00:01Tiptoeing around the male ego that women have done for generations is an absolute juggernaut
00:07of emotional labor that nobody talks about.
00:10I feel like the emotional work that women do to bubble wrap the male ego is one of the
00:16most labor intensive yet invisible jobs that is done in any heterosexual relationship.
00:21And this is also true in the workplace, in families, and just in public life in general.
00:26Because a man that has done no work on himself has a fragile ego, okay?
00:30And a fragile ego cannot separate accountability from identity collapse.
00:35And so women have to manage that.
00:37And this isn't women just being nice to us, right?
00:40This is, how do I tell him the truth without him feeling attacked?
00:44How do I ask for basic respect without triggering defensiveness?
00:48And here's a big one.
00:49How do I disagree without him withdrawing, exploding, or centering himself as the victim?
00:56All of this is emotional labor.
00:58And I feel like women are trained to do this early on in life.
01:02Like they've had to learn to soften what it is they're asking us, right?
01:05Like they say maybe when the answer is no.
01:07Or they use 10 extra sentences to cushion one boundary they're trying to get across to us.
01:12And here's one that I think happens a lot, right?
01:13She brings up a harm that was done to her and ends up having to comfort the very person who
01:18caused it.
01:19And none of this is because women are more diplomatic than men.
01:22It's because millions of women have died learning that a fragile male ego is a landscape that
01:29has to be survived.
01:30Like a lot of what society views as female communication skills is really women just becoming
01:35fluent in male fragility for their own survival.
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