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00:00 - Introduction
00:40 - Ta'Nius & Being A Seahorse Dad
08:14 - Danny & Gender Neutral Parenting
15:22 - A'Jay & Vari
23:03 - Emerson & Gender Fluidity
28:23 - Tucker & Dani
36:10 - Kayden & His Surprise Pregnancy
44:14 - Nev & Being A Teen Trans Dad
52:25 - Theodore & Pausing His Transition
00:40 - Ta'Nius & Being A Seahorse Dad
08:14 - Danny & Gender Neutral Parenting
15:22 - A'Jay & Vari
23:03 - Emerson & Gender Fluidity
28:23 - Tucker & Dani
36:10 - Kayden & His Surprise Pregnancy
44:14 - Nev & Being A Teen Trans Dad
52:25 - Theodore & Pausing His Transition
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00:00:00I've given birth to two kids as a man.
00:00:03I was nine years into my transition when I found out that I was pregnant.
00:00:07My mom became my dad.
00:00:08I was a tomboy.
00:00:09I just wanted to be who I am today.
00:00:12For sexuality and gender, essentially everything in our house is fluid.
00:00:16Or poly.
00:00:17I ended up pregnant with a partner.
00:00:19Hey girl, hey!
00:00:20I get judged as a trans dad.
00:00:21Trolls have said that I should have my children taken away from me.
00:00:24That I'm depriving them of having a mother.
00:00:27I don't get as much hate for being a teen parent than I do for being a trans parent.
00:00:31There's a lot of people that were saying, if you identify as a male, why would you want
00:00:36to do women things?
00:00:37I literally just wanted a baby.
00:00:41You want something to drink?
00:00:43Yeah!
00:00:46Now we can do a good cheers.
00:00:47Here we go.
00:00:48Cheers!
00:00:51My name is Tanias.
00:00:52My name is Rory T.
00:00:54What's your name?
00:00:57Zanias.
00:00:58Zanias.
00:00:58So, what's happened since we last filmed with you?
00:01:03I'm a seahorse dad and I get hate for breastfeeding my baby.
00:01:07Uh, we've given birth to a second child.
00:01:12Zanias is two and a half and Zykel is three months.
00:01:17Are you nursing Zykel?
00:01:19Uh, Zykel is, since he was in the NICU for the seven weeks or whatever, they'd gotten
00:01:25him used to the bottle.
00:01:27He's bottle fed, but I'm still pumping and putting him in the bottle.
00:01:30What do or slash will the children call you?
00:01:33Uh, honestly, they have the luxury of calling me whatever they're comfortable with.
00:01:37At this current moment, he's calling me dad, but when they're like a little older, I plan
00:01:42on giving them like the whole rundown about me being born, female, living as a trans man,
00:01:48giving birth to them.
00:01:49And if they feel the need to want to call me mom, so be it.
00:01:52Were you planning to have a baby together?
00:01:55Honestly, we, okay, so it was, I always wanted to have a kid.
00:02:01So when we originally first started talking six years ago, we had conversed about it or whatever,
00:02:07but I was doing my own thing. He was in Georgia. I was in Florida. And then what really said
00:02:14that
00:02:14I don't want any kids is because of my experience delivering Zanias, having to deal with a lot
00:02:19of false allegations and just feeling just unheard, unseen and not treated like the human that I am.
00:02:26How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant with Zakel?
00:02:31Honestly, it was a wave of emotion just mainly because of how, what I went through to deliver
00:02:38with Zanias. I was hyped, but I was shocked because he was sick as that's that's wrong.
00:02:44I found out on my own. I was at my house when I found out like, we're going to do
00:02:48it again.
00:02:48But once I disclosed to him that I'm pregnant, he just reassured me like that I wasn't going to
00:02:56do it alone and it was going to be a better experience. It helped going through this journey
00:03:03with him because he always reminded me and reassured that I was the human that I was,
00:03:08and I didn't feel out of place. And I wasn't alone during this journey.
00:03:15How would you describe Zanias and Zakel?
00:03:19Zanias and Zakel are night and day. Totally two different children.
00:03:24Oh boy, he's tasty. Coming out, the lippers coming out.
00:03:29Zakel is more the serious one. And Zanias, he's just so playful.
00:03:51What was your experience at the doctor's and like out in public as a pregnant transgender man?
00:03:56Once I got it out of my head and like stopped over analyzing the situation,
00:04:01there really wasn't nothing. Nobody was saying anything.
00:04:04But even in the doctors, like nobody was, didn't care.
00:04:07I did my research this time. By far a drastic difference from respecting my pronouns
00:04:13and treating me like I belong there and not like I was just an outcast.
00:04:21What responses did you receive about being transgender and pregnant a second time?
00:04:26I'm just trying to create more trans kids and more kids to confuse.
00:04:32And you're only having kids because you're wanting to collect a check off of social media.
00:04:37You're not allowing them to have a mom. The baby's going to be trans because you're trans.
00:04:43They was like, oh, the breast muggah's going to turn the baby trans.
00:04:46Yeah, I was watching the previous video. Someone, some comment about the testosterone.
00:04:51Yeah, child, they always swear to them. They're so uneducated.
00:04:56They've said, you married to a woman or you need to get your real man.
00:05:01For me, I don't really think bother me. Let's go.
00:05:08Come on, grab it.
00:05:10What is this?
00:05:11You got a hold of them.
00:05:16Where are you going, man?
00:05:18They are under the impression that being that I transition, I should disconnect from all the
00:05:23female anatomy that I've gotten and that we should get these surgeries and we should do this in order
00:05:28to be trans enough and you should adopt. Just because I transition does not mean I don't want my own
00:05:34biological kids. It's also, it's what you want out of life, you know? It's just what you want.
00:05:39A lot of people are like, well, why would you transition just to date a man? Gender and sexuality
00:05:43are two different things. My transition does not dictate who I'm attracted to.
00:05:49I love you.
00:05:52The funny thing is, is a lot of people, not a lot, but a good portion of people were those
00:05:57trolls.
00:05:57My biggest trolls are my biggest supporters now because a lot of people come with the negative
00:06:02input because they're uneducated. But once they sat down and stopped talking and started listening and
00:06:09seeing us for us and actually just seeing us for who we really are, they've shifted their thought
00:06:15process on us and it's been amazing. Come on. Say, I got this. Come on. There you go.
00:06:24What are we doing, sir? It's been one time. We're all just going to give it up. Like,
00:06:29I let the comments get the best of me and a creator actually reached out to me. I am so
00:06:33very proud of
00:06:34you and absolutely inspired by the strength, courage, love and so much more. I actually get ready to
00:06:39and the message popped up and I just kept going. I continue showing up because I want people to
00:06:45stop the negative connotation, assuming that my transness is going to make me less than of a
00:06:50parent. It's not going to stop us from loving each other. It's not going to stop us from
00:06:53raising up our kids to be decent human beings. How would you describe the way you're raising your
00:06:58children in terms of gender and sexuality? They are going to walk in their own journey. So the only
00:07:03thing that we can do is guide them the best way we can. Just because I'm trans doesn't mean you've
00:07:09got to go transition. Just because you choose not to transition doesn't mean I'm going to stop loving you.
00:07:13My love for my kids is unconditional regardless of what path they choose to go down. What I look
00:07:18for in the future is success. But yeah, just continue growing as a family. That's the ultimate goal.
00:07:24I want to become a lactation consultant because I don't see any trans men navigating in what society
00:07:32feels is the most womanly thing out there. But I just want to be able to be that voice to
00:07:39all the
00:07:39trans community because I didn't have a me when I was trying to figure out this whole breastfeeding.
00:07:43And with our lives, you know, I wouldn't have never thought I would find, you know, Tanias.
00:07:49And even though I was... I found you.
00:07:54What I want the young generation to know that are trans is that it's okay.
00:08:00I've given birth to two kids as a band. And I support it.
00:08:14So right now we're in Wilder's playroom. One of the things that felt really important to me when
00:08:18I was creating this room was that it be as gender neutral as possible. It's not a pink or blue
00:08:23nursery.
00:08:23It's a room for Wilder. We've got trucks. We've got dinosaurs. We've got Barbies. We've got dolls.
00:08:29We've got books about being your truest self. When I was growing up, I was a born female. And I
00:08:35really
00:08:36only had access to makeup boxes and jewelry and high heels and dress up clothes. And I wanted the
00:08:42soccer ball. I wanted to build things. And I didn't have the most access to the things that I think
00:08:48I
00:08:48would have enjoyed the most. It's just giving your child access to things and having things available
00:08:53for them to be able to decide if that's what they like or if that's what they like. And that's
00:08:57what I
00:08:57try to do for Wilder. I was nine years into my transition when I found out that I was pregnant.
00:09:02My pregnancy with Wilder was a surprise for me. I am a recovering addict. And my last relapse,
00:09:08I acted out. And one of the initial consequences turned greatest blessing of my life.
00:09:19I conceived my child during my last relapse in my addiction. Being a papa, a parent,
00:09:25is something that I've dreamt of being my entire life. And I never knew how I would
00:09:29come to it as a queer trans person. And the universe did for me what I didn't think I'd be
00:09:35able to do for myself. Everybody was completely shocked. I decided to raise Wilder as gender
00:09:40neutral and to practice gender creative parenting really from the beginning before Wilder was even
00:09:44born. I've seen how our gendered stereotypes impact children and their experience in the world.
00:09:50I didn't want that to happen for Wilder. My child is, as they would say,
00:09:53you're just Wilder. Gender is fluid. I don't identify as a man or a woman. I identify as both.
00:09:59Somewhere in between. Some days, neither. And how I felt yesterday is different than how I feel today
00:10:04and might even be different than how I feel tomorrow. And so one thing that I want to be very
00:10:07clear with Wilder is that you don't have to know. The kids at school ask Wilder, are you a boy
00:10:12or a
00:10:12girl? And Wilder says, I'm Wilder. And that's it. Then they go back to playing. Kids are far smarter than
00:10:18our
00:10:18society gives them credit for and understand themselves a whole lot better than, honestly,
00:10:23many adults that I know. What would you say to people who think that you are confusing Wilder?
00:10:28I think a lot of people who claim that I'm confusing my child by raising them in a gender
00:10:32neutral way are people who just haven't had the education or experience themselves to understand
00:10:37why I'm doing this or how gendered stereotypes impact kids. The things that I struggled with
00:10:44the most as a child, as a youth, were society's expectations that had been placed upon me.
00:10:50This is how you should act. This is what you should look like. This is, right? And I didn't fit
00:10:54into
00:10:54those boxes. But had I known that there had been this option where actually you don't have to fit into
00:10:59the mold or the box. You can create your own. In fact, that's really beautiful. I think it would have
00:11:03changed my life. I came out as trans when I was 25 and the one thing that my parents have
00:11:09done
00:11:09perfectly my entire life is they've loved me unconditionally. So when I told my mom, she's
00:11:16like, I don't, I don't understand this. I don't want you to do this because I'm terrified for you,
00:11:21but you're my child. So whatever you decide to do, we're going to support you. And I have,
00:11:26and I absolutely have.
00:11:30It's so interesting to see myself at 37 and think about what I used to think
00:11:33or see myself as when I was a kid. And it's similar and yet it's so different. Wilder calls
00:11:38me Papa. Wilder sometimes calls me Danny, uh, to be silly. I chose Papa instead of Dad because it
00:11:44feels more soft and warm and it feels a little bit more gender neutral for me as a non-binary
00:11:49person
00:11:49than Dad does. A friend reached out to me right after I found out I was pregnant and she's like,
00:11:54have you thought about joining TikTok? And so I joined. And as soon as I did, my video went viral
00:12:00and it's just been increasing over time. I've received a great deal of cyber bullying, hundreds,
00:12:07thousands of hateful comments. On a daily, regular basis, I have hundreds of comments that say,
00:12:12poor child, CPS should remove that child. People say ignore it, but there's only so much you can ignore.
00:12:18I've decided to take Wilder off of the internet and no longer show their face for their safety.
00:12:23The beautiful thing is that it only takes one positive and supportive comment to completely
00:12:28wash away hundreds and hundreds of negative comments. For that parent to tell me that,
00:12:33thank you, because now they can see the life that their child can one day live. Or that child
00:12:38saying, thank you, I didn't realize I could be a parent one day and actually carry my own child.
00:12:44Those comments keep me going. I've always really admired that Danny is willing to continually put
00:12:51himself out there in the public sphere despite the kind of hate that comes back at him.
00:12:55Tell us about Liz. Who's Liz? Liz is my everything. She's the most second important person in Wilder's
00:13:03life and she's become the second most important person in my life as well. I mean, I've had trans
00:13:07friends. I attend a very liberal church where we have members who are trans, so it wasn't a foreign
00:13:13concept to me. And I've always been comfortable with the idea that people are who they are.
00:13:18To know that somebody loves my child in the way that Liz loves Wilder is so reassuring and beautiful.
00:13:25It leaves me feeling so hopeful and excited for Wilder because Wilder loves their Liz. Liz loves
00:13:31their Wilder. It's so beautiful and it's the most magical place to be able to raise my child.
00:13:37We are on our farm. This is where Wilder was born. We have tons of animals. As you can see,
00:13:41this is Margo. She loves these flowers. These are our new bottle fed baby goats. We've got Tilly here.
00:13:47Who else do we have, Wilder? Astro and peanut butter. Astro and peanut butter jelly. Do you want to help
00:13:54Papa let the rest of the animals out? Hitchcock is quite talkative this morning. Do you want to help
00:13:59Papa let the rest of the animals out? Good day, ladies. Good day. Hello. You all right? Hello, Cynthia.
00:14:07We have three cats. We've got two parrots. We've got pigs and chickens and alpacas and goats. This is Bouncer.
00:14:14Bouncer's a hen, but sometimes what happens is chickens, hens, will take on rooster-like characteristics
00:14:19if there aren't any roosters around. And so Bouncer's are a non-binary chicken who decided to start
00:14:23crowing at 4am. Getting emotional talking about it. It felt really special to get this non-binary chicken
00:14:30as a trans non-binary person. For Wilder's future, I hope they're met with kindness
00:14:37and I hope that they have more self-love than I could have ever imagined possible for myself.
00:14:44And I hope that they know how smart and brave and bold and beautiful and caring they are. And I
00:14:50hope
00:14:50that they achieve their dreams no matter what they are. I have no idea what the future holds or where
00:14:55we'll be, but what I do know is that my home is wherever my child is. Wilder's changed my life
00:15:01in
00:15:01every single way possible. Wilder's changed my life from darkness to light. They give me
00:15:07something to be hopeful for and to find joy in and to be proud of. Wilder's a really powerful
00:15:15little being. They are here to change this world.
00:15:23So when did you two start working out together? Oh man. When did we start working out together?
00:15:29Glass here. My name is Ajay and I'm a trans dad. I have a son. His name is Varian. He's
00:15:3617 years old.
00:15:37How would you describe your dad? Cool, energetic, caring, loving. I would describe our relationship as
00:15:45as amazing as it should be. Varian is a straight A student. He's a loving friend. He always makes me
00:15:51emotional on this because that's how I look at my child at 17 years old. He's an exceptional young
00:15:57man and I'm proud of myself to be able to tell myself that. Well done. When I was younger, I
00:16:05called
00:16:06my mom. I started calling him my dad when I was like probably in middle school. He's always there
00:16:15for me whenever I need something. When he went through his process I was 11 years old. How did your
00:16:20dad
00:16:20first broach the topic of transitioning with you? He asked me how I'd feel about it and I said if
00:16:27you
00:16:27want to be my dad you can be my dad because you already dress like a boy anyways and don't
00:16:33let anyone
00:16:33bring you down and just do what you want to do. We went through counseling for five and a half
00:16:38years
00:16:39you know and I think it's very important for a lot of trans people in general to put the children
00:16:44in counseling to get them more understanding of what they're getting themselves into because not
00:16:47everybody is going to accept you right away. It was best for him to give me the opportunity to have
00:16:53a choice or him have a choice and together we both made one and his choice was first and then
00:16:57I accepted it.
00:16:59What was your relationship with gender like growing up? As a female it was kind of tough. I was a
00:17:05tomboy. I just wanted to be who I am today. I started transitioning at the age of 28. The best
00:17:11thing about
00:17:12transitioning to me is you looking in the mirror finally seeing your authentic self. What difference
00:17:17has him transitioning had on your relationship? I mean I wouldn't really say it was a difference. I think
00:17:23he's just the same person just different voice and face looks. Do you think your transition has had
00:17:28any negative effects on him? I don't think that my transition has had any negative effects on him.
00:17:36You know I think it actually brought us together stronger. He definitely sees more of the opportunity
00:17:41of the mother and father relationship. You know he had an experience of both sides.
00:17:49My friend Lakia is coming over. I always describe her as this happy wild queen.
00:17:58You remember when I first came up to you? When we was at work? When we was at work.
00:18:06You was asking all the questions. Oh yeah. You fine.
00:18:12We came friends. We've been friends for a minute. How would you describe AJ as a father?
00:18:17A good father. Structure. Very humble. What do you think when you see Jay and Varey together?
00:18:24They got a good bond. They do. You don't see too many people like that. From him being a woman
00:18:31and
00:18:31turning into a man. Kiss I understand what's going on and he's gonna love AJ no matter what. She plays
00:18:38the
00:18:38role in LJ Varey's life as just one of the spoiled aunties. You know she just spoils them man.
00:18:46Have you ever seen any of the online judgment or anything that they get?
00:18:50I just feel like people don't know people's situation to be judging or trying to
00:18:55comment on something that they don't know about. You don't know what people went through to be like
00:18:59this. Keezy supported me in ways that a lot of people don't get the opportunity to have a hype man.
00:19:11She's like my biggest cheerleader when it comes to the girl's side. You know what I'm saying?
00:19:15I love the way that you, you know, never judged me the minute you knew I was transgender. You feel
00:19:21me?
00:19:33I started sharing my journey online. It started out with TikTok. I posted a video and it had 400,000
00:19:42views on it.
00:19:43The responses that I have to share, you know, with people being disrespectful in comments is, you know,
00:19:49Oh, you're still a girl. Oh, you bleed. Oh, you'll never be a man. You'll never be manly enough.
00:19:55Your son is going to have a wild life. Huh? Didn't know women could be fathers.
00:20:02Well, the thing about this comment is women are fathers. And the reason why women are fathers is
00:20:11because at the end of the day, if a woman has a child and the father walks away, she has
00:20:16to become
00:20:16both parents. His father is a woman. That's not a man, folks. The perfect words because I am his father
00:20:24and I was a woman. You see what I'm saying? And at the end of the day, if I'm not
00:20:28a man,
00:20:29what made you say father first?
00:20:33Poor child. Imagine your mother is now a dude. Nobody thinks about the kids. Selfish.
00:20:39I thought about my child's mindset, not only his mindset, but I thought about his feelings and I
00:20:43thought about his heart. We actually go viral every time we turn around. So, you know, I think
00:20:48a lot of people are starting to see that it doesn't matter about being transgender. It's about being
00:20:52a good parent at the same time. What I've learned, you know, from me and Vary is, you know, just
00:20:57being
00:20:57able to just keep our heads up high. You know what I'm saying? And never allow people's negative
00:21:02comments or mindsets control, you know, our household or who we are. Because at the end of the day,
00:21:06we're human beings, no matter what it is.
00:21:08Have you experienced any judgment in person as a parent?
00:21:13I have not. Ever. In May, it would be seven years of transitioning. I've never,
00:21:21ever been judged, misidentified anything out of all six years that I've been transitioning.
00:21:28There used to be times where there'd be negative comments and I'd tell my dad,
00:21:32just not worry about him because it's not worth it.
00:21:37What you want to do today? The usual? The high taper? The crispy? The taper into the beard?
00:21:43We've been meeting and we've known each other for five years.
00:21:49How did AJ tell you about his experience? Like his whole story? How did, how did that come up?
00:21:54It's kind of just something I understood. So I kind of just never, I never pressed the issue. I just
00:22:00let,
00:22:00I'll let him tell me whenever. I appreciate you supporting me. You know what I'm saying? Who I am.
00:22:05You became a brother to send me, boy.
00:22:07Yeah, he's good. For life. For life. There's more than just cutting hair.
00:22:14So, LJ, what kind of cut did you ask for today?
00:22:17I mean, I don't even know. I just looked it up on a pinch.
00:22:20A low taper. Low taper.
00:22:21I mean, he's a good kid, man. He's got a good head on his shoulder.
00:22:28We both hope that the future holds both for both of us as a family, that we continue to keep
00:22:32growing,
00:22:33keep being amazing people. Whatever you do, don't let people judge you,
00:22:37and don't hide from what you want to do, and just be yourself.
00:22:42To the trans parents, just continue to keep being the best parents that you possibly could be.
00:22:46Grow with them. Don't grow against them. We hope that our story touched y'all.
00:22:51We hope that y'all gained something from it. You know, we're just trying to be the voice for
00:22:55others that don't got one, man. Real talk, man. Just be you. It gets no better.
00:23:03Well, transgender means you come out as a little girl or a little boy, and then they started,
00:23:12hey, I don't feel like I'm a girl at all. So you come out as a girl, and then are
00:23:18raised as a boy,
00:23:19or come out as a boy, and raised as a girl. My father is transgender, so that's what's really
00:23:26special about him. My mother, I'm happy that she gets to be happy, so it's super special for her.
00:23:33I came out as trans when I was 26 years old. I was married before in a lesbian relationship
00:23:42that essentially dissolved because of my transition. I lived a full adulthood being a woman prior.
00:23:50I identify as being in the gray area, I guess. I feel masculine. I feel feminine. I'm not a boy
00:23:58or a girl. I was previously married with Claire's biological father. We separated in 2015. Claire and
00:24:07I were on our own pretty much up until we met Emerson.
00:24:17One, two, three. Oh, yeah. I never thought that I would ever be seen as like a father figure to
00:24:25anybody, but obviously that was a dream of mine. I remember the first time she ever called me daddy.
00:24:30I was putting her to bed. I was like, hey, if you need me or something, just like call for
00:24:34me,
00:24:35and I'll be there. So one small guy and one big guy, it's me and it's you. She's like, okay,
00:24:42I'll just yell out, daddy, really loud, and you'll come running. And I was like,
00:24:47and I remember I was like, my heart like dropped.
00:24:51So for sexuality and gender, essentially everything in our house is fluid. Fluid meaning that anyone can
00:24:59like anyone, and we encourage her to be open to any type of relationship, whether it be with
00:25:07male identifying, female, queer, bi, whatever. I think it's important to speak to children about
00:25:15these aspects. For example, both of us were put into a box as a girl from birth, and we have
00:25:23these
00:25:24expectations that are thrown at us. And I think that boys and girls both have these expectations
00:25:30that society places on them, and they are disruptive. And I think that you are unable to truly find
00:25:38yourself within those boxes for a lot of people. What's kind of different about me that sometimes
00:25:48kids don't do is about my clothing and my hair. Sometimes I wear like a girl shirt or boy pants.
00:25:55So I made a picture. It says, um, a boy self right here, girl self right here. So I said,
00:26:06boy, girl, girl self and boy style, because that's what I do. Because these are in the boy section.
00:26:15And sometimes in my closet, I have some girl clothes.
00:26:21Claire, daddy's going to do a shot now.
00:26:24Every Tuesday in a week, he has to take a shot. He'll sit down on the chair and my mom
00:26:31will stab his leg
00:26:33usually. And I always do the bandaid. What essentially is happening is I'm introducing
00:26:40testosterone into my system for it to pretty much give me a second puberty type scenario. So
00:26:50every week I have to keep injecting myself with the testosterone or else my body will
00:26:58naturally go back and take away kind of a lot of my changes that I've worked so hard to
00:27:05obtain.
00:27:05All right, are you ready?
00:27:07Yes.
00:27:08Yeah? Okay. One, two, three.
00:27:13Perfect.
00:27:16That was a good one.
00:27:19I think the main uniqueness that we have is our openness of being queer and our desire to raise
00:27:30our child without any bounds. You are a girl, you must be like this. Or you are a boy, you
00:27:37must
00:27:37be like this. That doesn't exist in our house. And it never will.
00:27:43So we really like to make sure our child knows that however she feels to express herself, just like
00:27:52us, it's ever growing and ever changing. And we really encourage that exploration.
00:27:59It's really special about my father that he is transgender and all I know that she's transgender.
00:28:07We are really raising her just to be open, to be however she wants to be without any need for
00:28:14a label
00:28:15or identity and that she will in time discover who she is just as we have.
00:28:26We done with nap time. Hi.
00:28:29My name's Tucker.
00:28:30My name's Dani. Our daughter's name is Maya and she's four months old.
00:28:34I think we're pretty good parents. We have a lot of fun with her.
00:28:38We've been together for about three years. And married for eight months.
00:28:42We met at work. We were both nurses during COVID and we met and became friends and got really close.
00:28:47I had really started to develop feelings for her, so I thought, let's give it a shot.
00:28:52Got some happy feet.
00:28:54We decided that we wanted to have kids early on. We originally expected me to carry the baby.
00:29:01I was actually doing fertility testing.
00:29:04I'm a trans man and we were trying to have her get pregnant and expand our family.
00:29:09And then I ended up pregnant with a partner and it was the best.
00:29:14Best thing that ever happened.
00:29:15Yes.
00:29:16Were you polyamorous from the start of your relationship?
00:29:19It was my idea to do it. At the time I identified as asexual, I didn't have much of a
00:29:25drive and she
00:29:27is completely opposite to me.
00:29:28We wanted to make sure I had the freedom to explore all of my options, whether that be with men,
00:29:33women or otherwise.
00:29:34How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?
00:29:37We clearly weren't expecting pregnancy. So I thought I was having like gas issues and she
00:29:44went to go buy me medication. But because we were already trying to get her pregnant,
00:29:49we had a bunch of pregnancy tests. And like in the back of my mind, I was just like, just
00:29:53check,
00:29:54just check. And it came up positive. I walked around the living room for like 20 minutes going,
00:29:59oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.
00:30:01I was thrilled right away. We call her a little gay miracle.
00:30:05Sparkles and all. Sparkles and all.
00:30:08How many of these headbands does Maya have? Do you like coordinating her outfits?
00:30:13Maya has an unknown amount of headbands, but I'm guessing at least 50, would you say?
00:30:19They can't see us. I love coordinating her headbands.
00:30:25How have you been able to rescue?
00:30:28I found out that there was an induction method that's used for adoptive moms and also can be
00:30:33used with transgender women. I take a medication. These are my portable breast pumps. So I have my
00:30:40pumps in now. They are suctioning and I can wear them with a shirt on like this. Hi.
00:30:49Through breastfeeding her, lactating, I've been able to find my own role and I absolutely love it.
00:30:54I like personally that she has a little bit of me in her and I'm able to give her antibodies.
00:31:00I'm able
00:31:00to give her those good healthy nutrients that are in breast milk.
00:31:04When do you plan to tell Maya about how you gave birth to her?
00:31:08Anytime she asks, we're going to be honest with her in an age appropriate level.
00:31:13I think that kids can understand any concept as long as you do it on the level
00:31:17education wise that they can understand. How will you explain that you're poly with Maya?
00:31:23I think when it's time to explain to Maya that we're poly, it's going to be pretty easy of a
00:31:28conversation. We don't hide our partners. So if those people are important enough to be around in our
00:31:34life, then they're going to know her and she's going to have questions about who they are pretty
00:31:40quickly. So I think just being able like, oh, that's Papa's boyfriend or that's Papa's girlfriend
00:31:45or that's, that's mama. Like, I think it's going to be an easy explanation.
00:31:49Since they're not living with us, they have their own personal private lives.
00:31:53We don't involve them in Maya's childcare.
00:31:56There you go.
00:31:58When did you decide to start sharing your story on social media?
00:32:01We are at 38 weeks now.
00:32:04I encouraged him sharing his story at the beginning.
00:32:13I did receive judgment for being trans and pregnant. We didn't really have any
00:32:19face-to-face judgment.
00:32:21Online was a very different story though.
00:32:24The worst comment that I think we've gotten would be the ones saying that they're going to come find us
00:32:30and that they're going to hurt Maya because of my status.
00:32:34We get a lot of like judgmental comments saying this is wrong in every sense.
00:32:40I don't understand how it's wrong. We're creating a life and giving a very loving and welcoming environment.
00:32:47We've had a bunch of comments saying that our child should be taken away from us,
00:32:52that we aren't fit parents.
00:32:53They know nothing about our home and who we are as parents.
00:32:57We are as parents, yeah.
00:32:59Why is he pregnant and not her?
00:33:01That's a big one for you.
00:33:04Males cannot have children.
00:33:06I feel so sorry for this child.
00:33:08The world has seriously gone mad.
00:33:10I'm sorry your child will need therapy for the rest of its life.
00:33:14There's a block button for a reason.
00:33:17We're used to the comments.
00:33:18I think people are very misinformed.
00:33:21People think that children can adjust to a different kind of family unit, but they can.
00:33:25I think people's general confusion, whether they say it in a very mean,
00:33:28judgmental way or a kind way, is why Tucker would want to give birth to a child,
00:33:34which they commonly associate with a woman when he identifies as a man.
00:33:38You know, I had to transition for my life when I was younger and that was for me to be
00:33:43able to live.
00:33:44But then having been married and wanting to like grow my family with you,
00:33:48it didn't matter what womb we used to do that for me.
00:33:52So it wasn't like a man or a woman kind of thing.
00:33:54Like it's really no comment on either gender.
00:33:57It's just the fact that I had the system that worked and that we could use at the time.
00:34:01And we wanted a family.
00:34:03And we wanted a family.
00:34:06Hello.
00:34:07Hi.
00:34:07How are you doing?
00:34:08Good.
00:34:09My parents have supported me so much.
00:34:12They washed the baby for us.
00:34:14They've helped Tucker and us during his pregnancy.
00:34:16Hi, Mama.
00:34:18How did you feel when you found out Tucker was pregnant?
00:34:21Surprised to say the least.
00:34:24When I found out Tucker was pregnant,
00:34:26Danielle had called me and I was expecting to hear that she was pregnant.
00:34:30And then she told me he was pregnant.
00:34:33And I know I was totally silent on the telephone for a while because I really didn't know what to
00:34:38say.
00:34:39I was very happy, but I was very worried then.
00:34:42I knew we could handle it.
00:34:44It was not going to be a problem.
00:34:46But you always wonder how other people are going to act.
00:34:51And that was a big concern.
00:34:53It has made me very happy to see just how good they are at what they're doing.
00:34:58When I had questions about things, like I just kind of go to, I just go to you.
00:35:02And I'm like, hey, should they be doing this yet?
00:35:04Please tell me.
00:35:05Yeah, I've gotten to hear you were right, Mom, more than once, which has been really good.
00:35:11They're terrific. There's a lot of love in this family.
00:35:14Boo.
00:35:16Are you excited to have a second grandchild?
00:35:19I'd like to have a second grandchild.
00:35:20I'm really big on Dani getting the whole experience that she gave me.
00:35:24So, yes.
00:35:27We are still going to go back to having Dani try for our second one.
00:35:33We plan on having our next child be a sperm donor,
00:35:35which was our original plan before Tucker got pregnant.
00:35:38I think our family is abnormally normal.
00:35:42Abnormally normal is a great way to put it.
00:35:44I think we have a very unique family set up.
00:35:47But aside from that, we do all the normal things any other family would do.
00:35:52What do you hope for your family for the future?
00:35:54I want to be safe.
00:35:57I just want my daughter to be safe and the world to be a little accepting, less hateful.
00:36:06I can only ask for so much, though.
00:36:10I don't have any pancakes mixed.
00:36:12I have waffles.
00:36:14You want waffles?
00:36:16My name is Kaden Coleman.
00:36:17I'm a father of two.
00:36:19My daughters are Azealia, who's 10, and Journey, who is three, almost four.
00:36:24Take two out.
00:36:26These are cold.
00:36:28Yes.
00:36:29Who is that behind you?
00:36:31Uh, it's daddy.
00:36:34It's daddy.
00:36:35I was a baby in my daddy's tummy.
00:36:38I was kicking in it.
00:36:40You were kicking?
00:36:41Yeah.
00:36:41He didn't want me to get in the tummy.
00:36:45I found out I was pregnant with Azealia in September of 2013, when I was five and a half months
00:36:53pregnant.
00:36:53I was shocked.
00:36:54I was taken aback.
00:36:57I was unprepared.
00:36:58But I was also really excited.
00:37:00I found out I was pregnant with Journey in January of 2020.
00:37:04And I was about seven weeks pregnant at that point.
00:37:07And then can you put two more in there for a sister?
00:37:10Well, uh, Azealia, who's a better cook, you or your dad?
00:37:17Dad?
00:37:17Dad?
00:37:21Yes.
00:37:21I can't cook.
00:37:24My pregnancy with Azealia was insane.
00:37:28I went from not knowing I was pregnant at all to finding out I was pregnant and then being like
00:37:33super pregnant.
00:37:34But I was thrown into trying to like figure out pregnancy.
00:37:39My pregnancy journeys were similar in the sense that they were both surprises.
00:37:43And also in the aspect that I had to navigate medical spaces and deal with a lot of like
00:37:51transphobia within maternal spaces.
00:37:54I'm going to show you all my shoe collection and my closet basically.
00:38:01And apparently my child.
00:38:04I love fashion and different styles of clothes.
00:38:09My personal style is very emotional.
00:38:13And what I mean by that is my style changes based on how I'm feeling.
00:38:20When did you know you were trans?
00:38:22I think I was around 19 when I knew that I was transgender.
00:38:29I found the verbiage for it in like 2006, 2007.
00:38:33Before I transitioned I felt kind of out of alignment with myself.
00:38:38Has your style evolved throughout your transition journey?
00:38:41My style has absolutely evolved.
00:38:45I've gotten further in my transition and a lot more comfortable with myself.
00:38:49I find myself really being open to trying new like styles of clothes.
00:38:57Like, you know, very risque things.
00:39:01I'm also very big into body positivity.
00:39:04I don't actually have anything from when I was pregnant.
00:39:09Honestly, during pregnancy, being that there aren't maternity clothes for trans men,
00:39:16I just wore my regular clothes bigger.
00:39:24What are you painting?
00:39:26What are you drawing?
00:39:27I'm painting a slug.
00:39:29A slug?
00:39:30Yeah.
00:39:31What are you drawing, a flower?
00:39:33Azalea and Journey are characters.
00:39:37We have to face that the world kind of sucks.
00:39:40And especially for Black women, which they are.
00:39:43But they are outspoken, confident, um, intelligent beings that I am super proud of.
00:39:53How would you describe your dad?
00:39:56My dad is, um, bald.
00:39:59But he has, he has style.
00:40:02He knows how to do my hair.
00:40:05He's fun.
00:40:06What does transgender mean?
00:40:10Like definition-wise?
00:40:12Yeah, kind of like.
00:40:13What do you, what, how would you describe it?
00:40:15I would describe it as a person changing, changing themselves the way they want.
00:40:23No, you do it.
00:40:24Or expressing how they feel.
00:40:27So, how did your dad explain to you that he is transgender?
00:40:32I don't know how he did it, I can't remember.
00:40:35But he just started explaining it and then he never stopped.
00:40:39He never did.
00:40:40He's gonna keep going.
00:40:41Yeah, I've been telling her that I was trans without necessarily using the word trans,
00:40:47since she was able to understand words.
00:40:51Which is probably why she doesn't remember like an exact moment.
00:40:54It was never like a sit down.
00:40:56I know a lot of people are like, oh my god, that must be so confusing.
00:41:00But I'm also at the same time showing them pictures of myself when I was a kid.
00:41:06And I'd be like, daddy used to be a girl like you.
00:41:08And as they get older, they start asking questions.
00:41:11Like, Azalea started asking, you know, why didn't you want to be a girl?
00:41:14And I'd be like, well, did you want to be a boy?
00:41:16Do you want to be a boy?
00:41:17And she'd be like, no.
00:41:18And I'd be like, in that same aspect, I didn't feel comfortable being a girl.
00:41:22And it's just like, oh, okay, I get it.
00:41:27Hey, y'all, use this post and in the comments, I will be answering a few questions.
00:41:33All right, let's go.
00:41:34Okay, the question is, would you have more children via surrogate, adoption, or fostering?
00:41:39No, I will not be having any more kids via surrogate, adoption, fostering.
00:41:44Um, no.
00:41:46Do your kids have someone they call mom?
00:41:48This is a question I get often.
00:41:50They don't have anybody that they call mom, as in mother.
00:41:53Um, but they definitely have motherly figures in their life.
00:41:57I decided to share my story on social media when I was pregnant with Azalea.
00:42:02I took like five more pregnancy tests because I just didn't believe it.
00:42:07And I was five and a half months pregnant because I hadn't seen any representation
00:42:11of black trans men who gave birth.
00:42:14I decided to do a weekly pregnancy struggle segment.
00:42:18I'm literally attached to a thousand different things right now.
00:42:22It is mostly educational and a lot of storytelling.
00:42:25And I also educate via clapbacks, which people tend to love.
00:42:30I've experienced a ton of negativity since sharing my story.
00:42:33I've had someone tell me that they were literally going to call CPS on me.
00:42:38I'll get a lot of, oh, those poor kids.
00:42:41I feel so sorry for them.
00:42:43Them saying that my kids are going to grow up confused,
00:42:46that I'm depriving them of having a mother.
00:42:49Just yesterday, somebody said they hoped that my plane crashes
00:42:53when I was getting on a flight.
00:42:55And I've also been told that I am an abomination, um, a demon.
00:43:02The list goes on and on.
00:43:03I get negative comments literally daily.
00:43:05I take everything with a grain of salt until it comes to my kids.
00:43:09I think me being trans, people just think that I'm automatically bad for my kids
00:43:15and that CPS will come and take them, um, which is false.
00:43:22I think there's a lack of education about being transgender because for so long,
00:43:28the entire LGBTQIA plus community had been suppressed.
00:43:32My online community, they have rallied behind me in ways that I, it still to this day shocks me,
00:43:40how they've shown up for me.
00:43:42The message I would like to give to other transgender parents is that you're deserving.
00:43:48You're deserving of a family.
00:43:49I hope to teach my children that it's okay to be yourself in the face of adversity
00:43:56and that the most important love that they will ever experience is their own.
00:44:04I just want my kids to be happy.
00:44:17My name is Nev.
00:44:18My pronouns are he, they, and I'm a trans parent.
00:44:22I came out as a trans male at the age of 13.
00:44:26Before I came out as a man, I came out as non-binary at probably age 11.
00:44:30The way I would describe my transition journey would be more mentally than physically.
00:44:36I became the main person to be bullied at school.
00:44:40And I didn't expect that going into it because my parents,
00:44:44well, my mother specifically was extremely accepting of me.
00:44:48My mom was a big supporter with me coming out as trans.
00:44:54My mom did pass away in 2021.
00:44:59It's hard to talk about my mom.
00:45:01Yeah, sorry.
00:45:02Well, it's okay.
00:45:04I want to.
00:45:07It's just, I can't do it without choking up.
00:45:10It was hard when she passed because she was going to help me go on hormones and
00:45:16like all that stuff.
00:45:17When I had turned 16, she passed away when I was 15.
00:45:21My mom was so open arms and she was so accepting of me and she was like, just be you.
00:45:27My dad wasn't that prone on my transition.
00:45:31And after my, my mom passed away, he kind of was just like, you can do all that stuff
00:45:36after you turn 18.
00:45:38It's hard to understand, but I also do understand to an extent.
00:45:42I love the person I am now.
00:45:43I hope I can grow to be a better person.
00:45:47I also hope I can start hormones eventually.
00:45:51Should we look at this one?
00:45:53Okay, come here.
00:45:56Where's the rhino?
00:45:58Here it is.
00:45:59I have a stepdaughter.
00:46:01Her name is Naomi and she'll be turning three very soon.
00:46:05Who is that?
00:46:06Who is that?
00:46:07Dada.
00:46:08Dada?
00:46:09Is that what you said?
00:46:10What did you say?
00:46:12Daddy!
00:46:14That's daddy.
00:46:15And then who's this over here?
00:46:17Who's that?
00:46:18Mom!
00:46:20My name is Jasmine.
00:46:21I'm the biological mother of Naomi and I'm 20.
00:46:25And who's in the middle?
00:46:26Who's this?
00:46:28Naomi!
00:46:30I met Jazzy around two and a half years ago.
00:46:33I was about 15 and she was 17.
00:46:37We were meeting at my dad's for Pride and my sister had invited her.
00:46:43And we just kind of hit it off from there.
00:46:48When I heard that Jazzy had a daughter, I was like, I need to meet her.
00:46:51I found out I was pregnant at 16 and at 17 that's when Naomi was born.
00:46:59This is Mommy Elephant.
00:47:00Where's Daddy Elephant?
00:47:02When I did first meet Nai Nai, she was five months old and I was 15 years old.
00:47:09Look at her on top of her head.
00:47:12It's on top of your head?
00:47:14Oh my.
00:47:16You're so silly.
00:47:18Naomi definitely took a liking to his chains and jewelry that he wore.
00:47:23And she just grew a connection with him right away.
00:47:28Daddy, I'm really hungry.
00:47:30I am really hungry.
00:47:32Can I have that?
00:47:33Ooh, candy.
00:47:35Daddy's favorite is Larry's.
00:47:37I think she just throws herself on me.
00:47:40I think she's just pulling on me.
00:47:41I enjoyed the look that Nev had on his face when he met her.
00:47:57Come over there.
00:47:58Let's walk over to the swings.
00:48:00You ready?
00:48:04You going so high?
00:48:06She's never going to want to leave.
00:48:08If she could live in the park, she would.
00:48:12There isn't much trans people or any LGBTQ people around us, but we always keep our heads up around
00:48:19that.
00:48:20Having that outlet of social media definitely helps find people.
00:48:25We're not the only family that is young or trans or queer or anything like that.
00:48:32Use this hand.
00:48:33Reach over here.
00:48:35Okay.
00:48:36This one?
00:48:38We can go down this one together.
00:48:41Or you and mom?
00:48:43Whoa!
00:48:47Whoa!
00:48:49Once I started going on to social media, I did get a lot of hate.
00:48:54I don't get as much hate for being a teen parent than I do for being a trans parent.
00:49:00There's nothing that really comes out that's original.
00:49:03Someone might be like, oh, if anything, you're more of a mother than a father.
00:49:08There's a few times that people have asked me why I'm with a trans guy.
00:49:17I love this person and love's going to love, you know?
00:49:22My dad was all right with my relationship.
00:49:26It was more of the parenting part of the relationship that was a little iffy with him.
00:49:33Three months after my mom passed away, I had met Jazzy.
00:49:36We were all still grieving and it was just a lot all at once for my dad.
00:49:44Hello.
00:49:44How have you been?
00:49:45I've been all right.
00:49:46How about you?
00:49:46Swell.
00:49:48I was 15 and he didn't think I needed that.
00:49:54He was just kind of iffy about me running into something this serious so quickly.
00:50:02I was a little concerned at first.
00:50:04Well, at first, you know, Nine-Nine was just a baby baby.
00:50:07So it was like, okay, that's a lot of responsibility for YouTube.
00:50:12I didn't really think of it as very negative.
00:50:14I thought it was kind of noble, I guess.
00:50:18I had no worries other than just their financial state and how they were going to get through everything.
00:50:23Can you talk about what it's been like to watch Nev kind of take on the role of being a
00:50:27dad?
00:50:30Weird.
00:50:33Weird.
00:50:33I wasn't sure you could handle it because there were times you were stressed out about it,
00:50:40especially when she would have her moments where tea, they, you know.
00:50:44Oh, my God.
00:50:45At the beginning, I did not know what I was doing.
00:50:47I can't wait till she's potty trained so then you can finally take her.
00:50:50Oh, really?
00:50:51Mm-hmm.
00:50:51What do you got there?
00:50:55Are those your new toys?
00:50:59Should he play it?
00:51:00Are you proud of Nev?
00:51:03I'm very proud of him.
00:51:05See, he caught me.
00:51:07I got it.
00:51:07Yeah, I'm kind of very impressed by how you've been doing this.
00:51:14You've acted a lot older than you have been.
00:51:17You're more mature than normal and even especially since mom passed,
00:51:21you have been a lot more resilient and self-reliant.
00:51:25I have a good support system, I think.
00:51:27Well, like I said, you're very self-reliant.
00:51:31I try to be.
00:51:32Your mother taught you that.
00:51:34You did too.
00:51:35I was the tough love.
00:51:36Yeah, that part.
00:51:37Yeah, that part of her.
00:51:40What sound does Peppa Pig make?
00:51:49I would definitely like to see more people accepting who we are and how we do things.
00:51:58I was in a really tough, tough position when I first met Jazzy and meeting her kind of gave my
00:52:06life purpose.
00:52:07Jasmine, how happy are you that you met Nev?
00:52:10Honestly, it's something that I didn't think I'd ever find.
00:52:16He's a good father too.
00:52:19My family is just basically my safe haven.
00:52:21I feel blessed to be a father.
00:52:25We got bagels and nana.
00:52:28Can you say nana?
00:52:29We met on Tinder and I swiped right on him just because I thought he had a great smile.
00:52:33I was like, wow, you have such a great smile.
00:52:36And then he was like, you too, and you look good.
00:52:39And I was like, well, you know.
00:52:40My name is Theodore.
00:52:42My name is Dantez.
00:52:43Theodore told me he was trans day one on Tinder.
00:52:46I read his bio.
00:52:48And actually, I think he told me in the text as well, you know, like, yeah, I'm trans.
00:52:51I'm like, yeah, cool.
00:52:52Anyway, how was your day?
00:52:56Because it's not a thing for me.
00:52:58I've always been pansexual, so it didn't really matter to me.
00:53:02I like to smile.
00:53:03I like his face.
00:53:04I said, you're going to be mine.
00:53:05As soon as we started going out, I was like, I want a baby.
00:53:09A lot of people say that we rushed into that when we had our baby, but it was just so
00:53:14natural.
00:53:14You have to want a baby.
00:53:16And we both wanted a baby.
00:53:18Dakota is our biological son.
00:53:20So since, you know, I was born a female, I still have my reproductive parts.
00:53:25So I was able to carry my own son to think of this guy over here.
00:53:29And he just turned 18 months yesterday.
00:53:33My transition journey, medically, it started in 2018 when I started testosterone.
00:53:40And then after that, I was able to get my gender marker and name changed.
00:53:44And then in 2020 is when I got top surgery.
00:53:47What I had to do to have him, I had to stop my medical transition.
00:53:50So I couldn't take any testosterone.
00:53:53And I was on testosterone for about three years before I had him.
00:53:57So bless you, bless you.
00:53:59So I was fully transitioned before I had him or even had a thought of having him.
00:54:05So I had to stop testosterone.
00:54:07I stopped eight months just so I can start having my cycles back.
00:54:11It took almost a whole year to even conceive him.
00:54:15Dakota has a very bubbly personality.
00:54:17He is so likable. He is warm, cuddly.
00:54:21But he does have his sassy moment.
00:54:24How did you guys start sharing your family life online?
00:54:29So it really started when I was posted on TikTok.
00:54:34I was like, big.
00:54:35I thought it was going to be a big baby, but he only came out like five pounds.
00:54:39And that video blew up.
00:54:41There's like 21 million views on it.
00:54:43The other one was me announcing my pregnancy.
00:54:46And I posted like me being pregnant all the months I was pregnant.
00:54:50Like how small I was to how big I got.
00:54:52And then a picture of him at the end.
00:54:54And people were like, that's fake.
00:54:55He was like, it's not though.
00:54:58That's actually my son.
00:55:00I actually had this baby.
00:55:02It was definitely mixed reviews.
00:55:04There was a lot of people that were saying that child is abused.
00:55:08Somebody should call it CPS.
00:55:10It's a joke.
00:55:12That dude just got fat.
00:55:14This one kind of hurt the most.
00:55:16It was like, how come I lost two pregnancies and I lost my son 10 days ago at 17 weeks.
00:55:23But you had your kid.
00:55:24This is so unfair.
00:55:26They were like, how is this not considered child abuse?
00:55:29How was a child abuse?
00:55:30Do you see a single bruise on my son?
00:55:32Do you see how he's malnourished?
00:55:33If you identify as a male, why would you want to do women things that only women can experience?
00:55:39Makes no sense.
00:55:40I'm not trying to take anything away from women.
00:55:43You're just trying to make it yours.
00:55:44You got to claim everything.
00:55:46And I'm like, I literally just wanted a baby.
00:55:48Let's please calm down.
00:55:49It was never that deep.
00:55:50But then there was some that were like, congratulations.
00:55:53And you're going to be a great parent.
00:55:55And I support you.
00:55:56And I love you.
00:55:58Don't let the hate stop you.
00:55:59Because these people, they mean nothing.
00:56:01You focus on people that love you, not people that hate you.
00:56:04That's going to make your life better.
00:56:06My family kind of pushed the mom role on me and kind of your family too.
00:56:12I don't ever mind taking the mom role because I've seen a bunch of even men, they're like,
00:56:18I'm the mom.
00:56:19So I'm kind of taking it as I don't really think it has a gender either.
00:56:24It's just a role.
00:56:25It's just a role you play.
00:56:26I just know that I am his parent.
00:56:28I gave birth to him.
00:56:29He is mine.
00:56:30And I'm still a transgender man.
00:56:32I started taking testosterone again when Dakota was four months old.
00:56:36I didn't want to take it too early where my body was completely thrown off and Dakota
00:56:42didn't know who I was anymore, but old enough to where he can see things and comprehend things.
00:56:47And, you know, he would grow on the journey with me.
00:56:50So I'm going to tell him when he gets older that I am transgender.
00:56:55That's what a lot of people don't understand because they're like, oh, you're going to exploit him at such a
00:56:59young age.
00:57:00No, there is a time and place.
00:57:01He doesn't need to know about my surgery.
00:57:03So I'm going to keep it real simple, real, you know, PG.
00:57:09I would like to hope that he would not get bullied, but unfortunately it will be a part of it.
00:57:15I don't think he's going to get bullied too much.
00:57:18I think we are much more accepting of like LGBTQ plus community than before.
00:57:24He's going to grow up even farther away from now.
00:57:27Of course, you know, there's going to be some buttheads out there, but I don't think it's going to affect
00:57:30it too much.
00:57:31If my son Dakota were ever wanting to transition, which first of all, I would never push that propaganda on
00:57:38him.
00:57:38I would wait until he's 18, until he's adult, until he can figure out if that's actually what he wants
00:57:43to do.
00:57:44The misconception is, is that we are a gay couple and we adopted our son.
00:57:49Yeah, that's number one.
00:57:50Yeah, which is really good because I pass.
00:57:53High five.
00:57:53Yeah.
00:57:54Whoop.
00:57:54Yeah.
00:57:55Or that we just like got our son from somewhere like Craigslist or something.
00:57:59But I said, yep, you are so incorrect, but okay.
00:58:03My sisters are coming over today, Victoria and Samantha, to tell us what they think about
00:58:09our family dynamic.
00:58:11Hey, welcome in.
00:58:12So how did y'all feel when I told y'all I was pregnant?
00:58:17I was excited.
00:58:18I was like, and that is awesome.
00:58:21Did y'all think it would like affect my body?
00:58:23Were y'all like scared for me?
00:58:25Or did y'all think he just like, would it be your sibling that you knew?
00:58:29That's a trick question.
00:58:31He went from she to identifying as a male.
00:58:36So it was Tiffany for most of my life, and then it's Ty, and now it's Theodore.
00:58:41It was a lot of changes.
00:58:42And like I told him, it's kind of taking a bit because like I said, most of my life, it
00:58:48was her.
00:58:49He was my sister most of my life.
00:58:51And that's what I knew.
00:58:52Do you think that after COVID, he'll be confused?
00:58:55Or do you think that would confuse him now or any kind of confusion?
00:58:59Is there any confusion?
00:59:00So right now, I don't think he'll have any confusion.
00:59:04But as he gets older, he might.
00:59:07And especially whenever he starts in school, it'll probably get a little more difficult.
00:59:11Do you have any worries or concerns when Theo stopped taking testosterone to have color?
00:59:18It's not going to put too much of a toll on his mental health.
00:59:21But I know that was, it was real bad.
00:59:23And I felt a little bad, actually, because I was like, man, you know, this is my fault.
00:59:28Because I'm like, I just came in his life and gave him a baby.
00:59:31Look at me, dang it!
00:59:32I messed up a small transition.
00:59:34Yay!
00:59:35I've already gotten top surgery, but as in bottom surgery, just not right now.
00:59:40Not until I see a procedure out there that I like.
00:59:43I am happy with my body right now and how it is.
00:59:46Honestly, the best thing about being parents is watching them grow up,
00:59:50watching their personalities tune in, watching them experience the world.
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