00:00How to find a relationship without online dating. If you want to find a relationship and you're tired of going online to do it, you're tired of swiping left or right like you're grocery shopping for women, then it's time to learn what you can do without the internet to find the women of your dreams. And hell, online dating is really kind of a new phenomenon. It's only been around since, what, the 90s? Guys had to figure out how to find women without online dating before then. But now online dating has become the norm because it's easy, or at least it's easy on the surface because most guys aren't going to get very good results there.
00:28But it's easy in terms of the fact that you don't have to leave your home, you can browse women online like you're shopping, and it doesn't really take any skills at all to reach out to a woman or to try to match with them. It is a lot more difficult to connect with women in real life, but it's also a lot more satisfying.
00:41So I'm going to cover some of the major ways that you can find a relationship without online dating, as well as some of the prerequisites you're going to need to be able to keep that relationship.
00:49How to find a relationship without online dating. So the following list is going to cover some different ways you can find women without online dating to get into a relationship.
00:59And the best thing about some of these methods is that it will help you develop relationship skills, including just being assertive, speaking your mind, communicating better.
01:06Women are attracted to balls. And if you do this, if you do the following steps, it will help you develop some balls and be much more attractive to women.
01:13And even within a relationship within five, 10, 15, 20 years, attraction matters.
01:18And so you want to become the kind of man that she's always attracted to, not a spineless jellyfish.
01:22So let's jump in this list for some methods you can use to find your relationship without online dating.
01:27Number one, meet women in public. Now, there's different approaches to meet women in public, and these require conversational skills and a lot of balls, right?
01:35It requires courage to walk up to a woman and tell her you think she's attractive.
01:38And if you were to do that, that would be called a direct approach. Of course, there are indirect ways to start a conversation,
01:42public and walking away with a girl's number. Let's start with the direct way.
01:46For a direct approach, basically you're doing exactly what I said already.
01:49You're just walking up to her and you're letting her know that you think she's attractive.
01:52But the way you do this is going to be really important. Giving her space, right? Don't walk into her bubble.
01:56Don't touch her, right? Don't tap her on the shoulder. Do weird things like that.
01:59When you do this, it's important to speak with a strong voice. Speak to be heard.
02:02Don't whisper to her worrying about other people hearing you, because if you do that, she's not going to be interested either.
02:08And think about it this way. If somebody's going to hear you, do you want to put on the best performance possible
02:12and show what a boss you are? Or do you want to act like an amateur and speak quietly?
02:16Now, usually a direct approach is best used in open spaces like the street.
02:20But you can use them in closed spaces like a grocery store.
02:23But it just really depends how many people are around. Of course, the street could be busy too,
02:26but most people aren't going to be paying attention to you.
02:28Now, the reason I don't like using this in closed spaces like a shop or a coffee shop or things like that,
02:33even though you can, is because very often it will attract a lot of attention.
02:36And that attention won't just make you uncomfortable.
02:39It will also make the girl you're approaching uncomfortable.
02:41But having said that, it is still doable.
02:43And if you carry your balls in a wheelbarrow, then it probably won't be an issue for you.
02:46Make sure you have some social skills to go along with that.
02:48It takes a lot of practice to get really good at this.
02:50The other way is just indirect. You're going to start a conversation casually.
02:53You might be in a grocery store or you might be in a coffee shop.
02:56And you just make a simple comment on something that's relevant around you.
02:59Don't talk about yourself, but say something that may be relevant to her,
03:02like about something that she's looking at, something she's buying or something she's doing.
03:07Or it could even be a question like, how is the tiramisu here?
03:09If she's getting tiramisu, but if she's grabbing a chocolate cake,
03:12probably don't want to ask her a random question about something that she has no involvement with.
03:16But then it's going to be up to you to take the conversation in a personal direction
03:19and start connecting with her and learn about her.
03:21But the main thing to keep an eye on here is after you make your initial comment,
03:24if she's not very responsive, then just let it go and try somebody else.
03:28But if she's chatty and she responds enthusiastically, then that's your cue to keep going.
03:33Now these are my favorite methods to meet women because you can do it almost anywhere.
03:36And they also develop the most social skills and the most courage and assertiveness
03:39out of any other method you're going to use to meet women.
03:42Now the next method is going to social events.
03:44And that could be anything. That could be a party.
03:46That could be networking or any kind of event or a meetup group or a sporting team.
03:50Just make sure that the event you're going to is going to have some women.
03:52It's not going to be an event for engineers or something like that.
03:56And there's going to be like one woman there and 30 guys.
03:58Now these are the main areas I would focus on if you want to meet a woman without online dating.
04:02But how are you going to turn that into a relationship?
04:04This is just the first step to meeting a woman.
04:06But creating a relationship is a whole other process.
04:09But if you're doing this frequently, if you're doing it regularly, going out and talking to women,
04:12you're going to develop the skills you need.
04:14Like I mentioned, you need assertiveness. That is very attractive to women.
04:17Also communication skills, which you'll develop through all the conversations you're going to be having,
04:21going out every day and talking to women.
04:23This will also help you be more expressive and express what's actually on your mind
04:26because you're asserting yourself, going out, you're telling women what you think,
04:29and you're asking them out.
04:31And practice makes perfect, which is why you're going to be able to develop your relationship skills
04:34by going on as many dates as possible, probably having a few short-term relationships along the way
04:39before you end up finding the woman you really want and keeping a long-term relationship.
04:43But this is going to be a work in progress forever, right?
04:45You'll always want to be paying attention to what's happening in the relationship,
04:49communicating effectively, keeping your assertiveness,
04:51and learning other relationship skills to keep a healthy relationship.
04:55And a lot of this is going to have to do with your own inner work.
04:57Are you fulfilling your own desires and your own goals?
04:59Are you getting after it? Are you maintaining your fitness and your health?
05:02Are you learning new things all the time?
05:04See, a lot of what goes into a relationship has nothing to do with a relationship at all.
05:07It has to do with what you're doing to yourself, how you're developing yourself.
05:11If you just let things go, including yourself, you don't get things done,
05:14and if things fall apart around you, it's very likely your relationship will also fall apart.
05:19So your own personal self-maintenance is going to be one of the most important things you ever do for yourself
05:23and your relationship.
05:24So that's all for today. Until next time, conquer and win.
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