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According to Pulkit Sharma, this is a group of patients who might get hope and relief from psychoanalytic therapy. The present interactive session was organized by VIMHANS in collaboration with India Habitat Centre, New Delhi. It was a part of a 12-month lecture series on Indian psychoanalysis (2012 -2013) curated by the then newly established psychoanalytic therapy unit at VIMHANS, New Delhi.

The speaker is Pulkit Sharma, a well-known clinical psychologist, psychoanalytic therapist, spiritual counselor and author now based in Pondicherry, India. Highlights of the session:
1. Understanding the depressive personality.
2. Revisiting the role of pathological mourning, shattered self, repressed anger, loss and ambivalence.
3. Disrupted and insecure attachments and consequent helplessness.
4. Therapeutic techniques with the depressive personality.

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00:01Good evening everyone, I welcome you to the ongoing series on psychoanalysis and I am
00:09Vulket and clinical psychologist at Wimhans and today's talk will touch upon depression.
00:17You know, depression is a very very broad term.
00:21So it is used in everyday terms, we also see it in terms of personality, we also see it as
00:34a specific disorder.
00:36So I will just take a few moments to clarify what particular form of depression we are talking about today.
00:47Which interestingly I also have not written so much on my slides, you know, so I will just stay here
00:55only.
00:56It just stuck my mind right now.
01:00See, one very important thing is that we may use the term depression in our everyday understanding, communication and feelings.
01:08You know, one very obvious meaning when I say that I am depressed, it simply means that I am feeling
01:13low.
01:15Something has happened at the moment that I am feeling low, so I say that I am depressed.
01:21So that's one meaning of depression which is simple, like the normal sadness which comes and goes, which does not
01:29stay on.
01:30Right?
01:31There is a second form of depression which is more personality based.
01:38We are going to actually touch upon this second form of depression.
01:42Now, this kind of depression has its roots pretty early in childhood.
01:47There are people who develop in a certain way, that they, you know, grow up with a very quality sense
01:54of self.
01:54They feel that there is something wrong with them, right from a very early stage of life and they, very
02:03easily they get, you know, sad or unhappy.
02:08And their entire life is, they are somewhere scared that, you know, no one would love to be with them.
02:16And so their entire life is organized around those themes, you know, so you would be in detail talking about
02:23this.
02:24Second type is the depressive personality.
02:26There is third, which we, you know, see depression as a psychiatric disorder.
02:33There are many medical causes also which may lead to the onset of depression in a very, you know, in
02:42any person at any stage.
02:44It could be, you know, something, you know, it could be related to a hormonal imbalance or it could be
02:51something else also.
02:52But the difference between a depressive personality and a psychiatric depression is that a psychiatric depression would come and, you
03:03know, with treatment it could go and then it may, it usually does not come back.
03:09But the interesting part about a depressive personality is because it's a part of who you are, so it stays
03:15on with you, you know.
03:16Even if you have anti-depressants and everything, it stays on with you.
03:20You may feel a little better, you may feel a little lepped up, but the emotion stays on with you.
03:26And I just kind of take some more time to clarify this.
03:34As I said, it's very important, you know, because what happens in our country and in our set of will
03:41is that we actually are confused between the three.
03:45So if someone comes and says that I'm feeling very depressed, so we may think of it as, you know,
03:51that it's something which is, you know, which is very transitioning, just pass right away kind of thing.
03:58So it's important to be able to distinguish between this normal sadness and other forms of depression.
04:07As I said, it is actually also very confusing because, you know, you can also have three things at times,
04:16you know, it's not that you can have either of them.
04:18But as I said that the depressive personality about which we are talking today specifically, it includes repetitive personality themes.
04:26Like, which are in some ways very lifelong, that they would not leave you, you know.
04:30They are not the things which will come and go.
04:33It's not like this that every, you know, that now you are feeling very fine and after eight months you,
04:38you know, feel low.
04:41It's not like that. It's like this that, yeah, in your life you are feeling, you know, at times a
04:46little normal, at times a little high, at times a little low.
04:48But at the back of your mind these low feelings are almost always there kind of thing.
04:55And they would include that they are, you know, the ways in which the person thinks, the ways in which
05:01the person feels, behaves and relates to others.
05:05And they typically intensify under stress, you know, so if everything is going on fine for that person, he or
05:13she may be able to manage through life,
05:15may be able to work, may be able to, you know, it's like any one of us.
05:19But if, you know, there's an experience of stress, any kind of stress, you know, positive stress, negative stress,
05:27then, you know, the personality themes start intensifying during that time.
05:35Yeah, and the interesting point of differentiation, one has been between the depressive personality and the psychiatric depression is that
05:45you may not see very severe vegetative symptoms, you know, because when you have a psychiatric depression,
05:51it would be like this, that your appetite would drastically go down, your sleep would be drastically low,
06:00you would be like, you know, you would not, you know, the person may be quite restricted in their movements
06:09and there would be a decreased sense of pleasure.
06:12But a depressive personality is able to actually carry on the day to day tasks kind of thing.
06:19It's somewhere inside, deep down, that they have these feelings.
06:26As I again said, the anti-depressant or any mood stabilizing medications do have an impact on the depressive illness,
06:37on symptoms of depression, but if someone has that kind of a personality, they may have actually a very little
06:44impact on that.
06:47Because in order to heal the, if someone has a depressive personality, they will require a great deal of self
06:55-awareness and some kind of working through all their inner conflicts,
06:58about which we are going to touch in today's talk.
07:04Right, so we've come to this, you know, since we are talking about depressive personalities,
07:12so let me kind of talk a little bit about who is a depressive personality.
07:26So let's first of all go through some very typical signs and symptoms that we see in these people.
07:39So in general, you know, that's the hallmark of depressive personality, in general across situations, across situations.
07:46It's not one situation, like if someone, if you, if someone has a breakup, then everyone is depressed inside.
07:54You know, if you are not depressed inside, you know, if you are not depressed inside, if you have a
07:56breakup, then you are normal, clear that.
07:58So, or you are really defending a lot against the pain.
08:04But the hallmark of depressive personality is that whether it's a, you know, good situation or a bad situation,
08:10the person is not, you know, the mood remains likely, you know, kind of thing.
08:18You know, the, it's very typical for such people to say, you know, like,
08:24I remember, you know, this patient who, who had, who was not driving for the last five years,
08:32and after five years he started driving, so he came to the session and he shared,
08:37I started driving, but he said it in a very, very, you know, very cold manner.
08:42He just came and in a very mad lot of fact, he said, oh, you know, last week I started
08:46driving.
08:47So there was no joy, no elation, you know, that he has resumed driving after five years or something like
08:53that.
08:55And another thing, you know, like, you, you know, that you would kind of, if you have seen people like
09:02this,
09:02you would almost always wish that they should be a little more happy.
09:05You would always go and ask the people, aren't you happy?
09:08You should be slightly more happy, you know.
09:11You know, you are getting married or this thing is happening, where is the joy?
09:15These people, you know, very mad to the fact that they, yeah, it's okay, if that's happening, it's okay.
09:22I'm, I'm, I'm happy, you know, kind of thing.
09:25But you never see that kind of, you know, overwhelming joy.
09:30And another thing is that even if anything slight goes wrong, it's very easy for these people to slip down
09:38into a low state, you know, just at the drop of a hat.
09:42You know, that anything small that happens which upsets them and they may start feeling low.
09:49And when they are feeling low, it's not as easy for them to come out of that hole.
09:55For a normal person, if something happens and you feel low, you can bounce back a little easily.
10:01But these people, even if something small happens and they start feeling low, so they may be like, you know,
10:10they would be in that state.
10:11And, you know, a lot of effort would be required from their side and from other people's side to pull
10:16them out.
10:18At times you may find them fearful.
10:20Another interesting thing is, which you may see in a select group of these people, that at times you may
10:26not find them fearful or sad, but you may find them irritable, you know, shot fused.
10:30You know, that anything which is not according to them and they would be irritated very easily with you and
10:42so those things.
10:47Another interesting dimension when we are talking about sadness is, you know, that one can be objectively sad, subjectively sad
10:55for both, you know, now what do you mean by that?
10:57It's like this, that at times these people may actually tell you that I am feeling sad, you know, which
11:04is that they have a subjective experience of sadness.
11:07So in one sense that I am feeling sad, you know.
11:09Though on the whole, when you see them from, you know, the outside, you may find them normal, you know,
11:15or you may find them slightly inhibited for that matter.
11:20But they are sad, so subjective sadness means that a few of these people feel that kind of sadness and
11:28so they say that I am sad.
11:31But there is a other category which may, either may be feeling the subjective sadness which is too shy or
11:40too reserved to say it or they may also, you know, they may be in denial of their low feeling.
11:46So they may not say or they may not consciously, you know, register the fact that they are feeling sad
11:52but you as an observer may be able to make it out from their behavior.
11:57That there is something wrong with this person, that this person perpetually looks slightly unhappy.
12:03So those dimensions are there.
12:07Yeah, as I said, even when there are occasions to be happy, the person either may show very little happiness
12:13or the happiness does not seem to last long, you know.
12:19One school going girl, you know, whom I had seen a few years ago, with her the thing was that
12:25she was very good at debating and she would win, you know, like,
12:31she would go for these debating competitions and she would win them and she would get, you know, very interesting
12:37colourful certificates and trophies like you get in schools.
12:41So she would be very happy for a day or two that she has achieved something and she has done
12:45something.
12:46But the third day she would once again start having this feeling that, you know, she is not good, there
12:52is something, you know, wrong somewhere and she needs to do something, you know.
12:57So she would again start seeking an experience, you know, to reassure herself, you know, that she is good.
13:05So this thing may happen.
13:09Correct.
13:11And, yeah, these people also may have markedly diminished pleasure or interest in various activities.
13:20They could have it in one group of activities or they could have it in many spheres.
13:24But it does not mean that, what I mean to say is that they are doing those activities, they are
13:29doing those things,
13:31but they are unable to give that kind of a hundred percent or they are unable to feed a hundred
13:37percent, you know, for these things.
13:38So, like another friend actually, which comes to my mind, so he had, he was interested in several, several things,
13:50you know,
13:51very gifted person interested in several things in life.
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Pulkit Sharma - Clinical Psychologist & Author
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While some depressions benefit a lot from pharmacotherapy and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), there are individuals with a depressive personality who don't respond well to these treatments.

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