00:00Here are five habits that force your wife to be the man in the relationship, which is why she can never relax into her feminine energy.
00:07When a woman can't relax into her feminine energy, it's not because she doesn't want to, it's because she doesn't feel safe enough to let go.
00:13Here's five ways that you keep her stuck in her masculine energy.
00:16Number one is not holding a vision for the family.
00:20If she's the only one thinking about the future, making plans, setting goals, then she can't relax because she has to lead.
00:26When you're passive about direction, she by default has to step into the masculine leadership role.
00:32Number two is being inconsistent or unreliable.
00:36Every time that you don't follow through on stuff that you said you would do, she learns that she can't trust you to hold things down.
00:42So she grips tighter. She controls more.
00:45She can't soften and relax because softening and relaxing will mean everything falls apart.
00:50Feminine energy is surrender, right?
00:52But she can't surrender and let go if she doesn't trust that you'll hold it all together when she does.
00:58Number three is avoiding conflict or hard conversations.
01:01If you shut down, avoid, or just go silent anytime there's some tension, you force her to become the confronter, right?
01:08Now she has to confront you.
01:09She has to start the conversation, initiate the conflict to be able to get to the thing underneath that she can sense isn't right.
01:16She has to be the problem solver.
01:17She has to be the one who pushes through discomfort.
01:19That's masculine, bro, and she's doing it because you won't.
01:23So she can't soften and surrender if you make her do that all the time.
01:26Number four is making her manage all of your emotions.
01:30When you're reactive, moody, or need her to soothe and regulate you all the time, she can't be feminine because she has to be your emotional anchor.
01:38Feminine energy flows.
01:39Masculine energy is grounded and contains, right?
01:42So if she's always the one containing you and being grounded so that she can regulate you, how is she supposed to soften and surrender?
01:51Number five is not leading in the relationship.
01:53All right?
01:54Date nights, intimacy, family time, quality time.
01:57If she's the only one who's always making sure the things that will keep the family and the marriage together get done,
02:04how is she supposed to release and relax into her feminine energy?
02:09She's in leader mode, which is masculine.
02:12She can't receive if you're not giving.
02:14She can't surrender if you're not leading.
02:17Look, here's the brutal truth is that your woman doesn't want to be the masculine force in the marriage.
02:22She is exhausted from it.
02:24But she'll keep doing it until you step up because someone has to.
02:28She's in leader mode.
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