35:01Which is not to say that I'm not going to, or that it's not going to be worth it.
35:07But sitting here, now, I'm like, what the fuck am I doing?
35:15What the fuck am I doing?
35:22Sorry, that's like, not very positive or kind, but...
35:28No, it's real. I want you to be honest and real.
35:34I'm just like, I'm just scared.
35:39I understand. I understand.
35:43I think that uncertainty being scared, that's normal.
35:48And I know that that's extremely uncomfortable for you.
35:51And I know it's like, well, Derek, that's easy for you to say because you're not the one making that
35:56sacrifice.
35:57I get all of that.
35:59There is not, like, some word or magic formula that I can say to just make all that go away.
36:07That's just going to be an element of it.
36:09But change is not that always, you know, change is just more of, like, evolving.
36:17And so still have your friends, you'll have me, you'll have your relationship, you'll have new friends, you'll eventually, you
36:24know, whether you change a career 25 times, it doesn't matter.
36:28Like, you don't have to know all the answers right now.
36:30You don't have to move.
36:31Like, I don't want to stress personally, like, just being, like, selfish.
36:35I don't want to be stressed out, like, oh, my God, if I feel stressed about this, like, I need
36:39you to be in a peaceful state for us.
36:42Like, that's how we'll flourish.
36:43Like, just being real, so.
36:46Mm-hmm.
36:47Mm-hmm.
36:47What?
36:52What?
36:53Mm-hmm.
36:55Say it.
36:57So you're saying, in order for this relationship to work, starting off, you need to be making this decision from
37:05a place of peace.
37:06Is that correct?
37:11Okay.
37:25I tried to keep it simple, but simple never kicks you this, can't resist, no, I thought I have forever.
37:38Oh, this is beautiful.
37:40But it's a now and I never kiss.
37:43So excited to see everyone.
37:54You guys are, like, you guys are glowing over here.
38:05Hey, guys.
38:07Hi, honey.
38:08I miss you so much.
38:10You look so beautiful.
38:11Yeah.
38:14Hey, guys.
38:15What's up?
38:16How are you?
38:17What's up?
38:18Hi.
38:19What's up, buddy?
38:20What's up, buddy?
38:22Stop dancing in the matchup.
38:25Yeah, anything can happen.
38:27Understand your lies.
38:31Everybody looks amazing.
38:32You guys all look stunning.
38:34Can we toast everybody together?
38:36I think no matter what happens beyond this, we've all grown and we've all become better people.
38:41So, you know, one day at a time, let's just keep moving forward.
38:44Whether it's together or apart, I know that this has been a blessing.
38:47And I'm very appreciative.
38:47Together or apart?
38:48Dang.
38:49I agree.
38:50I love it.
38:50That was, like, popular and negative.
38:52Cheers, y'all.
38:53Cheers, y'all.
38:54Together or apart?
38:55Better or apart?
38:56Two together.
38:58Hello.
38:58Hello.
39:00Oh.
39:02Oh.
39:02Wow.
39:04Hey, hey.
39:06How are y'all doing?
39:08We're great.
39:09How are you doing?
39:10We're great.
39:11We're not doing great.
39:11It's not about us.
39:12It's not?
39:13We're already in love.
39:14We're married.
39:14We have a baby.
39:15Okay.
39:16Okay.
39:17So, last time we saw you, we dropped a little surprise, letting you all know that your friends
39:22and family were on the way.
39:24So, no more surprises.
39:25That's more of a bomb, not a surprise.
39:28That was a bomb.
39:29Well, and just like that, this relationship wasn't just yours anymore.
39:33Yeah.
39:33To say the least.
39:35You had to open it up to opinions, to pressure, and to judgment.
39:39That's true.
39:40And it affected all of you in different ways.
39:43Teresa?
39:44I know when we kind of dropped that bomb, I couldn't help but notice some nervousness.
39:50Um, I was horrified, scared, and I wasn't expecting it to happen the way it did.
39:56Obviously, your kids are older.
39:58They're, you know, I think...
39:59Well, I mean, I'm very protective of my kids and my kids.
40:03However, John was extremely poised and very articulate, and they asked him great, hard
40:11questions, and he answered them, you know, like a baller, and it was great.
40:16Was his age one of the questions that your kids asked?
40:19Well, I was like, yeah, no, no.
40:21Oh, you didn't tell?
40:22No, they don't know.
40:24Oh, so they never told...
40:26And they won't know for a while.
40:27Oh.
40:28Until I decide.
40:31What's your reasoning for not telling your kids his age?
40:34Because there is a gigantic double standard, if he was my age and I was his age, it would
40:41be such a lesser of a problem.
40:44And so I'm going into this as, you know, really in a difficult position because there
40:51will be a lot of judgment, not on only me, but my kids probably, their friends, our community,
40:56all of that.
40:57And if we're being real, like, and we want to say, like, age doesn't matter, then why
41:02should I have to reveal it right now?
41:04Why shouldn't I be able to let them get to know him before I say, you know, by the way,
41:12he's, like, in your age range?
41:14Like, that's going to be awkward.
41:17Leah, you've been pretty expressive over there.
41:20Because the whole point of this journey is to let everyone's family know how old were
41:26the people that were dating.
41:27That's the whole point of it.
41:28So I didn't know that there was a choice.
41:29I mean, it doesn't have to happen when somebody else tells me it has to happen.
41:34But it's going to happen regardless.
41:35Yeah, of course.
41:37Why hide it now?
41:39Like, he's 27.
41:41I'm not hiding it.
41:42I'm trying to be strategic in letting my kids get to know him as I did.
41:48They will find out when they find out.
41:51And it's nobody's choice or decision to do that except for he and I.
41:56I just thought, like, we had to divulge it at the end of the day.
41:59You know, I thought that was the whole goal.
42:00It was, like, we're not ashamed of it.
42:02I'm not ashamed of how old he is.
42:03I'm not ashamed of it.
42:06I just need some water.
42:07It's really none of your business.
42:08It's not my business.
42:09It's not my business.
42:10It's going to come out one way or another.
42:12It's none of your business.
42:12Yeah.
42:13I understand.
42:16No, I'm still going to have a voice.
42:17But it's just, I understand that you're coming from a different...
42:20Well, you can have your voice that goes in your head, not verbally.
42:22It's the voice that's going to be said.
42:24Well, I don't need to hear it.
42:26Oh, I'm sorry.
42:26It just got said.
42:29All I can say is don't fucking come for me because I will...
42:33Shh.
42:37All right, let's stay respectful, guys.
42:39We're good.
42:44I think for clarity, friends and family were coming to meet the person that you committed
42:50to.
42:50And how many of those details you include is up to you.
43:04You shared space.
43:06You shared lives.
43:08You faced judgment.
43:11And you found ways to stay connected.
43:13But now, it's decision time.
43:17Tonight is your last night together.
43:22Tomorrow morning, you will wake up next to the person you've lived a life with here.
43:27But then, you have to say goodbye.
43:30Because from that moment on, you will be on your own.
43:34No more shared space.
43:36No more comfort in each other's presence.
43:39Just time to sit with your heart, your doubts, and your decision.
43:49The next time you see each other, it will be to speak your truth and to decide, do we move
43:56forward together or do we walk away?
43:59Each of you will make one final journey to a mountaintop overlooking a place where it
44:04all began.
44:06Up there, you'll stand face to face and ask, do you keep those promise rings and commit
44:13to taking this leap together?
44:15Or do you take them off and choose a different path, alone?
44:24It sucks.
44:31You've all got a lot to think about.
44:37It's just not fair.
44:49I'm 22.
44:51I'm 38.
44:53That's a big gap.
44:55The truth is, no matter how much I doubt the age gap, I don't doubt the way I feel when
45:04I'm with you.
45:06If we were to stay together, I may regret it for the rest of my life.
45:12I'll always protect you, and I'll always protect your hearts.
45:16Black girl, I truly love you.
45:21It's a huge commitment to say that this person, who's 27 years younger than me, is my boyfriend.
45:28I need you to believe that age is just a number, but also believe in me that every day I'm
45:35going to show up and work on this together.
45:37I love you.
45:40I can't see myself growing with you.
45:43You lit something inside of me that I thought was gone.
45:47I think we've both made a decision that will impact our lives and our families, and I just
45:52hope and pray that it's the right one.
45:54He's, like, in the prime of his life right now, honestly.
45:57And why would he give that up for someone 20 years older than him?
46:01This is the card you pick up with.
46:04I need the promise to bring back.
46:08So I step to the sun up
46:13I'm waiting for the sign
46:16Do I cross your mind?
46:18Don't wanna find another
46:24Trying to forget
46:26But if I let go, will I see you again?
46:32Can we go back in time?
46:37Would it be such a crime?
46:42To look at this as a sign
46:47And trying again
46:49One more time
46:53So I step
46:56To the sun up
46:58I'm waiting for the sign
47:01If I let go, will I see you again?
47:09To be with you
47:10You
49:05...
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