00:00Women are physically a bit weaker, so it used to happen in times when we were not very civilized
00:16that men could coerce them using sheer muscle power.
00:23Those days are behind us, that does not happen anymore, that cannot happen anymore.
00:30You have institutions, you have the law, you have the police and you have the gun and the gun does not listen to muscles.
00:42So how is it possible that one human being is able to coerce another human being into something she does not want to do at all?
00:51How is it possible? Have I framed the question rightly?
00:57Physical compulsion is ruled out?
01:01Then how is one human being, who happens to be a man, is able to brobeat another human being?
01:13Something is going on, right? What's going on?
01:17Always try to tell my women listeners, you are not being defeated, you are surrendering to something, that is the difference.
01:37You cannot be defeated without your consent. And when defeat comes with your consent, do not call it defeat.
01:52Honestly, just call it willful surrender. And if you want to be even more blunt, then call it a deal.
02:04It's not even surrender. It's not even surrender. It's a deal.
02:10I will bow down to your wish, Mr. Patriarch, and in exchange I will avail such and such benefits, Mr. Patriarch.
02:22That's the deal. Now, why do you call it exploitation at all then, please?
02:30If you are cutting a deal, if you are signing an agreement, not on paper, mutual understanding.
02:42Why do you say that the woman is being coerced?
02:52Nobody can force you into submission. You are not a kid, you are not uneducated, and we are not living in the dark ages.
03:06There is something in you that agrees to the demands being made by the patriarchal system.
03:16Question that. Do not just keep blaming patriarchy.
03:25What is it in you that yields, surrenders?
03:34And that thing is called greed, that thing is called ignorance, that thing is called fear.
03:41Illusion.
03:46If I bow down, if I sell myself out, I will get a happy life. Illusion.
03:57That's what you need to fight against. Your illusions.
04:04And women, let's accept it.
04:10Live more in dreams compared to men, don't they?
04:14Being of emotional disposition, in a biological way.
04:20It's so easy, rather comparatively easier, to sell dreams to them.
04:25And they buy those dreams.
04:27Why do you buy those dreams?
04:33The tall knight with the shining armor, on the white horse with wings.
04:46He will come to take me away to the fabled land of infinite promises and immeasurable love.
05:07Why do I need to strengthen my muscles?
05:10Why do I need to fight it out?
05:17My knight is almost ready with his horse.
05:22And my job in life is to locate my knight and give myself to him.
05:30I know, I am generalizing.
05:34But just try to see whether there is some fact in what I am saying.
05:42And then when the promised land doesn't show up, when the dream doesn't materialize,
05:50then we say, oh, we have been exploited.
06:02You must be like 18, 20, 22, 24, 26.
06:07Right?
06:08You must be in that age bracket.
06:11In that age bracket, you are physically the strongest.
06:17This is the period in your life when you are at your physical peak.
06:27Don't you have muscles?
06:28Don't you have lugs to run away?
06:33Hmm?
06:34You have legs.
06:35You can run away.
06:38You have muscles here.
06:40You can slap somebody.
06:42And your brain here.
06:43You can think.
06:46How do you say you are being exploited?
06:53And you are educated, right?
06:56So wherever you are, you will manage a living.
07:01Won't you be able to earn even 8 or 10 thousand for yourself?
07:08Please?
07:09Please?
07:11But then why take the pains to earn money when money can be had for free?
07:25I am Mr. John's better half.
07:26I am Mr. John's better half.
07:30Look at the kind of propaganda and hideous lies embedded in our language.
07:42Mr. John's better half.
07:46I lay claim to half his property.
07:47Why do you need to earn then?
07:48You just need to have a certain Mr. John in your life.
08:01So then somebody can definitely force you into submission by offering you Mr. John.
08:14Or by threatening that your prospects of having Mr. John would be reduced if you don't yield.
08:25And then you say, oh, right, let me agree to whatever Papa is saying because Papa is going to have a great role in fetching me my Mr. John.
08:36That's what, you talked of government job, right?
08:45It's great that you as a woman are preparing for that kind of a competitive examination.
08:53But don't you know the ugly facts on the ground?
09:00All across the country, especially in North India, parents of girls are so eager to marry them off to somebody with some kind, any kind of a government job.
09:17And the girl too is equally eager.
09:20And who will fetch that government job groom?
09:24Papa will fetch that groom.
09:27So how dare then you resist Papa?
09:34How dare you do that?
09:37Because all that I want to have is comfort.
09:40And I also don't want to run the risks of living independently.
09:47Living independently is bliss.
09:50But it comes with a price.
09:51I don't want to pay the price.
09:53How dare you?
09:54How dare you do that?
09:56If you tune in your cell phone first
10:01You can't make realistic ideas.
10:03Before we go, just look forward to the next one.
10:05How dare you?
10:07How dare you up.
10:08Yep.
10:09It is.
10:13I don't miss you in the next one.
10:15Nope.
10:16Where are you.
10:17What do you know?
10:18Why have you heard about why will the success of these people?
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