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For years, I made excuses for people's circumstances—thinking I was just being loving.
I ignored where they were in life, thinking all that mattered was who they were.
But I learned the hard way—those things are often deeply tied to self-worth, confidence, and emotional readiness.
Being overly understanding can blur your boundaries and drain your peace.
Watch this if you’ve ever confused empathy with emotional self-abandonment.
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Transcript
00:00What is something you used to strongly believe in that you no longer believe in at all?
00:04Being too understanding romantically. Let's talk about it.
00:07For the longest, I would date people for who they were and not for their circumstance in life.
00:11And my reasoning was we all have our own obstacles.
00:14We're all going through our own separate things.
00:16We all have our own story, so I shouldn't apply that to who they are as a person, right?
00:20And boy, was I wrong because the situation where they are in life matters a lot.
00:24I felt like I shouldn't worry about your employment status,
00:27how much money you make or where you live because those are all material things
00:30and don't define you as a person, right?
00:33Wrong again because a lot of times those things are tied into people's self-perception,
00:36self-confidence, and self-worth.
00:38It took me a very long time to understand that with people not being where they want to be in life
00:42comes a high risk of them being insecure and feeling inadequate within themselves.
00:46And if I date them, their insecurities and inaccuracies can rub off on me.
00:49So I now realize that being too understanding can do more harm than good for me.
00:53And I now know that I want someone who's secure with themselves,
00:55which also means being secure where they are in life and wanting that is okay.
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