00:00Do you want to learn how to get over first date anxiety? Although it's completely normal to be
00:03nervous before a first date, if it's overwhelming, it can ruin your first impressions and ruin your
00:07chances for a second date. So keep watching the video to learn some kick-ass methods to calm your
00:11anxiety before your first date and make the right impression that turns into a second date. I'm Eddie
00:16Baller, I'm the owner of conqueringworld.com and I've been coaching men since 2011 to build the
00:19confidence and meet the kind of women they want. So let's jump into it. How to get over first date
00:28anxiety. Let's start with your first date mindset to feel more confident and less nervous. Number
00:32one, be your nervous self. Now being yourself is obviously always the best option when it comes to
00:38dating. However, it comes with a caveat. It's really hard to be yourself when you're nervous because
00:43which self are you showing? Obviously you're going to be showing the nervous self and you may be
00:47showing some behaviors that you don't normally have. You may behave in a way that's not really
00:51normally you. But all the same, avoid pretending to be somebody else. Be whoever you are in the
00:56moment and that includes being your anxious self. With more experience, this anxious self will be
01:00much less anxious and much less nervous and you'll be a lot more confident on your first dates. But by
01:04letting go of expectations of how you should be, you're much more likely to be relaxed and that'll
01:09make the date go a lot better because your natural personality will shine through. Number two, don't be
01:13attached to first date outcomes. Instead of aiming for a relationship or to complete some sort of
01:18objective, just aim to have fun. And really the first date's just about getting in the nowhere so you
01:22want to take some of that pressure off of yourself. You may feel like you're going into an interview
01:25and she's interviewing you for a job. But look at it this way. You're actually interviewing her too.
01:30And you know, I'm saying interview in quotes, obviously. You don't want to interview your date.
01:33But what you're there to see is whether she's even worth a second date or not, right? It's not just
01:37about her choice. You're not trying to be there to impress her. You're there to see if you actually
01:41like her too. And if the date doesn't go well, then next. Now here's a list of different ideas to calm
01:46your anxiety for a first date. Number one, first date breathing. Take a deep breath with a slow exhale and this
01:51will literally calm your nerves. Number two, practice mindfulness techniques like meditation.
01:55Obviously not on your first date, but you're going to do this before your date. Number three, have a good
01:59workout before your first date. Number four, consider getting a massage on the day of or the day before
02:03your first date. This will get any knots out of your muscles as you feel much more relaxed. Number five, seek
02:07support from a friend or family member. Having a quick call before your date can make things go much
02:11smoother. Number six, try out some visualization to imagine your date going well. Number seven, make sure you have a good
02:16sleep the night before because it's going to make it much easier deal for any kind of anxieties or
02:20nervousness. Number eight, go for a casual date instead of something that's expensive and too
02:24formal. This will take some of the pressure off your shoulders and you won't have to spend so much money
02:28either. Number nine, give yourself a break. You're just human. You're going to make mistakes and that's
02:32okay. And even if you make mistakes on your date, chances are she's still going to like you. You do not have to be
02:37perfect on your dates and make them work. Number 10, use positive self-talk. This is basically you
02:42coaching yourself, telling you to get in there, get the job done, make things happen. And every time a
02:47negative voice pops in your head, you're going to want to counter that negative voice with positive
02:50self-talk. And number 11, have a sense of humor. Make some jokes on your date. You don't want to be a
02:54clown and just be joking non-stop unless you're a really great comedian maybe. But some jokes can
02:58definitely break the ice and make things a lot more calm and relaxed. Now here are some common questions
03:02about first date anxiety. Is first date anxiety normal? First date anxiety is very normal. Most people
03:07experience it on some level, including the attractive woman you're going to be going on a date with.
03:12How do I calm my anxiety on a date? Try breathing, meditation, visualization, or even having a
03:16workout before your date to get rid of some of that excess energy. How do I stop overthinking on my
03:21first date? Try focusing on your date herself. Get to know her, find out what makes her tick,
03:25what motivates her and what she's really interested in. Don't just talk about things superficially,
03:30but actually dig below the surface and find out what she really likes. To learn more about first
03:34dates, check out the link in the description or comment section below. And until next time, conquer and win.
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