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00:00Thank you for joining us.

06:00It's something else.

06:01But yeah, this song is not new.

06:05It was released in 2009.

06:06And when I was introduced to it, it was probably around 2013, 14.

06:13So we're talking even talking even longer than that, all these years later, all these years later just finally, you know, I said five years, but we do the math, it's probably six or seven years later that it actually finally kicked in.

06:34And I said, I'm going to pull up a lot.

06:36And I'm going to pull this up, okay.

06:40And I'm going to pull, you know, I'm going to pull this year, but I'm going to pull this chapter.

06:43And I'm going to pull this scripture up because I want to make sure that I do this right.

06:51and that's what this season is about i'm learning and growing with each and every one of you during

07:00this process and this isn't scripted so i just want to let y'all know this isn't scripted

07:07you know right at the moment right up to the moment you know there will be trials and errors

07:14during this whole process this whole podcasting thing has been you know just that so we hear

07:21proverbs 18 21 death and life are in the power of the tongue and they that love it shall eat the fruit

07:29thereof i i put this in my um financial wellness group and i let them know that what we speak over

07:37our life what we speak over our finances our health relationships our jobs just everything in general

07:43it is so important to be so careful about what you speak over yourself you can either bless your

07:51situation or you can curse your situation just by the words that come out of your own mouth and like

07:57i said before i was in such a dysfunctional space no wonder that you know my relationships were

08:04in turmoil no wonder that my finances were not where they needed to be no wonder why things started to

08:11crumble in the workplace it was just a mess all over because i wasn't paying attention to the words

08:18that i was speaking out of my mouth and the reason why i'm here right now doing what i'm doing right

08:27now is because of the words that i started to speak out of my mouth and um so important we're gonna get

08:34into this tonight but it is so important see i believe in the four pillars when it comes to

08:42debt-free living and it first starts in the spiritual realm you have to understand and know who you are

08:49before back in the day i didn't know who i was and i signed up and i agreed and i basically did

08:56everything that i wasn't supposed to and became very unhappy and very miserable and that also affected

09:03my mental as well and i was showing up very disrespectfully in the world i'm just keeping

09:10it real like i said before black diamond community when i minister to you i minister to myself my mess

09:18became my message and then of course the finances weren't on point it is so important be very careful

09:26with the things that you speak over your life because it starts in the spiritual realm

09:33you know i'm gonna back this thing up and again i'm not an expert you know you have to do your own

09:39due diligence but it starts it starts in the spiritual realm and then it shows up in the physical

09:45it starts in the mind first what we think and then it shows up in the physical it shows up and it

09:55becomes reality what you think becomes reality

09:57tonight i'm gonna speak about what is so important during this time of year after we come out of

10:08the holidays is building an emergency fund you know financial anxiety financial avoidance

10:17and the mental safety net that most people never build it's an emergency fund and it can come from so

10:26many different aspects so tonight we're gonna help miss danielle from baton rouge louisiana

10:35and danielle says laryn my mind never rests when it comes to money i can be sitting on a couch

10:43watching something mindless and my chest tightens out of nowhere i start running numbers in my head

10:48whether it's rent utilities groceries what happens if my car breaks down again i don't have an emergency

10:55fund not a real one and i told myself my credit card is my emergency fund and i know that sounds crazy

11:03when i write about it i grew up watching my mom panic every time something unexpected happened

11:09a flat tire meant tears a doctor bill meant borrowed money and silence i promised myself i'd never live

11:17like that again but here i am same stress different income i avoid my savings account because it reminds

11:24me of how far behind i feel i'll start saving then something small happens and i drain it then i beat

11:31myself up for weeks and stop trying altogether people keep telling me to stay positive about money

11:37the advice makes me angry i don't need positivity i need peace i want to sleep without my mind racing

11:45through the worst case scenarios i want to stop living like everything is about to fall apart how do you

11:51build how do you build financially safety when your mind is always preparing for disaster danielle

12:01now listen as i go through this everyone i want to remind you that i am not a financial advisor i am not a

12:11financial planner i am a financial coach and i strongly urge you all to do your own due diligence and your

12:18own research when it comes to you know the information that you get when it comes to your finances when it

12:24comes to your health when it comes to your mental health do your own due diligence do your own research

12:31research i'm gonna take it to the top

12:33you say your mind never rests when it comes to money

12:38through my experience when my mind used to never rest when it came to money was because

12:45the lack thereof

12:47and the lack thereof

12:50was due to

12:52the choices that i decided to make

12:54i want you all to think about where you are in your financial journey right now

13:00think about where you are in your financial journey

13:03some of us are in a great position

13:08some of us are in a not so great position

13:10but for those of you who are in a not so great position

13:14if you can think back i want you to think back when it was good

13:18i want you to think back what were you doing when it was good

13:22how did you feel

13:24when everything was good

13:26think about that

13:28and that's probably a place that you want to be at right now

13:31but the question that i submit to each and every one of you is

13:35what decision

13:38what actions

13:39caused it to turn

13:42because

13:44i spoke earlier

13:46about how i was in such a

13:48dysfunctional place

13:50there were things that i did that caused that

13:54now when i was going through the dysfunction

13:57when i was going through

13:58the drama

13:59when i was going through the nonsense

14:00i couldn't

14:01think

14:03clearly

14:03because i had so much stuff going on

14:06but

14:06after i have been restored and i got out

14:09i understand

14:11sometimes you just got to get good and sick and tired of yourself

14:16sick and tired of being sick and tired

14:19you have to be

14:19you have to hit that rock bottom core

14:21where you're like

14:22absolutely not

14:24i'm not doing this again

14:25so i

14:26sometimes it will sting hard enough

14:29for you to understand and know well

14:31that's it

14:33that's it right there

14:33i'm not going to do that again

14:34sometimes

14:36you listen

14:37some of us might be hard-headed

14:39and

14:40we might need to go through some things

14:42and that's one thing that i've learned

14:45coming out of 25

14:46you know heading into

14:48you know 26 where we're at now

14:50is that

14:50i can't get upset

14:52if somebody

14:55does not see

14:56things the way that i see it

14:58everybody has to go through their own trials

15:01everybody has to go through their own struggles

15:03everybody has to come out

15:04on the other end

15:06at their own time frame

15:08not necessarily mine

15:09now i'm gonna get back to this

15:11i can be sitting on a couch watching something mindless

15:14and my chest tightens out of nowhere

15:16i know exactly where you're coming from when it comes to that

15:19your issue was over finances

15:23my issue used to be over finances

15:26and relationship issues

15:29and just drumming up and coming up with all types of scenarios that never even occurred

15:34and that was a lack of faith

15:37because here

15:38i was

15:40focusing on

15:41fear

15:42doubt

15:44anxiety

15:45everything

15:46thinking of the worst case scenario

15:48and it never even showed up in the world

15:50it wasn't there yet

15:52but because i continued to focus on that

15:55and when my mind decided to play games

15:57and play tricks

15:58like you know the enemy knows how to do

16:00i continued to feed it

16:04i continued to water those bad seeds

16:07and it got bigger and bigger and bigger to

16:09where it just overtook

16:11my situation

16:13it overtook

16:14you know

16:14where i was at that moment

16:16that's why

16:19you have to be very careful about the things

16:22that are running through your mind

16:24you have to speak over yourself

16:28and you have to say

16:30absolutely not

16:30when those bad thoughts come up

16:32you don't live here anymore

16:34you got to go

16:36not entertain it

16:38not invite the enemy in

16:40not play those same records over and over again

16:43just dismiss it and move on immediately

16:45easier said than done

16:47i understand but

16:48it's a process

16:49then you say you're going to start running numbers in your head

16:54rent, utilities, groceries

16:55and what happens if your car breaks down

16:58i have been there before

17:00and it's no good to be in that situation

17:02always thinking of the worst situation

17:05and because i thought of the worst situation

17:07it robbed my peace and my joy in the moment

17:10i was too far in the future

17:13thinking of something negative that never happened

17:15and letting fear and anxiety control and dictate

17:17how i made moves in the world

17:20and you had a great

17:25point here

17:27you said i don't have an emergency fund

17:29not a real one

17:31i told myself my credit card is an emergency fund

17:33and i know that sounds crazy when i write it out

17:36the stress, the anxiety, mind racing

17:40over rent, bills, utilities, car breaking down

17:44all of that

17:45the reason why that happened

17:47is because of this root cause issue right here

17:49is not having an emergency fund

17:51not having enough money in a bank

17:54so sometimes when

17:58things show up in your mind

18:00starts to race

18:02or you might have

18:03or these bad thoughts

18:05not to sound

18:08you know

18:08weird or anything about it

18:12but sometimes

18:14and i want to twist things around

18:15i know what

18:16what um

18:17energy i've been putting out there

18:19in the beginning of this podcast

18:21but

18:21if that's happening

18:23let that be a reason for you to change some things

18:27again i was so hard-headed

18:30i was so stubborn

18:31when i had those things

18:32that just became normal

18:33you know you get stuck in your own way

18:35you get in your own way

18:36sometimes we have to get out of our own way

18:39and it became normal

18:41and now when i think about it today

18:44after coming out on the other end

18:45absolutely not

18:46i'm not putting up with that

18:47i'm not going to put myself in that situation again

18:50i don't want to feel like that again

18:52once you become debt-free

18:55you don't want to go back

18:57you have to be good and sick and tired of yourself

18:59to where

19:00you're cutting up all of the credit cards

19:02you're stopping the payday loans

19:03you're stopped robbing peter to pay paul

19:07you're just not doing it no more

19:11you don't want to go back

19:14now you told yourself

19:16you don't have a real emergency fund

19:18you have a credit card

19:19this is the worst case scenario right here

19:23is to use your credit card

19:25and go right back into debt

19:26you're already in debt

19:28and now you're telling yourself

19:28that your credit card is an emergency fund

19:30and that's going to put you

19:31into even more debt

19:34this is a problem

19:35and a lot of people don't see this

19:38and again

19:39i can't feel a certain way

19:41i can't

19:43act a certain way

19:45when i see people

19:47who operate like this

19:49i'm just being honest

19:50as a financial coach

19:52this was one of the biggest

19:53lessons for me

19:55people are not going to see things

19:58the way that i see it

19:59number one

20:01not everybody's going to see it

20:04god will give you certain gifts

20:06certain tools

20:08to put in your bag

20:10that you can use

20:11to help navigate

20:12through this thing called life

20:14and when you have these special gifts

20:17and these special

20:17that's what it is

20:20when you have these special gifts

20:21when god gives it to you

20:23what god meant for you

20:24is for you

20:24not for everybody else

20:25now you can use those gifts and tools

20:29to help other people

20:30and to uplift and encourage people

20:32and that's exactly what i'm here to do

20:34and to empower

20:36the individuals

20:37who want to get to the next level

20:39who want to be

20:40break free from debt

20:42and who want to live

20:43and understand and learn about this debt-free living

20:46that's that's what i'm here for

20:47and in the beginning

20:49it was a little

20:50a little interesting

20:51because i took things personal

20:53and i used to feel a certain way

20:56when people didn't see things

20:57or do things

20:58the way that i would do it

21:00and there's no coincidence

21:04that my work life

21:07was a situation

21:09because i was so hard on people

21:11wanting them to do it

21:11exactly the way that i did it

21:13same thing in my relationships

21:15and all of those things

21:16so this has been a full

21:18life learn lesson

21:21and a journey for me

21:22and i am exactly where i need to be

21:24right here

21:25but i'm like

21:27let's continue this thing here

21:28because you know

21:29this is how i do

21:30sometimes i

21:31i'm all over the place

21:32but

21:33we're gonna get into some

21:36uh generational

21:37conversations here

21:40which is so important

21:41i grew up watching my mom panic

21:43every time something unexpected happened

21:45a flat tire meant tears

21:47a doctor bill

21:47meant borrowed money

21:49and silence

21:50and i promised myself

21:51i never lived like that

21:52but here i am

21:54same stress

21:55but different income

21:56ladies and gentlemen

21:58if you don't hear anything

22:00from this podcast

22:01but i need you to hear this

22:03here right now

22:04here

22:04i need you to hear this

22:06right now

22:06this here

22:07today

22:08the mental

22:11aspect

22:12when it comes to

22:13debt-free living

22:13this is so important

22:17too

22:17spiritual

22:18number one

22:19you have to understand

22:20and know who you are

22:21and you have to know

22:23whose you are

22:24so that's number one

22:25but after you

22:26work on that

22:28and you get yourself

22:29into a good

22:30position

22:30you have to focus

22:33on the mental

22:34aspect of it

22:35because our parents

22:37our grandparents

22:38what we were brought up in

22:40what we were exposed to

22:41from the ages of

22:42from the time

22:43we were in the womb

22:44until seven years old

22:46are the most important

22:48times of our lives

22:49because it impacts

22:50and it shapes

22:51of who we will become

22:52as an adult

22:54and what we've learned

22:55about money

22:56what we grew up with

22:57what we experienced

22:59in a household

22:59as a child

23:00directly impacts

23:02who you will become

23:03as an adult

23:04however

23:05you have the ability

23:08to change

23:09and reprogram your mind

23:12to say absolutely not

23:15what my parents

23:16went through

23:17I don't have to do that

23:19what my grandparents

23:20went through

23:21I don't have to do that

23:22what my uncle

23:23auntie

23:24cousins

23:24brothers

23:25sisters

23:26whoever

23:27I do not

23:29have to participate

23:30in that

23:31but

23:32you have to make

23:33that decision

23:34easier

23:35said

23:36than done

23:37if you

23:38look at your

23:39parents lives

23:41if you look at your

23:42grandparents

23:42you look at your

23:43ancestors

23:43you go back

23:44as far as you

23:44want to go back

23:45there

23:46most likely

23:48is a common theme

23:49this is what

23:50this is what it is

23:54when it comes to

23:54generational curses

23:55it will continue

23:56to pass along

23:57to generation

23:59to generation

24:00and in most cases

24:02depending on

24:04what it is

24:05most likely

24:07will get worse

24:10as each

24:11generation

24:12continues

24:13until it's

24:16so bad

24:17that an entire

24:19generation

24:20gets wiped out

24:21so if you grew up

24:25watching your mom

24:26panic every time

24:27and you see that

24:28you're going

24:29through this

24:30for those of you

24:32out there listening

24:32sometimes we go

24:33through these things

24:34and we don't even

24:34understand why

24:35we don't know

24:36why we do

24:36some of the things

24:37we do

24:37because it's been

24:38so embedded in us

24:39from a child

24:40you will subconsciously

24:43pick up and start

24:44doing things

24:45that your parents

24:45do

24:45your grandparents

24:46did

24:47and you don't even

24:47know why you're

24:48doing some of the

24:49things

24:49but once you

24:51recognize it

24:52that does not

24:53mean that you

24:53have to continue

24:54on this path

24:55and on this journey

24:56one thing that

24:57frustrates me most

24:58and I just have

25:01to speak on it

25:02is when people say

25:03oh this is just

25:04tradition

25:05this is just

25:06what we've done

25:06this is how

25:08it's always been

25:09you know what I

25:10have to say to that

25:11absolutely not

25:12now that's how

25:13it's always been

25:13for you

25:14but it is not

25:14going to always

25:15be like that

25:15for me

25:16absolutely not

25:17because like I

25:19said when you

25:19get good and

25:20sick and tired

25:20of yourself

25:21you get good

25:23and sick and

25:23tired of paying

25:24the banks

25:24you get good

25:25and sick and

25:25tired of paying

25:26all of this

25:27extra interest

25:28and car loans

25:30and credit card

25:31interest

25:32and late fees

25:34and absolutely

25:36not I'm not

25:37doing it today

25:37pay a little

25:40bit here

25:41and then pay

25:42the other half

25:42when you get

25:43paid next week

25:43let me borrow

25:46this here

25:47and then when I

25:47get paid

25:48no I'm not

25:49doing it today

25:50sorry

25:51and I know

25:52that there are

25:53so many people

25:54who are comfortable

25:55with that

25:55but I have to

25:58tell you

25:59and I'll tell

26:01anybody this

26:01that don't

26:04have anything

26:04to do with me

26:05but that has

26:05everything to

26:06do with you

26:06when it

26:10comes to

26:10your finances

26:11when it

26:12even when it

26:13comes to

26:13your mental

26:14health

26:14it has

26:17nothing to

26:18do with

26:19all of the

26:19people around

26:20you but it

26:20has everything

26:21to do with

26:22you

26:22now they

26:23might have

26:24contribute

26:25to where

26:28you are

26:28they might

26:31have

26:32played a

26:33little bit

26:33of role

26:33in it

26:33but you

26:35have the

26:36ultimate

26:36say

26:36you have

26:37you make

26:37the ultimate

26:37decision

26:38and like I

26:41said in the

26:41beginning

26:42at the top

26:42of the show

26:42your thoughts

26:43have a balance

26:43to it

26:44starts with

26:44how you

26:44think

26:45and how

26:45you feel

26:46about

26:46yourself

26:46now you

26:51said I

26:51avoid my

26:52savings account

26:53because it

26:53reminds me of

26:54how far

26:54behind I

26:55feel

26:56now remember

26:57what I said

26:58about when

26:58you have

26:59these feelings

26:59when these

27:00feelings show

27:01up

27:01when when

27:03you feel

27:03a certain

27:04way you

27:04know it's

27:05not right

27:05now here's

27:07the problem

27:07when you

27:07feel a

27:08certain way

27:08and you

27:08know it's

27:09not right

27:09but yet

27:10we continue

27:10to do

27:11the same

27:11thing

27:12over and

27:13over and

27:13over again

27:13waking up

27:14the next

27:14day doing

27:15the same

27:15thing over

27:15and over

27:16again

27:16expecting

27:16different

27:17results

27:17ladies and

27:18gentlemen

27:19that's the

27:19definition

27:20of insanity

27:20now I'm

27:22thankful

27:22that I'm

27:23in my

27:24right mind

27:24today

27:24because God

27:25has not

27:26given us

27:26the spirit

27:28of fear

27:29but of

27:30power and

27:31of love

27:31and of

27:31sound

27:31mind

27:32I'm gonna

27:32say that

27:33again

27:33God has

27:34not given

27:34us the

27:35spirit

27:35of fear

27:35but of

27:36power

27:37and of

27:37love

27:38and of

27:38a sound

27:38mind

27:39and I

27:39know

27:39that I

27:40have a

27:40sound

27:40mind

27:40and I

27:41know

27:41that I'm

27:41not out

27:42of my

27:42mind

27:42and I

27:43know

27:43that I'm

27:43not insane

27:44but listen

27:45that doesn't

27:46mean that I

27:47haven't been

27:47there before

27:48and I'm

27:49thankful that I

27:49have my

27:50right mind

27:50today

27:51because I

27:51used to

27:52get up

27:52every

27:53single day

27:54doing the

27:55same exact

27:56thing over

27:57and over

27:57again

27:58entertaining

27:59the same

27:59people over

28:00and over

28:01again

28:01going to

28:02the same

28:03places

28:03that used

28:04to eat

28:04me

28:05and drive

28:05me

28:06crazy

28:06and to

28:07show up

28:08and do

28:08the same

28:09thing

28:09over and

28:10over again

28:10expecting

28:10different

28:11results

28:11and nobody

28:12couldn't tell

28:13me that I

28:13wasn't insane

28:15because I

28:16was

28:16but I

28:17get it

28:17today

28:18and I

28:20realize

28:21today that

28:24God has not

28:24given us a

28:25spirit of

28:25fear but of

28:26power and of

28:27love and of

28:27a sound

28:28mind

28:28that ain't

28:29me

28:30I'm not

28:30signing up

28:31for that

28:31now when

28:33these feelings

28:33come up

28:34you have to

28:35do something

28:36about it

28:36you feel a

28:39certain way

28:39because we

28:40shouldn't be

28:40doing these

28:40things

28:41maybe that's

28:42God's way

28:42of showing

28:43you and

28:43telling you

28:44absolutely

28:44not

28:45do something

28:46a little

28:46different

28:47you know

28:48because he

28:49might let

28:50a lot of

28:51hell and

28:52drama show

28:53up in your

28:53life

28:54to teach you

28:57a lesson

28:57because maybe

28:58you asked

28:58for it

28:59be careful

29:02what you

29:02ask for

29:03because you

29:03just might

29:03get it

29:04I know

29:05I've been

29:05there before

29:05and here's

29:09the thing

29:09you said

29:11you'll start

29:12saving and

29:12then something

29:13small happens

29:14and you drain

29:14it then you

29:15beat yourself

29:16up for weeks

29:17and then you

29:17stop trying

29:18all together

29:19and then people

29:20tell you maybe

29:21you should get

29:21back on it

29:22maybe you know

29:24all over again

29:25and then you

29:25just repeat the

29:26same process

29:27over and over

29:27again and

29:28insanity

29:29don't be

29:30insane today

29:30it's a

29:31choice

29:32it is an

29:35absolute

29:35choice

29:36and

29:37a lot

29:39of that

29:39there's a

29:40lot going

29:41on there

29:41you have

29:42a you

29:43avoid savings

29:44because it

29:45reminds you

29:45of how far

29:46you're behind

29:46you start

29:47saving then

29:47something small

29:48happens you

29:48drain it you

29:49beat yourself

29:49up again

29:50you start to

29:51tell people

29:52about what's

29:52going on which

29:53is an issue

29:53in itself you

29:54got to tell

29:55the right

29:55people it

29:56sounds like

29:57some people

29:58were giving

29:58you some

29:58good advice

29:59by telling

29:59you to stay

30:00positive about

30:01money but

30:01then you said

30:02the advice

30:02makes you

30:03angry and

30:04you don't

30:04need positivity

30:05you need

30:05peace that's

30:07a problem you

30:07do need

30:08positivity you

30:09need people

30:09who are going

30:10to encourage

30:10you uplift

30:11you and get

30:12you on the

30:12right track and

30:13yes you need

30:14peace too but

30:15in order to get

30:16peace you are

30:16going to have to

30:17start doing

30:17something different

30:18when it comes to

30:19how you're saving

30:20and maneuvering and

30:21making moves when

30:23it comes to your

30:23money you want

30:25financial peace you're

30:26going to have to do

30:27things that supports

30:27financial peace you're

30:28going to have to hang

30:29around people that

30:30supports financial

30:31peace I would

30:32submit to you what

30:34does your circle look

30:34like because if you

30:35are going through

30:36these things you're

30:38mimicking you are

30:40modeling you are

30:42mirroring from

30:46somebody from

30:47somewhere think

30:49back maybe it has

30:51to stem with you

30:52know what was going

30:53through with your

30:53childhood what you've

30:54been taught when it

30:55comes to money how

30:57you've been taught

30:57to spend money how

30:59you've been taught

30:59to you know interact

31:02with money when

31:03you're dealing with

31:04money money is a

31:05relationship you have

31:06to have a good

31:07positive relationship

31:08with money just like

31:09you have to have a

31:10good positive

31:10relationship when it

31:11comes to people you

31:13have to treat it the

31:13same exact way so my

31:15question to you is you

31:18might need to go

31:18back in order for you

31:20to break through you

31:21might need to go back

31:22and you might need

31:23to revisit and who's

31:27around you you are an

31:30average only an

31:32average of the five

31:33closest people that

31:34you surround yourself

31:35with that you

31:37entertain interact with

31:38on a daily weekly

31:40monthly basis you are

31:41an average of the five

31:43closest people to you

31:44so I feel that we

31:49might need to start to

31:50go back and look at

31:51your circle as well

31:52you want to sleep

31:54without your mind

31:55racing through the

31:56worst case scenarios

31:57you want to stop

31:58living like everything

31:59is about to fall

32:00apart this is where

32:02I talked in the

32:04beginning about speak

32:05over yourself you

32:07have to have faith it

32:08sounds like you have

32:09more fear than you

32:10have faith a lot of

32:11these things did not

32:12show up you're thinking

32:14about a worst case

32:15scenario your mind is

32:16racing about a worst

32:17case scenario you can't

32:19sleep because you're

32:20too busy focusing on

32:21a worst case scenario

32:22it has not shown up

32:24in a physical realm

32:25however if you

32:27continue to think and

32:28drum up and focus on

32:30and put attention to

32:32these things listen I'm

32:35not an expert but from

32:38what I know from real

32:41life experiences because

32:42I've been there I don't

32:43know who I'm speaking to

32:44I'm just speaking from

32:45real life experiences these

32:47things will eventually show

32:48up in your mental show

32:49up in your physical

32:51world I used to always

32:54think about the worst

32:55case scenario oh this

32:56happened this happened

32:57this person cheated this

32:59happened that didn't

33:00happen you know all over

33:01don't have money for

33:05this can't do this this

33:07is gonna break down

33:08that's gonna happen this

33:09next the other used to

33:12focus on all of the

33:13negative and sure enough

33:16everything started to fall

33:18apart and everything

33:20started to play out

33:21just exactly how I used

33:24to drum up and think up

33:27things in my mind

33:28your question is how do

33:33you build financial safety

33:35when your mind is always

33:36preparing for disaster you

33:39can't I don't believe that

33:43you can I don't believe that

33:45you can build a financial

33:45safety net when your mind

33:47is always preparing for

33:48disaster yes you have to

33:50be very cautious because

33:51life can happen anything

33:53can happen nobody's

33:55promised tomorrow you

33:57know so ridiculous but

34:00things happen so you have

34:03to prepare but you don't

34:06focus on a negative because

34:07if you focus on negative if

34:09you focus on lack you're

34:10going to continue to get

34:11more of that you want to

34:14focus on positive you

34:16know like you said before

34:17you don't need positivity

34:19yes you most certainly do

34:21you need all of it focus on

34:25that that will continue to

34:27show up in your world I'm

34:28just a little thrown back by

34:30that in itself you're saying

34:31that you don't need

34:32positivity

34:32that right there is

34:36something else man

34:37so from the outside

34:45looking in

34:46only thing I could do is

34:48speak from real life

34:49experiences

34:50this calls for

34:53a reset

34:54you have to understand and

34:57know who you are

34:58when it comes to the

35:00spiritual realm

35:01and everything starts with

35:03self

35:04you're gonna have to look in

35:06that mirror and make some

35:08decisions and ask

35:09yourself do you want to

35:11continue to live the life

35:14of insanity

35:14or do you want to focus

35:17more on understanding and

35:18knowing

35:18who

35:20God is

35:22and understanding and

35:24knowing that he doesn't

35:26doesn't give us a spirit of

35:27fear

35:27so when it comes to fear

35:30when it comes to doubt

35:32when it comes to anxiety

35:34when it comes to stress

35:35when it comes to anything

35:37other than L-O-V-E

35:38please know and understand

35:40that that is not from him

35:42that is from the enemy

35:44and when you understand and

35:46know that that is from the

35:46enemy

35:47the question that I would

35:48have to ask

35:49why would you sign up for it

35:52because when I understood

35:54and know that God does not

35:55give us a spirit of fear

35:56oh you mean to tell me that

35:59fear

35:59anxiety

36:00doubt

36:00stress

36:01all of those other things

36:03that I just named are from

36:04the enemy

36:04that's all I needed to know

36:06thank you so much I'm not

36:07signing up for that

36:08I understand and I know

36:10who my father is

36:11and I know who I am

36:13and I don't sign up for that

36:14type of nonsense

36:15I don't sign up for that

36:17thought process

36:18I don't sign up for that

36:19path

36:20absolutely not

36:22like the song of the day

36:24speak

36:24over yourself

36:25you have to have more faith

36:28than you have fear

36:29your faith has to overpower

36:33fear to kick fear out

36:34and say

36:34absolutely not

36:35I'm not afraid

36:36what am I afraid of

36:38so

36:40absolutely not

36:41let's not even get into that

36:45when it comes to fear

36:46especially when it comes to

36:47fearing

36:47man

36:48another individual

36:50you mean to tell me

36:53you've given me power

36:54you've given me

36:54the spirit of power

36:56and of love

36:58and of a sound mind

36:59you know how powerful

37:00power is

37:02thank you so much

37:04thank you

37:04that's all I needed to know

37:06so I say a total reset

37:10but again

37:12this six vitality

37:18is so important

37:18because it has a lot

37:21to do with strength

37:22it has a lot to do

37:23with courage

37:24it has a lot to do

37:25with stepping out on faith

37:27building up

37:31your war chest

37:34preparing

37:37for battle

37:39which

37:41the mental

37:42is so important

37:44understanding

37:46and knowing who you are

37:47knowing that

37:49you know

37:51we had got to go to war

37:52we got to fight

37:53fight for what's ours

37:56and

37:57maintain

37:58all of this

38:01energy

38:03strength

38:03courage

38:04wisdom

38:04this is important

38:07and should not be taken lightly

38:09at all

38:10but you have to make that choice

38:14easier said than done

38:15this is exactly why

38:17I'm here doing

38:18exactly what I'm doing

38:19when I minister to you

38:21I minister to myself

38:23I'm not going to sit here

38:25and act like I'm perfect

38:26I'm not going to sit here

38:29and say that I don't struggle

38:30with things too

38:31even here in 2026

38:34I still

38:35was like okay

38:37we only in a couple days

38:39now what's going to be important

38:42you're either going to go left

38:43or you're going to go right

38:44now which one are you going to do

38:45and the story

38:48has already been written

38:49I have no idea

38:51only God knows

38:53but what I can control

38:54is what I can control

38:56so for

38:57Danielle

38:58and each and every one of you out there

39:00you're going to have to start to look at

39:02your own situations

39:03and say

39:04what is it that I can control

39:06God

39:07what is it that you want me to learn here

39:09in this situation

39:10in this moment right here

39:11and even some of you

39:13who have

39:14hit rock bottom

39:15or

39:15ready

39:17you know

39:18headed right to rock bottom

39:20I know that that doesn't sound nice

39:22but sometimes

39:23we might need to go through these things

39:24so we can

39:25understand and know better

39:26so we can do better

39:27because I wasn't going to learn my lesson

39:29until I hit rock bottom in 2020

39:31because all

39:33leading up to 2020

39:34I was

39:35on this whole roller coaster ride

39:37and every time I went down a hill

39:38it went even deeper and deeper

39:40into the pit of hell

39:41and

39:42some of us

39:43get so fixated on

39:45heaven and hell

39:47and where am I going

39:49to heaven

39:50and

39:50all of this other stuff

39:53listen

39:54I don't have to worry about

39:56heaven and hell

39:57and all of those things

39:58because listen

39:59I experience hell right here on earth

40:01some of us are in hell right now

40:02worried about going to hell

40:03but your environment

40:04and everything that you have going on

40:06is

40:06pure hell

40:07now you need to learn

40:09how to get up out of it

40:10that's the key

40:12understanding and knowing

40:16financial literacy

40:17is more than half the battle

40:21because a lot of us experience

40:23these things

40:24because our finances are

40:26hell

40:27so it shows up in the physical world

40:30your mental

40:34your spiritual

40:35health

40:36will be so much better

40:38when your financial health

40:40is on point

40:40and vice versa

40:42you get that spiritual

40:43and you get that mental health

40:45together

40:45your physical health

40:46and your financial health

40:47it's just all like clockwork

40:49I don't know who I'm speaking to

40:52I'm only speaking from experience

40:53I just learn these things

40:55and through that

41:00I've developed

41:01black diamond consultations

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41:05in debt-free living

41:07and again

41:09I told you

41:09I focus on the spiritual

41:10the mental

41:11the physical

41:12and the financial realms

41:13when it comes to

41:14debt-free living

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41:17and you can sign up

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41:28again

41:30that is at laryngaines.com

41:32you may also

41:34reach out

41:35and you can text me

41:37at 609-210-98

41:39again

41:40that number is

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41:43let me know

41:45how you feel

41:45about tonight's episode

41:46let me know

41:48how you feel

41:48about tonight's burning question

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42:05give a very special

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42:08wow

42:08let me take

42:10a little drink here

42:11I want to give

42:15a very special

42:15thank you

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42:38thank you all so much

42:43now let's get into

42:45this burning question

42:46for reflection

42:47if peace is the goal

42:51why are you relying

42:53on panic driven

42:54solutions instead

42:54of preparation

42:55so if peace

42:57is your end goal

42:58think of your

42:59situation

43:00this is a rhetorical

43:01question

43:01if peace

43:03is your end goal

43:03and maybe you may

43:05not have peace

43:06right now

43:06I spoke about

43:07hell on earth

43:08some of us

43:08are in hell

43:09we're experiencing

43:10hell because

43:11of the situation

43:12and decisions

43:13that we've made

43:14can't blame

43:15anybody else

43:16the reason why

43:17we are at

43:17where we are here

43:18in our lives

43:19right now

43:19is because of

43:20the things

43:20that we have

43:21done

43:21the thoughts

43:23that we were

43:23thinking

43:24the places

43:25that we've

43:25gone

43:25the people

43:27that we

43:27entertained

43:28the things

43:29that we did

43:29not say no

43:30to

43:30the lease

43:34agreements

43:34that we

43:35signed

43:35the car

43:38loans

43:39that we

43:39took out

43:40the payday

43:42loans

43:42that we

43:42took out

43:43the jewelry

43:44the cars

43:44the clothes

43:45the things

43:45that we

43:46bought

43:46that we

43:46probably

43:46shouldn't

43:47have been

43:47buying

43:47the restaurants

43:48that we

43:48continue

43:49to go

43:49to

43:49knowing

43:49full well

43:50that we

43:51should not

43:51be swiping

43:51it on

43:52a credit

43:52card

43:52now your

43:57world is

43:57complete

43:57hell

43:58that

43:59relationship

43:59that you

44:00just

44:01needed to

44:02get into

44:02just because

44:03you didn't

44:04want to

44:04be alone

44:04you didn't

44:06want to

44:06spend the

44:07holidays

44:07alone

44:07here it

44:08is

44:08January

44:08and you're

44:09like

44:09money is

44:10gone

44:10and now

44:12you're next

44:12to somebody

44:13and sleeping

44:13next to

44:14somebody

44:14you don't

44:14even like

44:15why

44:17you sign

44:18that lease

44:19agreement

44:19with that

44:20person

44:20because let's

44:22put our

44:22money together

44:23and we can

44:24get this

44:24bigger

44:24situation

44:25and now

44:25you got

44:26this bigger

44:26situation

44:27either the

44:28person left

44:28you

44:29because sometimes

44:30that happens

44:30after you

44:31sign a lease

44:31agreement and

44:32you're stuck

44:32with the

44:32lease or

44:33you're sitting

44:34here shacking

44:34up might

44:36even be

44:37married to

44:38somebody that

44:38you don't

44:39even love and

44:39you don't

44:40even like

44:40why and

44:43now I'm just

44:44gonna sit in

44:44this situation

44:45and I'm just

44:46gonna be in

44:46this situation

44:47to keep up

44:51with the

44:51Joneses to

44:53show face

44:54out in the

44:54streets so

44:56that people can

44:57think something

44:57about you

44:58thinking that

44:59people are

45:00gonna feel

45:00something about

45:01you

45:01now if

45:05peace was

45:05the end

45:05goal

45:06then why

45:09are you

45:09relying on

45:10these panic

45:10driven solutions

45:11instead of

45:12preparation

45:12I just

45:19gotta put it

45:19out there

45:20a credit

45:23card is

45:24not

45:24preparation

45:26especially if

45:27you don't

45:28know how

45:28to use

45:28it

45:28if you

45:30know how

45:30to use

45:30a credit

45:31card

45:31properly

45:31it could

45:32work in

45:32your favor

45:32but if

45:33you don't

45:33know how

45:34to use

45:34a credit

45:34card

45:34properly

45:35and you're

45:35in debt

45:36that is

45:39not

45:40preparation

45:40you're

45:41setting

45:42yourself up

45:42for failure

45:43setting

45:46yourself up

45:46for disaster

45:47your mental

45:55health

45:55especially when

45:59it comes to

46:00debt free

46:00living

46:01the mental

46:02aspect does

46:03not come

46:03from ignoring

46:04reality

46:04you have

46:06to look

46:06in that

46:07mirror

46:07and understand

46:09and know

46:09who you

46:10are and

46:11what is

46:11going on

46:12in your

46:12situation

46:12and look

46:14around in

46:14your environment

46:15and ask

46:16yourself

46:17did I

46:19sign up

46:20for this

46:20is this

46:24what I

46:24want

46:24so this

46:26is how

46:26life is

46:26going to

46:27be for

46:27me

46:27and if

46:30you're

46:30cool with

46:30it

46:31you're

46:32going to

46:32be able

46:32to sleep

46:33good at

46:33night

46:34you're

46:34going to

46:34be able

46:35to rest

46:35your head

46:35and everything

46:36is going

46:36to be

46:36okay

46:37if you're

46:37not

46:38something's

46:39going to

46:40be tapping

46:40you on

46:41the shoulder

46:41something's

46:42going to

46:42be whispering

46:42in your

46:43ear

46:43that small

46:44voice

46:44is going

46:48to let

46:48you know

46:48uh-uh

46:49this ain't

46:49cool

46:50when you

46:50can't

46:51sleep

46:51at night

46:51pay

46:54attention

46:54laryngaines.com

47:01if you're

47:02interested in

47:03debt-free

47:03living from

47:04the spiritual

47:04mental

47:04physical

47:05financial

47:06realm

47:06head on

47:07over to

47:08laryngaines.com

47:09thank y'all

47:12so much

47:12for tuning

47:13in for

47:13Mental

47:14Monday

47:14Dis

47:18Six

47:19Vitality

47:19we have

47:20so many

47:20great

47:21things

47:21coming up

47:22you are

47:22going to

47:22love

47:23the episode

47:25for

47:26Wind Down

47:26Wednesday

47:27you are

47:28going to

47:29love it

47:29so

47:30listen

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Your Thoughts Have a Balance Too | DISC 6: Vitality | 411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines (Episode 02)

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