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00:00I'm a seahorse dad and I get hate for breastfeeding my baby.
00:04I was a baby in my daddy's tummy.
00:06I gave birth to both my daughters.
00:08I was a pregnant dad with twins at 19.
00:10What makes daddy special?
00:12Having a baby in my daddy.
00:13My husband gave birth to our children.
00:15My pregnancy experiences were perfect.
00:18It's just damn like being judged.
00:20I am fulfilling my dreams in becoming a pregnant dad.
00:23My husband gave birth to our baby.
00:25I grow high.
00:26We're poly.
00:27I ended up pregnant with a partner.
00:30His reaction had got a lot of backlash.
00:32I'm depriving them of having a mother.
00:35My pregnant belly was AI and that my baby was a reborn doll.
00:38It's gonna be trans or he's gonna be gay.
00:41You're confusing your child.
00:43Our child should be taken away from us.
00:45Males cannot have children. I feel so sorry for this child.
00:48But we're fathers.
00:52The typical day for Z and I.
00:54He typically doesn't wake up until about 12 o'clock.
00:56So I usually just get up.
00:58I'll watch a couple shows or whatnot and then I get them up.
01:01And then we'll do our content creating, making videos, going live.
01:07My name is Tanias Posey.
01:08I am 31.
01:10I am a full time content creator.
01:13My son's name is Tanias and he is currently 11 months to date.
01:18I'm a seahorse dad and I get hate for breastfeeding my baby.
01:23A seahorse dad is, we utilize that within the trans community because the seahorse, the dad carries the baby.
01:30And within the trans community, the father carries the baby.
01:33So hence the reason as to why we utilize the seahorse dad hashtag just because we're fathers.
01:39From kid on up, it's always been something off.
01:44As to what it was, I never knew exactly what it was.
01:49I've been medically transitioning about six years and I didn't really know anything about transitioning until I came across a
01:58coworker.
01:59First trans individual.
02:00I always knew something was off, but I didn't know exactly what it was until we were on break or
02:05whatnot.
02:06And just so much of him clicked.
02:09So, I mean, I, we had communicated for quite some time or whatnot.
02:13And then I had looked into it myself and it just went from there.
02:17I finally found myself.
02:19Once I began my transition, it was, I felt a hole.
02:25Even though I went through the whole transition or whatnot,
02:27I honestly felt as if me having the child was out of the window because I mean,
02:31a lot of doctors say that you can't care.
02:32You've got to freeze your eggs.
02:34So me carrying a child.
02:36No, I did not see that coming at all.
02:39So when I had found that I was pregnant, I was actually going in thinking I had COVID.
02:42And then we went to the hospital or whatever.
02:44Cause I was, I was sick for like a couple of days.
02:47Went in thinking I had COVID and then, hey, you're three months.
02:51I had gotten pregnant on testosterone.
02:53So mind you, I went three months of my pregnancy, find out I was pregnant.
02:58I had to cut off testosterone cold turkey, which was hell.
03:02It was cold turkey.
03:03I couldn't, I couldn't be on it.
03:05It was definitely one hell of a rollercoaster.
03:08I did not want to breastfeed him at all.
03:11But when it came to me getting further along into the pregnancy or whatever,
03:16I was kind of against the whole formula.
03:18I mean, we know best, fed is best.
03:21And I just wanted a good head start when it came to my son or whatever.
03:24So I'm like, screw it.
03:26I think what got me was I was worried about what society had to say about me feeding.
03:33The reason why I began to start sharing my chest feeding journey,
03:37because you don't see any trans men on there, even nursing or whatever.
03:42And there's a lot that want to.
03:43I was just scrolling on TikTok or whatever.
03:45And I didn't really see trans of color really just sharing, being pregnant or whatnot.
03:50I started from filming the whole breastfeeding journey or whatever to normalize it.
03:59The reaction that I had gotten behind the whole breastfeeding video,
04:03men don't nurse their babies.
04:05He's going to live a corrupt life because he's feeding off of a man.
04:09And a lot of the comments came from trans individuals within their own community.
04:14A lot of them.
04:15You are not trans enough because you carried your baby.
04:18You're not trans enough because now you're nursing your baby.
04:21You're making the rest of us look bad.
04:22Another comment that's always said on my videos.
04:27You do not belong on earth.
04:28Men don't carry babies.
04:30Go ahead and go back to where you came from.
04:33It's said all the time.
04:35The worst thing said about me breastfeeding my child is that one day he'll end up dying
04:39because I'm pumping too much testosterone into his body.
04:43It got a lot of backlash.
04:45It got the best of me real bad.
04:47But I'm like, maybe if I were to continue sharing it,
04:50I might be able to help the next individual.
04:54There's plenty of us that are out and proud about it and carrying kids,
04:59but you've got to stop living under a rock and realize that it's okay.
05:07Why do you feel that you should be able to breastfeed your child as a man?
05:12I've got the parts to be able to.
05:14I mean, just because I transitioned does not mean I strip myself from wanting to give my child the nutrients
05:22and a good little head start or whatnot.
05:25I mean, I've got it.
05:26Why not utilize what I've got?
05:28Is it easy?
05:29No, not at all.
05:31Cool.
05:32I'll leave my head for what's in the text.
05:35We are getting ready to go to the park to meet up with Felicia.
05:39We're right down the road, not too, too far.
05:42Hey, hey, how goes it?
05:45Hey.
05:46Oh, oh, oh, oh.
05:48How you guys doing today?
05:49There she goes easy.
05:51Hi, pumpkin.
05:53What's to me other?
05:54He's hot.
05:55I know it is warm out.
05:57He's so hot.
05:57I feel like the hate that Tenaius receives is ridiculous.
06:03I feel like people should mind their business when it comes to certain things because at the end, the child's
06:14happiness and safety should be number one.
06:17Tonight, I should be able to breastfeed in public because the baby gets hungry in public.
06:23Ah, big man, big man.
06:25It's something that every other person needs to do.
06:30It's not like it's hurting anybody else.
06:35I feel like I should breastfeed, breastfeed, whatever, in public just because my child has to eat.
06:42I mean, I can't just sit there and starve him because then it's child neglect if I were to go
06:47without feeding him.
06:48And then that's going to be the next issue is he's not being fed.
06:51So, I mean, he's got to eat.
06:52He doesn't take a bottle.
06:53So, I mean, I got to feed him.
06:55It's the dimples for me.
06:58A couple days ago, somebody had said he's going to resent me as he gets older, once he finds out
07:04who and that I carried my baby.
07:07And he's going to be so confused or whatnot because he doesn't have a mom and a dad.
07:14That's weird to me because, like, half these kids don't grow up with both their parents anyway.
07:19And what makes a difference is as long as you love your baby as much as you possibly can.
07:24My response to the haters is that we've got to stop living under a rock.
07:28We've got to open up our eyes and realize that there's way more than one way to live.
07:32There are trans individuals.
07:34There are same-sex households.
07:37They are all different.
07:39And if they were to take that into consideration, there'd probably be a lot less bullying.
07:42And the suicide rate would go down because we're not living as just one way.
07:48My advice to any other trans individual that is carrying a child or wanting to carry a child, it is
07:56okay.
07:56We've got the parts to be able to.
07:58It does not make us any less of a man.
08:00We are still a man, regardless of how society feels about us.
08:05Utilize the parts you've got in a period of time.
08:12You really want pancakes.
08:14I don't have any pancakes mixed.
08:15I have waffles.
08:18You want waffles?
08:19My name is Kaden Coleman.
08:21I'm a father of two.
08:23My daughters are Azalea, who's 10, and Journey, who is three, almost four.
08:27Take two out.
08:30These are cold.
08:32Yes.
08:33Who is that behind you?
08:35Uh, his... his daddy.
08:37His daddy.
08:39I was a baby in my daddy's tummy.
08:41I was kicking in it.
08:43You were kicking?
08:44Yeah.
08:45He didn't want me to carry a tummy.
08:49I found out I was pregnant with Azalea in September of 2013, when I was five and a half months
08:56pregnant.
08:57I was shocked.
08:57I was taken aback.
09:00I was unprepared.
09:02But I was also really excited.
09:04I found out I was pregnant with Journey in January of 2020, and I was about seven weeks pregnant at
09:09that point.
09:10And then can you put two more in there for a sister?
09:13Well, uh, Azalea, who's the better cook, you or your dad?
09:20Dad?
09:21Dad?
09:24Yes.
09:25I can't cook!
09:28My pregnancy with Azalea was insane.
09:32I went from not knowing I was pregnant at all to finding out I was pregnant and then being, like,
09:37super pregnant.
09:38But I was thrown into trying to, like, figure out pregnancy.
09:43My pregnancy journeys were similar in the sense that they were both surprises.
09:47And also in the aspect that I had to navigate medical spaces and deal with a lot of, like, transphobia
09:55within maternal spaces.
09:57I'm gonna show y'all my shoe collection and my closet, basically.
10:04And, apparently, my child.
10:07I love fashion and different styles of clothes.
10:12My personal style is very emotional.
10:16And what I mean by that is my style changes based on how I'm feeling.
10:23When did you know you were trans?
10:26I think I was around 19 when I knew that I was transgender.
10:33I found the verbiage for it in, like, 2006, 2007.
10:37Before I transitioned, I felt kind of out of alignment with myself.
10:42Has your style evolved throughout your transition journey?
10:45My style has absolutely evolved.
10:48I've gotten further in my transition and a lot more comfortable with myself.
10:53I find myself really being open to trying new, like, styles of clothes.
11:01Like, you know, very risque things.
11:05I'm also very big into body positivity.
11:07I don't actually have anything from when I was pregnant.
11:13Honestly, during pregnancy, being that there aren't maternity clothes for trans men,
11:20I just wore my regular clothes bigger.
11:27Well, what are you painting?
11:29What are you drawing?
11:31I'm painting a slug.
11:33A slug?
11:34Yeah.
11:35What are you drawing, a flower?
11:37Azealia and Journey are characters.
11:41We have to face that the world kind of sucks.
11:44And especially for Black women, which they are.
11:47But they are outspoken, confident, intelligent beings that I am super proud of.
11:55How would you describe your dad?
11:59My dad is, um, bald.
12:03But he has, he has style.
12:05He knows how to do my hair.
12:08He's fun.
12:10What does transgender mean?
12:14Like, definition-wise?
12:15Yeah, kind of like.
12:17What do you, how would you describe it?
12:19I would describe it as a person changing, changing themselves the way they want.
12:27Or expressing how they feel.
12:31So, how did your dad explain to you that he is transgender?
12:35I don't know how he did it, I can't remember.
12:38But he just started explaining it, and then he never stopped.
12:42He never did.
12:43He's gonna keep going.
12:45Yeah, I've been telling her that I was trans, without necessarily using the word trans,
12:51since she was able to understand words.
12:55Which is probably why she doesn't remember like an exact moment.
12:58It was never like a sit down.
13:00I know a lot of people are like, oh my god, that must be so confusing.
13:03But I'm also, at the same time, showing them pictures of myself when I was a kid.
13:09And I'd be like, daddy used to be a girl like you.
13:12And as they get older, they start asking questions.
13:14Like, Azalea started asking, you know, why didn't you want to be a girl?
13:18And I'd be like, well, did you want to be a boy?
13:19Do you want to be a boy?
13:21And she'd be like, no.
13:21And I'd be like, in that same aspect, I didn't feel comfortable being a girl.
13:25And it's just like, oh, okay, I get it.
13:30Hey, y'all, use this post and in the comments, I will be answering a few questions.
13:36All right, let's go.
13:38Okay, the question is, would you have more children via surrogate, adoption, or fostering?
13:43No, I will not be having any more kids via surrogate, adoption, fostering.
13:49No.
13:50Do your kids have someone they call mom?
13:52This is a question I get often.
13:53They don't have anybody that they call mom, as in mother, but they definitely have motherly
13:59figures in their life.
14:01I decided to share my story on social media when I was pregnant with Azalea.
14:06I took like five more pregnancy tests because I just didn't believe it.
14:10And I was five and a half months pregnant because I hadn't seen any representation of
14:15black trans men who gave birth.
14:17I decided to do a weekly pregnancy struggle segment.
14:22I'm literally attached to a thousand different things right now.
14:25This is mostly educational and a lot of storytelling.
14:29And I also educate via clapbacks, which people tend to love.
14:33I've experienced a ton of negativity since sharing my story.
14:37I've had someone tell me that they were literally going to call CPS on me.
14:42I'll get a lot of, oh, those poor kids.
14:45I feel so sorry for them.
14:47Them saying that my kids are going to grow up confused, that I'm depriving them of having
14:52a mother.
14:53Just yesterday, somebody said they hope that my plane crashes when I was getting on a flight.
14:58And I've also been told that I am an abomination, a demon.
15:05The list goes on and on.
15:07I get negative comments literally daily.
15:09I take everything with a grain of salt until it comes to my kids.
15:12I think me being trans, people just think that I'm automatically bad for my kids.
15:19And that CPS will come and take them, which is false.
15:25I think there's a lack of education about being transgender because for so long, the entire
15:32LGBTQIA plus community had been suppressed.
15:35My online community, they have rallied behind me in ways that I, it still to this day shocks
15:43me how they've shown up for me.
15:45The message I would like to give to other transgender parents is that you're deserving.
15:51You're deserving of a family.
15:52I hope to teach my children that it's okay to be yourself in the face of adversity and
16:01that the most important love that they will ever experience is their own.
16:07I just want my kids to be happy.
16:12Bye.
16:23Can I have a plate ma'am?
16:25No.
16:26Okay.
16:27Thanks.
16:28My name is Aiden.
16:30I was assigned female at birth.
16:32I was pregnant at 19 with twins and I just gave birth to another baby.
16:37This is Quinn.
16:39This is Carter.
16:42We've got Claire's mom and we have baby Cove.
16:46She's having a good nap.
16:49I would describe my family as any typical family.
16:53We're just like everyone else.
16:54Who is this?
16:55Cove.
16:56She's your baby what?
16:58Baby sister.
16:59You're a great big sister, aren't you?
17:00Yeah.
17:01Quinn's kind of shy.
17:03Carter is very outgoing.
17:05She's Miss Personality.
17:07And Cove is just the perfect balance between the two of them.
17:12She's a very easy baby.
17:13Say good morning.
17:17Before my transition, I just felt very lost.
17:20Growing up, we didn't really talk about gender.
17:22It wasn't something that we ever discussed in our family.
17:24But when I found out you could be transgender, I felt like I fit in that box.
17:29How old were you when you first came out to your parents?
17:32I was 16.
17:33The initial reaction was not good.
17:35Just wasn't having it.
17:36I was 18 when I first started hormone treatment.
17:38They were not on board with that at all.
17:39And I think that made it like real for them.
17:41You know, I think they were hoping it was a phase.
17:44I realized I wanted to have children early on.
17:48I got pregnant with the twins doing IUI, which stands for interuterine insemination.
17:54I didn't know I was having two babies.
17:55It was very scary and overwhelming at first because I was young and I could barely keep
18:01myself alive.
18:02And then I was suddenly responsible for not one but two babies.
18:05Do you like to go to Pride, girls?
18:06Yes.
18:07Go again.
18:08Yes.
18:09Go again.
18:10Pride is super important in our family.
18:12It's full of love.
18:13And we want our kids to know that they're loved no matter what.
18:17What makes Daddy special?
18:19Having a baby in his belly.
18:21All the daddies can have babies, but they can't because it's only special.
18:25Yes, that's true.
18:27Were you in Daddy's belly or were you in Mommy's belly?
18:29Dada.
18:30Dada.
18:30Dada.
18:31Yeah.
18:31Dada.
18:33We don't really believe in gender specific toys.
18:36We kind of just let them gravitate towards whatever their interests are in.
18:39Did he get burned in battle?
18:41Yeah, we lost his sword.
18:43He lost his sword?
18:45Oh yeah.
18:46Even with clothes.
18:47Like Quinn.
18:47Quinn has boxers.
18:48Quinn literally has boxers.
18:50Oh, he's going to have a big load.
18:52Uh-oh.
18:53It's too heavy.
18:54Oh!
18:56My turn.
18:59I met Claire.
19:00We were working at Starbucks together.
19:02We kind of just became friends at first and our relationship just took off from there.
19:07Okay.
19:08Come on.
19:08We're going to pick out Coben outfit.
19:10How did the twins react to her joining the family?
19:12The twins reacted really well to Claire.
19:14I was very open and honest from the beginning about wanting to have another baby.
19:16When we got closer to the two year mark, we decided to like discuss what it would take
19:20and how adding another baby would fit into our family.
19:23The twins were about to turn four and we decided let's just go ahead and do it.
19:27You like that one?
19:28Okay.
19:29That's a good choice.
19:30What do you like, Quinnie?
19:31This.
19:33I think it's a little bit too cold for that one.
19:36But it is very pretty.
19:38When you became pregnant with Coben, how did you explain your pregnancy to the twins?
19:42They just reacted completely normal.
19:43They just think that daddy is daddy and daddy can have babies.
19:47Does it make you happy?
19:49Do you love baby Tizzy?
19:50Yeah.
19:50Yeah.
19:51They were super excited.
19:52They were like screaming, you have a baby in your belly.
19:54Like it was great.
19:55It was awesome.
19:55Can you tell me some of your favorite things about being a big sister?
19:58I like to play with her and dress her up.
20:01I like changing your diaper.
20:06Seeing my body become more feminine during the pregnancy was really hard.
20:10This time when I had the baby, I had already had my breasts removed.
20:14So that in and of itself was easier, but I lost my whole beard.
20:18It still is not grown back.
20:20Even though I opted into having a pregnancy, you know, I still feel how I feel as a person.
20:25And watching that version of myself fade away was really hard.
20:29I originally started posting online about being trans and pregnant when I had the twins.
20:35I just woke up.
20:37I am five days post C-section.
20:41The postpartum like hormone drop.
20:43It hit me pretty hard.
20:44The reactions, you know, there was, there was a few good ones.
20:47We're going to the pool.
20:48But 90, 95% of them were, were bad.
20:50I mean, people were saying horrible, awful things.
20:53This is an adjustment period.
20:54Okay.
20:55And I'm, I'm, I'm trying my best out here.
20:57At first it was so upsetting.
21:00Now it's like funny to me that people go out of their way to be unkind and nasty to me.
21:05Cause I'm just a typical dad.
21:07Someone said, who's going to be your kid's dad?
21:11Obviously we're in a typical situation.
21:13So, you know, he is the dad and I'm, I'm the mom.
21:17Someone said, confused generation.
21:19When I met Aiden, he was a hundred percent sure this is what he wanted to do.
21:23He wanted to have a family.
21:24I'm anything but confused.
21:25And the most commented thing on every single video was that poor baby or those poor kids.
21:31And it is the farthest thing from the truth.
21:35Our family is just a little different, but you know, we still do all the normal things.
21:39Our kids are loved and great and they have great lives.
21:43Positive feedback, people online commenting.
21:45This is all they needed to see to let them know that, that this was possible.
21:48I wish I had a dad like you.
21:50That's what I'm talking about.
21:52I mean, that's, that's the ultimate goal.
21:54That's the highest compliment you can get as a parent.
21:57My mom's coming over to visit today and we're going to discuss how my transition made her feel and our
22:03relationship today.
22:04Hi baby.
22:05Hi.
22:07It was, I was very upset when you told me you wanted to transition.
22:12I was angry.
22:13I didn't understand it.
22:15I thought it was made up.
22:16And in my mind, I had a vision for your life.
22:19No way did you become a transgender.
22:21Did that ever fit into my vision?
22:25It was challenging to me.
22:26Yeah.
22:27I was afraid for you.
22:28It all makes sense.
22:29Yeah.
22:29Especially now that I'm a parent, I understand.
22:31When it comes down to like, this is my child.
22:34Mm-hmm.
22:35And then I realized, oh, you're the same person you've always been.
22:40Yeah.
22:41You know?
22:41Yeah.
22:41And I could see that you were happy.
22:44And I never want anything more than for my child to be happy.
22:47I deeply regret the way I reacted.
22:50How did you feel when I told you I was a pregnant dad at 19?
22:54Honestly, I was pumped.
22:56I was so excited.
22:58I know.
22:58Your life is beautiful.
22:59Yeah.
23:00And it's turned out better than I ever could have imagined.
23:02I think you are a wonderful father.
23:05And I also think that these girls have a really good life.
23:10And that's because of you and Claire.
23:11But I'm so proud of you.
23:13I love you, mama.
23:15I love you too, baby.
23:15I love you too.
23:23I'm gonna show her why.
23:25Is there anything that you'd like to say to other trans dads out there?
23:28To other trans dads, we are a team.
23:31And I feel like it's important for us to stick together and be a united front
23:34and show people that we're gonna continue to be ourselves no matter what.
23:37A message I have for people who still choose to judge me is,
23:42I feel sorry for you because our family is very happy and very content.
23:47And we all love each other very much.
23:49And anything you say or do couldn't take that away from us.
23:53I'm very excited to see what the future holds for our family.
23:56And we're always gonna be proud of our kids no matter what.
23:59Yeah.
24:00They have the freedom to be who they wanna be and will always be there for them.
24:05I knew I wanted to have kids when...
24:08I just knew.
24:09I just knew.
24:12I always wanted to have kids.
24:14Do-do.
24:15Num-nums.
24:16Num-nums.
24:17Num-nums.
24:19Prophet is one years old.
24:22And Winter is a month old.
24:24My husband gave birth to our children.
24:28My pregnancy experiences were perfect.
24:31I just didn't like being judged.
24:34I didn't think it was possible to conceive naturally.
24:37This is the seven-month belly update, seven months.
24:43Because I took testosterone for so long and it took so long to conceive,
24:48I thought...
24:49I honestly thought...
24:50I was like, you know what?
24:51It ain't gonna happen.
24:57Okay, put it...
24:58Eat that one in, huh?
24:59Eat that one.
24:59I was assigned female at birth.
25:02I started my transition at a very young age.
25:05I would say I knew who I was off back when I was very young.
25:10I would say about five, six.
25:12Where you going?
25:16All right.
25:17I was assigned male at birth.
25:19And I started my transition, I would say when I was like 18-ish, 19.
25:24My transition journey was easy because I knew.
25:27I knew.
25:28Hard because the stuff that you have to deal with when you're going through your transition.
25:33So, as me being born female, then I'm putting this testosterone within my body.
25:40But then you also have to deal with the realities of...
25:44You have people that judge you because you take them.
25:45Friends that leave you because you take them.
25:48Family that shun you because you take them.
25:50So, you gotta deal with it all that.
25:51All that comes with the transition.
25:53My transition journey...
25:54It was good.
25:56I loved it.
25:56But it was also rocky, you know?
25:58When I was transitioning, I was still kind of in school.
26:00When I was in home, you know, I was comfortable and stuff.
26:03Then in school, it was overwhelming.
26:04But for the most part, it's good.
26:09Come on.
26:10Okay.
26:11He got his word for it.
26:12I like that one too, with his fanny pack.
26:15You see your little teddy bear on there?
26:18Look at that.
26:19You want to wear this one?
26:20What I love most about being a dad is I can dress him like me and just teach him things.
26:27You know, protect them, teach them.
26:28She's like, okay, I'm ready.
26:31You're ready.
26:31And the blue crop.
26:32Okay, let's get dressed.
26:33What I love most about being a mom is, honey, what we all know I do hair nails and makeup,
26:38so my daughter will stay laid and slayed, honey.
26:43Prophet's favorite toy is that stairwell, honey.
26:46He be acting like he love to drive.
26:48He love his stuffed animals, but for the most part, honey, he love putting stuff in his mouth.
26:52Yes, and it's always these.
26:54Like, when we come in, these, it's like all over the place.
26:57How did you feel when you found out that you were pregnant both times?
27:01I was happy.
27:02Emotional, but happy.
27:04The first thing I did was called all of my family.
27:06I called everybody.
27:08I was ecstatic.
27:14Misconceptions they have is that because you're trans, you can't have kids.
27:17The positive responses was like, congratulations, good job, you're going to be a great parent.
27:23The negatives was basically, why are you having a kid?
27:27If you're supposed to be the man, men don't have babies and stuff like that.
27:31Going to the OBG and you're a whole pregnant man, sitting around a whole bunch of females.
27:39You know, they're looking at you like, no, it can't be.
27:42Or, why?
27:44Or, is it possible?
27:46You're faking.
27:48So, it's like, it gets bad and very uncomfortable because it's like, you don't want to hide your pregnant.
27:55Like, well, I'm not going to hide my kids.
27:57Definitely stare.
27:58People would stare.
27:59They would smirk and giggle and, you know, and point and things like that.
28:03But they never, you know, said anything.
28:08Pregnancy with Prophet was a great experience.
28:13Towards the end, I had severe preeclampsia.
28:16When I had him, it was dramatic.
28:19I hemorrhaged, like, bad with Prophet.
28:22I hemorrhaged bad.
28:23Here come the storm.
28:25I had him 36 weeks.
28:28It really scared me.
28:32Yeah.
28:34Yes, Winter was a surprise.
28:36When Prophet turned six months, Winter came.
28:38We conceived the same time.
28:40See, I'm almost done.
28:41See, I'm almost done.
28:43I was sick with Winter.
28:44I was hurting with Winter.
28:46I did have still the pre of the severe preeclampsia, but it wasn't as bad as Prophet.
28:53When you have kids, it completely changes you.
28:56It matures you, you know, faster.
28:57Like, you don't want nothing but your relationship and your family to be healthy and at its best.
29:03Come on, Tay-Tay.
29:05I honestly think that my transition made my relationship with my parents closer.
29:12That moment when we found out that we're going to have a baby over here soon.
29:17Oh, I got goosebumps just talking about it.
29:19It was beautiful.
29:21I was there for Prophet's birth.
29:24That was one of the best experiences in my life, in our lives.
29:29I enjoy being my uncle.
29:31They're like my siblings, to be honest.
29:33Sort of kind of aware of some of the things recently that was shared with me.
29:37You're going to be faced with a lot of different opinions and judgment and stuff like that in this walk
29:44of life.
29:45It makes me feel sad for them, you know, but in the same breath.
29:50I'm like their big cheerleader.
29:52So we find always going to find a positive as a family together.
29:56Nothing's going to take away the joy that we have as a family.
30:00Would I say we're a close family?
30:02Yes.
30:02We have family time.
30:04We bond.
30:04We go through things.
30:06Cry together.
30:07Laugh together.
30:09Argue with each other.
30:11Very close.
30:13How our mama supported us, you know, she's a whole lot of motivation.
30:18We do a whole lot of family and bonding time, you know, so she's one of our biggest supporters.
30:27Things that people have said to me, why are you pregnant?
30:32I feel sorry for the baby.
30:34The baby needs a new family.
30:35I have comments of people saying that prophet's going to be trans or he's going to be gay and stuff
30:41like that.
30:42And I also get, you know, you would never be the mom or your kids is going to grow up
30:46to be crazy.
30:47People who made negative comments about being parents and being pregnant and or trans.
30:53I think that they should keep their opinion to their self and mind their business because our kids are going
30:58to be successful.
30:59Because we are.
31:00It's all about how you raise your kids, what you show them, how you teach them.
31:05And it all starts from home.
31:09What I would like to say to other trans people that consider having kids, go for it.
31:14It's a beautiful thing.
31:15It's a blessing.
31:16You know, you're always going to have, you know, negative comments or, you know, hate or people judging you.
31:22You know, don't let that faze you.
31:24You know, don't, don't let, don't take it to heart.
31:26You know, keep doing you.
31:27What changes would you like to see to support pregnant trans people and their families?
31:32Hospital wise, using the correct pronouns.
31:34People to be more open minded, to be, to be more careful of, you know, the choice of words that
31:40they say.
31:41Understanding and acceptance and to educate yourself.
31:45What I hope for my family for the future is what we have now.
31:49Just, you know, be successful.
31:50Definitely good health.
31:52Be motivated, strong.
31:53Grow up to be something and to keep going.
31:56Don't never stop.
31:59It's crazy because all my YouTube videos in the beginning of my transition literally happened in this room.
32:05I have a little bit of hair right here underneath my chin.
32:09And just the, the look on it now, it's just like, oh, you came so far.
32:14It's really a journey.
32:16You learning yourself all over again.
32:18My name is Tali Jones and I'm six months pregnant.
32:22Everybody's transition is their own transition.
32:25When did you realize that you were transgender?
32:28I think I told my grandma about ninth grade or 10th grade.
32:34And she just told me like, hold out maybe to experience like relationships, friendships,
32:41learning more about the LGBT community.
32:44And then once I got old enough to make the decision, if that was what I wanted to do, then
32:50I could do it.
32:52So then 2020 and I started transitioning to where I'm becoming the person who I always thought I was.
33:00This is my voice.
33:01One day on T.
33:01Feeling her moving, kicking stuff.
33:03It keeps me peace.
33:04How's your pregnancy going?
33:06I'm kind of over it.
33:08Like not in a bad way, but I think I'm just more so ready for her to come, see what
33:12she looks like, how she interacts with me.
33:15This is my vlog of me trying to conceive.
33:19I found a donor through one of my good close friends.
33:21We did two inseminations at home.
33:24And on the second try, I found out a week before my birthday I was pregnant.
33:30And how did you feel when you found out?
33:31It was just so emotional because like I felt my body changing.
33:37I was crying.
33:38Like I think I cried myself to sleep because it's like something that I always wanted.
33:43These are so cute.
33:45And in the matching sweater.
33:49Tell me about finding out about the gender of your baby.
33:52I still don't believe she's a girl.
33:54I think it's so crazy.
33:55Gender-wise or her sexuality, whatever the case may be, like let her be open.
34:01To making her own decisions when she's old enough to make those proper decisions.
34:06Have you decided if you're nursing or not?
34:08Me having my top surgery and then redoing my nipple grafts, I actually can't breastfeed.
34:14What are your dreams for your daughter?
34:17I just want her to grow up and just to be everything she want to be.
34:21I'm the dad that says, what's the next step?
34:24If you want to be an astronaut, I will support it.
34:27But I'm not going to the moon with you baby.
34:29I will see you when you get back.
34:31How would you describe your pregnancy journey so far?
34:34It's been good for the most part.
34:36In the beginning, I had a few complications.
34:39She's been growing and she's healthy and I haven't had any complications since then.
34:45It's been very good with the support of the doctors.
34:47I haven't had any bad experiences with me going to the doctor.
34:50Didn't know I'm transgender and carrying my own child.
34:54People stopped me in public and I don't know them at all.
34:57They say congratulations.
34:58I really never had any bad scenarios of like people stopping me and it caused a problem.
35:06So tell me about like your decision to start sharing on social media on your YouTube channel.
35:12This is my buddy.
35:14Seven words.
35:15Sharing my transition with my pregnancy on social media, it always been a thing because it's rare.
35:21When you look it up, it's like short videos on transitioning the LGBT community or it's like the negative things.
35:31I want to put a positive view, a positive perspective on like who we are as humans.
35:38What kind of responses have you been getting?
35:40The negative responses is like, why would you wait to transition to have a baby or I'm going to make
35:49the baby hate me
35:50and you will never be a dad and the child is going to resent you.
35:58When they get older, you're confusing your child.
36:01You're not going to tell her the truth.
36:04I feel like I also document these videos for me, but also for her to know where she came from
36:13or know me before my transition.
36:16I almost forgot to take my vitamin.
36:17I really don't pay attention to the negativity because I just feel like the opinions, they really don't matter to
36:23me.
36:24It's not their baby.
36:26They're not raising her.
36:27And long as she's filled with the right amount of love, respect, I feel like the negative would never outweigh
36:34the positive.
36:34I just wish the society do better with understanding transgender people as humans.
36:42Telling my family it was exciting for me to actually see like everybody's faces.
36:47Hey, what's up? What you doing here today?
36:49What's up, bro?
36:50Hey.
36:50It was more so shocking because it's really, I really didn't tell nobody I was trying to have a baby
36:56until after the fact.
36:57I think the first time I told you in January that I thought I was pregnant, I wasn't pregnant.
37:03So then I didn't tell you I was trying again.
37:07So when I did-
37:07I was mad.
37:09Why?
37:10I was.
37:10Remember I told you I was just-
37:12Wrong timing?
37:13Yeah.
37:14Wrong timing.
37:15And I just wanted you to be stable like financially, like I wanted you to have all your ducks in
37:21a row.
37:22So now she got everything that she needs, like you planned it and you planned on taking care of her
37:28as you doing right now.
37:30So just waiting on her, basically.
37:33Yeah, how did you respond?
37:34I was a little shocked.
37:35You switched to trance and then you come up and tell me you're pregnant.
37:39Later what?
37:40I'm trying to make the connection, but I also know that from our conversations when you was young-
37:48I always wanted to carry-
37:50I always wanted to carry my baby, whether it was through me transitioning or not transitioning.
37:56What's been like for y'all?
37:57See some of the comments on social media.
37:59I don't like the negative comments.
38:02It's in me to defend you.
38:04You strong, but I also know the real you.
38:08And I also know certain some things be hurtful that people say, even though it doesn't matter because you don't
38:15know them.
38:15I'm grateful for you don't mind talking about you.
38:19That has stopped me from having a lot of arguments with people.
38:22You don't mind explaining.
38:24You don't mind educating your process.
38:26Your process really has been about education.
38:29This one.
38:32And it is her heartbeat.
38:35We waiting for you, girl.
38:36We waiting for you, little girl.
38:40What kind of a dad do you think he'll be?
38:43I think he'll be a great dad.
38:46He's going to be a wonder dad.
38:48I just know that this is going to be a good thing for the family.
38:52You being good with everybody else's kid.
38:55We got to see what you do with your home.
38:58I want to give my child a great childhood.
39:01She will always have me.
39:03I will always be there.
39:04My responsibility will always be to take care of her.
39:09I want my daughter to experience.
39:11She is a person who is wanted, who is loved, and who's really the person who I needed to help
39:18me keep going in life.
39:24We done with nap time.
39:26Hi!
39:27My name's Tucker.
39:28My name's Danny.
39:29Our daughter's name is Maya, and she's four months old.
39:32I think we're pretty good parents.
39:34We have a lot of fun with her.
39:36We've been together for about three years.
39:38And married for eight months.
39:40We met at work.
39:41We were both nurses during COVID, and we met and became friends and got really close.
39:45I had really started to develop feelings for her, so I thought, let's give it a shot.
39:50Got some happy feet.
39:52We decided that we wanted to have kids early on.
39:55We originally expected me to carry the baby.
39:59I was actually doing fertility testing.
40:02I'm a trans man, and we were trying to have her get pregnant and expand our family.
40:07And then I ended up pregnant with a partner, and it was the best...
40:12Best thing that ever happened.
40:13Yes.
40:14Were you polyamorous from the start of your relationship?
40:17It was my idea to do it.
40:19At the time I identified as asexual, I didn't have much of a drive, and she is completely opposite to
40:26me.
40:26He wanted to make sure I had the freedom to explore all of my options, whether that be with men,
40:31women, or otherwise.
40:32How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?
40:35We clearly weren't expecting pregnancy, so I thought I was having gas issues, and she went to go buy me
40:43medication, but because we were already trying to get her pregnant, we had a bunch of pregnancy tests, and in
40:50the back of my mind I was just like, just check, just check.
40:53And it came up positive.
40:55And it came up positive.
40:55I walked around the living room for like 20 minutes going, oh , oh , oh .
40:59I was thrilled right away.
41:01We call her a little gay miracle.
41:03Sparkles and all.
41:04Sparkles and all.
41:06How many of these headbands does Maya have?
41:09Do you like coordinating her outfits?
41:12Maya has an unknown amount of headbands, but I'm guessing at least 50, would you say?
41:17If we hide, they can't see us.
41:20I love coordinating her headbands.
41:24How have you been able to breastfeed?
41:26I found out that there was an induction method that's used for adoptive moms and also can be used with
41:32transgender women.
41:33I take a medication.
41:35These are my portable breast pumps.
41:37So I have my pumps in now.
41:39They are suctioning, and I can wear them with a shirt on like this.
41:44Hi!
41:47Through breastfeeding her, lactating, I'm able to find my own role, and I absolutely love it.
41:53I like, personally, that she has a little bit of me in her, and I'm able to give her antibodies.
41:58I'm able to give her those good, healthy nutrients that are in breast milk.
42:02When do you plan to tell Maya about how you gave birth to her?
42:06Anytime she asks, we're going to be honest with her in an age-appropriate level.
42:11I think that kids can understand any concept as long as you do it on the level, educational-wise, that
42:17they can understand.
42:18How will you explain that you're poly with Maya?
42:21I think when it's time to explain to Maya that we're poly, it's going to be pretty easy of a
42:26conversation.
42:27We don't hide our partners, so if those people are important enough to be around in our life, then they're
42:34going to know her, and she's going to have questions about who they are pretty quickly.
42:38So, I think just being able to, like, oh, that's Papa's boyfriend, or that's Papa's girlfriend, or that's Mama, like,
42:45I think it's going to be an easy explanation.
42:47Since they're not living with us, they have their own personal private lives. We don't involve them in Maya's childcare.
42:54There you go.
42:56When did you decide to start sharing your story on social media?
43:00We are at 38 weeks now.
43:02I encouraged him sharing his story at the beginning.
43:06Miss Maya! Hey!
43:12I did receive judgment for being trans and pregnant. We didn't really have any face-to-face judgment.
43:19No. Online was a very different story, though.
43:21The worst comment that I think we've gotten would be the ones saying that they're going to come find us
43:28and that they're going to hurt Maya because of my status.
43:32We get a lot of, like, judgmental comments saying this is wrong in every sense.
43:38I don't understand how it's wrong. We're creating a life and giving a very loving and welcoming environment.
43:45We've had a bunch of comments saying that our child should be taken away from us.
43:50That we aren't fit parents.
43:51They know nothing about our home and...
43:54Who we are as parents.
43:55Who we are as parents, yeah.
43:57Why is he pregnant and not her?
43:59That's a big one for you.
44:02Males cannot have children. I feel so sorry for this child.
44:06The world has seriously gone mad. I'm sorry your child will need therapy for the rest of its life.
44:12There's a block button for a reason.
44:15We're used to the comments. I think people are very misinformed.
44:19People think that children can't adjust to a different kind of family unit, but they can.
44:24I think people's general confusion, whether they say it in a very mean, judgmental way or a kind way,
44:28is why Tucker would want to give birth to a child, which they commonly associate with a woman,
44:34when he identifies as a man.
44:36You know, I had to transition for my life when I was younger, and that was for me to be
44:41able to live.
44:42But then, having been married and wanting to grow my family with you,
44:46it didn't matter what womb we used to do that for me.
44:49So it wasn't like a man or a woman kind of thing. Like, it's really no comment on either gender.
44:55It's just the fact that I had the system that worked and that we could use at the time.
44:59And we wanted a family.
45:01And we wanted a family.
45:04Hello!
45:05Hi.
45:06How are you doing?
45:06Good.
45:07My parents have supported me so much. They've washed the baby for us.
45:12They've helped Tucker and us during his pregnancy.
45:14My mama.
45:15How did you feel when you found out Tucker was pregnant?
45:19Surprised to say the least.
45:22When I found out Tucker was pregnant, Danielle had called me and I was expecting to hear that she was
45:28pregnant.
45:28And then she told me he was pregnant and I know I was totally silent on the telephone for a
45:35while
45:35because I really didn't know what to say.
45:37I was very happy, but I was very worried then.
45:40I knew we could handle it. It was not going to be a problem.
45:43But you always wonder how other people are going to act.
45:49And that was a big concern.
45:51It has made me very happy to see just how good they are at what they're doing.
45:56When I had questions about things, like I just kind of go to, I just go to you.
46:00And I'm like, hey, should they be doing this yet? Please tell me.
46:03Yeah. I've gotten to hear you were right, mom, more than once, which has been really good.
46:09They're terrific. There's, there's a lot of love in this family.
46:12Boo.
46:14Are you excited to have a second grandchild?
46:16I'd like to have a second grandchild.
46:18I'm really big on Dani getting the whole experience that she gave me.
46:22So, yes.
46:25We are still going to go back to having Dani try for our second one.
46:31We plan on having our next child be a sperm donor,
46:34which was our original plan before Tucker got pregnant.
46:36I think our family is abnormally normal.
46:40Abnormally normal is a great way to put it.
46:42I think we have a very unique family set up.
46:45But aside from that, we do all the normal things any other family would do.
46:50What do you hope for your family for the future?
46:52I want to be safe.
46:55I just want my daughter to be safe and the world to be a little accepting,
47:00less hate, hateful.
47:04I can only ask for so much though.
47:12I don't know how to beской.
47:15Yeah, I'm gonna ask for it.
47:15I would probably ask that for so much.
47:16Max already live in 2,000.
47:16It's a prince of God about hahaha,
47:19You
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