTube, author, poet, Birdman31355.

45:55Or if you just put Birdman313, you know, you can find me there too.

46:02Oh man, I'm on it, on it that way.

46:06Um, I'm also on Spotify, on a, uh, it's called Coffee and Wine's platform.

46:12I have videos there, so.

46:17That's what's up.

46:18You know, I'm hoping, I'm hoping to branch out a few more other players.

46:21I keep saying that, and I really ain't made the move yet, because I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm dealing with this

46:28book, Hugh.

46:30So, you know.

46:31I'm going to, I'm going to tell you one reason why, and this is, this is a coaching moment here.

46:36One reason why you haven't branched out.

46:39You want to know why?

46:40Why?

46:42Because you use the word hope.

46:44Take the word hope out of your vocabulary.

46:45Things will change for you.

46:48Just say, I'm branching out into different avenues.

46:51Every day, just say, I'm branching out into these new avenues, and keep saying that, and it'll definitely show up

46:57eventually.

46:58Yeah, you know, you're right about that.

47:00Now, I also, I know we're up against the clock.

47:03We only got a few minutes.

47:04Can you tell us, because next week is, um, we're going to be doing the recording, uh, for the Disc

47:14Six Vitality Live.

47:16So, we're going to be focusing on that next week, Lights, Cameras, Action.

47:21So, by the time people, you listen to the podcast, you will be able to view the visuals of it

47:29by the time you get to the next episode.

47:31Because I know we, it's a little delayed.

47:33So, in a minute or less, what would you describe what everyone is in store for when it comes to

47:43the readings that you're going to be doing here on the show next week?

47:48So, I'm going to do some, I'm going to do just some nature poems.

47:52I'm not, I'm trying to get away from the, the, um, negative poems or the revolutionary poems.

47:59I'm trying to stick with just nature poems, something relaxing, inspirational.

48:12So, you there?

48:17Oh, you can't hear me?

48:33Hey, are you there?

48:52Can you hear me?

49:09Are you there?

49:11Are you there?

49:11I'm, I'm here now.

49:12Can you hear me now?

49:14Yeah, I have no idea what happened.

49:17Yeah, I was, yeah, I was, uh, like, uh, can you hear me?

49:23I kept saying, oh, okay.

49:25It was a little technical difficulty, some sort of issue, but yeah, we could, we could.

49:30Yeah.

49:31All right.

49:31Oh, is this week coming up?

49:34Yeah, it'll be next week.

49:36Yep.

49:38Oh, okay.

49:39I mean, okay.

49:40Okay.

49:40I got, I got, I got, I got to, I got to find some, I, like I said, it's going

49:44to, you know,

49:44it's going to, it's going to be some decent poems.

49:47I'm not going to do, you know, I ain't got to worry about me doing no runchy poems.

49:51You know, nothing less, you know, that's how I call them, you know, but, um, like I said,

49:57it's going to be some, um, I probably, I probably read one of the poems I'm, I might read is

50:04going

50:04to be from this upcoming book.

50:07And that's what I may do.

50:08If I can read, uh, four poems, it's going to be a poem each from, from my last four books.

50:16All right.

50:16Well, uh, I'm excited.

50:18I'm sure everybody else, uh, listening, tuning in can't wait for it.

50:23So, um, I will rest up and be ready for next week and have a nice bottle of wine to

50:31accompany

50:31these great poems.

50:33So we, we, we going in next week.

50:37So yeah.

50:39Yeah.

50:39As always, I want to say thank you so much for joining in.

50:43You definitely bring a great insight and I appreciate it.

50:49This has been an amazing journey.

50:51We got so many episodes in and, um, yeah, I'm looking forward to so many more.

50:58So, uh, yeah, so am I, so am I appreciate you and, uh, we'll see you next week.

51:04Okay.

51:05You take care, man.

51:06You too.

51:07Have a good night.

51:08Yeah.

51:09Yeah.

51:09Good night.

51:10Take care now.

51:12All right, ladies and gentlemen, there you have it.

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