00:00With the rise of therapy language, I feel like self-awareness has become something more of a
00:04personality trait rather than an actual behavioral shift. Many of us say we are working on ourselves
00:10and I say it too, but how many of us actually mean it and how many of us are avoiding situations
00:17that hurt us really badly? Because if we are put in the same situation that hurt us before and we
00:24are reacting in the exact same way, did we actually work on ourselves or did we just take a
00:29prettier break which would eventually give us the same outcome? We as a collective has gotten really
00:35good at naming our patterns, traumas, triggers, attachment styles, every pop psychology world.
00:41While it's a good thing that we know all of this, this is not real change. Knowing why you bleed does
00:48not stop the bleeding. So I am going to try something different. Instead of asking myself,
00:53why am I like this over and over again? I am going to ask myself, what do I do when it
00:59matters? How do I react to this situation differently compared to before? Because self-awareness is
01:07not about collecting traits. It's about noticing the loops and moreover understanding how to close them.
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