Is marriage a repressive patriarchal setup? || Acharya Prashant, at IIT Guwahati (2023)

Acharya Prashant

Video Information: 19.02.2023, IIT-Guwahati  Context: What is ultimate advice for marriage?  How to choose the right partner for marriage?  How to be committed in a relationship?  How to have a deep and spiritual relationship?  Is marriage good or bad?  What about sex before marriage?  Is it compulsory to marry? Why should one must have a compelling purpose?  Music Credits: Milind Date ~~~~~

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00:00 I really sometimes feel very angry at what women have done to themselves and all the

00:07 things that they needlessly accept.

00:11 I just don't know why a woman should simply allow herself to be a hostage to the past

00:23 blind traditions and forces of economics, why she should allow herself to be, especially

00:31 today, when she herself is educated, when she earns, she knows, she has knowledge, awareness,

00:40 power, legal protection, all kinds of things are there, why does she still need to act

00:46 subservient, why does she need to allow her life to be destroyed, all that is quite unfathomable.

00:58 It's just that we don't think over these things, it's taken as some kind of divine rule, the

01:08 woman has to leave her house and go to some other place.

01:12 There is nothing divine in this, this is just social custom and economics and you have no

01:20 obligation to follow any customs whatsoever.

01:25 Your only obligation is your own liberation.

01:29 You might have the body of a woman, but your consciousness is of a human being.

01:36 You are fundamentally just consciousness and therefore your sole purpose in life is your

01:41 liberation.

01:42 You do not exist to appease a man or to produce kids or to carry the mantle of social custom,

01:53 no.

01:58 Any follow ups on this one?

02:00 Namaste Sir, Sir I have a question related to what you have explained just now, I completely

02:15 agree with the theory, I completely agree, but can you also suggest a way to explain

02:22 the same concept to our parents, like because, so my parents are asking me to get married

02:31 because they wanted to get me free from some kind of burden, so like the same concept which

02:38 you explained to us, we as a girl, I think every girl in this hall, even in this college

02:43 will accept this phenomena and want to stand for their own, but don't you think that every

02:48 parents will curse you after learning this, that we learnt this, that we will tell them,

02:55 I will tell them that I learnt from you that I will not leave your place, I will stick

03:00 here even after marriage.

03:03 What do you suggest on this?

03:07 See certain things, certain things I can only force myself to imagine, so I cannot see how

03:21 a father or a mother can do that, but I can kind of just by way of fiction imagine, my

03:34 father he never imposed himself on me or my sister, my sister lived absolutely the way

03:43 she wanted to, she is a very very strong person, very independent minded and people call her

03:53 the man of the house, so I can only imagine that there can be parents of the kind who

04:05 can push daughters out of the house and that's a very scary imagination, how can a father

04:12 or a mother curse the daughter and tell her to marry and get lost, in that case take a

04:26 place on rent, what else, I mean if your parents don't want to keep you, try renting a place,

04:39 what else can I say, what I am saying is there should be no obligation to go to the husband's

04:53 place and necessarily stay there and do all those things.

04:58 As you told that we are bound with some society norms, so is there any, there should be some

05:08 way that we can explain them because they believe in spirituality and although…

05:15 You can ask them these basic questions, why do you want to push me out of your house,

05:21 please tell me why must I go and if they have a tangible argument, counter that, if they

05:31 have no argument and they simply say because that's a social custom, then they don't

05:35 love you, then they anyway don't love you, so then no need to go to the husband's place

05:44 and also no need to necessarily stay in your father's place where you are unloved and unwanted,

05:52 quit both the places, the world is a huge opportunity, live anywhere, stay anywhere,

05:58 do whatever is the right work and fly free, simple.

06:03 Thank you.

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