Protection goes beyond the physical — real men protect her vision, peace, and heart. 💙 Here are 5 powerful ways to lead with emotional strength, direction, and honesty.
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00:00Five ways a man can protect and provide that aren't physical or financial.
00:04Number one, protect the vision, which means you actually have to have a vision and make sure that she is a part of it.
00:11There should be no confusion about what you want and where you're headed, because when there is confusion, she feels unsafe.
00:16And when she is unsafe, it gets really hard to trust and respect you.
00:20And don't give up on that vision.
00:22If you say something, make sure that you do it.
00:25Number two, provide emotional stability. And no, that does not mean you have to be the most emotionally intelligent man.
00:32That means that you actually try to acknowledge both her feelings and your own.
00:37You don't run away from hard conversations or big feelings.
00:41You don't dismiss her when she's trying to communicate with you.
00:44Women are emotional creatures. If you don't like it, go be with a man.
00:48Rejecting her emotions, which are a vital part of who she is, is not going to make her feel safe to be herself around you.
00:55Remind her that she is loved and safe, even when her emotions make her feel like she is too much.
01:01Number three, protect her peace.
01:03Help her establish boundaries with others, but also make sure that you are respecting her boundaries.
01:09Protect her from unnecessary drama and stress.
01:12It's that nurturer in her that wants to be everything for everybody, but not everything is deserving of her energy.
01:18If you don't need her input to solve a problem, then handle it quietly.
01:23Feeling like we have to fix everything and solve everything on our own makes us feel unsafe.
01:27Number four, provide direction.
01:30You're the one with the vision. You got to at least have some idea of how to get there.
01:33And I'm not saying you have to have an extremely detailed five, ten year plan, but you have to at least know the next step or two.
01:40And that looks like not only making sure that y'all are disciplined towards taking those steps, but also making sure that those steps are morally aligned and keep your integrity intact.
01:50Because going against your values feels unsafe.
01:54And just be decisive.
01:55And yes, there's a fine line between being decisive and being controlling.
01:59But the difference is if you actually take her needs and her wants into consideration when you're making a decision.
02:06If it actually feels like you thought about us before telling us what we're going to do, it makes it a lot easier to not rebut.
02:13And number five, protect her heart.
02:15Be consistent and transparent.
02:17Stop hiding things from her just because you're afraid and you want to protect yourself.
02:22Because when you keep secrets from her, you are robbing her of her autonomy.
02:26Which is what?
02:28Unsafe.
02:29You have to be honest about where you stand and what you want and then leave it up to her to decide what she wants to do with that.
02:35And stand in your truth, regardless of the consequences.
02:39If she's going to put her heart on the line by loving you, let her love all of you.
02:44Even the ugly parts.
02:45Because if she's committed to you, she's not going to care.
02:48She just want to know what she's getting into.
02:49A safe woman is a peaceful woman.
02:52So if you want that in your relationship, take that and apply it.
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