How to Get Over First Date Anxiety

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In this video, I'm going to show you some kickass methods to calm your anxiety before your first date and make the right impression that turns into a second date.  WHAT YOU WILL SEE:  00:29 How to get over first date anxiety? 01:46 Ideas to cal yourself on the first date 03:04 Is first-date anxiety normal? 03:13 How do I calm my anxiety on a date? 03:21 how to stop overthinking on a first date?  WATCH NOW: How to Meet Girls for Relationships, Dating, & Sex (Exact Steps!) https://youtu.be/DcbLq0e9HLc  IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN THIS KIND OF CONTENT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS ARTICLE: https://www.conquerandwin.com/why-women-go-cold-on-text-messages-and-how-to-write-messages-that-work/  WHO AM I:  Hi, I’m Eddy Baller, author & founder of Conquer & Win.  I’ve been a dating and relationship coach since 2011, and since then I have helped men across the globe to build their social confidence and get the dates and relationships they deserve.    FOR COACHING, GO TO: https://www.conquerandwin.com/vancouver-dating-coach/   GET IN TOUCH:  If you’d like to talk, I’d love to hear from you. Emailing me at eddy@conquerandwin.com directly will be the quickest way to get a response. I try my best to reply to things but there sadly aren’t enough hours in the day to respond to everyone though I’d get there as soon as I can.    ▼ see below for links & more ▼ ✉️  Sign up to my weekly email newsletter - https://www.conquerandwin.com/contact/ 🌍  My website / blog - https://www.conquerandwin.com 📸  Instagram - https://instagram.com/conquerandwin

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00:00Do you want to learn how to get over first date anxiety? Although it's completely normal to be

00:03nervous before a first date, if it's overwhelming, it can ruin your first impressions and ruin your

00:07chances for a second date. So keep watching the video to learn some kick-ass methods to calm your

00:11anxiety before your first date and make the right impression that turns into a second date. I'm Eddie

00:16Baller, I'm the owner of conqueringworld.com and I've been coaching men since 2011 to build the

00:19confidence and meet the kind of women they want. So let's jump into it. How to get over first date

00:28anxiety. Let's start with your first date mindset to feel more confident and less nervous. Number

00:32one, be your nervous self. Now being yourself is obviously always the best option when it comes to

00:38dating. However, it comes with a caveat. It's really hard to be yourself when you're nervous because

00:43which self are you showing? Obviously you're going to be showing the nervous self and you may be

00:47showing some behaviors that you don't normally have. You may behave in a way that's not really

00:51normally you. But all the same, avoid pretending to be somebody else. Be whoever you are in the

00:56moment and that includes being your anxious self. With more experience, this anxious self will be

01:00much less anxious and much less nervous and you'll be a lot more confident on your first dates. But by

01:04letting go of expectations of how you should be, you're much more likely to be relaxed and that'll

01:09make the date go a lot better because your natural personality will shine through. Number two, don't be

01:13attached to first date outcomes. Instead of aiming for a relationship or to complete some sort of

01:18objective, just aim to have fun. And really the first date's just about getting in the nowhere so you

01:22want to take some of that pressure off of yourself. You may feel like you're going into an interview

01:25and she's interviewing you for a job. But look at it this way. You're actually interviewing her too.

01:30And you know, I'm saying interview in quotes, obviously. You don't want to interview your date.

01:33But what you're there to see is whether she's even worth a second date or not, right? It's not just

01:37about her choice. You're not trying to be there to impress her. You're there to see if you actually

01:41like her too. And if the date doesn't go well, then next. Now here's a list of different ideas to calm

01:46your anxiety for a first date. Number one, first date breathing. Take a deep breath with a slow exhale and this

01:51will literally calm your nerves. Number two, practice mindfulness techniques like meditation.

01:55Obviously not on your first date, but you're going to do this before your date. Number three, have a good

01:59workout before your first date. Number four, consider getting a massage on the day of or the day before

02:03your first date. This will get any knots out of your muscles as you feel much more relaxed. Number five, seek

02:07support from a friend or family member. Having a quick call before your date can make things go much

02:11smoother. Number six, try out some visualization to imagine your date going well. Number seven, make sure you have a good

02:16sleep the night before because it's going to make it much easier deal for any kind of anxieties or

02:20nervousness. Number eight, go for a casual date instead of something that's expensive and too

02:24formal. This will take some of the pressure off your shoulders and you won't have to spend so much money

02:28either. Number nine, give yourself a break. You're just human. You're going to make mistakes and that's

02:32okay. And even if you make mistakes on your date, chances are she's still going to like you. You do not have to be

02:37perfect on your dates and make them work. Number 10, use positive self-talk. This is basically you

02:42coaching yourself, telling you to get in there, get the job done, make things happen. And every time a

02:47negative voice pops in your head, you're going to want to counter that negative voice with positive

02:50self-talk. And number 11, have a sense of humor. Make some jokes on your date. You don't want to be a

02:54clown and just be joking non-stop unless you're a really great comedian maybe. But some jokes can

02:58definitely break the ice and make things a lot more calm and relaxed. Now here are some common questions

03:02about first date anxiety. Is first date anxiety normal? First date anxiety is very normal. Most people

03:07experience it on some level, including the attractive woman you're going to be going on a date with.

03:12How do I calm my anxiety on a date? Try breathing, meditation, visualization, or even having a

03:16workout before your date to get rid of some of that excess energy. How do I stop overthinking on my

03:21first date? Try focusing on your date herself. Get to know her, find out what makes her tick,

03:25what motivates her and what she's really interested in. Don't just talk about things superficially,

03:30but actually dig below the surface and find out what she really likes. To learn more about first

03:34dates, check out the link in the description or comment section below. And until next time, conquer and win.

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