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Today, you are one step closer to Extraordinary YOU embodying the gift of personal growth and transformation. Therapy is a soulful journey of becoming more conscious of one’s own experiences so as to recognize and appreciate one’s authentic self wholeheartedly. In the process, each individual becomes capable of achieving deeper awareness to discern different options and choices to effect personally meaningful change.
As a relational therapist, I am fully committed to facilitating this process by helping you to uncover your true potential and lead a life that is worth celebrating. While we can’t change difficult situations of the past, we can work together to better understand and explore new ways of handling various challenges of the present.
Happiness is an active choice we can exercise.
Through an alternate view guided in a supportive relationship, it is possible to unearth your innate power to shift long-standing patterns or perceptions that may be holding you back from experiencing a more vital and fulfilling life.
If you’re looking for extra support and guidance in your own journey or you’re just ready to move in a new direction in your life, I look forward to working with you to achieve your goals.
NOW is your time to unleash your potential to awaken to new possibilities of your life!
"Extraordinary You: How to Claim Extraordinary Happiness Amid the Most Ordinary Places in Life," by Dr. Agnes Oh is a refreshing and heartfelt exploration of what it truly means to be happy.
Centered on the power of relationships and meaningful connection, the book gently reminds readers that fulfillment is often found not in grand moments, but in the everyday interactions we share.
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Today, you are one step closer to Extraordinary YOU embodying the gift of personal growth and transformation. Therapy is a soulful journey of becoming more conscious of one’s own experiences so as to recognize and appreciate one’s authentic self wholeheartedly. In the process, each individual becomes capable of achieving deeper awareness to discern different options and choices to effect personally meaningful change.
As a relational therapist, I am fully committed to facilitating this process by helping you to uncover your true potential and lead a life that is worth celebrating. While we can’t change difficult situations of the past, we can work together to better understand and explore new ways of handling various challenges of the present.
Happiness is an active choice we can exercise.
Through an alternate view guided in a supportive relationship, it is possible to unearth your innate power to shift long-standing patterns or perceptions that may be holding you back from experiencing a more vital and fulfilling life.
If you’re looking for extra support and guidance in your own journey or you’re just ready to move in a new direction in your life, I look forward to working with you to achieve your goals.
NOW is your time to unleash your potential to awaken to new possibilities of your life!
"Extraordinary You: How to Claim Extraordinary Happiness Amid the Most Ordinary Places in Life," by Dr. Agnes Oh is a refreshing and heartfelt exploration of what it truly means to be happy.
Centered on the power of relationships and meaningful connection, the book gently reminds readers that fulfillment is often found not in grand moments, but in the everyday interactions we share.
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00:00Yeah, you're diamonds, dream chasers, we won't wait
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00:30Be good, be very good
00:34I am still trying to be very good
00:36I'm really trying, but it doesn't always work that way
00:41My name is Yaya Diamond, I am the host of Dream Chasers Radio and the founder
00:44And I'm so happy that you're here
00:45Please don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe
00:47And most definitely follow my guests on their pages
00:51And I have the next guest on my show today
00:54She is an author and a doctor
00:57A doctor, a different doctor than me
00:59I'm definitely not a medical doctor
01:01So don't look at me if I, no, don't do that
01:03But this woman right here is amazing
01:07She is inspirational
01:09She is, I mean, think about it
01:12She has written a book, Extraordinary You
01:15Who else can do that but an extraordinary person?
01:18I want to bring her on the show today
01:20Thank you, Dr. O, for being here
01:22Thank you so much, Yaya
01:24I'm so great to be here with you
01:26Thank you for having me
01:28Oh, anytime, you know, I love your name
01:30I love your name, Dr. Agnes O
01:32I'm not going to forget that
01:34Because, oh, yes, oh, yes
01:36Every time somebody says, oh, yes
01:38They say your name
01:39Come on
01:39Right?
01:40Oh, I know everyone makes fun of my last name
01:43Oh, oh, Agnes, oh
01:45It's easy, the easiest last name to remember
01:48No, I think it's like, oh, yes
01:50Oh, yes, yes
01:52But I love your name too, Yaya
01:55You know, I love it
01:56I think your name's better than mine
01:58Easier, you know, more dynamic
02:00More dynamic
02:01No, no
02:02Like your personality
02:03Totally
02:05But thank you, Dr. O
02:06You know, I want to go back a little bit
02:08And I always love to do this
02:09I love to go back in time with authors
02:11To find out when they figured out
02:14What, you know, why they wanted to write their book
02:17What propelled them to write them
02:18But before we do that, though
02:20I have to go back a little bit deeper with you
02:23Because you're not just looking at yourself
02:25Or your journey or you
02:28You're looking at others
02:30So when did that start for you?
02:34Yeah, I think it was just a long process for me
02:38It's, you know, I've never been a happy person in my life
02:41And I think I was
02:42I always struggled to be happy
02:44And, you know, I had many losses
02:46As a child
02:47And I think that made me very deeply sad
02:50And really entrenched in my own grief
02:52And I think that really sort of made my personality
02:59My temperament really dark and gloomy and morose
03:04And it wasn't until later in my adulthood
03:08Like late adulthood
03:10That I began to slowly heal, right?
03:13Slowly healed and came out of my comfort zone
03:17My cave
03:18And I chose my profession for that reason
03:21In psychology
03:23Because I wanted to help other people
03:25That were maybe similarly
03:26Struggling with depression, anxiety
03:29You know, the feelings of darkness
03:32Hopelessness, right?
03:33And it was through my profession
03:36That I began to heal also
03:38So, you know, my profession
03:41I consider this as my vocation
03:43And I'm not helping people
03:46I feel like I'm being more helped by my clients
03:49And they're the ones who really help me heal
03:51And really help me learn
03:54What really matters in life
03:56And I think this book was kind of born
03:59Out of the inspiration
04:01That was really informed by all of my clients
04:05And the people that I've, you know
04:07Been very fortunate enough to meet
04:08And learn from
04:10That's how, you know, this all came about
04:13You know, and I don't
04:16You know, your story kind of lines up
04:18With the reason why I started this podcast
04:21I was down and gloomy
04:24And you know how back in the day
04:27You used to be able to sit at the feet
04:29Of your grandparents
04:29And listen to the stories that they had
04:32I had that quintessential kind of storybook
04:35Kind of upbringing
04:37Yeah
04:37Where we had the porch and the swing
04:40And grandma used to sit at the feet
04:41Oh my god, good old days
04:42Yeah
04:42Yeah, and we used to sit outside
04:44With lemonade and listen to grandma talk
04:45About all her stories and craziness
04:47But I, but at the same time
04:49My grandmother was kind of cookie
04:51She was kind of cookie
04:53So she always had a gun out
04:54On the front porch
04:55I'm sorry, I had to say it
04:56She always had a gun out
04:58But we lived in the south side of Chicago
05:00So it is what it is
05:02But grandma was that really knowledgeable person
05:05That could tell you everything that she's done
05:08How to do it
05:09What to do
05:10What not to do
05:10Give you the examples
05:11And we, we miss that now
05:14Of course
05:15When do we sit out on the porch
05:17On a swing and talk to our kids
05:18Exactly
05:18Even if we do have our guns on the front porch
05:21Like my grandmother did
05:22I'm sorry
05:22But it was, it was that upbringing for me
05:26That I missed
05:27And you'll never forget
05:29You'll never forget
05:31And those are the most precious
05:32Precious, most precious moments of our life
05:35Oh yeah
05:35But the thing is
05:36Is that
05:37Where do you see people sit outside now?
05:40Where do you see the neighborhood kids
05:42Going to gather now
05:44To listen to the elderly talk
05:45That was the one thing I was missing
05:47So I started the podcast
05:49To find people
05:50Who were going after their dreams
05:51That could give the advice
05:53I could see that
05:54You see what I'm saying?
05:55So that we could sit here
05:56And talk about
05:57The success of this person
05:59So that way
06:00They can give their story
06:01And people who are looking
06:03For those people
06:05That are sitting out on the porch
06:06Because this is symbolic now
06:08To get that enlightenment
06:11So that they're not feeling like
06:12As if they've been left behind
06:14And this is your vocation too
06:16Yeah, yeah
06:17Okay
06:17I can see
06:18That this is giving you
06:19So much joy and happiness
06:20As a result
06:21Right?
06:22Because you're helping people
06:23But that is the secret
06:24That is the gist of my book
06:26Okay?
06:27You know
06:27The real happiness comes from
06:29Helping others
06:30You know
06:30Therein lies the meaning
06:32And purpose of your life
06:33When you make a difference
06:34In someone else's life
06:35When you make other people
06:37People's lives
06:38You know
06:38Matter
06:39Right?
06:40When you
06:40When you are able to help highlight
06:42You know
06:43How they matter
06:44In this world
06:46That's when you feel
06:47Most joyful
06:48Yeah
06:49And truly happy
06:51And I can see the bliss
06:52You know
06:53The happiness
06:54And the joyfulness in you
06:55Because you're doing the work
06:57That makes
06:58You know
06:58Makes an impact
07:00Right?
07:01Yeah
07:01Definitely
07:01And that's the reason
07:03You started this
07:04That's the reason
07:05Why you started your profession
07:06Too
07:06Different
07:07Different profession
07:09Same result
07:10Exactly
07:11Thank you for saying that
07:12That's so beautiful
07:13Yeah
07:13Different profession
07:14And you know
07:15Everybody has a way
07:16Of going after
07:17What they really want
07:18In happiness
07:18You know
07:19Can you do me a favor
07:21Can you share an example
07:22On how relational injuries
07:24Impact our happiness
07:25And well-being
07:26Yes
07:26Absolutely
07:28I see this all the time
07:29I mean
07:30Based on my own
07:31Personal experience
07:31Relational injuries
07:33Are
07:33What we call trauma
07:35Right?
07:36They're small T's
07:37And big T's
07:38Right?
07:38And no trauma
07:39Can be compared
07:40There's no such thing
07:41As you know
07:42My trauma
07:42Is smaller than your trauma
07:44Right?
07:44We are relational beings
07:46We're social
07:46Interpersonal beings
07:47So when we get hurt
07:49In our relationship
07:50When we get wounded
07:51From very young
07:53Right?
07:54We call them
07:55Like attachment wounds
07:56That really shapes
07:58Our whole outlook
08:00On things
08:00And the way we feel
08:02About ourselves
08:02Our whole self-concept
08:04And it really informs
08:06How we relate
08:08To our own self
08:09And how we relate
08:10To others
08:11Right?
08:11And there is
08:12You know
08:13That enhance
08:14The intergenerational trauma
08:15The effects
08:16Of intergenerational trauma
08:17Is really powerful
08:18And it can really
08:20Change the course
08:20Of one's life
08:21Because it
08:22It tends to carry over
08:24From one generation
08:25To the next
08:26Yeah
08:26And it affects
08:27Everything that you do
08:28Right?
08:29So it's so important
08:31For us to heal
08:32From our relational injuries
08:34Yeah it is
08:36It's so important
08:36It really helps
08:37It really
08:39It behooves us rather
08:40To look at our own lives
08:42And how we relate
08:44To our own selves
08:44And also how that informs
08:47And governs
08:48How we relate to others
08:49Yeah
08:50And this is the reason why
08:53You know
08:54So many people
08:56Are suffering right now
08:57Yeah
08:58Because we have so many
08:59We carry
09:00Right?
09:00These wounds
09:01From our early childhood
09:03That never got healed
09:04Never got
09:06You know
09:06Had a chance
09:07To really recover
09:09And we're carrying
09:11These wounds everywhere
09:13In everything that we do
09:15Yeah
09:16You know
09:16I've heard
09:17And please
09:19Correct me if I'm wrong
09:20I do not know
09:21Statistics like that
09:23I don't know
09:23The exact numbers
09:24That's not my
09:26My profession
09:27Okay
09:27But what I've heard
09:28Is there are a lot
09:30I could say a lot
09:31Of young women
09:32Who did not escape
09:35The molestation
09:36Or the rape
09:37In their youth
09:39And I know
09:40That they carry this
09:41Into their adulthood
09:42Being that they carry
09:44The trauma
09:44They carry the guilt
09:46They carry
09:46All of the
09:48All of the
09:49Everything
09:50Every emotion
09:51Into their adulthood
09:52And it affects
09:53Their relationships
09:54So
09:55What are some
09:56Simple ways
09:56That people can revive
09:57Their sense of self
09:58Through everyday
09:59Interaction with others
10:00Because that would be
10:01The biggest thing
10:02I've seen
10:02And this is something
10:04I've seen
10:04Okay
10:05Like I said
10:05I don't know
10:06The statistics
10:07I've seen
10:08Where women
10:08Don't like men anymore
10:10And they go
10:11And they go full
10:12You know
10:12On women
10:14And they start dating
10:15Other women
10:16I've seen the vice versa
10:17With men too
10:18I've seen the hatred
10:19That women
10:20Have
10:21And then their
10:22Relationships suffer
10:23Because of this
10:25So what are
10:26Some simple ways
10:27That people can revive
10:28This sense of self
10:31Unfortunately
10:31There are no simple ways
10:32Oh my gosh
10:34Don't tell me this
10:35I don't want to
10:36I am so sorry
10:38To say this
10:39But there are no
10:40Simple ways
10:41And it takes
10:42A lot of work
10:43A lot of time
10:44So we really need
10:45To be patient
10:46With this process
10:47Of healing
10:47Right
10:48Yeah
10:48And one of the things
10:50That we can do though
10:51Is self-compassion
10:53Right
10:53Self-compassion
10:54Is the key
10:55You know
10:56A lot of times
10:56When we're traumatized
10:58Relationally
10:59And relationally
11:00Injured
11:01We tend to be
11:01Really hard
11:02And harsh on ourselves
11:04Right
11:04We don't love ourselves
11:06We don't know
11:06How to love ourselves
11:07We don't know
11:08How to extend
11:09That same self
11:10I mean
11:11Compassion
11:11And empathy
11:12And loving kindness
11:14Towards
11:14That we extend
11:15To other people
11:16Towards ourselves
11:16Because we develop
11:18This
11:18You know
11:19Sort of
11:19Very subtle
11:20Very insidious
11:22Right
11:22Self-loathing
11:23That's the effects
11:24Of trauma
11:25That's one of the
11:26Major effects of trauma
11:27So
11:28So
11:28In my work
11:30I work with a lot of people
11:31To learn how to
11:32How to extend self-compassion
11:34How to do
11:34Self-compassion
11:36Right
11:36How to extend
11:37Yeah
11:38Loving kindness
11:39Towards yourself
11:39That's one of the first steps
11:41Wow
11:42To healing
11:43My gosh
11:44My gosh
11:45So your book
11:46Extraordinary You
11:48You address the challenge
11:50Of finding meaningful connection
11:51In today's busy
11:52And disconnected world
11:54Tell me about that
11:58Well there
11:59You know
12:00We all try to be happy
12:01We all strive to be happy
12:04Right
12:04Happiness is really important
12:05And everything that we do
12:09Is for the happiness
12:10Right
12:12And happiness seems like
12:14It feels very daunting sometimes
12:16I think we're chasing
12:18Wrong things
12:19A lot of times
12:20Like they're not wrong
12:21In the sense that
12:22They're bad
12:22Right
12:23They're external things though
12:25They're fleeting
12:26They're not lasting
12:27That's where we continue
12:29To get depleted
12:30I think
12:30Where
12:31I mean this
12:32Very self
12:32You know
12:33Very fast-paced
12:34Sort of self-absorbent
12:39Kind of
12:39You know
12:40Lifestyle that we all have
12:42We tend to feel
12:43We tend to feel
12:44Very depleted
12:45And drained
12:46Yeah
12:47And that's our
12:49Individualistic
12:50Kind of individualized society
12:51That we live in
12:52Right
12:52And we've been
12:53Brought up to
12:54To do
12:56What matters the most
12:57To us
12:58Right
12:59Individually
13:02But therein lies
13:03The real suffering
13:06And that's part of the reason
13:08Why we are not happy
13:10We are interpersonal
13:12And relational
13:13And social beings
13:13Right
13:14So we need to connect
13:15With other people
13:16We need to
13:17Work with other people
13:18We need to
13:19Reach out to people
13:20We need to sort of
13:21Commune
13:22We need to sort of
13:23Move from ethnocentric
13:26To ethnocentric viewpoint
13:28Right
13:28And everything that we do
13:30We need to do it
13:30In an interpersonal context
13:33And one of the ways
13:34That I really
13:35Want us to kind of
13:36Ponder on
13:37And think about
13:38Is how we can do this
13:39On a daily basis
13:40You know
13:41Not going out of your way
13:42Right
13:43To carve out
13:44Like you know
13:44This mega
13:45You know
13:46Giant kind of way
13:47To self-sacrifice
13:49Or to really
13:51You know
13:54You know
13:54What's the word
13:55Compromise
13:56What you have to do
13:57On a daily basis
13:59In terms of
14:00Your own personal goals
14:01But to do it
14:02In the most
14:03Ordinary ways
14:04Right
14:04Right
14:05And I talk about
14:06This in the book
14:06A lot
14:07You know
14:07There's so many
14:08Opportunities
14:08Throughout the day
14:09That you can
14:10Find happiness
14:11And joy
14:12It's about finding
14:13It's not about
14:14Attaining
14:15It's not about
14:15Achieving
14:16Like big goals
14:17There are these
14:18Little moment
14:19To moment
14:19Moments of bliss
14:21And where do we
14:22Find that
14:23Yeah
14:23Where do we
14:24Find that
14:24What makes you
14:25Most joyful
14:27Throughout the day
14:28It's the connection
14:29That we forge
14:31Right
14:31It's the connection
14:33That we make
14:33With people
14:34That we encounter
14:35Every day
14:36Like an exchange
14:37Of a smile
14:38You know
14:39Saying hello
14:39To strangers
14:40Right
14:40And opening the door
14:42For elders
14:43Right
14:43In these small ways
14:45That we can make
14:45A difference
14:46You know
14:46These are acts
14:47Of kindness
14:48That we can always
14:49Do
14:49Yeah
14:50Throughout the day
14:51And those are the moments
14:52That we can truly feel
14:54The sense of purpose
14:55And meaning
14:55And existence
14:56Of our lives
14:57Yeah
14:58I believe
14:59And that's how
15:00I want to postulate
15:01The construct of happiness
15:02Right
15:03You're right
15:04You're right
15:05Because you know
15:06There have been
15:07There have been
15:08So many different
15:09Studies done
15:10And so many different
15:11Things where
15:12Isolation
15:13Drives a person mad
15:14Absolutely
15:15We are very social
15:16Very social people
15:17We have to be
15:18Around other people
15:18Not necessarily
15:20A lot of other
15:20People just around
15:21Other people
15:22And it can drive
15:24One mad
15:25When you're alone
15:26So it's not good
15:27To be alone
15:29Absolutely
15:29I mean
15:30I would totally
15:31You know
15:32Sort of agree
15:33I couldn't agree
15:34With you more
15:34That's the key
15:36Being around
15:37Other people
15:37Right
15:37Isolation
15:38Is the
15:40The most
15:42The common reason
15:44Why people
15:45Feel so depressed
15:46And so anxious
15:48And so miserable
15:50Right
15:50And there is
15:52I don't know
15:52If you've heard
15:53Of this Harvard
15:53Study
15:54That's 88 years old
15:56Okay
15:57Have you heard of it?
15:58Okay
15:58This is the longest
15:59Study
15:59That was ever conducted
16:01And this was done
16:03By Harvard
16:03Researchers
16:04And they
16:05This is a longitudinal
16:06Study
16:06Where you follow
16:08Groups of people
16:08Throughout the
16:10Years
16:10So from
16:11You know
16:11From their early
16:1220s or 30s
16:13Until they're about
16:1480
16:15And they
16:16Find
16:17You know
16:18Where
16:19You know
16:20How people do
16:20Right
16:20At these two groups
16:22One really achieved
16:23And really
16:24Sort of privileged
16:25And the other one
16:26Not as
16:26As privileged
16:27And maybe not
16:29As affluent either
16:29And then you follow
16:30These people
16:31And what they found
16:33Is that
16:34You know
16:34People who live
16:35The longest
16:36Happiest
16:36Healthiest
16:38What do you think
16:39The secret is?
16:40Oh
16:40Being around the people
16:41Definitely
16:42Relationship
16:43Relationship
16:44But good relationship
16:45Absolutely
16:45Good relationship
16:46Not toxic
16:47Or negative
16:47But meaningful
16:48For feeling
16:49Relationship
16:50Is the key
16:50And that is
16:52What we are
16:52Consistently finding
16:53Over and over again
16:54And over the last
16:56Eight decades
16:56I mean
16:57These researchers
16:58I found
16:58Over and over again
16:59It's the relationship
17:00Meaning
17:01The connectedness
17:03The sense of
17:03Connecting
17:04Is the belonging
17:04Right
17:05It's the key
17:06To long
17:07You know
17:07The longest
17:08The happiest
17:09And healthiest
17:10Life
17:10I mean
17:10That's not surprising
17:11Right
17:12But there is
17:12A real
17:13And empirical
17:13Evidence
17:14You know
17:14The science
17:15Is backing up
17:16This
17:17Data
17:18Right
17:18So we
17:20We have to
17:21You know
17:21Really cultivate
17:22Take time
17:23Make time
17:24Right
17:24Invest in time
17:25To cultivate
17:26In our relationships
17:27That really matter
17:28Oh yeah
17:29You know
17:30I was looking at
17:31And I'm sorry
17:33I'm not on the camera
17:34Yet
17:34I was looking at
17:35Was it
17:35It was the blue zone
17:36Green zone
17:37What was the zone
17:38Let me
17:40Let me
17:40Let me see
17:41Green zone
17:41Let me see
17:42People live the longest
17:45I think it was a green zone
17:47Is it a green zone
17:47You're referring to
17:48Okay
17:49Specific geographic
17:50Regions
17:51Where people live
17:51Measurably longer
17:52And healthy lives
17:53It's called
17:54The blue zone
17:55Blue zone
17:55Okay
17:56The Finland
17:56And Denmark
17:57Finland and Denmark
17:59Are the happiest
18:00Right
18:00I think there's some
18:01I think there's some
18:02In China
18:02Or Japan
18:03Or one of the
18:03Also
18:04The Japanese
18:04Yes
18:05There you go
18:06I wasn't sure where
18:07But the
18:08Was it
18:08The
18:11Blue zones
18:12So the blue zones
18:13Found that
18:15Gardening
18:16Outside activity
18:17Yes
18:18Being in nature
18:19Right
18:19Being out in nature
18:21Also
18:22Getting together
18:23Helps come home
18:24Getting together
18:25With other people
18:25With other people
18:26And just playing games
18:28Or things like that
18:29Reading
18:30And healthy eating
18:31Like eating
18:33Like healthy eating
18:34Not eating like
18:35Already prepped food
18:36But food that you
18:37Prep yourself
18:38That's grown out
18:39Of your own garden
18:40And cooking
18:41These people live
18:42Yeah
18:42These people
18:44Have such a great
18:45Commodery
18:46Between themselves
18:47And you can see
18:48That they're very happy
18:49And they're living
18:50Well into their hundreds
18:51Like there was one guy
18:52He was on a horse
18:54Yeah
18:55In South America
18:57Okay
18:57I think it was
18:58A hundred and
18:59A hundred and five
19:00Years old
19:01Or something like that
19:02He was still
19:03Gathering up his
19:04His herd
19:05On his horse
19:06I was like
19:07This man is on a horse
19:09This man is on a horse
19:10Wait a minute
19:12He's on a horse
19:13I want to do that
19:15Me too
19:16Me too
19:17I'd love to do that
19:18Nowadays
19:19It's like
19:19You know
19:20We're eating all these
19:21We're eating Wendy's
19:22We're eating this
19:22We're eating that
19:23We're not
19:23We're not
19:24Even
19:25Even belief
19:26Some
19:27Some of them
19:27Have a belief system
19:28That's similar
19:29These people are living
19:30Long healthy lives
19:32Because
19:32They're staying together
19:35Absolutely
19:36And that's amazing
19:38That is amazing
19:39That is not
19:40That's a very simple
19:41Thing to do
19:41It's a very simple
19:42Secret and recipe
19:43For happiness
19:44Don't you think so?
19:45You know
19:46You have a lot of people
19:47That you love
19:48In your support group
19:48In your support system
19:49Right?
19:50You just continue
19:51To invest your time
19:52With those people
19:53That you love
19:53And care about
19:54Oh yeah
19:55And spend more time
19:56Instead of
19:56You know
19:57Working more
19:58Right?
19:58And spending more time
19:59At work
20:00And hopefully
20:00Your work
20:01Is also where you
20:02Forge these connections
20:04With people
20:04And it's all about
20:07Relationship
20:08We have a relationship
20:09With our work
20:10And where you
20:10Also connect with
20:11A lot of people
20:12That you share
20:13The same interest
20:14And the same
20:15You know
20:16Sort of endeavors
20:17Right?
20:18With the same mind
20:19Mindset
20:20So I mean
20:21I'm really glad
20:22That you are
20:23Bringing up this issue
20:24I mean
20:25Oh yeah
20:26Oh yeah
20:26I studied about this
20:27Yes
20:28I figured
20:29I'm 52
20:30He was 109
20:31I got a lot
20:32I love you
20:33Absolutely
20:34But there's so many things
20:36That we can access easily
20:38They're you know
20:39They're available out there
20:40Right?
20:41That we can access
20:41To continue to promote
20:43Our happiness
20:44Our sense of happiness
20:45And it's a
20:46It's a continual journey
20:47Happiness is not a static
20:49You know
20:49Kind of a destination
20:51Right?
20:52That we're trying to reach
20:52It's an ongoing
20:53Continual process
20:54Definitely
20:55Like you know
20:56Engaging in those activities
20:57That you mentioned
20:57Yaya
20:58Right?
20:59Cooking more
20:59Right?
21:00And you know
21:01There's a whole
21:01Joy in being able
21:03To cook with
21:04Your loved ones
21:05Right?
21:05And in preparing
21:06Meals for yourself
21:07It's different than
21:08Getting a processed food
21:10Or getting a fast food
21:12Right?
21:12And it does something
21:13To your nervous system
21:14Your whole
21:15You know
21:15Mind body
21:16Right?
21:16Yeah
21:17And also being in nature
21:19You know
21:19Enjoying more of
21:21You know
21:21Just bird watching
21:23Right?
21:23Trees
21:24Trees
21:25Yes
21:25Absolutely
21:26More gardening
21:28Absolutely
21:29And being able to laugh more
21:31Like you have a great sense of humor
21:32Yeah
21:33You make people laugh
21:34And you're so personable
21:36And all these things
21:37Can really help
21:38You know
21:39With our sense of happiness
21:40Yeah
21:41And it's not that hard
21:42Actually
21:43No it's not
21:43It's about intentionality
21:45It's about mindfulness
21:46Right?
21:46It's about being intentional
21:48Definitely
21:48And remembering to do this more
21:51You know
21:51With more of an intentionality
21:53So thank you so much
21:54For bringing that up
21:55And reminding us
21:57You already know the secret
21:59To happiness
21:59Yeah
22:00You're already living out
22:02It took me a minute
22:04It took me a minute
22:05I'm not gonna lie
22:06It took me a minute
22:06And you know
22:08You have to find you
22:09Within all of this
22:11You have to find you
22:11Because I'm not you
22:13Absolutely
22:14What you do
22:14Is gonna be different
22:15To find happiness
22:16Than I
22:17Others
22:18And that you have done
22:19You know
22:20Absolutely
22:20But results
22:21Are gonna be the same
22:22Happiness is happiness
22:23Wherever you look
22:24Yes
22:25What kind of advice
22:26Or what
22:26What do you give
22:27To people who are struggling
22:29To fulfill that happiness
22:31To fill that relationship
22:33Because you have
22:34Nativity
22:35You got
22:36Nativity
22:37You got people
22:37Who are very naive
22:38You have vulnerabilities
22:40You got so many different things
22:42That you talk about
22:43In the book
22:43But ultimately
22:44What is it that
22:45People are gonna be
22:46Walking away with
22:47When they read your book
22:50That you matter
22:52Regardless of how you feel
22:53You matter in this world
22:55Right
22:56You matter to yourself
22:57You matter to those around you
22:59Even if it doesn't feel that way
23:01Even if it's invisible
23:02What you do
23:03Affects everyone else
23:05The whole world
23:06Actually
23:07There's this invisible thread
23:09Right
23:10That we're all interconnected
23:13Through
23:13And it's really important
23:15To remember that
23:16Right
23:17And you're not gonna take
23:18Any moment of your life
23:19For granted
23:20If you can just remember that
23:22What you do
23:23How you feel
23:24Affects the rest of the world
23:25Right
23:26Yeah
23:27So
23:27And
23:28If you really take that in
23:31And sort of
23:32Remember that
23:33You're going to take
23:34Better care of yourself
23:35You want to take
23:36Better care of yourself
23:37Right
23:37And you want to spend
23:38Some time
23:39To be
23:40Gentler
23:41Kinder
23:42And I come back to this
23:43Right
23:44Healing
23:45Starts with your
23:47Self-awareness
23:47Yeah
23:49That you are so important
23:51Mm-hmm
23:52Yeah
23:52Yeah
23:53Regardless
23:53How you feel
23:54Day to day
23:55Or moment
23:56To moment
23:56Right
23:57And please take the time
23:59To invest in your self-care
24:01Please
24:01And self-management
24:02Right
24:03Definitely
24:03Because that's how we
24:05Continue to make this
24:06World a better place
24:08It starts with us
24:09It starts with us
24:10With me
24:10Right
24:11Because if we cannot
24:13Feel good about ourselves
24:14If we're not
24:14If we don't know
24:15How to be kind
24:16Kind to ourselves
24:17We're not going to be able
24:18To be kind to others
24:19Right
24:19Would you agree?
24:20Yeah
24:20I agree
24:21You know
24:21You are so kind
24:22Because I think you are
24:23You have a very deep
24:25Sense of self-regard
24:26And self-compassion
24:26For yourself
24:27And you emanate
24:29You know
24:29You emanate
24:30And you sort of
24:31Sort of
24:33Just
24:35What's the word?
24:36Manifest this amazing
24:37Energy
24:37Of this uplifting
24:39Energy
24:39Because I think
24:40You are a happy person
24:41Right
24:42I'm very happy
24:42But it took a while
24:44It took a while
24:45Right
24:45Absolutely
24:46Yes
24:46We all
24:47You know
24:47Have gone through
24:48This journey
24:48Right
24:49So the secrets to happiness
24:51People who are really
24:52Genuinely happy
24:53And you know
24:53You can sort of see
24:55Right
24:56In their energy
24:58In their aura
24:59Right
24:59In their face
25:00You know
25:00Those people are really
25:01Genuinely intrinsically happy
25:03Versus those who are not
25:04Right
25:05So we're energetic beings
25:07So we can feel
25:08Someone's energy
25:09Right
25:10When they're truly happy
25:11Or not
25:12Right
25:12Or if they're just showing
25:14You know
25:15Or pretending
25:16To be happy
25:17Yeah
25:18So it comes
25:19It comes from
25:21You know
25:22Within
25:22Okay
25:23So it has to
25:25It has to involve
25:27Your self-care
25:28It has to involve
25:29Your self-management
25:31And self-compassion
25:33And you know
25:34What you do every day
25:35Has to start with
25:36With you
25:37Yourself
25:39I agree
25:40I agree
25:41I definitely agree
25:42Thank you so much
25:43Dr. O
25:43For being on the show
25:45You know
25:46I put your website
25:47Underneath your name
25:49It's so simple
25:50You guys can go to
25:51www.dragneso
25:54That's
25:54O-H
25:55Dot com
25:56And check out her website
25:58We have that here
25:59So that you can see it as well
26:00Her book is there
26:02You can go ahead
26:02And get the book
26:03And you can check it out
26:04For yourself
26:05You know
26:05If you feel like
26:06You're extraordinary
26:07And you just haven't
26:08Reached that
26:09That moment
26:10Where you feel like
26:11You are extraordinary
26:14Then maybe you're not
26:15Doing the right thing
26:16Now obviously
26:17I'm not telling you
26:18To jump out
26:19And just go
26:20For what you know
26:21But what I am saying
26:23Is there is a way out
26:24And everyone's extraordinary
26:26You are extraordinary
26:27Every one of us
26:28Is extraordinary
26:29Or ordinary
26:30Because we
26:31Have our own
26:32Special gifts
26:33And talents
26:33To make the difference
26:35In the world
26:35Right
26:35That's right
26:36That's right
26:37Thank you so much
26:39For all that you do
26:39Also Yaya
26:40You make a real
26:42Difference in the world
26:43Using your gifts
26:44And talents
26:45I so appreciate
26:46You creating this
26:47Platform for so many
26:48People
26:48To their stories
26:49Right
26:50To really inspire
26:51Yeah
26:52And one another
26:53I was
26:54I did that
26:54It was selfish
26:56I didn't do that
26:57For anybody else
26:58I did it for me
26:58Yes
26:59But in the end
27:00But in the end
27:02It ended up
27:03Serving so many people
27:04And it does
27:04Serve so many people
27:05That's what I was
27:06Talking about earlier
27:07It starts with you
27:08When you
27:09Can do something
27:11For yourself
27:11It affects the rest
27:13Of the world
27:13Yeah
27:14It starts with you
27:15Because we're all
27:15Interconnected
27:16You know
27:17We're all interdependent
27:19It starts with you
27:20Absolutely
27:20You change you
27:22And then everybody
27:23Around you
27:24Will change as well
27:24And those who are
27:25Supposed to be
27:26On the journey
27:27With you
27:27Will remain
27:28On the journey
27:29With you
27:29But a lot of times
27:30Being who you
27:31Want to be
27:32Means you have
27:33To release those
27:34People that aren't
27:35Supposed to go
27:36With you
27:36That's the hardest
27:37Thing
27:37I think that was
27:38The hardest thing
27:39That I could do
27:40Was say
27:41I love you
27:42But you're not
27:43Meant to go
27:44With me
27:44On this journey
27:46Because you have
27:47To find your own
27:48Absolutely
27:48And so I think
27:50That once we
27:50Realize that
27:51Even though you
27:52Love a person
27:53You've got to
27:53Understand that
27:54Sometimes
27:55That cliche of
27:56If you love
27:57Someone let them
27:58Go is real
27:59It's for real
28:00So Dr. O
28:01Thank you so much
28:02For being on this show
28:03Thank you
28:04I'm going to put
28:05The link in the
28:06Description wherever
28:07You may be watching
28:08So that you can
28:09Find this book as well
28:10Remember you are
28:11Extraordinary and I
28:12Hope that this show
28:13And all of the
28:15Other shows that I've
28:15Done with all the
28:17Other amazing people
28:18Has shown you that
28:19There is nothing
28:20Really impossible
28:21Except you have
28:22To believe it
28:23In yourself
28:25Also
28:25In yourself
28:26In your potential
28:27That's right
28:28And I hate the
28:29Word potential
28:29Because that's
28:30Stagnant
28:32It really is
28:33You have so much
28:34Potential
28:34Okay
28:36To manifest
28:37Right
28:38How would you
28:39Manifest
28:40Manifest that
28:41Potential
28:42You have to
28:42Take it somewhere
28:43And I hope that
28:44These shows
28:44Will inspire you
28:45To do that
28:46Because these shows
28:47Are all about
28:48Like Dr. Agnes
28:50People who have
28:50Done it
28:51And who are
28:51Going after it
28:52And I hope
28:53That you find
28:53Your way
28:54If you have
28:54Any questions
28:55Or comments
28:56Or if you
28:57Want to go ahead
28:57And claim
28:58That you're
28:59Extraordinary
28:59Put that in
29:01The comment section
29:01Below or wherever
29:02You may be watching
29:03And let us know
29:04That you're on
29:05The same page
29:06As we are
29:06Where we know
29:07That you are
29:08Extraordinary
29:09Remember this book
29:10Is called
29:11Extraordinary
29:11You
29:12And until next time
29:13Guys don't forget
29:14To dare to be
29:15Different
29:15Dr. O
29:16Thank you
29:16Thank you so much
29:17You keep doing
29:18What you do
29:19Okay
29:19And do it
29:20To change
29:20I know
29:21Yes
29:21Dr. O
29:22Oh yes
29:23Thank you so much
29:24Okay
29:25Have a wonderful day
29:26You too
29:27Thank you
29:28Bye bye
29:41Thank you
29:42Thank you
29:42For watching
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