00:00here's how emotionally mature men respond when their wife is upset versus how immature men respond
00:05when she gets upset there are some very big differences and here they are immature men
00:10take it personally they assume that her emotion is an attack so they get defensive or they shut down
00:16because they feel personally blamed or victimized by her feelings mature men don't make it about
00:23themselves they stay present regulate their own reactions and create space for her to feel
00:29whatever she's feeling even if it's uncomfortable for them immature men need the conversation to end
00:35quickly they rush to solutions invalidate her feelings or try to fix things because they
00:40don't feel comfortable holding space for her emotion mature men slow down they listen they
00:47ask questions and they let her move through the emotion without judgment or blame immature men
00:53fear her intensity they see emotional intensity as chaos or danger and they respond with anger or
01:00avoidance mature men understand that her emotions are not a threat they meet her with calm presence
01:09knowing that that steadiness is what she needs when she's emotionally elevated now being an emotionally
01:15mature man doesn't mean that you never get triggered it just means that you have the capacity to stay
01:21grounded when she's in an emotional storm and being an emotionally immature man does not make you a bad
01:27man it does not make you a bad person it just means you've never been taught how to handle emotions
01:33you've never been taught how to handle emotions maturely
01:34you
01:34you
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