00:00Men, we have to talk about it. The more easygoing and passive you are, the more stressed,
00:05controlling, and quote-unquote naggy your wife will become. The truth of the matter is your
00:11wife does not want you to just go with the flow with everything. She really doesn't. The moment
00:14you go with the flow with everything, she has this inbuilt need to take over because somebody
00:20fucking has to. And that is the start of something known as mental mode. It's literally the start of
00:26it. When you go, you know what, it's okay, I'm okay with whatever, she has to pick it up. She
00:33has to
00:33pick it up. Somebody has to pick it up. She's absolutely not willing to live a life where nobody
00:37picks that up. That's the thing. Believe it or not, there is an absolutely clear link
00:41from easygoing men to burnt out women. They're not the reason for all of her stress, but the habits
00:49and the behaviors that you are displaying makes it very freaking clear to her, or at least makes it
00:54feel to her like she's absolutely alone. And that is not you. Don't mistake that with you. It's not
01:03you I'm talking about. It's your behaviors, your behaviors, okay? So don't go into, I'm not good
01:08enough and all this. I understand that's where you feel, but that's like a freaking fixed mindset,
01:13not a growth mindset where you separate yourself from your behaviors. Your behaviors of not leading
01:18in the relationship, they are making her feel alone. They're making her feel like she's the only
01:23one who really gives a shit about the household. The only one who really gives a shit about your
01:27shared life together. The only one that really gives a shit about enjoying the life that you're
01:32in. Now this easygoing behavior, you might be doing it for a number of reasons. Number one,
01:35you might be people pleasing. Number two, you might be easygoing just because you know that her emotions
01:39are quite big and you can't really handle them. So you're kind of just wanting her to be quiet so
01:44that you can, or fix the situation so you don't have to deal with her big, strong emotions.
01:49Another reason why you might be easygoing than passive is because no one's really taught you
01:53how to deal with hard. And so you don't really want to deal with hard. But all of those things,
01:57all of those things, I know you're going to hate this word, but all of those things are boy behaviors.
02:02And all of those things make her feel like you're a boy and not a man. And the worst thing
02:06about that
02:06boy behavior is no wife finds a boy attractive. Not at all. And when you're also in a marriage with
02:14somebody that you don't find attractive, then resentment grows. The hardest thing for us men to
02:18accept is that easygoing and passive side of us, which we think is our character trait, which we
02:24actually think is something that's good about us, is something that's not prioritizing our own family
02:31because we need a spine. And like, I'm telling you from somebody that never used to have a spine,
02:38right? I used to have all heart. But when you don't have a spine, your woman feels that she feels
02:44that
02:45she feels alone. And that's the nature of the game.
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