The #1 Reason Your Relationship Feels Like a Rollercoaster

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Your relationship might feel like a rollercoaster… not because of bad communication — but because of emotional blueprints created in childhood. In this short, we explore why understanding how your partner sees love, conflict, and apologies can save your relationship. 🌱 Follow for more self-growth content that heals love from the inside out. 🧠 Want a deeper dive into your emotional patterns? Subscribe now.

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00:00What do you think men should know about women and women should know about men in order to ensure

00:07a healthy relationship, not just one that withstands the test of time, but also one that

00:14blossoms and thrives? I think what both genders need to know about one another is that their

00:19childhood creates a template of how they like to give and receive love and how they like to resolve

00:24conflict and how they like to apologize. These are the three things, like how they like to see love,

00:29how they like to apologize, and how they resolve conflict. Now, that childhood template means that

00:34no matter how much you push or pull, until you understand their triggers, your relationship can

00:40always feel a little bit like a roller coaster. But when you take the time to understand that they

00:44may have pre-existing triggers due to some experiences in their childhood or some experiences with

00:49their parents that makes them hypersensitive to abandonment or might make them hypersensitive to

00:54silent treatment they don't enjoy or makes them yell more than they should, you'll realize that

00:58their behavior is not entirely personal. It's not because of you. It might be because of something

01:03they're struggling with. And then you'll be able to look at your partner in a more compassionate and

01:06understanding manner and resolve conflict and then have a more enduring, long-lasting relationship.

01:12But without that perspective, unfortunately, every fight feels like a thunderstorm and every

01:17resolution feels like pulling teeth when it could be a lot easier if you speak the language that they

01:22understood when they were children. Wow. So does that mean that we should be asking each other's,

01:26what each other's traumas are on the first date? How do we navigate this? I think we should be

01:30asking ourselves what our traumas are. That's a better way to do it. If you ask yourself,

01:35what is it? How do I like to, how much separation can I handle with my partner? Do I like to be

01:39really separate or do I like more closeness? Do I, how do I resolve conflict? Do I prefer to just

01:44leave the fight and have some time out? Or do I need to fix it right there and then? Do I yell and get

01:50personal? Do I say mean things? Or am I somebody that holds everything in and then eventually

01:54explode? What do I do? And then how can I give my partner almost a psychological manual

01:59on what they can do to make our relationship a lot smoother? And you meet them in that same

02:04place. I know it sounds really boring and really clinical, but you do do that. It does make life a lot

02:09easier for you.

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