00:00How to not be awkward on a first date? If you've ever been on a first date, felt sort of like an
00:03interrogation, lots of staring into the distance, eyes glossing over, and lots of awkward silences,
00:09then you should probably give up right now. Just kidding. It's not the end of the world if you've
00:13ever been on an awkward first date, but obviously if this is a pattern and you're going one date
00:17after another that is awkward, then this is a pattern you want to interrupt. So keep watching
00:21and explain how you can be confident in your first dates instead of acting like Mr. Bean. Let's go.
00:25How to not be awkward on a first date? Awkwardness on first dates is usually about insecurity. It
00:34means you're not 100% confident in yourself or what you're doing, but you can eliminate a lot
00:39of awkwardness by creating a dating plan and sticking to it. So follow these steps so you
00:43can create your dating plan, eliminate awkwardness, and have your best date ever. Number one, what is
00:48your end goal? What's your plan for your date? You don't want to be like a leaf in the wind and just
00:52go where it goes. You should have a plan on where you want to take it, where you're going to start,
00:56where you're going to be, where you're going to finish, how the date's going to end, everything.
01:00And that doesn't mean you're going to script out everything. You're definitely not going to script
01:03out everything. And yes, things will come up, which will interrupt your plan potentially,
01:07but generally it's not that complicated. Most dates are pretty straightforward. So have a plan for
01:12your date. If you're just going to meet her, have a coffee, have a conversation, and walk her to her
01:17car afterwards, then that's great. Or if you're going to ask her home, then plan for that as well.
01:22Because whatever your plan is, is going to dictate how you conduct your date. Number two, plan each
01:27stage of your date. And this is going to include number one, your greeting. How are you going to
01:31greet her when you see her? And where are you going to greet her? Is it going to be on the street corner?
01:34Is it going to be inside the coffee shop, inside the bar? Are you going to arrive slightly early and be
01:38ahead of her so you already have a table? And when you see her, are you going to use the full strength of your
01:42voice and a big smile? Two, getting to know her. This is the conversation. Like I said, definitely
01:46don't script out the conversation. It won't work and it's going to be awkward as hell and very robotic.
01:51But focus on what you want to learn from that conversation. What do you want to learn about
01:55her? Who is this girl? What are her ambitions or what are the things she's really into? So focus on
02:00her, get her to open up and share about herself. And the conversation is going to be about a 60-40
02:04split with her speaking about 60% of the time and you speaking about 40% of the time. But you're going to be
02:09leading it the whole time. Number three, closing the date. This is how you're going to finish your
02:13date. Are you going to walk her to her car? Are you going to invite her home? Are you going to go for
02:17a short walk? Are you going to take her for an ice cream cone after? Whatever. It doesn't really
02:21matter. I guess taking her for ice cream wouldn't actually be closing it. But whatever your plan is,
02:25how you want to finish your date. Now obviously taking her home wouldn't be exactly finishing it,
02:29but that's where you want to go as well. So you don't have to worry too much after she says yes to
02:33coming home. But have that in mind. Have your plan and plan in mind because that'll dictate what you do at the
02:38very end. And four, the follow-up. So how are we going to follow up and text her? Are you going to
02:42invite her on a second date? Do you have another plan in mind? Another coffee? Dinner at your place?
02:47Whatever it is, have something in mind for a follow-up afterwards. Now having a plan like this
02:51won't necessarily completely eliminate awkwardness on a first date, but you'll have an idea about what
02:55you're doing from start to finish, which will eliminate a lot of unknowns. Now here's a couple more
02:59points to make it a little bit better for you. When you're planning your date, other things like
03:02having your date on your home turf, basically an area you're familiar with, at a coffee shop you're familiar with,
03:07a bar you're familiar with, wherever you want to go. But it should be someplace you know instead of
03:11something brand new. Because a brand new space that you're unfamiliar with will make it easier
03:16to be awkward. Because you're not really going to know your way around. And finally, the thing that
03:20really is going to eliminate awkwardness on first dates is going on more first dates. That's
03:23experience. And this is going to take time. So give yourself the time to learn and grow. It's not
03:28going to happen overnight. Then take some time. And obviously you're going to have to learn how to get as many
03:32dates as possible. That's probably one of your goals. Whether it's for a relationship or something
03:36casual, it doesn't really matter. But give yourself time to grow. A lot of guys are too worried about
03:41the short term, not really looking at the long term. Now here's some common questions about
03:44eliminating awkwardness on a first date. Is it normal for a first date to be awkward? It is normal for a
03:48first date to be awkward, but it doesn't have to be that way. Depending on your confidence levels,
03:53your dating plan, and other factors, you can make your first dates less awkward and more enjoyable.
03:57How do I stop awkward silences on a first date? Stop awkward silences on a first date,
04:01the best thing to do really is to embrace the awkward silence. Instead of scrambling to say
04:06something as soon as there's an awkward silence, if you sit there confidently and just look into
04:10your eyes and smile and let her say something, right? Basically put the burden on her shoulders
04:15to say something that'll actually create some sexual tension. Plus it takes some of the pressure
04:19off yourself. For more info on first dates, check out the link in the description or comment section
04:23below. And until next time, conquer and win.
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