00:09so these were written for john but stony oh boy your sage wisdom is needed dear stony
00:15got ride or die date night and a weight loss question we start with ride or die ride or die
00:22okay dear john slash dear stony i've been happily married for 15 years and we have hardly ever
00:29fought that was until this month recently we were watching should i marry a murderer and i thought
00:36to myself i would never say anything to get my wife in trouble i asked her would you turn me
00:41in
00:41if i killed someone and she said i wouldn't be able to live with myself if i didn't it led
00:46to a
00:46fight where i said she wasn't ride or die could you marry someone who would turn you in on the
00:51other
00:52side am i a bad person because i'd cover up a murder wow that's a great question i
00:59i don't think i could be with somebody who was a murderer i i don't so cindy told you hey
01:07yeah i'd turn her in i would do the same yes because i'd be worried that maybe you know she's
01:15got this habitual thing that all of a sudden one day i'm gonna wake up there's gonna be a gun
01:19in
01:19my mouth does it depend how the person's murdered no but i mean i was like it's more the reasonings
01:25behind it yeah was just like a plotted gruesome murder or it's like well yeah an accident that
01:31then she had to bury your body well yeah that does change things a little or is it in self
01:37-defense i
01:38mean there's there's right i think maybe the reasoning behind it could change a little bit
01:42but i think you would turn colin in if he murdered somebody and i think he'd want me to turn
01:47him in
01:48right i think he would turn himself in which do you think colin would turn you in probably
01:54would cindy turn yeah she would yes absolutely she should so this the wife is in the right in
02:00your mind yes and this guy is wrong the guy's definitely wrong i don't think kelsey would turn
02:06me in and i don't think i'd turn her in wow bonnie and clyde fugitives fugitives with the
02:13cateco it's gotta keep that secret for the rest of your life i guess so nice uh number two date
02:19night dear stony uh my mouth may have got me in trouble i met a girl on the apps and
02:26after a few
02:26dates i talked a big game about making her a home-cooked meal but here's the thing i can barely
02:33boil water i mostly eat out or heat up frozen stuff what's an easy but impressive enough meal i can
02:39make
02:40well you're the expert i'm perfect for this call your wife what does she say no i will you know
02:47make some sort of like pasta and make it you know put some nice little cheese baked cheese or
02:53something around it and you find out if she likes some ground beef you put some beef in there maybe
02:59i don't know some kind of fancy pasta dish pasta is always easy right like yes even i could do
03:05that
03:05yes maybe find out what she likes like what like if does she like chicken does she like fish right
03:11that's pretty easy to chicken is pretty easy to make yeah chicken people freak out if they're not
03:17good cooks like are they gonna undercook it and if you overcook it it's rubbery yeah but pasta safe i
03:24mean if you boil water put noodles in i'm not even telling you you got to make a homemade sauce
03:28right oh no i mean it sounds like homemade sauce no but you could buy a jar yes absolutely buy
03:33for date
03:34and i do a little garlic bread with it uh-huh absolutely stouffer's garlic bread and how about
03:38this grate the cheese like fresh grated cheese for the pasta don't get like the parmesan in a can
03:43correct it looks good yeah i mean it's not much of a cookie yeah you might not have one buy
03:48a cheese
03:49less than one buy a cheese grater yes or get a little parsley and you know put that on dress
03:54it up a
03:55little bit yeah that's a wine you're good to go what i would end up doing you don't want to
04:00lie to
04:01this girl forever right because if you can really create a good meal she's gonna think you really
04:04are a good cook right i have some fun what i would end up doing if i couldn't cook and
04:09i lied about
04:10it i would get takeout and i'd put it together and then ultimately i would tell her that i didn't
04:14cook this meal i don't really know how to cook i just made it like i would prepare the takeout
04:19food
04:19like i made it and then i would ultimately fess up and say i really can't cook or if you
04:25bring over
04:26a personal chef you have him in the basement and you sure or you could do that how elaborate is
04:33this
04:33lie i don't know you got emerald in the basement well you're talking about you know you know wine
04:40maybe you know you put a little wine put some stuff in the wine and then you can be part
04:45of the first
04:45question ride or die murder murder the person story at this point this is like out of a sitcom you're
04:52walking into one room and switching out the plates with the chef uh an idea that popped in my head
04:57maybe it's terrible if you're just going to confess that you're not a good cook do you make it like
05:01a
05:01team thing like what does she want you go to the grocery store together you pick out the ingredients
05:06now it's a little more intimate maybe that's your solution yeah maybe if you're if you're not going to
05:10try to keep up the charade i think that's the way to you can't keep it up forever i mean
05:15if it's
05:16going to go somewhere she's going to eventually learn you can't cook right but you but you should ask
05:19maybe what she does like that way if you're going to make it something and or at least fudge it
05:25you
05:25know what to get make your specialty dino chicken nuggets that sounds like what this guy's all about
05:30all right last one weight loss dear stoney my wife complains about not liking her body she's been
05:37saying she wants to try one of the glp ones the weight loss drugs i tell her she's beautiful but
05:42i
05:42worry about the side effects and long-term problems if she gets on one of the medications i don't want
05:46to
05:46be married to a skeleton or have her gain it all back if she ever gets off of it the
05:51harsh truth is
05:51she's never really tried to lose weight she'll go to the gym for a week or two and quit she
05:56needs to
05:56try harder from being honest but i know i can't say that how would you handle it i'd say honey
06:02you look
06:02fine in my eyes you don't need to do anything but you look fine you look beautiful whatever you know
06:10you don't need to lose any weight but if you do if she wants to do the glp why not
06:15i've there have
06:15been many success stories with the glp yes we're not sure down the road if there are going to be
06:21side effects but you know if you want to take that chance take that chance i like that answer i
06:26mean i
06:26think it's it's kind of important to support her you could if you really didn't want her to go on
06:31one of these you telling her she looks beautiful is great but that's not going to change how she feels
06:36about herself correct so you do need to support her if you want to try um getting her to the
06:41gym
06:41more maybe you can do this together let's say like you know what let's go together let's get a workout
06:46plan going on you can bring in that chef stoney and work on the food because food is super important
06:51right into your weight loss journey as well work on your diet yeah or just you cook for her all
06:56the
06:56time and you can't cook so she'll have weight loss anyway because she doesn't want to eat your lousy food
07:00but i'm kind of with it like if you if that's what she wants to do let's kind of support
07:06her
07:06yeah the drugs make me a little uncomfortable i would prefer to do it the the old-fashioned way
07:12but it's hard so i think you'd have to attack it both with activity maybe it's not the gym maybe
07:17you guys are going for what walks or hikes or something bike whatever active thing you want to do
07:21outside you can do both i mean i think people that go on the glp and don't exercise i think
07:25you're
07:25making a mistake i agree you have to still you're going to lose muscle you need to be working out
07:30right and then food i think food might be more important than even working out because it's
07:34calories in calories out if you're eating a lot of like high fat high sugar not satiating foods
07:40you're going to just gorge all day the thing with the glp they say is that you lose your appetite
07:44yes that's why it works right you just eat less yeah you're not hungry you still need nutrients
07:49correct i know and you still need to work out absolutely so all right you can send them in every
07:56week
07:56dear john jansen at gmail.com john will be back next week for dear john so send them in dear
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