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In this video, I share some common reasons why people might not want to go on a second date with you, and offer some tips on how to improve your chances of getting that second date. Whether it's because of bad first-date behavior or other factors, I'll give you some insight into what might be going wrong and how to fix it. Don't miss out on potential relationships - watch this video now to up your dating game!
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WHO AM I:
Hi, I’m Eddy Baller, author & founder of Conquer & Win.
I’ve been a dating and relationship coach since 2011, and since then I have helped men across the globe to build their social confidence and get the dates and relationships they deserve.
FOR COACHING, GO TO:
https://www.conquerandwin.com/vancouver-dating-coach/
GET IN TOUCH:
If you’d like to talk, I’d love to hear from you. Emailing me at eddy@conquerandwin.com directly will be the quickest way to get a response. I try my best to reply to things but there sadly aren’t enough hours in the day to respond to everyone though I’d get there as soon as I can.
▼ see below for links & more ▼
✉️ Sign up to my weekly email newsletter - https://www.conquerandwin.com/contact/
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00:00Are you on a dating losing streak? You're going on one date after another and you
00:04never see them again. Even though you've invested countless dollars into 7-Eleven
00:07hot dogs, they just don't appreciate it. So this probably has you asking the
00:10question, why can't I get a second date? What we're going to tackle is some of the
00:14most common problems guys have when they're going on first dates that result
00:17in them not getting second dates. And solutions to these problems so you can
00:21have a lot more second dates. Let's go!
00:23So why can't I get a second date? The question every guy asks when they've
00:29gone on multiple dates and the girls just basically ghost them or everybody says
00:34how nice they are or that they're busy suddenly forever. And it's not random
00:38chance. It's not a coincidence that every day you're going on turns into nothing.
00:42And it feels almost like magic because just like Jesus turned water into wine
00:46you're turning women into ghosts. They simply disappear into the universe. But I
00:50guarantee they're still out there. They just don't like you. But fear not there is
00:54a solution to this problem. So I'm going to cover the most common issues that
00:57result in guys not getting second dates right now. Number one, a lack of
01:01confidence. This is really the place to start because especially if you're a guy
01:06who's not getting second dates it's going to be hard to feel confident right? But
01:09you have to push through that anyways and figure out ways to boost up your
01:12confidence. And there are different ways to do that including just focusing on
01:15your body language and your breath. How is your body language? Are you slouching? Are you
01:19looking at the ground all the time? Do you have your hands in your pockets? If
01:22you're doing any of that kind of stuff you need to straighten up get your hands
01:25out of your pockets. Start looking straight and not at the ground and start
01:29breathing more fully so you actually have some oxygen in your lungs. And when
01:31you speak you'll have more of a man voice which will also make you feel more
01:35confident. Outside of that are there any things that you're not doing right now
01:38that could make you more confident? Because if there's anything you've been
01:40wanting to do for a while but you haven't because you're scared of it and you
01:44don't have to be absolutely terrified you just have some anxieties about it
01:47there's some inertia and you're just not following through you're procrastinating
01:50all the time. Knocking those things off your list can
01:53also help build confidence but another thing you're going to want to do is just
01:55talk to more women go out and be social and not just talk to women talk to
01:59everybody. Number two insecure body language. I just
02:02mentioned it in number one but i'm going to mention it again because it's really
02:05important. Not only if you have insecure body language will it tell
02:09yourself that you don't feel confident but it's going to tell your date you don't
02:12feel confident and she's not going to be attracted to that.
02:14So really improving your posture can go a long way for both your own confidence
02:19as well as what you're projecting at other people including your dates.
02:21Number three hygiene. Hygiene we're going to include
02:25you know keeping your hair trim shaving your beard or trimming it
02:29keeping your nails trim and clean as well and you think this would be
02:32something everyone understands already but if you have long nails dirty nails
02:37hair sticking out of your nose or out of your ears eyebrows that look like this
02:41and uh you know just been generally unkempt hair right you haven't had a
02:45haircut in like two three months then chances are you're going to be
02:48off-putting for most of your days especially if you're going after
02:51attractive women who maintain themselves. I've seen this
02:53before i had a student come once for a boot camp
02:56really cool guy but i was just really surprised when he came and he
03:00hadn't shaved and he his hair was all messy like he hadn't had a haircut in a
03:03couple months because he hadn't and then the first day of his boot camp his
03:07results were pretty mediocre but i forced him to get a haircut and get his beard
03:11trimmed properly and the second day he did much better
03:14because hey that first impression really matters
03:16number four your voice if you have a soft mickey mouse voice or you're always
03:21if you always have this upward inflection at the end of your sentences or
03:24end of your words we kind of sound like a girl asking a question
03:28that's going to be an immediate turn off because it sounds feminine it also makes
03:31you sound very uncertain about yourself when you speak speak with some
03:35conviction including speaking with a stronger
03:37voice take a deep breath and actually speak from the bottom of your diaphragm
03:42it will make a big difference in the impression you make on your dates
03:45number six
03:52number six eye contact i could have included this with
03:56body language but it's so important that i'm going to bring this up on its own
04:00eye contact really is one of the biggest keys to creating attraction you need to be
04:04able to keep strong eye contact it means keeping your eyes on her eyes
04:08and not looking away as if you're looking at the sun
04:10if you have bad eye contact you're looking at the ground all the time or
04:13you're looking away all the time like this darting
04:16all over the room instead of keeping your eyes on her eyes
04:18she's going to lose interest very quickly and chances are you're not going to get a
04:22second date number seven talking about
04:24yourself the whole time as interesting as you may think you are
04:28you may not actually be that interesting to everyone else
04:30so if you go on a date and you're trying to impress her by just talking about
04:33yourself the entire time then there are good chances you're
04:36going to repel her especially if you're trying to brag
04:39or talk about all the things you've done and the things you have
04:42it's not going to impress anyone instead turn that focus around and
04:47talk about her hey everyone likes to talk about themselves
04:50so you should be the leader in the conversation and get her to open up and
04:53share about herself get her to talk about things that are important to her
04:56right what direction is she going in life what does she like what kind of
04:59passion does she have if she has any it's up to you to uncover all those
05:02details and be the leader in the conversation so you can actually take it
05:05somewhere and yes you will also talk about yourself i'm just saying don't
05:08talk about yourself the whole time just let it happen organically during the
05:12conversation you can relate to her you know if you have
05:14common experiences that's great but focus on getting her to open up and share
05:17about herself eight your dates are too long if you go on a really long date
05:23especially if it's a talking date meaning you're at a coffee shop
05:27or maybe a restaurant or any other activity where basically the activity is
05:31just talking and you're talking for two three four hours
05:35that's going to be very tiring and her brain's going to be frying by the end of
05:38that date and if that's how she feels at the end of the date
05:40she's not going to be interested in having that experience again right that's
05:44that's all she's going to remember is that feeling of being tired after the
05:47date so respect your own time and cut the dates down shorter so you can
05:51actually leave an impact and leave her wanting more
05:54i'd say an hour no more unless you actually take her home
05:57and then the time lets her off uh that's because activities are changing at that
06:00point number nine you're a yes man basically
06:04you're too worried about her opinion of you
06:06and so you just nod your head and say yes to absolutely everything even if you
06:10completely disagree with it that doesn't mean to do the opposite you
06:13should not get into an argument with your date it's not going to help you
06:15but you shouldn't be a yes man either you should be able to express yourself in a
06:18diplomatic way and put your opinions on the table but at the same time stay away
06:22from anything controversial because it's not going to help your date
06:25and number 10 you wait too long to set up the second day maybe you wait a week
06:30even two weeks before you text her to set up that second date instead of
06:33waiting too long and letting her cool off
06:36follow up within the next one to three days on average that way you'll still be
06:41fresh in her memory and her feelings and hopefully if the day went well she'll be
06:45interested in going out for another one so i'm going to stop the list right there
06:48it could be much longer but these are some of the top reasons why guys don't
06:51get second dates if you know any other reasons why guys don't get second dates
06:54leave a comment in the comment section below
06:56but before i go here's a few questions that guys commonly ask
07:00about why they don't get second dates how do i guarantee a second date
07:04there's really no way to guarantee a second date you can increase your odds by
07:07having a great date by making strong eye contact using your voice
07:11appropriately not acting like a pushover and generally just being a strong man
07:15but nothing will actually guarantee a second date
07:18what are the chances of a second date the chances of a second date really come
07:21down to your own personal dating skills
07:23how much confidence you have how much experience you have in dating different
07:26guys are gonna get different results in their dating lives
07:29so there's nothing really to expect except for what you put into it yourself
07:31how do you know if you won't get a second date you can know if you won't get a
07:34second date if your date decided to leave halfway through
07:37we said you're gonna walk her to her car and she said no that's okay i'll walk
07:40myself
07:41or you texted her afterwards and she never replied that's all for today
07:44until next time conquer and win
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