Why Men Shut Down in Love: The Shame No One Talks About

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He doesn’t pull away because he doesn’t care. He pulls away because shame is louder than love. The wounded boy inside him believes he's never enough—and survival mode kicks in.  If you're navigating this in love or in yourself, you’re not alone. 🔔 Subscribe for powerful self-growth truths, emotional healing, and grounded relationship wisdom.

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00:00I speak about the feminine being the initiation and the invitation for a man to really step

00:04into his potential and face his potential.

00:06When the wounded in a boy's in relationship, he feels, I can never do enough.

00:10It never feels enough.

00:11Nothing I ever do for you is good enough.

00:13This is too much.

00:14This is overwhelming.

00:15And I go into shutdown and closure and I pull away because of the little boy within him

00:18is so shame based, right?

00:20Even though he loves this woman more than anything and he'd do anything for her, like

00:23he will do everything to protect himself from feeling that shame.

00:28He sees criticism as an attack on his nervous system.

00:31So he goes into either shutdown or defense.

00:33So he's living in a state of survival.

00:34Most men wait until it's painful enough.

00:37Reason being is because it's the breakdown of the ego.

00:39It's got no other option, but to ask a greater question of like, what the fuck do I do now?

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