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03:46And now, here's your guide through it all, entrepreneur, mentor, and founder of Black Diamond Consultations, Laren Gaines.

04:06Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome on, and welcome into another episode of the 411 Podcast.

04:14It is Mental Monday.

04:17And I got a lot to talk about today.

04:48It's a lot.

04:50Shout out to all of my special guest.

04:54Let's get started.

05:00We have Jorge, Ernesto, we have Jorge, Ernesto, Lozano, we have Seisha, Blanco, we have Birdman313, we have Antonio Trujillo,

05:13and of course, Danny Lopez.

05:17I think I got my special guest, please.

05:22on and we have a very special guest tonight for mental monday mr jorge ornesto lazano will be on

05:31and we're gonna have a great conversation but you know what we do here we do the song of the

05:38day so

05:39let's get on into it

05:47okay so this song was released when i was eight years old

05:54michael jackson offered a bad album who doesn't know that album that was like the number one hit

06:00when i was a kid and i remember that running around the house singing that but there was a very

06:06special song on this album that i remember having heavy rotation because it was on the radio all the

06:11time and even as a kid at that age at eight years old it made me think and um the

06:19song is man in a

06:20mirror and as i go through you know every night during the podcast just in life in general

06:30this song resonates so well even when it comes to the financial aspect you know that this is a

06:37financial show man in a mirror just comes full circle i think about my life i think about the

06:46things that i've been through when i think about you know you know people that i interact with

06:50and a lot of things that we deal with or that we're dealing with today sometimes is often due to

06:58us not really wanting to dig down deep and look at the man in the mirror i used to always

07:04point fingers

07:04or i used to always blame i used to always think that my circumstances was due to someone else

07:13and there's a proverb i think it's an african proverb somewhere along the lines that says

07:21the enemy outside can no longer affect you if there's no enemy within so if there's an enemy

07:29within then that means you allow outside forces to attack you i know i just did that in

07:36aaron's version but that's basically what says times we have an enemy that's within that is so big

07:45that is so bad michael jackson bad that is so deep that we don't even look inward to try to

07:52fix that

07:53we're so afraid of what's on the inside but little do we know again i don't know who i'm speaking

07:59to

08:00i'm only speaking from experience that when we look within that enemy that is so deep that is so bad

08:10that sometimes feels like it's the end of the world ends up being the most beautiful

08:19precious amazing being on the inside and when you start to look on the inside and you look at that

08:26man in the mirror on the inside everything starts within and it will start to blossom out song of the

08:34day man in the mirror released in 1988 off of michael jackson's album bad still today 2026 you do the

08:46math

08:46how many years later that song is just so relevant and so important and continues to change lives and

08:54i believe that that song will go on forever but easier said than done it's so hard for people to

09:02look in a mirror and look within and stop pointing fingers and looking outward and pointing outward and

09:10thinking that somebody else is responsible for what we have going on in our world today see what we think

09:17about up here ends up being becoming reality it starts here and then it shows up in a in the

09:27real world

09:28starts here and then it shows up so let me get off of that thank you all for coming in

09:36and let's get right on

09:38into my special guest mr jorge he's gonna come up y'all go ahead and give a round of applause

09:49for mr jorge ornesto lozano

10:04welcome welcome welcome on in how are you how's everything um i am wonderful uh really today

10:12well it's been an amazing day so i thank you for having me today as your guest and i'm very

10:17honored

10:18so thank you absolutely so we'll do it in uh the four-on-one fashion so can you let everybody

10:26know

10:27where you i say where you are calling from because this show started off as a phone call back in

10:32the

10:32day so where are you calling from yes so today i am in chicago this is where i live and

10:39right i reside

10:40i am a flight attendant so you'll catch me pretty much everywhere so i try to always be connected wherever

10:46i'm at uh around the world i've been being i've been a flight attendant for 29 years so today i

10:52am

10:53actually here on a day off on a on this uh motivational monday mental monday well we could spend a

11:00whole

11:01hour just talking about traveling that's a whole nother situation so i'll try not to

11:07stay on this topic too long um because that's not what we're here to do but that must be an

11:12amazing

11:12job to be able to travel all over it's been an experience i come from a family that was raised

11:20in

11:20the projects in el paso texas so there was no generational wealth whatsoever uh i have my

11:27mother with a fifth grade education so everything i had to learn i had to learn uh to fend for

11:33myself

11:34and becoming a flight attendant was gave me the opportunity of being able to see the world

11:40and see how others live and how other cultures are so i've been blessed with having all those

11:47opportunities that i would have never had um had i just stuck in my city and and lived the life

11:54that

11:54everybody else did i chose to get away wow that's amazing and and that's a that's a blessing when

12:01we i spoke about this the other night with satia basically when our story is basically unwritten

12:11and we can choose to change our lives by we write our own stories so the fact that what you

12:18experienced

12:19and what you saw as a child you decided to say now i'm going to do something a little bit

12:24different i'm

12:25taking responsibility for my life and i'm writing my own story and that's what i speak about this a lot

12:33when it comes to breaking generational curses because you could have easily just

12:39followed suit and done what everybody else done before you but there was something in you god put

12:46something in you that said okay we're going to shift and we're going to do something a little bit different

12:49so

12:52yeah yeah yeah and you said something you know i like to joke a lot too even though that this

12:57is

12:58serious stuff i do like to put a little laughs in there you said you were from you were from

13:01the

13:02projects right correct so i'm understanding that there's another side of you that people probably

13:07don't want to i know how to take care of myself i know how to wash my back uh i

13:15had no choice i

13:17understand no choice whatsoever i understand i always lived uh hyper vigilant which is something

13:25that i focus on in my coaching right right so we're going to get into we're going to get into

13:32the

13:32coaching um i want to backtrack just a little bit chicago it's really cold there uh yes uh it was

13:40warm

13:40two days ago it's freezing again the wind it's just crazy so i'm glad i didn't go outside today everything

13:46has been indoors well to let you know that i just love the heat um my motto is i'm not

13:53going to repeat

13:54my model there's a couple words in there but i just love heat just burn me the blank up just

13:59burn me the

14:00blank up i just love the heat so anything 80 and above i'm i'm good yeah chicago it's probably not

14:07going

14:08to be it's a way of life that's all i gotta say yeah okay so let's get into um just

14:19formally introduce

14:19yourself let people know where they can follow you at and then we'll go into what you actually do

14:26yes so you could follow me on uh instagram which is uh my full name which is jorge underscore ernesto

14:33underscore lozano um on instagram and through there if you go through my bio there is a qr code there

14:40that you could scan and you could find me on all platforms from my calendly to my uh website uh

14:46and

14:47to explain a little bit more about myself i um about seven years ago i hit rock bottom with uh

14:56drugs and

14:57it was a lifelong struggle of being a functioning addict and so i uh i didn't understand why i had

15:07gone into drugs but as i had hit rock bottom seven years ago when i knew i couldn't go any

15:15lower than i had

15:16with myself in my own view um i knew the only way was to go up and definitely have faith

15:25i've always had

15:26faith in god so i i choose god first and my god of preference is jesus christ so i've always

15:33put

15:33god first and he has answered my miracles till this day as i'm speaking right now because this is another

15:42miracle being able to speak about myself and what i'm trying to do so after hitting rock bottom and

15:49realizing that i had some changes to make i i got myself the help that i needed uh through a

15:55life

15:55coach and this life coach kind of made me see a side of me that i had never seen and

16:02that's uh the kind

16:03the loving that young little boy that always wanted to help others and now finding my voice which is what

16:13i finally know that i have a voice and i have a story which i believe everybody has a story

16:20to tell

16:21and i think everybody should listen to that story because that story is what has given me the strength

16:28and the wind the wings to show what transformation is all about how i have been able to transform my

16:36life

16:37you brought up a song that i cried in the mirror too all the time and that's michael jackson's mad

16:44in

16:44the mirror that's so yeah you know i and i was just so mystical that we're going down this path

16:54um you

16:54were speaking about the little boy that always wanted to help when i was younger i just knew that

17:01you know there was something different about me i didn't understand it until most recently maybe like

17:08honestly maybe like a couple years ago i had already been podcasting and i thought that you

17:13know i'm probably just gonna give this up i'm just gonna like not do this anymore but every time i

17:19tried

17:19to step away from this um something mystical would happen on air like somebody would say

17:26that story changed my life or the people that i spoke to on here it's just like

17:35are you serious i'm having this conversation with somebody who committed like one of the most

17:42unspeakable crimes that turn their life around and they're on my platform just simple things like that

17:49um enough to where god reached out to me and said you have to continue to keep going there's a

17:56reason

17:56why you're doing this so long story short you're speaking about that little kid that always wanted

18:02to help i think that you know just 2026 i'm starting to really understand and think like life was just

18:11so

18:12easy when we were younger when we were pure when the world didn't get a hold of us and didn't

18:19attack

18:20us and distort us and make us think crazy about ourselves so i'm really starting to reminisce and go

18:27back and just go back down memory lane and almost like protect the younger version of myself

18:38yes it's interesting i i relate to that which is why um after you know seeing coaches and and getting

18:47um and doing the work i think in general we've always kind of done the work like you said we've

18:52always had that instinct within ourselves we just weren't sure how to navigate it and how to use it

18:58because i knew that i had something special i just didn't know what it was at the time because i

19:06know i am also an aces ambassador and aces is adverse childhood experiences and with adverse childhood

19:13experiences uh back in 1995 to 1997 uh the cdc and kaiser permanente did a study and this study began

19:25because um it was about obesity these doctors were helping these patients lose weight but somehow they

19:33gained the weight back or just would stop going in general so they created this study with 10 a

19:41questionnaire with just 10 questions and the 10 questions were as simple as of course physical

19:46abuse before the age of 17 so from the time you're born until the age of 17 adverse childhood experiences

19:54are experiences that you went through in your household during that time frame i had never heard of aces

20:02ever i now i know exactly what you're talking about your app yeah continue yeah so with my so once

20:13i

20:15understood my aces there's 10 of them i have seven of those traumas out of those 10 questions as a

20:25child

20:25as somebody who has seven aces a lot of us are not meant to succeed a lot of us go

20:32into substance abuse

20:33uh we go into sexual uh a lot of rendezvous should i say a lot of failed relationships uh being

20:42reactive

20:43uh coming from parents who are divorced uh guns in the household things of that nature especially growing

20:49up in in the community where i grew up where i had an abusive father an abusive grandmother uh from

20:55sexual abuse to verbal abuse to uh any kind of abuse you name it i pretty much had it so

21:02i never

21:02understood why i was lousy at school and i had never understood why i was also lousy at relationships

21:08until i started understanding and growing with aces and adverse childhood experiences that i

21:16understood okay i was never dumb because you always tell yourself you're dumb when you're failing high

21:21school you know i i dropped out of high school because i was bullied and beat up because i'm also

21:27a gay man and having to navigate being gay and also being abused as a child people don't understand you

21:36and you just don't know how to express it you're living in silence which is now why i feel my

21:42voice is

21:43my superpower because i want other people to understand their aces and understand that we are not

21:49our past we are an understanding of our past and once we understand that generational trauma

21:59has led to me but we are cycle breakers and that's why we're here because we need more people like

22:05us

22:05speaking up and holding space so that people can feel that there's more people like us and they have a

22:12story to tell absolutely absolutely um quiet as a child were you very quiet and shy no okay

22:23you know because some people become uh people pleasers like want to be the best student they want to be

22:30like uh stay in school longer so they won't go home to abuses so me on the contrary i was

22:37very hyper

22:38hyper i'm still hyper you know but i didn't understand we didn't have adhd back then it's

22:43just you're just a bad kid is what they thought but our hyperness didn't realize what's going on

22:50in the household there was abuse going on in the household that you're constantly on alert and you're

22:58constantly tightened up and uh walking on eggshells everywhere and then that leads into bullying when you're

23:05walking on eggshells even more so it was it was it was tough and hard for me growing up but

23:12again

23:13these are the things that gave me the wings and i could speak about today yeah that that's the beauty

23:18behind it and um speaking um is what actually healed me because i was very shy i was very quiet

23:27based off of

23:28you know some of the similar things that you spoke about going through as a child and i just you

23:34know

23:35i guess you want to say clammed up shelled up and bottled everything in until

23:43you hit that right button or you hit that right chord and then i turned into the tasmanian devil

23:48and it was just this vicious cycle over and over and over again and um what i've learned though um

23:55starting you know in 2020 when i started this journey and started this podcast this podcast has actually

24:00helped me heal because i found my voice um i used to be so quiet used to be so shy

24:05i used to

24:05care what somebody else thought about me and you know all of these a lot of it was a lot

24:12of things

24:12that i was making up you know in my own mental and once i started to speak i started to

24:19shed so many

24:20different layers so that's why i asked if you were quiet and if that uh was the journey but i

24:26understand a

24:26little bit more too because you were saying you weren't good in school which that's a big key

24:33indicator as well um that something could be going on when you're not necessarily doing well in school

24:41but i also i'm gonna you know flip it as well and say that school is no good to begin

24:48with i know a lot

24:50of people are probably not going to disagree with me but a lot of kids that they say have adhd

24:54and this

24:55that the next the other they're no you know they're a lot of it's just a school curriculum and

25:00the atmosphere and environment and a lot of that stuff that they teach us in school we don't even

25:06use it anyway so we're not dumb we're not stupid we're not this we're not that how about maybe some

25:11of the teachers and the people who write the program they're the ones that are stupid and dumb

25:17but actually let me take that back i'm not calling anybody stupid but

25:20like seriously and you don't even use it in go ahead i i wanted to jump on that it's it's

25:30just

25:30that because i realized also that no matter if i did not do homework it failed every test

25:37i did learn i did learn because look at my brilliance of today was because i did pay attention i

25:45didn't do

25:46the homework but in class i was there listening but homework was not there's no discipline at home

25:53so how how am i gonna do they're screaming and yelling at home that's what i took out of the

25:57home

25:58you know so you know screaming and yelling is how i this is how my mom was every other word

26:04was a curse

26:04word and you know this is how she communicated and that's how i thought we should communicate but

26:12through the years you realize well that's not how so i you know we have to really pat ourselves on

26:17the

26:17back for what we have learned and why we're here today yeah yeah you know um i've said this on

26:24a

26:25podcast that you were listening in on with miss leah abraham more is caught than more is taught

26:33like sometimes we don't have to no one had to teach me how to curse anybody out real good

26:40nobody had to teach me you know how easy it is to just go upside somebody's head i know that

26:46that's

26:46not the right thing to say and do but um it's so important that we have to be very careful

26:53about how

26:53we show up and how we represent ourselves and basically how we represent our families because

26:59more is caught than more is taught you're going your children whoever is looking up to you even how we

27:06are on social media people are going to pick up on so much just by observing you just by being

27:13around

27:13you um you don't need to necessarily have a lesson of this is how you should do it this is

27:19what you

27:20they're paying attention to you so i just wanted to touch base on that because i know you spoke about

27:27that as well as far as you know what's going on in the household you know you people are paying

27:34attention people do see people are noticing people pretty much dissect us especially on social media

27:42and and then judgment comes in um i know that i'm at a place where i also am confident and

27:49comfortable

27:50with myself and my choices there's been times when i've overshared and sometimes oversharing can also

27:56cause people who to fear you know there's only there's certain things you you could keep inside you

28:02don't necessarily have to tell the details of every little thing but this is also how we learn you

28:09know like you said you found your voice in 2020 when you started uh speaking up about yourself and

28:16opening it up who you are um i could totally relate that with that because in the last 10 months

28:21as i've

28:22posted my own motivational monday healing through aces um i do this monthly call where i'm pouring into my cup

28:31because i'm doing this to give to society i'm doing this so that they could have somewhere that they

28:37could go to and they could listen in on conversations that have to do with each of the questions in

28:44the ace

28:44questionnaire of the study because there are so many and if we go into each question i didn't realize how

28:51much i was still going to be understanding myself it's a forever thing you're never healed you're always

28:59healing always you another thing i'd like to always say is every time you remember you have to forgive

29:06again so it's not like you'll forget those things you just have to again forgive each single time

29:15wow that that is um so important that you you spoke about forgiveness because that basically

29:24is it's the bridge it's the bridge that connects everything and helps you get over to the other

29:29side which healing is on the other side no forgiveness you're not able to connect and you

29:36know get over to the other side and it's so amazing that when you are when you look back at

29:42your life

29:42once you've crossed the bridge and you look back over and you're staring at the older version of yourself

29:47you're like man i feel for that person but i'm so thankful during the whole process as well once

29:54you learn how to truly forgive it's life-changing and you look back at the older version of yourself

29:59and you're like man what was i thinking because i was just so like adamant about oh i'm gonna make

30:04sure that i get back at that person oh i'm gonna make sure that this happens oh i'm waiting for

30:08this

30:08downfall i can't wait till i see him and this is i know i'm taking some time with my my

30:15response things

30:17in life have taught me that it's a good thing that time my friend always used to say time heals

30:25everything it's a good thing that there was time in between because the times where i wanted to get

30:31back at this person where i wanted to do this or i wanted to do that it was like god

30:35stepped in and

30:36said no i'm gonna put time in between because i want you to heal so then when you do come

30:39in and

30:40interact with that person you're gonna understand what the bigger picture is and it's happening now

30:45like so many people since i've healed i've seen people in a grocery store and i'm like i'm so thankful

30:52that there was time in between because now i can approach you and and you know speak to you the

30:59right

30:59way and sometimes you know i don't have to speak to you it's you know i can love you from

31:03a distance but

31:04um that healing that time in between me being able to cross the bridge has definitely helped because

31:11when i was in my unhealthy stage it wouldn't have worked so and i also want to circle back as

31:19well

31:19about your motivational monday i want to spend some time about that um the program that you use i was

31:26listening to joe dispenza and he had a guest talking about the same uh i don't have their acronyms

31:34correct but the same um concept that you're speaking about it was a test that's a 10 question

31:42so aces the aces yeah so yeah please spend some time talking to us about um your motivational monday

31:51how we can how we can join and if you have any you know you know i guess go over

31:58a couple of the

31:59questions if you can because a couple a couple of them i'm thinking to myself yeah check i remember

32:05that yeah check mark i remember that and now it's coming back to me because i remember listening to

32:10that podcast so go ahead yes yes so motivational monday started after last year i actually went to the

32:18first uh the first uh aces conference which is from the be victorious foundation i met the be uh

32:26dr tori through leah abraham's platform uh she used to be on a platform called clubhouse and that's how

32:34i met leah and started listening into her trauma drama and raymel uh bentley and and as well as dr

32:42tori

32:42and somehow when you're uh after i became a certified life coach through jay shetty i knew that i had

32:49to go

32:50outside of just one community i i wanted to be involved in different communities that would teach

32:57me differently not just jay shetty's way which i am eternally grateful for jay shetty's uh certification

33:04school because after hitting rock bottom then all of a sudden getting certified i didn't have i i didn't

33:12think i had these skills you know but this is all that doubt and fear and all of that that

33:18i was

33:18still carrying you know still you know five years ago but shedding all that and meeting uh dr tori and

33:27her introducing me to aces and she has a book called it's time to talk about aces and that book

33:36and dr tori

33:38you know at first you know you you take this uh questionnaire this study and you think it's a

33:44score and people don't like tests people don't like quizzes people maybe a survey you know it's it's all

33:52in the wording that we use so i like to call it a study because it is a study of

33:58these 10 uh questions uh the

34:01questions are are you you know are you a child of divorce uh are you a child of an incarcerated

34:08family member in your household uh did your parents abuse each other did they physically verbally abuse

34:17each other did they verbally make abuse you uh did they physically abuse you did they sexually abuse you

34:28i mean that's already seven different traumas there i could tell you that by the end by the age of

34:35four i

34:38the traumas so when it comes to generations uh passing on their sexual abuse down to their verbal abuse

34:49down to you know their physical abuse you know this is brought down generation to generation so

34:56when we start understanding our aces and not defining ourselves in that score i'd like to call it a

35:02scale because when we are healing sometimes a scale goes like this goes back and forth if you have a

35:10score it's kind of just set but when the scale we still have that pain but sometimes that pain is

35:17less

35:18but then we get triggered or reactivated like right now what's going on with all this trafficking and

35:23sexual stuff that score is still the same number but that reactivation is stronger but we're at a

35:31point now when our healing where we can bring it right back to center so understanding how we

35:36could get back to center and knowing that our process like our thoughts sometimes we confuse our

35:43present from our past so we keep thinking of our past like it's still happening to us today and it's

35:49actually happened to us as children but because we haven't healed it seems like it's still happening

35:54right now so understanding how to stay present yeah that that is so important too um because

36:06i want to be on the right page with you what has happened in the past right i'm just thinking

36:12about

36:13myself what has happened in the past because we haven't healed from it it ends up manifesting in

36:19you know relationships and situations because you haven't dealt with it back then and because you

36:27haven't dealt with it you're thinking about it you're it's constantly on your brain and you're in

36:33in my case what i used to always think about what i don't want like i know what i saw

36:38as a child i know

36:40what i saw as a teenager i know what i saw but i don't want that to show up in

36:45my future so because i was

36:47just so fixated about what you don't want and if you're not careful some of those things can trickle

36:53in and show up in your reality as well because it wasn't dealt with properly so yeah what yes a

37:01lot

37:02of jealousy comes into play when when that happens in relationships and failed and being reactionary

37:07being everything insecure uh being jealous uh thinking you know what somebody else is thinking

37:14and judging something what just like when you start on this journey you realize that we could never

37:22ever do that we can never know i'm just thinking what oh my goodness i have to tell um my

37:32my daughters

37:33that is that um yeah you don't know what someone else is thinking and i'm gonna stop you there in

37:40your

37:40tracks because i used to be that person that would always try to tell somebody what it's almost insane

37:48a level of insanity when you think that you can tell somebody else what they're thinking and here's

37:55the other part this is where you definitely need to be very cautious when someone tells you how you feel

38:01the only person that knows how you feel is god so the last time i checked you were not him

38:06so you

38:07have no authority to tell me how i feel on the inside someone says oh i know how you feel

38:12excuse me

38:14it's whenever that's when the antennas go up oh you know how i feel okay i got you

38:23it's so important to figure that out that we cannot do that so how can we join your um motivational

38:32monday yes so uh very good yeah so when you do go through uh the link on my instagram it

38:40leads you

38:40directly to my facebook link uh and then once you're through my facebook i it's a private facebook

38:47uh group that i'm separating from my you know the facebook that i've had all well second time i've had

38:54it but you know there's one time when i just didn't want any more of my old old party friends

38:59to be

39:00involved in my life anymore so i restarted the facebook thing and the friend thing because

39:05there's times when you just have to let go of people no matter how much you've known them and

39:11how long you've known them but those memories are no longer suiting you so if you keep going back to

39:16those memories in those situations you won't get out of that you'll get pulled right back so you always

39:22have to look for ways in new groups and new inspiration work because the inspire inspiration

39:29from the past is no longer there so yeah so i'm i'm sorry i kind of went on yeah it's

39:33okay that's

39:34good but uh you could find me through uh the link on instagram my bio and then it leads you

39:39to facebook

39:40and my own private group which is motivational monday healing through adverse childhood experiences

39:46i do the call once a month i'm in my 10th month so that's why i totally understand what it

39:52says

39:52finding my voice because i can't believe i've been doing this for 10 months and i did this as education

39:58because i needed to keep on educating myself so i could actually speak up and know what i'm talking

40:03about today because a year ago or 10 months ago maybe i wasn't as well with the statistics and the

40:10numbers

40:10but because i was also figuring out my aces i was also figuring out and understanding my my scale

40:18and where i was in what areas in my life i have done well in you know finances you know

40:26you've heard of

40:26the wheel of life it's very similar to to what you were saying on on all aspects have to kind

40:32of fall

40:32into place and finance is one of those well you know that's what we do here um so we're going

40:39to get

40:39into that and um i just got so sidetracked oh my goodness i was just going to think of something

40:46and bring it up oh okay i got it there you spoke about finances and then my mind went to

40:52a whole

40:52nother level but um i i think it's so powerful that and this happens it happened with me as well

41:01but

41:03when you turn your mess into a message and you're able to help somebody else and that mess even though

41:11it's doesn't sound nice that it's a mess it in a in a weird way ends up being a beautiful

41:20thing

41:21because i turned my mess into a message when it came to the financial aspect of it and i had

41:29a client this

41:30past uh weekend and just to see the progress and other people as i'm like stepping in and helping

41:40them and guiding them that they may not make some of the same mistakes that i've made financially

41:47that's a beautiful thing and you know it transcends generation people have children children and they set

41:55things up and they start to get into the whole you know investing and things like that that that's

42:01beautiful to me and i know that my mess i had to go through my mess and it was a

42:05test so that i can

42:07have my testimony here today and my mess became my message to help other people so um your situation

42:14all of the things that you've been through

42:18i know our steps are ordered i know in some ways they say that we pick we choose our parents

42:26we choose

42:27the life that we you know are on which in some aspects you're like what why did you do that

42:35why

42:35would you want to do that but as you go through it and as you get on to the other

42:40side you realize

42:41it more and more and more each day yeah i i love that you say that and such a beautiful

42:48mess into

42:48messages i will take that with me because it is you know that messy middle that messy inside that we

42:54tend to organize you know when that messy becomes that message and it's organized it is so beautiful

43:01to reflect on and to look back on because i we we did create this life we did make these

43:08choices

43:08you know and some of them were were just reactions it was just what it was there was

43:14really no thought into it but when we start consciously making it yeah there was no thing

43:21there was no thinking back in the day when i think about my life and i'm like what were you

43:25thinking you weren't thinking that's the problem we feel invincible we feel undestructive

43:33until we're not until right it literally catches up i'm 58 years old now and i'll tell you this

43:41i thought i was invincible still in my 50s okay it's like well if i haven't learned any lessons by

43:5058

43:51what the heck am i doing right what the heck am i doing so you know i've been fortunate to

43:58have a job

43:59so i was always functioning should i say as a you know my my my use should i say my

44:05drug use never

44:06going showing up anywhere hi i'll just get it to you and tell you that i would never do that

44:11i have

44:11too much self-respect i did it in the privacy of my own home all the time but nobody knew

44:16so that was my

44:18messy but my messy mess with everything finances i mean covid happened and here you have all this 401k money

44:27and yeah i i i'll be the first one to tell you i tapped into that for for my 401k

44:34because i needed

44:35to get out of new york i was living in new york city before chicago and that's when i was

44:41using on my

44:42own and at home in my own house and by myself and nobody knew and it was also the first

44:48time i'd been

44:49out of failed relationships i was spiraling down like bad failed relationships failed finance everything

44:55everything everything was like when it falls it all crumbles all of it yeah um covid 2020 was um

45:06it was eye-opening it was life-changing for a lot of people definitely life-changing for me because

45:12i was spiraling out of control way way before and it all came to a head in 2020.

45:19yeah same i relate with that 100 because i ended up being a live-in nanny i sold everything in

45:26new

45:26york and i moved to pensacola beach florida with this millionaires and i was taking care of their kids i

45:32know them they're friends of mine from i used to work with her years ago but i became the nanny

45:37i cooked

45:38i cleaned i took them to school i picked them up i took them to practice but it was the

45:42most grounding

45:44i needed as a side attendant being ungrounded all those years pretty much my office is intergalactic

45:51i work up in the sky grounding is not part of us we're pretty much ungrounded but when i started

45:58when i grounded myself everything started grinding from yoga to inner inner work and spirituality and

46:06inviting god back into my life and to guide me you know to to guide me and and and not

46:12being afraid

46:13of my voice and not being afraid of speaking up what i once used to judge myself in shame with

46:19that's no longer shame because people need to know that these things that we did where i see myself

46:27that wasn't my fault i did it but i again i forgive myself for it and i forgive people who

46:34have hurt me

46:34because i don't want to live those things in my mind thinking remember you were saying revenge and

46:40and anger and you hope you know things come back the only person that's hurting is us because we're

46:45living with those thoughts those are the kind of thoughts we live in those are our demons right there

46:50oh yeah those thoughts they uh poison your system so just think that every time you think negative

46:55every time you wish evil every time you want to get back these are for the people who aren't you

47:01know they're 100 just know that you are the only person that is hurting yourself you're basically

47:08taking your own dose of poison that poison potion that you think is going to go ahead and attack

47:14somebody else it actually is like a boomerang and it comes back the other people are somewhere moved

47:20on they could care less and they every time you think about them you're actually giving them energy

47:27and you're depleting your own so this i know this isn't spiritual sunday but we can go into a whole

47:34thing about that and i want to circle back i know we're up against the clock but i want to

47:40circle back

47:41you said you invited god back into your life he was there the whole time he was just waiting on

47:48you

47:49you know he is always there never leaves us we fall down but we just get back up but that's

47:56the beauty

47:56behind the god that we serve is that he's always waiting for us to just come back yes yeah this

48:04is

48:04amazing amazing it is it is so beautiful it really is and knowing that you know we've always known i've

48:11always prayed don't get me wrong he was always there i just wasn't i was just ignoring it

48:18but i will tell you that he'll let you he'll let you step out he'll

48:23things and he's like okay i'm gonna sit right here until you fall off just a little bit and then

48:29i'll go ahead and catch you and pull you back but yeah yeah oh yes yeah well you know we

48:39spent so much

48:40um about the mental which is so good because i think that the black diamond community definitely need

48:46this i would love to have you come back on future shows and we can dig in you know more

48:51deeper to you

48:52i got at the aces right i get it right uh we can dig in dig into that into you

48:58know a future episode of

48:59something if you'd love to come back um we are up against the clock we didn't get a chance to

49:04speak

49:05about uh finances so much here but that's okay uh we spoke about the mental uh which is good because

49:12the way you think um especially about money the way you think about some of the things that we've

49:18been through in the past it will definitely show up and it will show up in your finances so clear

49:23all

49:24of that stuff up clear all of the trauma clear all of the drama get the negative people the negative

49:29thoughts away and majority of the time you will spend differently so i'll just well that that's about

49:39the extent that we'll do when it comes to the finance aspect but um all great stuff because

49:45i definitely had to heal from all of those things in order for me to you know be you know

49:50a better

49:50person to become the you know the financial coach that i am today so it's all of those things wrapped

49:57up in one in order for all of it to be successful and the belief in ourselves and god you

50:02know yeah

50:04so go ahead and let us know one more time where we can go ahead and follow you as we

50:07go ahead and get

50:08out of here so my email is jorge ernesto life coach at outlook.com and you can find me through

50:16instagram

50:16uh well also through my through my website but uh through instagram jorge underscore ernesto underscore

50:23lozano l-o-z-a-n-o uh that's instagram and through there you could uh follow all my platforms

50:29where

50:30you'll you'll find everything there in my bio so looking forward to to you all to joining me and

50:35spreading some more awareness very good very good thank you so much sir and i will definitely be talking

50:42to you soon take care and uh have a good night okay good night okay take care now bye-bye

50:49all right

50:51ladies and gentlemen there you have it that was jorge ernesto lozano that was an amazing experience

50:58go ahead and give it up for jorge

51:09definitely would like to have him come back on future shows and if you heard anything that sparked

51:16some interest and you want to learn more you can go ahead and head on over to laryngaines.com

51:21thank you all so much for joining in um on the uh disc six vitality live series we got a

51:28lot more

51:28guests coming up and we're just getting started so stay tuned and i want to say good morning to all

51:35y'all out there you know we're up early in the morning and giving you this you know motivational

51:44mental just download that you can go ahead and take and start your day

51:49so thank you so much take care i will definitely see you when i see you and uh tune in

51:55to the next

51:55episode take care y'all have a good night

52:04so

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