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00:00How's everyone doing? Welcome back to the Morning Roasted Podcast. I'm your host, Caleb Thompson.
00:06You know, this is the place where we make your mornings matter the most.
00:09Now, we are here live from New York City as we usually are.
00:13It's a great morning out here today.
00:15If the weather is bad in your area, make sure you bundle up.
00:19If the area, if the weather is bad going into your day, make sure you check the weather and stay safe out there, guys.
00:27Okay, so today we're going to have a good episode for you.
00:30This episode is called Starting.
00:33It's called Starting Again Without Guilt.
00:38Starting Again Without Guilt.
00:40And that can be anything.
00:41Starting your job.
00:42Search over without guilt from the last job.
00:44Starting over.
00:48Making better decisions.
00:50Decisions parenting.
00:53Better decisions parenting.
00:55Starting over again in any area of your life.
00:59But I do want you to know that you can start over again after any bad breakup.
01:03After any bad thing that happens in your life.
01:08You can start over again without guilt.
01:10Okay, so I'm going to give you three talk points here as we usually do.
01:15And you guys are going to make sure that you guys check out the House of Business Podcast.
01:19It airs every Saturday at 6 p.m.
01:23Eastern Standard Time.
01:25That you guys can go over there at the House of Business Podcast 2.0 and check out that channel.
01:29I must appreciate it.
01:30And also check out Words of Edification with Caleb.
01:34That's another channel.
01:36Once again, like I said, we are going to start moving these videos to a YouTube platform.
01:41They're still going to be available on Daily Motion.
01:44But we are going to move them to YouTube just to extend our reach to a more international space.
01:53That's why we're going to do that.
01:55Okay, so like I said, this episode is called Starting Again Without Guilt.
02:00We're going to give you three talk points here as I usually do.
02:02The normal.
02:04Number one is guilt is not a life sentence.
02:08Guilt is not a life sentence.
02:09Because starting again doesn't mean you failed.
02:11It means you've learned.
02:13Guilt often shows up when growth is happening.
02:15But it was never meant to be your permanent address.
02:19So I just want to tell you that, man, you just need to get to a point where you need to understand that you cannot let anything have you hold you in a place of guilt.
02:29As some people may say, if you're a Christian, you know, condemnation.
02:34You cannot let anything hold you in a place of guilt, condemnation.
02:37And the only reason I want to say it, when you have to start over again, sometimes you have to start over again, man.
02:41I've been in plenty of situations.
02:43I've even been married before.
02:45And, man, it's sometimes that when you let go of things, people want you to feel guilty.
02:50Feel like you haven't done enough.
02:51Feel like that, you know, I wasn't a good father.
02:55I wasn't a good, you know, husband or a good wife or a good friend.
02:59You know, sometimes, man, you just have to start over.
03:01You have to leave people behind.
03:02Sometimes you have to cut family off.
03:05Do not let and some things that you said you could survive at the hands of a person that's a narcissist.
03:10And then you will move on with your life.
03:12But they want you to feel guilty about leaving them behind instead of holding themselves accountable for their own actions.
03:17So what I want you to know is that, you know, guilt is not a guilt is not a life sentence.
03:25So whenever you start to move on with your life, whenever you start to move forward, don't let anyone don't have that survivor's remorse.
03:33If people around you do not respect your value, respect who you are as a person, respect, you need to start over.
03:39But when you start over, yeah, sometimes it may hurt.
03:42It might hurt when you start over.
03:43It may hurt when you have to take that fresh leap of faith and you're leaving familiar things behind.
03:49It may hurt.
03:50But what I do want you to know is that starting over, don't start over with guilt.
03:56But, you know, if you do have some guilt or or some type of shame from starting over or some type of guilt from starting over and not because that you've done anything wrong,
04:05because it's been implanted in you that you're doing the right thing, but it's hurting other people and you hate to see other people hurt.
04:12I want you to know something.
04:14I want you to know that that guilt that you feel is not a life sentence.
04:17So it's not a life sentence, man, just, man, just starting again.
04:21It doesn't mean you fail.
04:22You know, some people feel like they fail because they have to start over.
04:25Man, I've started over many a times, man.
04:27I moved.
04:28I moved to one place, man.
04:30I lose everything.
04:31I start over.
04:32I start to move forward, start to accumulate things.
04:35Something else happens.
04:36I start over, man.
04:37It could just be simple things, man.
04:39You know, simple sabotage, man.
04:42Self-sabotage to make you lose certain things, man.
04:45And or trying to get out of the process of becoming makes you lose certain things.
04:51So, you know, when you're moving forward and you're going through a process and you're trying to get out of that process.
04:55So you up and you turn away and you run from from the process of what's to build you.
05:00You will start to lose things because you are outside of a covering.
05:03You are outside of the area where everything that you have is protected.
05:08So, you know, that's from a spiritual sense.
05:10But just coming from this natural sense of what we're talking about is that is that, you know, guilt is not a life sentence.
05:19So I want you to know that, man.
05:20But just release that guilt, man.
05:22Allow clarity, peace.
05:24And, man, just give yourself permission to move forward again.
05:28So that's one thing that I want to let you know.
05:29Number two is you're allowed to choose yourself again.
05:33So you're allowed to choose yourself, man.
05:35A lot of times before we come into these relationships, these business partnerships, before we come into some of these entanglements, as they say, or some of some of these soul ties.
05:46Before we come into some of these points of these soul ties and these relationships with people, even family, even extended family.
05:55Man, you had already chose yourself, man.
05:58You were probably doing well, man.
06:00You were probably OK with being with yourself.
06:01You were probably, you know, making strides and having a good life outside before that person came into your life.
06:10But I want you to know, man, woman, it is OK to choose yourself again.
06:17It's going to be a hard thing to do once you get used to someone.
06:19It's going to be a hard thing to do once you get used to a certain aspect of your life shifting and changing.
06:27And then you start to adapt to that certain change in your life.
06:32And then all of a sudden you have to go back.
06:35You know what I mean?
06:35It's like leaving McDonald's, getting a corporate job and then doing good, experiencing that corporate life and the pay from that and then having to go back to McDonald's.
06:47You know what I mean?
06:47So that's how it kind of feels, man, when you and you kind of feel guilty, feel like you failed.
06:52But it doesn't necessarily mean that a lot of times you will get a taste of something that is truly meant for you.
06:57And it'll be snatched away because it's not with the right person.
07:01It's not with the right group and it's not with the right family.
07:04So in order to save you, yourself and your soul, you know what I mean?
07:08A lot of those things will be snatched away and then you will rebuild towards that same trajectory and that same goal, but build it on a better foundation.
07:19So there's been many times where I've tasted so many things, man.
07:23I've stayed in probably every high rise hotel in the United States, man.
07:27I've traveled probably.
07:28I'll be in California one day and then I'll be in New York and then the next day I'll leave and I'll go to Colorado.
07:36Like, you know, I've traveled all the time.
07:38I've had company cards.
07:40I had accounts over $2 million with the company cards.
07:44I had, you know, I've done it all.
07:47So, but when it gets to a point that, you know, I've lost it all too, multiple times.
07:52I've had it all and I've lost it all and I had to start from the back.
07:55I had to leave all my family behind.
07:57I've had to have to leave everything behind, move back, back to New York City, enter into the homeless system.
08:05You know what I mean?
08:05You went through that system, which, you know, I didn't want to want to go through.
08:09Went through that system while still building a business.
08:12So building eight different companies.
08:14Now, now we're at 35 companies, but building eight different companies while going through the homeless system.
08:23While still trying to find a home, while still trying to budget, budget the finances you had, while still trying to have Zoom meetings, while still dealing with the resistance of individuals around you that see you're trying to make something happen in your life.
08:39And they're trying to resist you for no good reason just because they don't want you to have anything because some people would rather spend all that time, energy and attention towards trying to stop you instead of taking that energy and trying to fix their own life.
08:51It doesn't make sense to me, but, you know, sometimes resistance is good.
08:55So, you know, I won't, I won't deny it.
08:57I won't say that, you know what I mean?
08:58I don't need it for training.
08:59You know what I mean?
09:00If you can get past people resisting you at such a low level where there's low income, where it's, you know what I mean?
09:09It's a bad mindset where people, you know, think that you're the problem because, you know what I mean, because you want to have something.
09:15If you can get through that rough patch of life, there's nobody at the top that can stop you because most people at the top, they already have the mentality of one something in life.
09:25But if you can make it through that rough patch of being surrounded and attacked by low vibrational people, people that are in certain low economic neighborhoods that has this ideology that everybody, nobody needs to make it out of this.
09:38They were, it's the people who, the people that have the last, has the worst mindset, always want to control people the most.
09:45Have you ever seen somebody that's in like a gang or something of that sort?
09:49And they're like, man, this is our block, but they don't even know about real estate.
09:53They was raised there. They paid rent their whole life.
09:56And they told me, this is my block.
09:57They want to, a lot of people who are low vibrational, who don't really understand a lot of things that they need to understand to really own their own and build generational wealth.
10:06They want to control the most.
10:08You know, some people, man, they feel like, you know, other people are entitled, but they're more entitled.
10:14So I want you to understand something there.
10:16Don't let anybody control you.
10:17If you can make it through those things, like I said, I've had to start over plenty of times.
10:21So don't, don't let that, um, don't let that, uh, don't let that stop yourself, man.
10:26You're allowed to choose yourself again.
10:28Starting over is an act of, is an out, is an, is starting over is an act of self-respect.
10:34It's not selfishness.
10:37So whether it's a new season, man, a new habit, man, that you replace the old habit with, man, relationships, or even the calling God is calling you to move forward in life in a certain direction.
10:46Maybe you're burnt out, man, just doing the same thing every day, man, you know, and I'm, and I'm, I'm saying this, man, there would be some people that would do rich crap to try to put you in a, uh, uh, uh, uh, infinite loop to do the same thing every day.
10:59And they're doing the same thing every day.
11:02Why?
11:02How you can't, how can you not break the loop in a pattern of you wasting your life doing everything, same thing every day.
11:09And you want to put that or project that or instill that or plant a seed of that in somebody else's life.
11:15You know what I mean?
11:16See, a lot of times, man, people, they don't want to do the work to come up to the level you're at.
11:21They would rather put in the work to pull you down where they're at.
11:24You know what I'm saying?
11:25That doesn't make sense because it takes the same amount of energy, the same amount of energy it takes to stay stuck is the same amount of energy it's going to take for you to move forward in life.
11:34It doesn't matter.
11:35It just matters where you place your energy, where you, if I, if I sit, sit, sit all day and direct my energy towards a certain person or thing, whether good or bad, that is what is going to grow.
11:46So I want you to know that that's, that you have to, you have to place your energy where it belongs, man.
11:52You know what I mean?
11:52So, man, starting over is a self, uh, is an act of self-respect, man.
11:56Sometimes, man, when people don't respect you, they don't respect your value.
11:59They don't really care who you are.
12:01They don't, they don't, they don't really understand that, uh, the value that you carry or what you bring to the table.
12:08You know, a lot of times the people are familiar to as well.
12:10And I'm not just talking about people that, that meet you and are automatically jealous.
12:14You know, people that you never talk to, you never harm, you never, so those types of people are out there.
12:19There are types of people who are paid to gang stalk you.
12:21There are types of people out there that are paid to, um, pay to interrupt your plans.
12:26You know, um, from these different groups and some of these governmental groups and things like that.
12:31But what, that's not what I'm saying.
12:32But what I'm saying is that, what I'm saying is there are people who will get too familiar with who you are.
12:39People you grew up around, your cousins, your, you know, some people.
12:43There are some people that were, um, will get too familiar with who you are or who they think you are or who they think you should be.
12:54Some people will place embargoes over your life because they want you to stay the version that they lied on you about.
13:01Oh man, he's never going to be anything.
13:02She's never going to be anything.
13:04And then once you break that mold, come out of that projection of out of that, you know, what they think you should be out of that false narrative of what they, what you, they think you should be.
13:15Then all of a sudden they work hard to pull you back into that same narrative because they don't want to be wrong.
13:22So instead of correcting themselves, holding themselves accountable and admitting, Hey man, I probably thought you would have never been nothing just because of the path you were on.
13:30But I, I, you know, things happen.
13:32People change instead of admitting that they work tooth and nail and any means necessary to pull you back to a place that you've grown from.
13:40It doesn't, it doesn't really, just so they won't be wrong.
13:42They want to be right so bad.
13:44But a lot of these people can't even be right about the partner they choose.
13:48They can't even be right about their career choice or can't even be right about what they need to do with their own personal lives.
13:55So that is what is destroying society.
13:57That is what is keeping people in places of poverty.
14:01It's people that go through certain things and they break, they break mentally under small amounts of pressure.
14:08But they see you effortlessly going through the same things that broke them and it causes resentment.
14:13And now they want to harm you because they're not able to go through the same things that they would dish out because something, someone broke them.
14:22Someone seen them having dreams.
14:23It may be their own mother.
14:25It may be their own father.
14:26Someone broke, someone took the time, seen the light that was in them.
14:30They had already been broken and took the time to manipulate and break their own child and snatch that light out of their own child because they feel like, you know, if I've never made it in life, what makes you think you should make it?
14:42If I've never, if I've never accomplished anything and then they come around with that fake love as if, you know, you know, it's going to be all right.
14:50You know what I mean?
14:50I'm here for you.
14:51But the very person that raised you could be jealous of you.
14:54The very person that's closest to you can, can be jealous of you.
14:58They don't want you to make it.
14:59You know what I mean?
14:59And it's not because some people think that, man, I want my, I want my child to make it that way.
15:05You know what I mean?
15:06It'll get us all out the hood.
15:07I'm rooting for you.
15:08But I'm going to tell you, tell you something right now.
15:09And this is some of my personal experience in my life.
15:11Just with some, just because you may carry a light or just because you might carry the light of Christ or just because your parent doesn't carry it.
15:19No, they will either try to siphon it, exchange your destiny.
15:22They will probably try to marry you to some, some, sacrifice you to some demonic entity.
15:28Now, I'm not trying to scare you guys, but what I, you know what I mean?
15:31In order to put a life insurance policy on you.
15:33Because, you know, the more light that you carry, they feel like there's a higher reward, you know what I mean?
15:38By doing certain things to you.
15:39So, I want you to know that you have to start over sometimes.
15:44You have to leave these evil people behind.
15:46You have to leave these people behind that are familiar.
15:49They feel like they are familiar with who you are.
15:51These people who are just headstrong on making sure that they destroy your life, destroy your image, destroy your character.
15:59These people that feel like that they are, they have to be right about you because they've talked, they went around town.
16:04They've told so many people so many wrong things about you.
16:07So, a lot of individuals feel like that, man, I can't get out of this narrative of who I am.
16:12And it's not you.
16:13It's not you that can't find a good job.
16:15It's not you that's not intelligent.
16:17It's the people around you who have went behind your back without you noticing, talking about you.
16:22And then, now they have to keep you in that space.
16:24Like, yeah, I always have to come help her with her kids.
16:27You know what I mean?
16:27But the truth is, you really don't need the help.
16:30They're using certain things to keep you from flourishing, flourishing financially so that you wouldn't leave them behind.
16:36They won't feel like they're helpless.
16:39They won't feel like you're independent.
16:41So, some people will, parents and other things, will put things in your way to keep you where you always need them, keep you where you're struggling so they can feel like they have a purpose.
16:50And their purpose is to silently manipulate you and control your life.
16:53So, but if you get to a point where you have to start over and you have to leave these people behind, man, I want you to know you're being wise.
17:02You know what I mean?
17:02Like I said, brother, it's a new season, a new habit, new relationship or a calling.
17:06And sometimes a calling on your life, if you want better for yourself, will cause you to move forward.
17:11So, choosing yourself doesn't erase the past, but it does, it do redeem it.
17:16So, choosing yourself, it doesn't erase the past, it doesn't erase things that you've been through, it doesn't erase the people that you've grew up around.
17:24It doesn't erase those experiences, it doesn't erase, you know, certain hardships that you went through, but use those things to build the next chapter of your life.
17:32And once you leave and get away from familiar things, do not feel guilty about it.
17:37You just have to do it, man.
17:38You just have to move forward.
17:39But you have to make a decision and say, man, is the life that I'm living and the people I'm around, do they really care about me?
17:46Or am I using them as a crutch and they're using me as a crutch so that we can stay stuck?
17:51You know, sometimes, man, like crabs in a bucket, man.
17:53Sometimes people are scared to be disliked, man.
17:57That's one thing that I understood.
17:58People are scared to be disliked, man.
18:00You know what I mean?
18:01Your cousin called you, he talking, he know he's really jealous of you, you know what I mean?
18:05Y'all talking on the phone like y'all cool, but every time something good happens in your life, you know what I'm saying?
18:10He doesn't congratulate you.
18:11You have to look at that.
18:12When something good happens in your life, look at the expression on a person's face within the first five seconds.
18:18Within the first five seconds of you telling someone some good news, watch their facial expression.
18:22Now, if their facial expression kind of frowns up a little bit once they hear good news or their spirit cringes, you know for it.
18:31And then they may say, oh, I'm so happy for you.
18:33Don't listen to the words.
18:34But within the first three seconds of you telling someone some good news, look at their facial expression.
18:39And look, they may try to mask it, but if their spirit cringes, you need to get them away from you.
18:44They're very dangerous.
18:45You know what I mean?
18:46Those friends doing silent competition, silent hatred with you, those are the most dangerous people.
18:52And those are the people we keep the closest.
18:54And they feel like that they're only around because they're trying to gather information to stay ahead of you,
19:01to continue to manipulate you so they can watch your life, try to manipulate and control your life.
19:06But then they don't, they want to out be you.
19:09And if they can't be you, they at least want to control you.
19:12You know what I mean?
19:13So you have to get away from these people, man.
19:15You have to, man, you have to do whatever you have to do and get away from these people.
19:18So that's number two.
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19:32Today's episode is starting again without guilt.
19:35I give you three talk points as I usually do.
19:37The first one is guilt is not a life sentence.
19:40Number two is you're allowed to choose yourself again.
19:43And number three, and this is our final point, grace makes rooms for new beginnings.
19:48So every restart needs grace.
19:50Grace with your timing, your mistakes, and with your process.
19:53Man, a lot of times, man, I've known a lot of people.
19:57And you know what they'll do?
19:58A lot of people, they'll let their boyfriend cheat on them, and they'll take them back again.
20:05They'll let their girlfriend, you know, steal from them, cheat on them, and they'll take them back again because they're in love.
20:12They'll let their parents mistreat them.
20:13They'll let, you know what I mean?
20:15Some people let their kids cuss them out and disrespect them in public and fall all out on the floor.
20:21People will have grace for everybody else.
20:25But when it comes time for them to have grace on themselves, give yourself a little bit of grace.
20:30Man, understand quit being so hard on yourself.
20:33Understand that you make mistakes.
20:34How can you have grace and compassion for everybody around you?
20:40And you can be used up by everybody around you.
20:42You could be spread thin and by everyone around you.
20:45You're always there for everybody that calls you.
20:47But when it comes time for someone to be there for you, nobody's there.
20:51And then when it comes time for you to make a hard decision to move forward in your life, now you're feeling guilty.
20:56But I need you to give yourself some grace.
20:59You know what I'm saying?
20:59Give yourself some grace, man.
21:01Whatever you've done in the past, you need to let it go, man.
21:03Whatever you've done in your mistakes or give yourself grace, man, for time.
21:10And not everything is going to happen right when you want it to happen.
21:13Not everything is going to snap when you want it to snap.
21:18But there is a process to everything.
21:20There's a process for healing.
21:22You need to figure out, you know, when you are hurt or you have been hurt or you are placed in a place where you are, you know, like I said, man, trying to heal from that hurt.
21:31The first thing that you need to understand and need to do is how did I get myself in a situation that caused me to feel the way that I feel?
21:38A lot of times, man, when people break getting a breakup, man, they just automatically go to the next person.
21:43They really don't take the time to make sure that they do not attract the same person.
21:48You know what I mean?
21:49Attract the same person, different package.
21:51You know what I mean?
21:51So they don't go to the through the process to sit with themselves and say, you know, how did that happen?
21:57OK, it happened for once because I'm still a little bit of toxic.
22:00I still got a little ratchet in me.
22:02So I track that.
22:03That's something that I really, really like.
22:05I like a little bit of toxic.
22:07Some people can't even be honest with themselves and say that, man, yeah, man, I think, man, life is life is good.
22:13I do want a good person.
22:14But me, myself, I still got a little.
22:16I still got a little hood in me.
22:17You know what I'm saying?
22:18So I still want to.
22:19But you.
22:20But it's OK to have a little bit of hood and it's OK to have a little bit of ratchet in you.
22:24It's OK.
22:25It's OK to have that in you, but prioritize that.
22:28So sometimes you want to you can want a good person.
22:32You want somebody that's going to provide for you.
22:34You want somebody that's going to respect you.
22:35But you let the ratchet ratchetness and you override the thing that you want to attract.
22:41So it's like this.
22:42I can be a multi-millionaire business, man.
22:46I still got some hood in me.
22:47You know what I mean?
22:48But my my respect and what I want to attract is prioritized over me being hood.
22:54There's a point in time.
22:55This is just it's going to it's going to come out of my conversation.
22:57It's going to come out in my intellect.
22:59It's going to come out of my manurism is because it's a part of me.
23:03But I don't allow that part of me to run rampant to the point where it self-sabotages my relationships and what I'm trying to attract and what I'm trying to do.
23:11You need to get it's OK to have flaws in you.
23:14It's OK to have areas of your life that aren't aren't you know, it's OK to have mistakes.
23:19It's OK to have weaknesses.
23:21It's OK for the certain type certain areas and of your personality.
23:26Now, I don't want you to erase your personality.
23:29What I want you to do is to shape and prioritize it to the point that you can attract what you want.
23:34You got to you.
23:35You think you think a man coming in, you know, I don't care if his financials is straight.
23:39You think a man coming in just like a bomb to a bank and trying to get a million dollar loan.
23:43He can have all his financials in order.
23:45His credit could be perfect.
23:47But just because of what he looks like, not saying this is right, but just because of what he looks like and how he presented himself automatically within everybody's mind denied him for that loan.
23:56And no one wants to help him.
23:58You know, they might give him a sandwich, but he's like, man, I'm sure I'm wealthy.
24:01You know, I just came to get a loan for something else.
24:03But the way that he presented himself gave the gave the gave gave the the visualization that that he he didn't come there for that that point or he's playing or why is he here?
24:15So I want you to know that.
24:16But you have to prioritize what you're trying to attract.
24:20You know, you have to already be there.
24:22You know, I mean, you need to if you want to if you want a good man or whatever you need to, you know, I mean, start doing the things that a woman would do that.
24:30You know that you can attract a good man and the things that you can't do.
24:33If you already set it up in your mind, I'm not going to cook.
24:36You know, I need I need a man is going to cook or if you if you are a man and you said, man, you know, I mean, you know, I mean, I love to cook.
24:43Well, I'm not going to I'm not going to watch do these or do this and do that.
24:47Whatever your your non-negotiables are, whatever your priorities are, whatever it is, make sure it aligns with the person you're trying to attract.
24:53Like, quit trying to get it, quit trying to get a person that loves God and you, you know what I'm saying?
25:00And you and you you at this, you love to be at the strip club.
25:03I'm just saying like that, like you have to pick like don't try to find a if you're a pimp, don't try to find a wife at the library.
25:10You know what I'm saying? Go go out there, find find somebody that aligns with who you are.
25:16And that relationship will last longer.
25:17The only thing about this, about finding relationships that that align with who you are at the moment, you have to find a relationship that aligns with where you're going.
25:27You know, you guys can relate right now at the moment, but you also have a mindset that as she starts to grow, you will continue to be be loyal and be be there through the process as she grows and encourage her.
25:40And then the man, as he grows, he may outgrow the woman he's with and take a longer stride.
25:47But you know what I mean? She needs to encourage him as a growth.
25:50So when you are in a relationship, it's never meant to stay the same as for you guys to push each other to grow to a point that, you know what I mean?
25:57You guys complete each other instead of compete with each other.
25:59So but I want you to know, but you need to give yourself grace and make make that grace is what makes room for the new beginning.
26:07So while you give me yourself grace, you're going through the process.
26:10You need to be building yourself in that isolation or building yourself while you're away from everyone.
26:17Start to build your wisdom, start to build your value.
26:20Is there something that you like to do? Is there something that you want to learn?
26:23You know, I sit around, I learn languages, you know what I mean?
26:25You know, I have anything to do and I feel bored. I start to learn different languages, you know what I mean?
26:29Just so when I encounter someone that, you know what I mean, I can at least address myself, say my name.
26:35Hey, how are you? You know, it's a beautiful day out here today.
26:37So, you know what I mean? I know four different languages, you know what I mean?
26:41Going on to five, trying to learn Korean now.
26:44But, you know what I'm saying? I speak four different languages and outside of English.
26:48So, and that's just because, you know, a lot of times when people isolate you or when people want to isolate you and they want to, you know, they want to, let's say, reject you.
27:02They want to isolate you and reject you and stuff like that.
27:04Sometimes, man, all that is, is, man, just putting you in a place where you can start to move forward in life on your own.
27:12You know what I mean? So, start to, start to do that. Start to take that isolation.
27:16Start to take all the things that, that are causing you to start over that rejection.
27:23Do that and start to move forward.
27:27Okay, so grace makes room for new beginners. Like we just said, man, you don't owe your past an explanation for your future.
27:33You know what I mean? That's one thing I'm going to leave with you here today.
27:35You do not owe your past an explanation for your future.
27:39You do not owe your past an explanation for your future.
27:43So, when you're moving forward in life, a lot of people want to hold you to your past.
27:46A lot of people want to hold you back to that person that they thought that they once knew.
27:51Yeah, once upon a time, yeah, you may have been a, you may have been an alcoholic,
27:54but that doesn't mean you have to stay alcoholic the rest of your life.
27:57And I'm not saying that people can't socially or occasionally drink.
28:00Now, I'm just talking about some of these generational curses that have went through the bloodline,
28:04that every, every, all your uncles are alcoholics,
28:07your mother, your father's alcoholic, your great-grandpa was alcoholic.
28:11You know what I'm saying? I'm talking about that heavy generational curse.
28:15And I'm not talking about just drinking socially.
28:17So, but, you know, some people, man, when they see you not doing what everyone else in the family does,
28:21everybody in the family gossips, you just don't have time to gossip.
28:25Oh, now you're weird. Oh, now you think you're better than everyone.
28:28You cannot let that stop you from wanting better for your life and wanting to move forward for your life.
28:32And you just can't let that stop you.
28:34So you do not owe you a pass and explanation for your future and where you want to go.
28:39Whatever you want, this is one thing that I really want to tell you, too.
28:41When you start to build your future, build your future in silence.
28:45You know what I mean? Start to build your future in silence.
28:47Man, I don't care if you're saying, all right, man, it's about to snow.
28:52So, man, I may start a snow removal service where I just get me a little basket.
28:56I get me some bags of salt. You know what I mean?
28:58I start to invest when it's not even snowing.
29:01You know what I mean? Let's say June.
29:03I start to, man, take my extra money, buy some salt, buy me a snow shovel.
29:07And then I can go around to every person's house and say, man, you know what I mean?
29:11Hey, buy me some cards in the summertime and start to build my inventory until the snow starts to hit.
29:17And then start to, you know, call clients.
29:19You know what I mean? Go to people's houses before it starts to get too cold and say, man, here, man,
29:22you ever need your driveway shoveled or anything before work, man, I'm on call around here in this area.
29:28You just call me. So, but a lot of things that you do, do it in silence, man.
29:32Don't tell everybody, man, that you're building a logo for your business.
29:35Don't tell everybody that the reason why you got salt, you know, in your garage or in your house
29:39and it's not even snowing yet is because just you're building up the inventory for you.
29:43But don't tell anybody anything. You know what I mean?
29:45Just do what you need to do. Keep it in silence. And then once it starts to, and it'll be easier for it to pick up traction.
29:52It'll be easier for it to work because now you have nobody spending their time, energy and negative attention trying to sabotage something.
30:00You know, and the whole time that they're thinking, they're thinking that, you know what I mean?
30:03You're just like them. You're just, you know what I mean?
30:05You're sitting around drinking. You can, you can, you can, you can, I'm not, I'm not encouraged,
30:10but I'm saying you can drink and you can still be creating a business.
30:14You know what I'm saying? And I'm saying you can, you can, people can think that you're, you're this person.
30:19And the whole time behind the scenes, nobody knows. You can be like Batman.
30:23You can be like Bruce Wayne. You really Batman. Nobody really knows.
30:26So you can still do with you or if you're doing it with a spouse, if you have a spouse or somebody that you, that you love,
30:33don't let everyone know your every move.
30:34You guys get together, come up with a five-year plan or just come up with a plan to make it throughout the rest of the year.
30:39Okay, baby, what do you, what do you need to do?
30:42Well, I really need to fix my credit. Okay. I need to fix my credit too. How can we do that?
30:46You know what I mean? You don't have to pay some big law firm to fix your credit.
30:49What you can do is you can send these credit dispute letters and everything that's on, that's on your credit report from the last seven years has to,
30:57has to fall off that automatically raises your score.
30:59Everything from everything that was sent to a collection agency that doesn't have your agreement or your,
31:07you agreeing with that. They'll have to send you certain pieces of paperwork where they'll have to show you that you agree to this and certain types of certain things.
31:14But if you, if you, if that, if they cannot come up with that type of information, all that has, so you can go from a 500, 100 credit score to almost a 700 by sending a credit dispute letter with,
31:27because they, these made by what these major, major credit card credit companies and their credit bureaus, and they really just don't have the information.
31:34Only thing that they're being fed is information that they're given and then they put it on your credit, but they don't have the information at hand to, um, you know,
31:42to fight back or to resist you disputing that item on your credit.
31:46So it has to fall off and then automatically, you know, raise your credit score to 700, just off one credit dispute letter.
31:53You don't have to pay some big law firm to fix your credit, knock every item off one by one.
31:58You don't have to do that. Send that credit dispute letter.
32:00So certain things will fall off and whatever doesn't fall off and they have evidence to make it stick.
32:05You can set up a payment plan or you could, you know, start to find other ways to get that off of your credit.
32:10So, but ask your spouse to ask you right now where we are, what we doing.
32:15Are we satisfied with our lives? Okay. We're not satisfied. Okay.
32:18What's the first thing that you need to do? Well, I got some loans.
32:21I got some court loans I need to pay off. Okay. Well, what we need to do is we need to learn how to budget.
32:25You know what I'm saying? I spent too much money on cigarettes. We need to learn how to budget.
32:29I spent too much, I spent too much money on food. We need to learn how to eat at home or something.
32:33We need to start to figure out how we can fix our, fix our lives slowly.
32:38It doesn't have to be some overnight transformation, but it starts with the small things.
32:42If you're going to be together, if you want to make a life for yourself, you don't like the area that you're living in.
32:47You don't have to live in, you don't have to live in certain parts of New York.
32:51You know what I mean? You don't have to live in Lake Georgia.
32:53You don't have to live in Minerva. You don't have to live in Queensbury.
32:56You can live in the Hamptons. You know what I'm saying?
32:57You can live somewhere else. You are not limited to your reality.
33:03Your reality is how you see yourself and where you want to go in life.
33:06So that's why I want you to know, but give yourself grace and understand that it takes time.
33:12It takes time, man, but you got to start somewhere, man.
33:15The best time to start now is the first month of 2026.
33:18Man, if you want to figure out everything that you do not like about yourself, that you do not like about,
33:25even you don't like about people, but you can't say you don't, you don't, you can't say that you don't,
33:30you don't like when people talk about you, but you talking about people.
33:32You can't, so find out what you don't like about yourself and start to fix that.
33:37Find out what you don't like about people and start to avoid those people.
33:40And so that you won't, your spirit won't be cut down every time that type of person comes around you.
33:46I don't care if it's family, you know what I mean?
33:47So find out what you don't like about yourself, what you don't like about your life and come up with a plan to fix it.
33:55You don't like being broke.
33:56Well, okay, well, if we don't have a lot, we don't have a lot of money, we don't have a lot of money to do this and do that.
34:02Okay.
34:02I don't care if you, I hate to say it like this, but I don't care if you have to do, I'm not saying nothing wrong,
34:07but if you have to sell bottled water, maybe you can bottle, bottle water with cash.
34:11Maybe you use another means to buy it, but I don't care if you have to sell bottled water.
34:14I don't care if you have to sell hot chocolate.
34:16I don't care if you have to, whatever you have to do until you can get to the point where you can accumulate a little bit of cash.
34:23Sometimes, man, learn about day trading, man.
34:25Sometimes it's hard to, it's hard for people to learn that skill set about day trading,
34:29but everything that you do is just going to be like riding a bike.
34:32But when you was, when you were little, you had to ride the bike with training wheels.
34:35You had to ride it with training wheels, but you had to ride it with helmet, knee pads, arm, elbow pads.
34:41You didn't just get on a bike with training wheels.
34:43You had to have extra protection.
34:44And then as you got better, you know what I'm saying?
34:47You still had the extra protection on, but you lost the training wheels, even though you fell off a couple of times.
34:51And then when you really started to ride the bike, you didn't need the extra protection because you knew what you were doing.
34:56And then a little bit later, you know what I mean?
34:58You started to do tricks on the bike because it came effortlessly.
35:01That's the same thing with any process that you go through.
35:03If I want to learn how to fix a Ford F-150, yeah, I'm starting over at a brand new level.
35:08I don't know how to break the motor down or I don't know how to, you know, fix this truck.
35:12I never fixed one before, but I'm starting at the starting point.
35:15And as I continue to work on that same design or that same type of truck, then it will become effortlessly and flawless to me.
35:21I'll be able to tell him, man, no, man, move.
35:24I can tell that that's the car operator.
35:25I can tell, you know what I mean?
35:27That those sensors, those plugs needs to be changed.
35:30I can tell that, you know, just by listening to the car, but it becomes effortlessly as you continue to go through the process and put the work in.
35:38You know what I'm saying?
35:39You wonder why somebody just pop into a place and do something and leave and it just seems effortlessly.
35:44Don't you think for one second that it just came like that?
35:48He had to learn the process to do it.
35:50He had to practice it.
35:51And then it got to a point where he can just go in, do what he needs to do, say what he needs to say.
35:55It comes with practice or practice make perfect, but man, grace makes room for your new beginnings, man.
36:01I want you to, you don't, you don't owe your, your past explanation for your future, man.
36:06It's just starting again without guilt.
36:08It's trusting that God's mercy is already ahead of you and it's waiting for you to make the decision to better your life.
36:15So this is the Morning Roasted Podcast.
36:18This is your host, Caleb Thompson.
36:19I'm coming live from New York City.
36:20This is the place where we make your mornings matter the most.
36:22We are here every morning, 6 a.m. Eastern Standard Time.
36:26See you next week.
36:27Peace.
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