00:00Gino says, hey, y'all, I unfortunately just lost my dad.
00:03It's been really tough on the whole family.
00:05We're having an open casket funeral this Friday, and that was not my decision because I was
00:12actually scared seeing my grandmother in an open casket when I was the same age that
00:17my daughter is now.
00:19I want to avoid my daughter seeing my dad in his casket, but so many family members
00:25say it's good for them to say goodbye, where in reality, I think it's just really creepy
00:29and I don't want my baby girl to be weirded out.
00:32Do I let her see him or do I help her avoid it?
00:36Well, right off the bat, and I think it takes a village to raise a child, but at the end
00:41of the day, as a dad, I've learned whatever you and mom decide, that's it.
00:45Yes.
00:46I saw my grandmother when I was six years old in an open casket funeral and in the viewing
00:51and I just, it has scarred me as not the right thing, but it just took my six-year-old brain
00:57a lot to figure out that she's, I see her, I could touch her if I wanted to, but she's
01:03not there anymore.
01:04And so now every time I go to a viewing, even though I understand the purpose of it, it still
01:10gives me the heebie-jeebies.
01:11Okay.
01:11You know what I mean?
01:12Yeah.
01:12I'm 32.
01:13It shouldn't still be given, unless everybody gets the heebie-jeebies, then I'll feel better.
01:18Right.
01:18Well, my mom's father was one of 13 children.
01:23Wow.
01:24So I was going to viewings and funerals from, like, literally as long as I can remember.
01:30Yeah.
01:30Right, right, right.
01:30Right, like, and they always had open casket.
01:33Yeah.
01:33And I never thought twice about it.
01:35Right.
01:36Okay.
01:36Like, I just, I kind of understood what was going on.
01:39Like, yes.
01:39And it was all very normal to me.
01:42So a friend of mine, his father passed away.
01:46And my daughter and I, she was, Tori was, gosh, maybe, I don't know, maybe like five
01:51or six.
01:52Right.
01:52In the car with me.
01:53And I said, hey, before we go to our appointment, I'm going to swing by this funeral.
01:57Because it's, it's this guy's dad, right?
01:59Like, that's the, so, and she was like, okay.
02:03And I, I prepped her for it.
02:05I said that it might be an open casket.
02:07You've never seen a dead body before this, you know.
02:10So, you tell me what you want to do.
02:13If we go in and you, you know, because you can't see the body right away.
02:16You just see.
02:17I said, if you start feeling uncomfortable, we will leave.
02:20Right.
02:21But if you want to experience this, and I thought maybe that was kind of a better way than seeing
02:25a loved one in there anyway, for her to kind of see.
02:27Very good point.
02:28I don't know.
02:28I don't know.
02:29You know, if you ask her about it now, I'm sure she'll slaughter me for doing it because
02:33that's just the relationship that we have.
02:35Right, right, right.
02:35It didn't really affect her in a negative way.
02:37I'm not sure.
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