00:00I've given birth to two kids as a man and we are their dads.
00:06Were you planning to have a baby together?
00:08Honestly, we...
00:10Okay, so, it was...
00:13A lot of people come with a negative input because they're uneducated.
00:18You're not allowing them to have a mom.
00:20A baby's gotta be trans because you're trans.
00:24How would you describe the way you're raising your children in terms of gender and sexuality?
00:31You want something to drink?
00:33Yeah.
00:36Now we can do a good cheers. Here we go.
00:39Cheers.
00:41My name is Tanias.
00:42My name is Rory T.
00:44What's your name?
00:46Zanias.
00:48So, what's happened since we last filmed with you?
00:53I'm a seahorse dad and I get hate for breastfeeding my baby.
00:58We've given birth to a second child.
01:03Zanias is two and a half and Zykel is three months.
01:07Are you nursing Zykel?
01:10Zykel is...
01:12Since he was in the NICU, for the seven weeks or whatever, they'd gotten him used to the bottle.
01:17He's bottle fed, but I'm still pumping and putting him in the bottle.
01:20What do or slash will the children call you?
01:24Honestly, they have the luxury of calling me whatever they're comfortable with.
01:28At this current moment, he's calling me dad.
01:31But when they're a little older, I plan on giving them the whole rundown about me being born female,
01:37living as a trans man, giving birth to them, and if they feel the need to want to call me mom, so be it.
01:43Were you planning to have a baby together?
01:46Honestly, we...
01:48Okay, so it was...
01:50I always wanted to have a kid.
01:52So when we originally first started talking six years ago, we had conversed about it or whatever,
01:58but I was doing my own thing.
02:00He was in Georgia, I was in Florida.
02:03And then what really set that I don't want any kids is because of my experience delivering Zanias,
02:09having to deal with a lot of false allegations and just feeling just unheard, unseen,
02:14and not treated like the human that I am.
02:17How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant with Zykel?
02:20Honestly?
02:23It was a wave of emotion just mainly because of what I went through delivering with Zanias.
02:30I was hyped.
02:32But I was shocked.
02:34Because he was taking steps fast forward.
02:35I found out on my own. I was at my house when I found out, like, we're going to do it again.
02:39But once I disclosed to him that I'm pregnant, he just reassured me that I wasn't going to do it alone
02:47and it was going to be a better experience.
02:51It helped going through this journey with him because he always reminded me
02:56and reassured that I was the human that I was and I didn't feel out of place
03:00and I wasn't alone during this journey.
03:06How would you describe Zanias and Zykel?
03:09Zanias and Zykel are night and day.
03:12Totally two different children.
03:15Zykel, he's more the serious one.
03:19And Zanias, he's just so playful.
03:30Zanias, can I see your brother's bottle, please?
03:33It does not go to Zoe.
03:39What was your experience at the doctor's?
03:42What was your experience at the doctor's and, like, out in public as a pregnant transgender man?
03:46Once I got it out of my head and, like, stopped overanalyzing the situation,
03:51there really wasn't nothing.
03:52Nobody was saying anything, but even in the doctor's, like, nobody was, they didn't care.
03:58I did my research this time.
03:59By far, a drastic difference from respecting my pronouns and treating me like I belong there
04:07and not like I was just an outcast.
04:12What responses did you receive about being transgender and pregnant a second time?
04:17I'm just trying to create more trans kids and more kids to confuse.
04:23You're only having kids because you're wanting to collect a check off of social media.
04:28You're not allowing them to have a mom.
04:30The baby's going to be trans because you're trans.
04:34They was like, oh, the breast milker's going to turn the baby trans.
04:38Yeah, I was watching the previous video.
04:39So, like, some comment about the testosterone.
04:42Child, they always swearing at that.
04:44They're so uneducated.
04:46They said, you married to a woman.
04:49Oh, you need to get you a real man.
04:52For me, I don't really let things bother me.
04:56Let's go.
04:59Come on.
05:00Grab it.
05:02You got it all over the floor.
05:05Where are you going?
05:08They are under the impression that being that I transitioned,
05:12I should disconnect from all the female anatomy that I've gotten
05:15and that we should get these surgeries and we should do this in order to be trans enough.
05:20And you should adopt.
05:22Just because I transitioned does not mean I don't want my own biological kids.
05:26It's also, it's what you want out of life.
05:28You know, it's just what you want.
05:30A lot of people are like, well, why would you transition just to date a man?
05:33Gender and sexuality are two different things.
05:35My transition does not dictate who I'm attracted to.
05:40I love you.
05:43The funny thing is, is a lot of people, not a lot, but a good portion of people, were those trolls.
05:48My biggest trolls are my biggest supporters now.
05:50Because a lot of people come with a negative input because they're uneducated.
05:55But once they sat down and stopped talking and started listening and seeing us for us
06:01and actually just seeing us for who we really are,
06:04they've shifted their thought process on us and it's been amazing.
06:08Come on. Say, I got this.
06:10I got this.
06:11Come on.
06:12Yeah.
06:13There you go.
06:15What are we doing, sir?
06:17There's been one time where I was just going to give it up.
06:20Like, I let the comments get the best of me.
06:22And a creator actually reached out to me.
06:24I am so very proud of you and absolutely inspired by the strength, courage, love, and so much more.
06:29I actually got ready to it when the message popped up.
06:31And I just kept going.
06:33I continue showing up because I want people to stop the negative connotation.
06:38Assuming that my transness is going to make me less than of a parent.
06:41It's not going to stop us from loving each other.
06:43It's not going to stop us from raising up our kids to be decent human beings.
06:47How would you describe the way you're raising your children in terms of gender and sexuality?
06:51They are going to walk on their own journey.
06:53So the only thing that we can do is guide them the best way we can.
06:58Just because I'm trans doesn't mean you've got to go transition.
07:01Just because you choose not to transition doesn't mean I'm going to stop loving you.
07:04My love for my kids is unconditional regardless of what path they choose to go down.
07:08What I look for in the future is success.
07:11We'll just continue growing as a family.
07:13That's the ultimate goal.
07:15I want to become a lactation consultant because I don't see any trans men.
07:20Navigating in what society feels is the most womanly thing out there.
07:25But I just want to be able to be that voice to all the trans community
07:30because I didn't have a me when I was trying to figure out this whole breastfeeding.
07:34And with our life, you know, I wouldn't have never thought I would find, you know, Tanias.
07:39And even though I would...
07:41I found you.
07:43You died.
07:45What I want the young generation to know that are trans is that it's okay.
07:50I've given birth to two kids as a man.
07:53And I support it.
07:55That was awesome.
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