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The Money Wasn't Missing, I Was | DISC 6: Vitality | 411 PODCAST (Episode 34)   Featuring: Wine Down Wednesday, Mentorship Series   Wednesday | June 17, 2026   Streaming LIVE on all social media platforms @LERINGAINES   https://leringaines.com  https://linktr.ee/leringaines  https://www.facebook.com/leringaines  http://instagram.com/leringaines  https://www.tiktok.com/@leringaines  http://twitter.com/leringaines  https://www.youtube.com/@leringaines  https://www.twitch.tv/leringaines  https://kick.com/leringaines  https://dailymotion.com/LerinGaines   Song of The Day: "Still Believe In Love" by Mary J. Blige Featuring Vado  Released 2023 | Still Believe In Love   Burning Questions for Reflections!  What financial behavior in your life began as a solution - but slowly became an escape?   Share your response to tonight's Burning Questions...  Text: (609) 200-1098 | Email: Info@LerinGaines.com   DM on any social media platform @LERINGAINES (Facebook, Instagram, X, TikTok, YouTube, KICK, Twitch, DailyMotion)   Sign up for my FREE Monthly Newsletter 'Whispers of Wisdom' for updates, exclusives, and inspiration!   Subscribe now at LerinGaines.com   #Facebook #Instagram #TikTok #X #YouTube #KICK #Twitch #DailyMotion #DebtFreeLiving #FinancialCoach #LerinGaines #411Podcast #BurningQuestions #BlackDiamondConsultations #VacationWithMe #WhispersofWisdom #DISC6 #Vitality   DISCLAIMER: The content and information provided by Black Diamond Consultations are intended solely for educational and entertainment purposes. We do not guarantee the accuracy or completeness of the materials, and any reliance you place on them is strictly at your own risk. Our content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice or judgment. Black Diamond Consultations shall not be liable for any errors or omissions in the educational and entertainment content or for any actions taken based on the information provided.   411 PODCAST  DISC 6: Vitality  Track 34: The Money Wasn't Missing, I Was  ©️ 2026 Black Diamond Consultations Network  LerinGaines.com

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04:21Welcome, welcome, welcome on in, everybody.

04:26Welcome into another episode of Reading Between the Wines.

04:29We are on episode 34.

04:33The money wasn't missing.

04:35I was.

04:37So we're getting ready to go there tonight.

04:39We're going to speak about basically emotional escapes and how they can disguise themselves as financial opportunities.

04:49It's so mystical.

05:20I want to give you, I want to give you, I want to give you, I want to give a

05:21very special thank you to each and every one of you out there listening.

05:29Good morning to you.

05:59I want to go ahead and give you, I want to go ahead and give you, I want to go

06:04ahead and give you, I want to give you a shout out as well.

06:29I want to give you a shout out as well.

06:53I want to give you a shout out as well.

07:02I want to give you a shout out as well.

07:10I want to give you a shout out as well.

07:21I want to give you a shout out as well.

07:37I can't find it. So as I was searching and looking, I came across barefoot sangria.

07:43Now, I don't know if I've ever tried this. Maybe I have. I can't remember.

07:47It wasn't that memorable if it was the case, but this is just straight up barefoot sangria.

07:54And we're going to get in tonight as well. And yeah, it's much overdue.

07:59So welcome on in. Thank you all so much for joining. And let's get on into this.

08:18Song of the day. Still believe in love. By my favorite artist.

08:25The woman who has built the soundtrack of my life. The queen of hip hop soul. Miss Mary J. Blige.

08:33Now, y'all know that it's some real stuff when I bring Mary to the table. Still believe in love.

08:422003. Not 2003. 2023. Still believe in love. This was a single.

08:54And the question that I have, because you know I'm going to remix it, is do you still believe?

09:00What do you believe in? See, if you believe, you got to believe in something real.

09:05And I still believe in love. Love is real. Love is God.

09:09And I believe. I believe in God. I'm thankful that I'm still here.

09:20I still believe in myself. And he is giving me everything that I have so that I can continuously believe

09:28in myself.

09:29You know. It's been a journey since 2020.

09:36And just as I take a few steps forward, sometimes it felt as if I had taken several steps backwards.

09:46See, the enemy saw that I changed and made a shift in 2020.

09:54And I made him very angry because he thought that he had me.

10:00He captivated my mind and had it all twisted up in 2013.

10:06But I broke free in 2020.

10:10And during that process, as me breaking free, he was very upset.

10:20And he decided to send people my way.

10:24And still tries to send people my way.

10:27But see, I just think of.

10:30And again, last week I was a little on a tired edge.

10:33And I had to take a little breather and take a little breath and take a little rest and relaxation

10:39to continuously get focused and re-energize and build up this vitality.

10:45But I think about Genesis 50, 20.

10:50But as for you, ye thought evil against me, but God made it unto good to bring to pass as

10:59it is this day to spare much people alive.

11:02See, I think about my biblical heroes, such as Joseph.

11:07You know, Joseph went from the pit to the palace.

11:11And it's so interesting.

11:13In life, sometimes we go through the same things that some of these biblical characters have gone through.

11:21And the blueprint is already laid out for us.

11:26And sometimes we don't even know.

11:28And I think of Esther as well.

11:32What she endured.

11:35And the decisions that she had to make in order to save a whole nation and get through to the

11:43other side.

11:45But again, the enemy was very jealous.

11:50Enemy was very upset.

11:54And sometimes when we are tested and we go through these trials and we go through these tribulations, I don't

12:00know who I'm speaking to.

12:01I'm only speaking from real life experiences.

12:03It is so hard because we're so used to doing things our way.

12:09But one thing that I had to learn is be still.

12:14And know that I had to be still and let God do what he had to do.

12:21And I say to this day, Lord, more of you and less of me.

12:25Because I already know who I am and I know what I do.

12:29And I cannot make it through without you.

12:32So please, more of you and less of me.

12:38And then during this trial, like I said, during these tribulations, during these ups, during these peaks, during these valleys,

12:46the enemy can get very clever, very cunning and try to send people your way to throw you off for

12:53your game.

12:54But there's this powerful word that God has blessed me with, and I'm so thankful I have a great level

13:01of discernment today.

13:03And then during this process, I've understood the term Judas Kiss.

13:10Because those people that are just so close to you, they always be the first ones to step up and

13:17stick the knife right through you.

13:20But I'm so thankful today.

13:22And I'm going to go on another merry record.

13:24Listen, I never claimed to be a genius, but I lived long enough to see this.

13:28See, you fooled me several times in my lifetime.

13:35But yeah, that was young version of me.

13:37Today, this is the adult version of me.

13:41And I'm good.

13:42Because I still believe.

13:44I believe in the most high.

13:46And I know.

13:47Listen.

13:49Everything that happens, happens for good.

13:51And what you thought and what you meant for evil, Lord knows that God meant it for good.

14:00And see, that's exactly why sometimes we can't get upset when people do things to us.

14:06We can't get upset when people try to throw us off track.

14:10Because guess what?

14:11God don't play about his people.

14:13See, you got to be very careful about the things that you do and the moves that you make.

14:21You never know who you're dealing with.

14:24And God don't play about his children.

14:27And I still believe.

14:28And I still believe.

14:29And listen.

14:30What you thought was for evil.

14:34God meant it for good.

14:35And the only thing that you disrespectful.

14:39And I'm going to keep it clean.

14:40No good.

14:41Backbiting.

14:42Jealous.

14:43Envious people did.

14:45To me.

14:47It's just pulled me closer to God.

14:49And we going in.

14:51We going in.

14:52And I'm here to spread the good news.

14:54And I'm here to spread the good word.

14:55And for my brothers and sisters out there.

14:58I know y'all might be going through some things.

15:02Y'all might be going through the storm.

15:04You don't even understand why.

15:05You don't even know how.

15:07How could people.

15:07I used to ask all the time.

15:09How could people be so evil.

15:11Why would they do something like this to me.

15:13I have been nothing but nice.

15:15And I have been nothing but me.

15:16But you just being you.

15:18You being God like.

15:20That is enough.

15:22To piss the enemy off.

15:23And that is enough.

15:25To make him go ahead and send these imps.

15:28These disrespectful.

15:30These.

15:32Fear mongers.

15:35They try to throw you off your track.

15:37They try to shake you up.

15:39But see I fear no man today.

15:42Absolutely not.

15:43Because I know who my father is.

15:46And because I know who my father is.

15:50Therefore he's giving me everything.

15:52To make sure that I know who I am.

15:55And I still believe.

15:56I believe in myself.

15:57I believe in my father.

16:00I believe in love.

16:01Because I am love.

16:04We here.

16:05We here.

16:06We up.

16:07I want to say thank y'all.

16:09Yeah.

16:10This was a real one.

16:22A little amped up.

16:24And it is like night and day.

16:27Because last week.

16:28I was absolutely just.

16:30Y'all know the record.

16:32I was speaking about Kelly Price.

16:34I was tired.

16:35I was over it.

16:35I didn't want to be bothered by anybody.

16:37Honestly just.

16:38Sometimes I just want to go in my little box.

16:40And I don't want to be bothered.

16:42And that's how I was feeling last week.

16:44Because.

16:45I can separate the BS from the truth.

16:47I have a good level of discernment.

16:50And I can see when people mean no good.

16:52And just the fact that I have that energy.

16:56Around me.

16:58I'm very sensitive to people in their tricky ways.

17:01And I'm just over it.

17:04But again.

17:05I had to go back to the lab.

17:06I had to pray.

17:07I had to build myself up.

17:10You know.

17:11Because I'm human too.

17:12And sometimes I fall short.

17:13But I had to ask myself.

17:14I had to.

17:15You know.

17:15Go through it.

17:16And connect with God.

17:17And ask myself.

17:19Listen.

17:21You're far to turn around.

17:22You're not going to let evilness overcome.

17:26It's impossible.

17:28Because that is not what God is.

17:31There's no way that he's going to let.

17:33Some evilness destroy.

17:36And try to shake up what we got going on here.

17:39Absolutely not.

17:40So I had to like get myself together.

17:42So.

17:42Here we are back.

17:45Focusing on this vitality.

17:47And I knew.

17:48That once I named this.

17:50Series.

17:51And this season.

17:52Vitality.

17:52I was going to go through it.

17:54Because I've been tested.

17:55Ever since I put that name on there.

17:57Because that's what it's about.

17:59It's your energy.

17:59It's your life force.

18:01And.

18:02People come after it.

18:04They'll try to destroy you.

18:05They'll try to bring you down.

18:06They'll try to.

18:07Make you.

18:08Less than.

18:09Because they can see your light.

18:11They can see it.

18:12They can sense it.

18:13And they fear it.

18:16So.

18:17In any case.

18:19I'm up.

18:19I'm ready to sample this.

18:21Barefoot Sangria.

18:22And get right on into this episode tonight.

18:26Ready to speak to my friend.

18:27Author poet.

18:28Birdman 313.

18:30But.

18:30Before we get into this.

18:31We got this Barefoot Sangria.

18:33It says that it has tasty notes of berries.

18:36And citrus.

18:37And you can enjoy this with some fish tacos.

18:39Or frozen yogurt.

18:40That's interesting.

18:42And.

18:43We're going to get into this.

18:44This is 11.

18:46Let me see what this is.

18:4611 percent.

18:48So.

18:50There will be a day.

18:52I'm just putting it out there.

18:54There will be a day when I.

18:56Hang up.

18:57Reading between the wands.

18:59There will be a day.

19:00I don't know when that day will come.

19:02Um.

19:03Not every episode do I feel like sampling wine.

19:05I'm just keeping it real.

19:07So.

19:08When I say that it may end.

19:10It might end the note where I just hang up the wine portion of it.

19:13But we still on rock.

19:14You know.

19:15We'll change it to Wisdom Wednesday.

19:17I have.

19:17I have to go and pray on that.

19:19Because I've been going back and forth with it.

19:21Um.

19:22Because.

19:23Let's keep it real.

19:24I'm not going to be sampling wine.

19:26Every single week.

19:28Some weeks.

19:28I just don't feel like drinking wine.

19:30But.

19:31I'm here.

19:32Right now.

19:33So.

19:33We good.

19:34So.

19:344-on-1 podcast.

19:36Reading between the wines.

19:37Is not going anywhere.

19:38But.

19:39You know.

19:40If he.

19:41Puts it on my heart.

19:43To make some changes.

19:44We might just shift the titles.

19:46And the names.

19:46And all of that good stuff.

19:47But.

19:48We do have a great thing going on here right now.

19:51And some great.

19:52Guests that are coming on.

19:54The show.

19:55So.

19:55Um.

19:56I want to say thank you all so much.

19:58For that.

20:00Thank you for tuning in.

20:01And thank you for another.

20:03Great episode.

20:04Of reading between the wines.

20:06Because we're going to go on tonight.

20:07So I want to say cheers.

20:09Thank you so much.

20:12Thank you so much.

20:16Oh yeah.

20:17This is good.

20:18This is good.

20:21Nice and chilled.

20:24On a hot summer day.

20:25Which it has been around here lately.

20:27Yeah.

20:28This will do it.

20:29I like this.

20:33Much needed.

20:34Much needed.

20:34I also think that this would be great.

20:37You can turn this into a little wine spritzer too.

20:39You get you a little.

20:40Um.

20:43Seltzer.

20:43Or some club soda.

20:46Maybe even.

20:48Depending on how you want to do it.

20:50A Sprite.

20:50Or ginger ale.

20:52You could turn this into a wine spritzer.

20:56All right.

20:57So now it's time to go ahead.

20:58And bring in.

20:59Our special guest.

21:01Author.

21:01Poet.

21:02Birdman 313.

21:06313.

21:18What's going on?

21:19What's going on?

21:21Hey.

21:21How's it going?

21:23It's going good.

21:25It's going good.

21:26I can't complain.

21:28How are you doing?

21:30I'm doing good, man.

21:33Doing good.

21:34You know.

21:35Y'all still out and about?

21:38No.

21:39No.

21:39Oh, no.

21:40I'm not down in Galveston now.

21:42No, man.

21:43It's bad down there.

21:46You know.

21:47It's just.

21:48The storm is getting ready to hit there.

21:52It hasn't yet.

21:54So we came back.

21:56We actually came back Sunday afternoon.

22:00Or Sunday evening.

22:03Okay.

22:04We knew.

22:04No.

22:05We knew that.

22:06Well.

22:06When we was down there.

22:08When we got up there Sunday.

22:10You could tell the difference.

22:13You could tell the big difference.

22:15In the waves.

22:17And everything.

22:18So, you know.

22:19It was.

22:20Which we.

22:20We was coming back Sunday anyway.

22:22But we could tell the big difference.

22:24And.

22:25I always go out and take pictures.

22:28And shoot some videos.

22:29On Sundays.

22:30And you could tell.

22:32That the waves had picked up.

22:35So.

22:36So y'all had.

22:39Yeah.

22:39Well.

22:40We was going to come back anyway.

22:41On Sunday.

22:42But.

22:43It's just that.

22:43You know.

22:44That's how we.

22:44We always plan it.

22:46We just go down there.

22:47And stay Friday.

22:48And Saturday.

22:49You know.

22:50And then come back.

22:51On a Sunday.

22:54Yeah.

22:55That was.

22:55The pictures look nice.

22:56Everything look great.

22:58Oh yeah.

22:59It was.

22:59It was nice.

23:00You know.

23:01Don't get me wrong.

23:01You know.

23:02Some of the pictures.

23:03Was taken straight from the hotel room.

23:05What we stayed in.

23:07You know.

23:08Because.

23:08That's why I like that hotel so much.

23:10Because it faces the ocean.

23:12All rooms there.

23:14Faces the ocean.

23:15That's amazing.

23:16Yeah.

23:16Ain't nothing like ocean front.

23:19It ain't nothing like.

23:21It's staring out.

23:23Looking at the ocean.

23:26Yeah.

23:26You know.

23:27And so.

23:27Hey.

23:28We're back.

23:28And I just been playing around with some.

23:31Some videos.

23:33And.

23:34That's about it.

23:35And.

23:36Doing a little writing here.

23:38But.

23:38Been really doing some meditating.

23:40And playing my bass guitar a little bit more.

23:43I didn't do it today.

23:44And getting my exercise in.

23:46You know.

23:47Just.

23:48Doing all them things.

23:49And taking care of other little business.

23:51That popped up.

23:52And you know.

23:53All of a sudden.

23:55Mm-hmm.

23:56Don't I know.

23:57Don't I know.

24:00So.

24:00You said the weather's changing.

24:02It's getting ready to storm up there.

24:04Yeah.

24:05Man.

24:05I mean.

24:06It's.

24:07Let's see what it is.

24:08That tropical storm.

24:10It's.

24:10Coming through.

24:11Arthur.

24:13Oh.

24:13It's coming.

24:14You know.

24:15I'm surprised.

24:16You ain't heard about that.

24:17Yeah.

24:18It's coming through here.

24:20We've been.

24:20For the last two days.

24:22Man.

24:22It's been.

24:23It's been flooded.

24:24In the northern part of Houston.

24:26Where we at.

24:27We.

24:28We didn't.

24:28That's one thing about this area here.

24:31Doesn't get flood.

24:32Thank God for that.

24:33We don't get flooded.

24:34We just got a lot of rain.

24:36Man.

24:36The grass is all.

24:38Almost up to my knees.

24:39Now.

24:40Cause we can't cut it.

24:42Oh.

24:42Cause it's so wet.

24:44Yes.

24:45That's craziness.

24:47Well.

24:47You better watch.

24:48There might be some gators out there.

24:49If it's up that high.

24:50I ain't worried about that.

24:51Ain't enough water.

24:53For them to come over here.

24:56Gators.

24:57And snakes might be in there.

24:59And I don't like that.

25:00No.

25:00Okay.

25:01You don't like the snakes.

25:03No.

25:04Absolutely not.

25:05No.

25:06Yeah.

25:06Now you're talking.

25:07Yeah.

25:08Yeah.

25:09Spiders.

25:10Yeah.

25:11Now rodents.

25:12Now I'm good.

25:13Cause I got.

25:14I was actually.

25:16What was it?

25:16Last week.

25:17A week before last man.

25:18I went.

25:19You know.

25:19Opened the gate.

25:20Cause we have.

25:20We have our.

25:21We have our vehicles behind the gate.

25:23And I opened the gate.

25:25And I.

25:25I'm.

25:26I was opening it for Diana to pull in.

25:28Cause she drove that day.

25:30And.

25:32I.

25:32You know.

25:33I.

25:33I keep forgetting.

25:34You know.

25:34This.

25:35The ants are so bad out here.

25:37But you couldn't see them.

25:38Cause the grass is so high.

25:39I stepped in the grass.

25:41Man.

25:41I had to come out.

25:42I had to come out.

25:43My shoes.

25:44Man.

25:44Cause.

25:45It was so many of them.

25:46And she ended up.

25:47Had to wash my shoes.

25:48Oh.

25:49Man.

25:50That many.

25:52Yeah.

25:53Yeah.

25:53You know what I would have done?

25:56I would have went on a.

25:58What would we do?

25:58I would have went on a stomping spree.

26:00I would have ran to the first part of concrete.

26:02That I possibly could get.

26:04And I would have just went stomping up a storm.

26:06They wouldn't have lasted that long.

26:09Yeah.

26:09Well.

26:09I did that.

26:10And I put a bunch of.

26:12You know.

26:13I put alcohol.

26:14Man.

26:14I bathed in the alcohol.

26:15Cause.

26:16Hey man.

26:16They had.

26:16They had got me really good.

26:18Then they got her the other day.

26:20So.

26:20You know.

26:20We had to be careful.

26:22Stepping in the grass out here.

26:24Now.

26:24Let me ask you a question.

26:25There's two different types of ants.

26:27There's the tiny ones.

26:28Or is it the big ones?

26:29Now.

26:29Which ones was it?

26:31It was the tiny ones.

26:33Oh.

26:34Well.

26:34That's good.

26:34Cause them big ones ain't no joke.

26:36Not great ants.

26:37It's little black ants.

26:39Yeah.

26:39Little black ants.

26:40You know.

26:41But you know.

26:42I mean.

26:42A lot of times you can see the ant beds.

26:45But this time.

26:45I couldn't even see it.

26:47Cause like I said.

26:47The grass is so high.

26:48I was worried more.

26:50I was like.

26:50Okay.

26:51I'm gonna.

26:51I'm gonna step and put.

26:52Put this down.

26:53So.

26:54You know.

26:54For the gate.

26:56And.

26:57I worry about the mosquitoes.

26:59Cause you know.

26:59Mosquitoes is bad down here too now.

27:02Oh.

27:03Speaking of mosquitoes.

27:04This is interesting.

27:06We gotta.

27:06We gotta move on after this.

27:08But did you know.

27:10That they are going to release.

27:13Millions.

27:14Of.

27:16Sterile.

27:17Mosquitoes.

27:18Yeah.

27:20They say that that is supposed to help the.

27:24Population control of the mosquitoes.

27:25The breeding and all of that other stuff.

27:28That's cool.

27:29You got.

27:29You got your little.

27:30Little.

27:31Things that you're gonna come up with.

27:33Or whatever.

27:33That might sound cool and all.

27:35But for us.

27:36The human beings that are gonna be out there.

27:39If.

27:40If we.

27:40If we had enough.

27:41Misses to begin with.

27:42What do you think the effect is gonna be.

27:44When you put millions.

27:46Of.

27:47Sterile mosquitoes out there.

27:48So we swatting.

27:49And we get crazy over mosquitoes to begin with.

27:51Or we're really gonna be over it.

27:53Because you don't know what's real and what's fake.

27:55Come on.

27:57Yeah.

27:58That's craziness.

28:01Anyway.

28:03I don't understand that one.

28:05And I got my own.

28:06Conspiracy theories behind that.

28:08But.

28:09Yeah.

28:11What.

28:12Number you got for us tonight.

28:15Let me try.

28:1699.

28:19Not.

28:19Oh.

28:20Okay.

28:2099.

28:20We're gonna write to it.

28:22All right.

28:23I wonder if we did this one.

28:25Before we spoke about IRAs.

28:28Before.

28:29Let's see what kind of.

28:31Situation we don't get in tonight.

28:34Make your IRA rollover.

28:36A direct rollover.

28:38You can open an IRA rollover account.

28:40At any discount brokerage form.

28:42Or mutual fund company.

28:44The paperwork is not hard at all.

28:46And a company you decide.

28:47To do business with.

28:49Is going to be eager.

28:50To help you move your money.

28:51The one crucial step.

28:53Is to check the box.

28:54On your rollover application.

28:56For a direct rollover.

28:58What this means.

28:59Is that you will never touch.

29:01Money yourself.

29:03With a direct rollover.

29:04The discount brokerage.

29:06Or mutual fund company.

29:07You are going to open.

29:08Your IRA account with.

29:10Will contact your old employer.

29:12And arrange for the money.

29:14To be sent.

29:15Directly into your new account.

29:17Why go this way.

29:18Because if you.

29:20Instead have the money.

29:21Sent to you.

29:22You must then.

29:23Get it reinvested.

29:25In an IRA.

29:26Or tax.

29:27Or other tax deferred.

29:28Retirement account.

29:29Within 60 days.

29:31Now we getting into.

29:32The good stuff.

29:32If you fail to do that.

29:34You will owe.

29:35Income tax.

29:36On the entire.

29:37Withdrawal amount.

29:38And potentially.

29:38A 10% withdrawal fee.

29:40As well.

29:41Absolutely not.

29:42A direct rollover.

29:44Is the only way to go.

29:45I know that's right.

29:46What do you feel.

29:47About that bird man.

29:51Yeah.

29:52You know.

29:52I mean.

29:53That is because.

29:56A lot of the issues.

29:57You don't have to worry about.

29:59Because you have so much.

30:00Going on in your life.

30:03That you sometimes.

30:04Some of the things.

30:05Like that.

30:05You don't have time.

30:06And you don't think about it.

30:08Until it's too late.

30:08Oh.

30:09And then when it's too late.

30:10You going to be highly upset.

30:12When you get hit.

30:13With that tax.

30:14Fee.

30:16And then.

30:16Check this out.

30:17You get hit.

30:18With the tax fee.

30:20And you don't even realize it.

30:21Right.

30:22Because you missed.

30:23The 60 day.

30:24Guideline.

30:25So then you put the money.

30:27Right.

30:27Into.

30:29Your IRA.

30:30Or your new IRA.

30:31Your new.

30:32Tax deferred account.

30:33So it's locked up already.

30:35Then you sit down.

30:36And you go and do your tax.

30:39Paperwork.

30:39In April.

30:41And then you get slapped in the face.

30:42Because you realize.

30:43That you missed the deadline.

30:45And now you owe.

30:46All of this money.

30:47To the powers that be.

30:49And now your money is locked up.

30:51So you can't even pay them.

30:52Out of the money that you took out.

30:54Because it's locked up again.

30:55So the only way to fix that.

30:58Is to go ahead.

30:59And take it out.

31:00And get hit again.

31:01Yeah.

31:02That could be a whole situation.

31:04Yeah.

31:04Nah.

31:05Yeah.

31:05We good on that.

31:07Be careful people.

31:07Again.

31:08This is not financial advice.

31:10I'm not a financial advisor.

31:11Or a planner.

31:12Please do your own due diligence.

31:13But yeah.

31:15That one was a real.

31:15Real message right there.

31:20All right.

31:21So.

31:22Let's get into tonight's assignment.

31:25You ready to go to my home.

31:27State.

31:28And good old.

31:29New Jersey.

31:32Oh yeah.

31:32We're heading over to Atlantic City.

31:34New Jersey.

31:35You know.

31:35You got to be careful going to AC.

31:37Because the money was missing.

31:39The money wasn't missing.

31:40But I was.

31:41So.

31:42All right.

31:43We're going to help out Mr. Marcus from Atlantic City, New Jersey.

31:48Marcus says.

31:49I didn't start gambling because I wanted to get rich.

31:52I started because I wanted to feel something different.

31:54Two years ago my marriage ended.

31:56Not dramatically.

31:57No affair.

31:58No huge fight.

31:59We just slowly became strangers living in the same house.

32:03After the divorce.

32:04The silence in my apartment was loud.

32:06I get off of work.

32:07Eat dinner alone.

32:08And stare at the walls.

32:09One night a co-worker invited me to the casino.

32:12I won a few hundred dollars.

32:14For the first time in months I felt excited.

32:17Not happy.

32:18Excited.

32:19There was a difference.

32:21Suddenly I had something to anticipate.

32:23Somewhere to go.

32:24People to be around.

32:25Before long.

32:26I wasn't going for the entertainment anymore.

32:28I was going for escape.

32:30Some nights I'd leave ahead.

32:31Most nights I wouldn't.

32:33The problem wasn't the money at first.

32:35The problem was the story I kept telling myself.

32:38One good night and I'll catch up.

32:40One good hit and I'll pay everything off.

32:42One good weekend and I'll finally get ahead.

32:44Instead I accumulated credit card debt.

32:47Drained my emergency fund.

32:49And spent months chasing losses that never wanted to be found.

32:54Last week I reviewed my finances.

32:57What shocked me wasn't how much money I'd lost.

33:00It was how much time I lost.

33:03Time I could have spent healing.

33:05Time I could have spent rebuilding.

33:06Time I spent looking for relief in places that were never designed to provide it.

33:12I'm finally getting honest with myself.

33:15The money wasn't the real issue.

33:18Loneliness was.

33:19Grief was.

33:21Avoidance was.

33:22How do you rebuild trust in yourself after you spent years running from what actually hurt?

33:29Maurice.

33:31What you got for me?

33:34Man, there's so much contradiction in this.

33:41What you mean?

33:42I'm trying to figure out where I'm going to start at because he said after two years, he didn't have

33:50time to think within that two year period.

33:54That's what lost me right there in some ways.

33:57I'm like, well, within two years.

33:59I mean, I know grief of a marriage can can last long, but it shouldn't stung him.

34:07Well, I shouldn't say that because I don't know how the guy felt, you know, but two years.

34:14He should have.

34:15He should have almost been over it.

34:19And, you know, I it's hard for me to explain that part, you know, to say to him, I'm two

34:27years, man.

34:28You didn't you couldn't you didn't you couldn't get yourself together.

34:32And then he keeps saying it's not the money.

34:36But then again, it is gambling is an addiction that I don't care if you marry, if you happy, if

34:44you single, if you happy.

34:45Gambling is bad for any and everybody that don't know how to control.

34:53Yeah.

34:54You know, the two years difference, I would say, see, this is why it's very important to make sure you

35:00take time to heal.

35:02You can't heal if you're stuck in the past.

35:05And I have dealt with several people where we try to move forward and confidence and we have a good

35:11conversation, but they keep going backwards and they keep going backwards and they keep reminiscing on the past.

35:17So if you stay looking backwards, you can't see where you're going forward.

35:21So that's exactly what I get out of this of why in two years there was no healing, because when

35:28the time I'm spent alone, what is your mind doing?

35:32Is your mind thinking of the future or is it stuck in the past?

35:35And it sounds like he was just rehearsing, replaying those same sad broken records over and over and over again.

35:42Right. And, you know, like I said, you know, gambling, it can be an addiction and also could be fun.

35:49Don't get me wrong, because we we were we haven't been traveling like you because, you know, been taking care

35:55of a lot of things around the house.

35:57But whenever we went, we always took I always took a certain amount.

36:03Diana took a certain amount. You know, I said, hey, this is all I'm going to spend when that runs

36:10out.

36:11I don't care how much time I had left. I'm done.

36:14And that was the discipline that I had for myself.

36:18And, you know, one time I got there and we had I mean, it was like, OK, it was the

36:26last day.

36:27So I said, oh, I don't mind spending what I have.

36:30I mean, but there's been times when I came home with a little change, too.

36:34But I didn't I didn't go crazy over it.

36:38He's. You know, I just went to have a good time.

36:43If I won, cool. If I lost, it was cool.

36:47I went there trying to get rich and what it sounds like really deep down inside.

36:52That's what he's trying to do is get rich.

36:55And you can't. Man, I don't care.

36:58You start gambling. You're not going to get rich.

37:01Not at all.

37:04You know, because you just keep putting you just going to keep putting money in money in.

37:10And guess what? You're going to get to a point where you think you're ahead,

37:16but you get married to lose it all at one time.

37:21I'll tell you that the rich and wealthy people, they don't gamble with their money and they don't go to

37:28casinos.

37:29I know some people think that investing money in the stock market can be a gamble, but that's their own

37:35personal beliefs.

37:36But when it comes to actually putting money in a slot machine or at the tables or anything like that,

37:42this is what I think about it.

37:45And that's a wrap on today's.

37:48It's a wrap. It's over.

37:50Absolutely not. Game over.

37:53Yeah, we don't do that.

37:57Yeah.

37:58I mean, most people know casinos are it's all set up.

38:07You know, and I know when I went, like, like I said, we went to Vegas a few times and

38:13my cousin, because one of my cousin, he worked security there for, oh, man, 25, 30 years.

38:19He was and he was like, hey, cuz, he said, don't get caught up, man.

38:24He said, it's all rigged.

38:26I said, no, no, no.

38:27And I told him how I did it.

38:28He said, OK, long, you're doing it like that, man.

38:31He said, it's cool.

38:33They have some of the best furniture, the best decor.

38:40If you go to Vegas, they got the light shows.

38:43They got all of the replicas of the Eiffel Tower.

38:48They got all kinds.

38:50Yeah.

38:50Who do you think paying for that?

38:54The ones that come there and lose their money.

38:57Exactly.

38:58Exactly.

38:59But see, but see, like I said, we went there for more than just gambling.

39:05That was always our thing.

39:06We took tours, you know, when we went there.

39:11It wasn't just to go there to gamble.

39:13We went to concerts.

39:15We went to comedy shows.

39:17We took tours.

39:19So we had something to do where we weren't just sitting around listening to the slot machine all night long.

39:26Yeah, that's something else.

39:29You know, like, you know, we visited, you know, three of the deserts out there.

39:35We took tours.

39:37That's what we did.

39:37Took the tours to two of them.

39:39And then the other one, a friend of mine that's out there, he took us to this one desert and,

39:45you know, and I got a chance to take some pictures, some videos, and then we came on back.

39:52And then, you know, and that's it.

39:54Or we go to concerts out there.

39:56That's mostly what we was going there for was really the concerts, you know, and then, you know, like I

40:04said, comedy shows.

40:06And now I'm good friends with one of the comedians.

40:09He was out there for 10 years.

40:11He had a residence out there for 10 years.

40:15Now he left and he's gone back to California.

40:19Okay.

40:20And me and him, we stay in touch, you know, actually we was talking the other night, you know, on

40:26Instagram.

40:29So, you know, like I said, if you are going there just to gamble, then yes, you're going to get

40:37in trouble because you're going to lose your money.

40:41I think that a lot of this, the loneliness, the grief, the avoidance, and you say that money wasn't the

40:49real issue.

40:50It probably wasn't.

40:51You had the money, but you didn't do the right thing with it.

40:54So then it did become an issue.

40:57Some counseling, some counseling, some counseling.

41:02Right.

41:03And, you know, the fact, you know, to me, it's like, okay, dude, no one said that, no one or

41:09you haven't spoken to anybody about what you should do with your, with your time.

41:16Like you said, counseling.

41:18Yeah.

41:19Now he's a good candidate for getting to be in council because he need to find something else to do

41:24besides just going to the casino.

41:28What is that thing where they say the idle mind is a, is a terrible thing to waste or order

41:35devil's workshop or something like that?

41:37You ever heard that?

41:38Yes.

41:39Yes.

41:39Because this, oh yeah, I heard it all.

41:41This is exactly what it is.

41:42You got all this time on your hands.

41:44You don't know who you are.

41:45And I know that that sounds terrible, but that happens to a lot of people who spend years inside of

41:51a relationship, a marriage, and even some friendships that go by the way.

41:57Side, once they end, you were so wrapped up and trapped up into that other human being that once you

42:03get by yourself, you got all this time and you don't know what to do because you've lost yourself.

42:08So you need to find out who you are.

42:11Yes.

42:13And you know what?

42:14That's why I always say, I'm so glad, thank God, that I always fell back on music and writing.

42:23What got me was, I heard someone say one time, they said, find something that you can do that even

42:33when you get old and retired, that you can still do it without it costing you.

42:40And when they said that, I'm like, okay, then.

42:43And I'm like, let me get back into my writing, you know, and I said, let me get back to

42:49listening to my music.

42:51And then that's what really kept me afloat was, you know, things like that.

42:56And like I said, you know, I've, I've gone to a lot of play, I've gone to plays, you know,

43:03I've gone to a lot of just gone and sit in a club and listen to spoken word or watch

43:13the play or listen to people just sit down and talk.

43:16And I always found that very helpful for me.

43:20Like I said, I found this for me.

43:22Everybody, I know everybody would probably frown up when I say that because they'd be like, oh, that ain't for

43:28me.

43:28You know, that ain't for me.

43:29Yeah, you're right.

43:30It's not.

43:30But that's what kept me afloat.

43:33Exactly.

43:34Yeah.

43:35What works for you works for you.

43:37And what works for somebody else may not work for you.

43:40Yeah, I agree with that.

43:42Exactly.

43:43You know, so that was that.

43:45Like I said, when I when people and I tell that people know that I'm like, hey, this is what

43:50worked for me.

43:51I can't say it's going to work for you, but it worked for me.

43:54And that's why I'm so into my music.

43:58I'm so, you know, a lot of people, hey, man, you know, a lot about music.

44:01How come this, this and that?

44:03And I said, well, there's a lot of reasons, you know, you know, and the number one thing about music

44:11is if you're not marketable, you know, you can forget about trying to make it.

44:17And a lot of people, a lot of people don't realize that you got to be marketable for to really

44:23make it.

44:24You got to come with something that somebody else is not doing.

44:29Yeah, there's a lot of copycats out there.

44:33Right.

44:34And just like that's why I think there's a lot of people that do like my poetry because they they

44:40people expect me being, you know, six, four and a half black man.

44:46They expect me to come up there screaming and holler.

44:49That's not the way it is.

44:51And then when I read the poem, they'd be like, wow, man, he read something that I wouldn't expect.

44:58He said he said, come up there screaming and hollering.

45:02And, you know, that that that reminds me so much of, you know, these pastors when they up there preaching.

45:11See, you just opened up a box and I'm going to shut up after this.

45:15But, uh, yeah, God didn't have to get up there and scream and yell.

45:20Jesus up there and scream and yell.

45:22These pastors, they think that the only way that they can get the message across.

45:28Will you really preach when you're screaming and yelling at somebody?

45:34Anyway, yeah, I'm off it.

45:36Yeah.

45:38So, so, but, you know, I mean, then he said, you know, it ain't about the money.

45:43But then he talked about how his credit cards is all out, you know, out of control.

45:48And, you know, and I'm like, wait a minute, man, you keep saying it's about the money.

45:51It is about the money.

45:53That is, it is, you know, you know, you keep, you know, because you keep, okay, you drain your emergency

46:01fund.

46:02No good.

46:03You know, spent months chasing losses that never wanted to be found.

46:07Credit card debt.

46:09That it is about the money, man.

46:11You know, you can sit there and he needs to really, I shouldn't say, I should say, he need to

46:17quit fooling himself.

46:19Cause that's all he doing.

46:23You know, that's all he's doing.

46:24I'm not going to say, I was going to say he need to keep lying to himself.

46:28He needs to keep fooling him.

46:30He, you know, he, he fooling himself.

46:31If it's not about the money.

46:35Yeah, there's a lot going on here.

46:36I say you need to understand and know who you are.

46:40Take some time for yourself.

46:43That's the problem.

46:44You haven't take time for yourself.

46:45When you did, you probably were thinking too much of what the past was, what your current situation was.

46:53And again, that's no good.

46:54When you stay looking behind, you can't see where you're going.

46:58And if, if it's tough, again, I'm not here to act like, you know, you know, I'm Superman or anything.

47:04I've been there before, but talk to somebody.

47:08Get some counseling.

47:10Yeah.

47:11Phone a friend that you can trust.

47:14Do something to where you're not staying stuck on what was, because you'll never get to where the heck you

47:22need to go.

47:23So, yeah.

47:24That's true.

47:25You know, I mean, yeah, I've been through it too.

47:27You know, don't get me wrong.

47:28I've been through it.

47:29And, you know, he, he said they grew, they grew away from each other.

47:35So it sounds like it.

47:36I can't understand.

47:38Yeah.

47:38It sounds like, it sounds like that's the easy transition.

47:40At least it wasn't like you saw her cheating or whatever.

47:46Right.

47:46You know, he said they grew, they just grew, you know.

47:50So if you grew away from each other, what is the problem?

47:53Yeah.

47:53And then he, and then he turned around and said, oh, it is him.

47:56Um, so I'll be, like I said, there was a lot of contradiction in this.

48:02And I mean, which I understand because we all do it.

48:06I mean, don't get me wrong.

48:08There was a period of time, but I'm trying to even think, man, I can't remember when, I know when

48:16my divorce came through, man, I went out with some coworkers.

48:19We went to, we went to this club.

48:21We went to this bar, this restaurant, rather.

48:23I sat up there, man, and they was like, you all right?

48:27I said, I'm fine.

48:27I said, I'm a free man.

48:30You know?

48:31And they was like, oh, okay, then we know that.

48:34You know, I'm like, I'm fine, you know?

48:36I didn't, you know, I didn't sit back and dwell.

48:39Listen, I did the same thing.

48:42And that was one of the worst nights ever.

48:44I came back getting sick all over the place.

48:48There was this song back in the day.

48:50I don't know who sung it, but I forgot what he was saying.

48:54It was this Jamaican joint where it was, oh, Red Bull.

48:59I don't know what he was saying.

49:01I'm drinking rum in Red Bull.

49:03Remember that joint?

49:04I don't know.

49:04But anyway, that was hot back in the day.

49:07Man, I kept, that song came on, and I went up to the bar and ordered, I'm drinking rum

49:15in Red Bull.

49:17Yeah, that was no good.

49:20No good.

49:21Yeah.

49:21Well, don't feel bad, because when I went out, I did have me some food, though.

49:26I ordered me some food, you know?

49:28I had brandy.

49:30That's what I was, you know, man, I was hitting that brandy, man.

49:33And then, you know, like I said, I got drunk.

49:38I went home, slept well, got up, went to work the next day.

49:42They looked at me.

49:43They said, you all right?

49:44I said, I'm fine.

49:45They said.

49:46And then the supervisor, she said, yep, he okay.

49:49You know?

49:50You know?

49:51I said, hey, I said, I already knew this was coming, so it didn't, I said, I'm not letting

49:58it bother me.

49:59Yeah.

50:00I'm going to have to look that up.

50:02I've got to look up that song.

50:03So, while I'm looking that up, go ahead and let people know what you got going on this

50:11week.

50:14You know what?

50:15This month, next month, I'm just taking it real light.

50:19I'm taking it real light.

50:23I probably, I'm going to steal right a little bit, you know?

50:26That's something I try not to do.

50:28I try to stay away because I want to get something new going.

50:33I always continue to write something somewhere and just be working on some videos.

50:39My books, of course, is at Amazon.com slash authors slash Birdman313.

50:55You can also go to my YouTube channel, which is YouTube.com slash author, poet, Birdman31355.

51:04You can find me on Instagram, where I've been posting pictures.

51:10I'm going to start posting a few videos this week of the trip down there.

51:15But the videos I posted, they're not going to have no poem to that.

51:20It's just a video.

51:21But I am putting something together, you know, because I did write about one area, that one

51:29that was Sunday, but I am going to do that.

51:33So that's about it.

51:35That's what's up.

51:37I appreciate you for joining.

51:39As always, you do a great job adding your insight.

51:45And we're going to have to get out of here.

51:46We got to pay some bills.

51:47I looked up the song.

51:50It was Rum and Red Bull, Beanie Man.

51:53Yeah.

51:55It's in 2006.

51:57I knew about the song, but I celebrated it in 2013.

52:03Good.

52:04Yeah.

52:05Hey, have you ever heard Wayman Tisdale?

52:08No, I haven't.

52:11I'm going to look it up.

52:12Okay.

52:13He played jazz, a little bluesy jazz.

52:17He used to play in the NBA.

52:19I've seen that.

52:20I see that.

52:21Yeah.

52:22Yeah.

52:23He played it.

52:24He was a good player.

52:26He was a good player.

52:27And the whole time he was playing his music while he was playing basketball, on his off days,

52:37he would go to a studio.

52:38He had got him a studio, man.

52:41But he kept it all in the family when he passed away a few years ago.

52:47And, you know, but his brother, it's funny because his older brother was at Oklahoma when

52:54he was, his brother was his agent.

52:58His sister was his accountant.

53:01And I think it was another family member that had something to do with.

53:05He kept it in the family and there never was no discrepancy about his money.

53:10See, see, see, that's how you do it.

53:14You got to make sure you, you know, and he, but, but no, listen, listen to him, man.

53:20He has, he has some good music because, you know, you'll sit back and you'll say, oh, he's

53:25an ex-athlete, you wouldn't think his music is that good, but the brother can play the

53:31bass, man.

53:32He can play, he can play that bass guitar and his music is so smooth.

53:37I'm going to look it up.

53:38I'm going to look it up.

53:40Yeah.

53:40I see it.

53:41He got a good, uh, discography.

53:43He wasn't playing around.

53:44I'll tell you that much.

53:45I see all, see all the albums.

53:48All right.

53:49I'm going to look that up.

53:51Yeah.

53:51All right.

53:52Well, it is a wrap.

53:54I appreciate it.

53:55It's time to get on up out of here.

53:57And, um, listen, I'm going to go have me some rice and beans and, uh, take it on down.

54:07Some Spanish rice and beans.

54:08I appreciate that right about now.

54:11Yeah.

54:12I might get on another, um, podcast later.

54:15I haven't been there in a long time.

54:18It's just there was some things.

54:22And a lot of people just stopped going there because it was some things that was promised

54:26that they just couldn't fulfill.

54:29So, you know, I'm still cool.

54:32You know, man, me and her still cool.

54:34You know, I understand, you know, um, yeah.

54:39She promised to bring some of the people that she knew that, you know, like myself, like

54:43other people that did things, but it's always just the people from Hollywood.

54:48So, a lot of people that used to follow her when they realized they weren't going to get

54:54a shot at being on her podcast as a guest, they just moved on.

54:58You know, you can't compete with Hollywood, but.

55:02Yeah, you are.

55:06Yeah.

55:08I'll, I'll talk to you soon.

55:11Okay.

55:12Take care.

55:12Okay.

55:13Night.

55:13Good night.

55:14Hey, did you get my book?

55:15I haven't checked yet, but I will.

55:18I'll let you, I'll let you know.

55:20Okay.

55:21All right.

55:22Okay.

55:22All right.

55:23Take care now.

55:25Yeah, you too.

55:43Good night, good night, good night, y'all.

55:45Thank y'all so much for joining in.

55:48Tune in next week.

55:49I appreciate y'all for hanging in there with us tonight.

55:52Take care now.

56:05Take care now.

56:37Take care now.

56:58Take care now.

57:00Take care now.

57:01Take care now.

57:02Take care now.

The Money Wasn't Missing, I Was | DISC 6: Vitality | 411 PODCAST (Episode 34)

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