00:00This is why an emotionally immature man isn't going to fight for your relationship,
00:04no matter how much you've invested into him, no matter how much you care,
00:07no matter how much you try, no matter how much you try to explain things to him.
00:11Number one, he avoids uncomfortable emotions.
00:14So fighting for the relationship requires sitting with guilt and sadness
00:18and disappointment and vulnerability.
00:19And he avoids those feelings.
00:21So he's going to avoid the relationship too.
00:23Number two, he sees conflict as something to escape instead of something to repair.
00:28Instead of working through problems, he distances himself from them.
00:32Number three, an immature man doesn't know how to repair.
00:35Repair is a skill.
00:36And if he'd never learned it, he's going to shut down and withdraw or pretend that nothing happened.
00:42Number four, his pride is stronger than his willingness to reconnect.
00:46Being right feels safer than being vulnerable.
00:49So number five, he expects the relationship to work without any effort on his part.
00:54When things become difficult, an immature man sees that as a sign that something's wrong
00:59instead of understanding that healthy relationships require work.
01:02Number six, an immature guy is going to confuse leaving with solving the problem.
01:07So walking away gives temporary relief, but it doesn't build lasting connection.
01:11Number seven, he lacks the emotional capacity to stay engaged when things get hard.
01:17Love isn't enough if someone doesn't have the capacity to do the work a relationship requires.
01:22If he's not going to fight for the relationship, don't just assume it's because he didn't love you.
01:27Sometimes it's because he doesn't have the emotional maturity to build a healthy relationship
01:32in the first place.
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