00:00My therapist said she'd been doing marriage and family therapy and individual counseling for 30 years.
00:04And she said there's only two dynamics that work in a long-term marriage.
00:08She said the couple can be equally in love with each other.
00:11She said that's a dynamic that will last.
00:14She said the man can be more in love with the woman, like madly more in love.
00:19And the woman can just be like, eh, I'm in love, but I'm not completely in love.
00:23She said that's a match that will work.
00:25She said the matches that always fail is when the woman is more in love with the man than the
00:31man is with the woman.
00:32She said the reason for this is men who are madly in love will do the sacrifice, changes, listening, communication,
00:40and work of being in a relationship long-term.
00:43And women actually do that work regardless of how in love they are.
00:47Women will do the work of relationship, the hard work of relationship regardless of how in love.
00:52But men will only do it if they're like madly, deeply, and head over heels in love.
00:56And she said, just watch out for that.
00:59And at the time, I really hated that for women.
01:01I'm like, oh my God, we don't even get to be in love or we don't even have to be.
01:06But she's like, anytime I'm counseling a couple before marriage and I can tell the woman loves him more than
01:10he loves her,
01:12I just, I always warn them.
