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00:00 - Introduction
01:11 - Michele & Becoming A Mom At 13
08:49 - Nyjul & 6 Kids At 23
16:19 - Bella & 3 Kids At 20
24:06 - Alex & Getting Pregnant at 14
31:47 - Trina & 2 Kids At 19
39:21 - Sharnae & 4 Kids By 19
48:02 - Turquois & 3 Kids At 18
57:03 - Lanya & Being A Mom At 14
01:11 - Michele & Becoming A Mom At 13
08:49 - Nyjul & 6 Kids At 23
16:19 - Bella & 3 Kids At 20
24:06 - Alex & Getting Pregnant at 14
31:47 - Trina & 2 Kids At 19
39:21 - Sharnae & 4 Kids By 19
48:02 - Turquois & 3 Kids At 18
57:03 - Lanya & Being A Mom At 14
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00:00:00I'm 23 and I have six children under seven.
00:00:03We actually didn't want any more kids.
00:00:05They kind of just started rolling in back to back.
00:00:08Why don't you believe in birth control?
00:00:11I prefer natural ways of prevention or I get pregnant.
00:00:15I had four children by the age of 19 and now I have seven.
00:00:19I get comments like, maybe you should have kept your legs closed.
00:00:22I was 14 years old when I got pregnant.
00:00:24The first year of motherhood for me was difficult.
00:00:28I mean, you can't even drive yet at 15.
00:00:30I'm 24 and I have five children.
00:00:33What is your day-to-day life like?
00:00:35Imagine if you know a tornado was coming every day in the weather.
00:00:39I was pregnant at 15.
00:00:42As soon as my dad started to accept it, I found out I was pregnant again.
00:00:47I had three kids at the age of 18.
00:00:50People say I'm glorifying teenage pregnancy, but I'm just showing my life.
00:00:54I feel like I'm about to cry with that.
00:00:56I had my first child at 13.
00:01:00Never in my life did I imagine that I would be a grandma at 31 years old.
00:01:04If any of my other girls were to become super young teen moms, I would support them.
00:01:09Doing my hair and makeup makes me feel like a person that's alive and put together.
00:01:21I feel like when I'm put together, I can take better care of people because I've been taken care of first.
00:01:29I have four daughters.
00:01:31Alicia is 24.
00:01:33Ariana is 18.
00:01:35Addison is 16.
00:01:36And Aaliyah is 11.
00:01:38I was 13 years old when I gave birth to Alicia.
00:01:41As a pregnant teenager, I was judged so much.
00:01:45They all said that I would amount to nothing.
00:01:47I destroyed my life.
00:01:49They didn't help me do anything, but strive to be a better person and prove people wrong.
00:01:55I had to make sure that I got through and did everything that I needed to do because I had a baby that was relying on me to get an education and to better myself.
00:02:03I stayed in school.
00:02:05I continued to get straight A's.
00:02:07I graduated on time with my class.
00:02:10When I had Ariana, which is my second daughter, I was 19.
00:02:15And then I had Addison two weeks before I turned 21.
00:02:19So I had three daughters by the time I was 21.
00:02:22Having my girls so young, I truly feel like we grew up together.
00:02:26So I was learning how to life as I was teaching them how to be little independent humans.
00:02:34Never in my life did I imagine that I would be a grandma at 31 years old.
00:02:39Oh, crack the center.
00:02:40Whoa.
00:02:41There you go.
00:02:43How about we do half of the half?
00:02:45Let me do some.
00:02:48So this is part of my family.
00:02:52Daniel is my husband.
00:02:54Alicia is my oldest.
00:02:56Aaliyah is my youngest.
00:02:59Ivory Rose is my oldest grandbaby.
00:03:02And then we have the baby, Hasey Rain.
00:03:06She's the boss of everybody.
00:03:07It's so good.
00:03:08If you couldn't tell.
00:03:09My grandgirls call me Mimi.
00:03:12There is literally no way you're calling me Grandma.
00:03:15Being a granddad is awesome.
00:03:16You get to go have fun with them and then send them back to their mom.
00:03:21So that's a pretty good deal.
00:03:23So Aaliyah, how old were you when you became an aunt?
00:03:25Um, five or six.
00:03:29I don't remember.
00:03:30What does everybody think of your typical grandma?
00:03:33Old person?
00:03:34Just that, like, it's old.
00:03:36So do you think your mom fits that or is she a typical grandma?
00:03:40She fits that.
00:03:42Oh, I said she's old.
00:03:44Wow.
00:03:48Give me a little egg.
00:03:49No, we're not wasting more food.
00:03:51Ew!
00:03:52I want to do it.
00:03:53It's a bullshit.
00:03:54I have to.
00:03:55So we'll just make some weird egg mixture.
00:03:58It's cute!
00:03:59So when Alicia told me she was pregnant at 17, my whole heart was shattered.
00:04:10I know what it's like to be a super young mom and it is never anything that I wanted my
00:04:14girls to experience, but as a super young teen mom, of course, the only thing that I'm going
00:04:20to do is be supportive.
00:04:23Here, we're going to make a TikTok.
00:04:24Come on, let's do your nails.
00:04:25Mimi loves painting your toes.
00:04:28Don't you like when we match?
00:04:30So I decided to start sharing my life on social media.
00:04:33I'm a millennial grandma.
00:04:34Of course, my daughter is a Gen Z.
00:04:37Last year, I made my first TikTok.
00:04:39It went viral.
00:04:40And now my niche on TikTok is teen pregnancy.
00:04:44It's not what I like talking about all the time, but it's what goes viral.
00:04:49At 12 years old, I knew I was pregnant, but at 12 years old, do you really know what being
00:04:55pregnant is?
00:04:56It's a mixed reaction because the internet has allowed bullies to hide behind their keyboard
00:05:02and say they would never say to somebody's face.
00:05:05It's kind of comical, but here's some of the things people have said to me.
00:05:09How could you allow your daughter to do the exact same thing that you've done?
00:05:12The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
00:05:15Wow.
00:05:16Don't you know that birth control exists?
00:05:17It's a vicious cycle, babies having babies.
00:05:20It is.
00:05:21But we are the cycle breakers and it stops with my other girls.
00:05:26For those who think I'm glamorizing or promoting teen pregnancy, you truly don't know me.
00:05:32Oh, you are so smart.
00:05:35I'm simply sharing my life and if it bothers you, that's a you problem.
00:05:40How would you describe the relationship in your life?
00:05:43We're very close.
00:05:45I mean, we always have our ins and outs, but I think that's just because we're so close
00:05:49in age.
00:05:50I definitely think that her being a teen mom supported me more.
00:05:54She really was there for me as much as I needed her to be.
00:05:57So what were some of the challenges that the two of you had when you learned that Alicia
00:06:02was pregnant?
00:06:03I was really scared.
00:06:04I was so scared that you were going to be so mad at me.
00:06:07When you told me that you were pregnant, I felt like I was getting my daughter back because
00:06:11you were on this not so good path.
00:06:14So I truly feel like Ivory is such a blessing and truly changed your life for the better.
00:06:21Made me grow up a little bit.
00:06:24A lot, actually.
00:06:25Yeah.
00:06:25That's a huge responsibility.
00:06:26It kind of brought us closer together, too.
00:06:28Because then you knew why I feel the way that I feel because you're a mom now.
00:06:33What kinds of comments do you see, Michelle, about Alicia's situation?
00:06:39What a repeated cycle.
00:06:40That your girls are going to make me a great grandma by the time that I'm 45.
00:06:46I don't think so.
00:06:49What mama or Mimi?
00:06:50It definitely hurts me to see her get that type of comments on her stuff because she was
00:06:55a great mom.
00:06:56I mean, she took care of me so young, did it basically by herself.
00:07:00If my sister Ariana got pregnant around the same age as I did, I'd probably be very disappointed
00:07:05in her, honestly, because she's seen me and my mom go through it.
00:07:08I just, I feel like she should wait and live her life first.
00:07:13If any of my other girls were to become super young teen moms, I would support them.
00:07:20I would support them.
00:07:22As a young mom, I know what it's like to be looked down on, to feel like you're by yourself
00:07:29and to not know what's coming next.
00:07:32So Ariana, I call her my teen pregnancy cycle breaker because she graduated high school.
00:07:37She has no babies.
00:07:38She has zero desire to have any babies.
00:07:41I feel like what I've learned from you is that you've just always shown up for me.
00:07:45I mean, never left my side.
00:07:47Always been there for me whenever I need you.
00:07:49You being raised by me has taught you that you can overcome anything in life, and I'm
00:07:56so proud of the way that you raised these girls.
00:07:58They are definitely a handful.
00:08:00They are so loved, so well taken care of, so smart, and it's all a reflection of you.
00:08:07I feel like what makes a good parent is being there, being present, showing up.
00:08:11I mean, you can buy your kid anything, but being there is physically what they really want.
00:08:17I hope anybody that is watching our story unfold sees and knows that they can get through anything
00:08:26in life.
00:08:27It's definitely hard, but you can definitely get through it.
00:08:30For my family as a whole in the future, I hope that we continue to grow and our bond becomes
00:08:36stronger and the cycle of teen pregnancy continues to be broken because there's a lot more girls
00:08:43in this family that still need to grow up.
00:08:46But it stops with us.
00:08:50It's okay.
00:08:54Don't be nervous.
00:08:55I'm about to eat in a second.
00:08:57He is so freaking cute.
00:08:59My name is Nigel, and I am a mother to six.
00:09:02Here.
00:09:03Squish this with the hot water.
00:09:05My husband's name is Tomaz, and we've been together for three years.
00:09:09Hold on, Papa.
00:09:10Come on, and let's sit down and eat.
00:09:12You're about to eat in a second.
00:09:13I think he's having an allergic reaction.
00:09:17Is it?
00:09:19Yeah, I think so.
00:09:20Yep, it is.
00:09:22Okay.
00:09:22Were you going to take him?
00:09:23Yeah, I'll take him.
00:09:24He'd have to take him to the hospital real fast.
00:09:27Kyrie got into the egg somehow, so Tomaz, he took him to the hospital just to be safe.
00:09:32Everything's okay, though.
00:09:33They'll be back really soon.
00:09:35Okay, so how many pieces of French toast do you want?
00:09:36Do you want French toast, or do you just want bacon?
00:09:38Fifteen.
00:09:39Fifteen.
00:09:39I want eight.
00:09:41Eight?
00:09:42Eight pieces of French toast.
00:09:43How much do you guys spend on groceries for?
00:09:46Um, probably about $250 to $300 a week.
00:09:50But yeah, that's honestly how much we spend, though, for real.
00:09:53How many brothers and sisters do you have?
00:09:55One, two, three, four.
00:09:58Four?
00:09:59Nice.
00:10:01Okay, so this is Peyton.
00:10:03He's seven.
00:10:04This is Allie.
00:10:05She's five.
00:10:06This is Auburn.
00:10:08She is three.
00:10:10And then here are the twins.
00:10:11This is Silas.
00:10:12She is five months.
00:10:14And Cecilia.
00:10:15And she's also five months old.
00:10:17Peyton is a giant goofball.
00:10:20He takes everything as a joke, but not in a bad way.
00:10:23Allie, on the other hand, she is definitely sassy, just like her mama.
00:10:27No doubt about it.
00:10:29Allie, her attitude is 100 for sure.
00:10:34Kyrie, he's just a daddy's boy.
00:10:36My twin girls, they're just busy being cute and cuddly.
00:10:42He said, cut.
00:10:46Cut!
00:10:47Bye, Dad.
00:10:47I gave birth when I was 15 years old to my first child, Peyton.
00:10:55Speaking honestly, I was really embarrassed because I wasn't sure how I'd gotten pregnant.
00:11:01And I was only 15.
00:11:03I was literally still playing with the dolls.
00:11:05Whenever my mom found out I was pregnant, she was not supportive at first.
00:11:09She was very upset with me.
00:11:11But over time, she became my biggest support system ever, along with my sisters.
00:11:17I was 16 when I got pregnant again with my second child, Allie.
00:11:23And what was your life like back then with two kids?
00:11:27Life was really different because I felt like I wasn't really being a mom.
00:11:32Did you have a good breakfast?
00:11:34Hmm?
00:11:36I'll be, if you don't eat that, come back to this table.
00:11:39I'll stay in here with you.
00:11:40I met Tomas about three years ago at a grocery store we were both working at.
00:11:44He was amazing with my two kids at the time.
00:11:46The first time they met him, it was just nothing but just good vibes and happiness.
00:11:51And he just immediately took them in as his own.
00:11:54I found out I was pregnant with our first child about two months after we started dating.
00:11:59Honestly, I thought I was going to be upset, but we were both really happy.
00:12:03Me and Tomas, we have four kids together.
00:12:06We actually didn't want any more kids.
00:12:08They kind of just started rolling in back to back, just being honest.
00:12:13So, since the babies are sleeping, do y'all want to go outside for a little bit?
00:12:16Yeah.
00:12:17Yeah.
00:12:17All right, go grab some toys and you already got the shoes on, so go get the toys.
00:12:21Okay.
00:12:22Oh, my gosh.
00:12:24So, I do homeschool all of the kids, even my youngest one, because it's actually pretty easy.
00:12:30I really enjoy homeschooling, and I'm sure they do too.
00:12:33How big of a job is to get everybody organized to go outside and play with?
00:12:38What's the hop, baby?
00:12:40It's a job.
00:12:41Well, how big of a job?
00:12:42They're so excited to get out the door.
00:12:44It's like they don't pay attention to what they're doing, so they'll put the shoes on
00:12:47the wrong feet, put their pants inside out.
00:12:50It's crazy.
00:12:51Come on, let's go take a nap.
00:12:55Okay.
00:12:58Daddy's boy.
00:13:00Very much.
00:13:01So, I'm currently brushing my hair because me and Tomas is going to have some alone
00:13:08time later.
00:13:09It's been a while since we've been out by ourselves.
00:13:12So, I started doing TikTok about three years ago, but over the last year, that's when I
00:13:16really started taking it serious.
00:13:19I've got six kids.
00:13:20I don't have time to be sitting on my ass this morning.
00:13:22Let's get to making breakfast.
00:13:23Breakfast was parallel class.
00:13:24Many each child told me what they wanted me to make.
00:13:27And I really like to share my experience with all six kids as a 23-year-old stay-at-home
00:13:33mom.
00:13:33Dear family, I'm gone.
00:13:35No, y'all.
00:13:35I would never leave my baby.
00:13:36I'm just happy I didn't leave nothing cold out on the table.
00:13:38Because I would have been real.
00:13:39I like to make realistic content for other moms to let them know, like, you know, obviously
00:13:43nobody's perfect, and it's okay to have your flaws.
00:13:46What kinds of response have you had to sharing your day-to-day life and backstory?
00:13:51I've gotten plenty of horrible responses from people that think I'm so miserable, bashing
00:13:56me as a mom, telling me they're going to hate me when they get older because they have so
00:14:00many siblings.
00:14:01It's honestly just so disgusting that, you know, how negative people can get.
00:14:06They don't think somebody could be genuinely happy with a life like this, only being 23 years
00:14:12old.
00:14:12I've never wanted to have a career or anything.
00:14:17What are y'all doing?
00:14:18That's been all you want me to do.
00:14:20Shh.
00:14:20Let's calm down.
00:14:22People often think that since I have six kids that I completely ruined my life.
00:14:27They think that everything that I want in a life is on hold, which is 100% not true.
00:14:33They often think that, you know, since I have six kids, all of my kids are going to feel
00:14:39abandoned or alone in a way because I have so many, when in reality, each child all gets,
00:14:44you know, equal love and a happy home.
00:14:47They think being a mom to six kids is like a chore.
00:14:51You're so cute, both of y'all.
00:14:52When really, it's really fun, in my opinion.
00:14:55How would you describe your family?
00:14:59Crazy.
00:15:01I gotta go change your sister.
00:15:02We all love each other.
00:15:04Oh, I love kissing them.
00:15:05Y'all are so freaking cute.
00:15:06Get home from work and they all run to the door.
00:15:09That's the best thing you can ask for.
00:15:11How would you say you and Nigel support each other as parents?
00:15:14When I come home, you know, I do what needs to be done.
00:15:18She does what needs to be done.
00:15:20And we just support each other in that way.
00:15:23We're a big family.
00:15:24The kids are happy.
00:15:25We're happy.
00:15:26We just love each other.
00:15:28Tell me what Nigel thinks makes a good parent.
00:15:32What I think.
00:15:34Oh, not me getting emotional.
00:15:36Just thinking about what I think.
00:15:40Okay.
00:15:42Let me not cry.
00:15:44So, what I think makes you a good parent is just being present and being there.
00:15:51Because that's something your kids will always remember.
00:15:53Do you have any specific hopes for the future for your family?
00:15:57Just one day have our own house in the country.
00:16:00You know, have our farm animals.
00:16:02Would you like to have any more children?
00:16:06No.
00:16:08No more kids.
00:16:10No, no, no.
00:16:13No, thank you.
00:16:14I'm good.
00:16:23Hey, where are you going?
00:16:25Come back here.
00:16:26Come here, you.
00:16:27You're going to help me make a tall ice cream cone.
00:16:29Hey, can you please go over here and play with your toys over here?
00:16:33Because we're trying to film a video.
00:16:35Can you go eat your snack over there, please?
00:16:37You'll be in the video later.
00:16:38My name is Reason.
00:16:40I'm 21.
00:16:41My name is Bella, and I'm 20 years old.
00:16:43We have two children.
00:16:45Posey is like the most smart, funny, sweet little kid.
00:16:50She's just literally the sweetest little two-year-old ever.
00:16:53You want to read this one?
00:16:55Yeah, I love that.
00:16:56You're so funny.
00:16:59And then we have Centauri, but we call her Aria, and she is almost one.
00:17:07High five.
00:17:09Yeah, good job.
00:17:10I was 17 when I got pregnant with Posey, and then I got pregnant again at 18 years old
00:17:16with Aria.
00:17:17What does this say?
00:17:18Clock.
00:17:19Clock.
00:17:21She's so smart, and she's really advanced.
00:17:24She's on like a kindergarten or like a first grade reading level.
00:17:28She knows things better than me sometimes.
00:17:32The girl is scared.
00:17:34The girl is scared?
00:17:36Yeah.
00:17:36No.
00:17:37How would you guys describe your parenting style?
00:17:40I would like to say there's not really a name for our style.
00:17:42We just parent how we feel.
00:17:44It's kind of parenting with common sense.
00:17:46It's right.
00:17:46We parent based off of our kids and not just kids in general.
00:17:50Yeah.
00:17:51We're also Christian, and so we try and take aspects from like that as well.
00:17:56Now, what's this?
00:17:58Chicken.
00:18:00Oh, what?
00:18:01Chicken.
00:18:01Can you say it louder?
00:18:03Chicken.
00:18:05Oh, is it chicken say?
00:18:07All right.
00:18:08There you go.
00:18:09And then we go back, and then we come in, and then we do the, you know.
00:18:14When you guys decided to share your story on social media?
00:18:17When I first made my first post, I was pregnant with Posey.
00:18:21I was probably about like 12 weeks pregnant, and I just made an announcement post.
00:18:24It kind of blew up, and so then I was like, ah, maybe I'll try and make a few more videos.
00:18:29So the video that got almost 70 million views was the video of my like bump progress throughout
00:18:37my pregnancy with Posey.
00:18:39This is the video that went really viral.
00:18:41There was a lot of controversy in the comments on it.
00:18:45With being young parents, I feel like the judgments we mainly get is we're too young to like know
00:18:52how to parent kids, like we're kids raising kids type of thing.
00:18:56They'll say that I'll leave.
00:18:57You know, we're emotionally mature.
00:18:59What they don't realize is what kids do to you.
00:19:02It'll change you and your maturity level.
00:19:05What are some of the challenges that you think you've experienced as a result of being young
00:19:08parents?
00:19:09Nobody's our age.
00:19:11Nobody with kids is our age.
00:19:12Everybody else who has kids is so much older than us.
00:19:15We've lost a lot of friends and people in our lives because of that, because we had kids.
00:19:21What do you think that's the caption?
00:19:23I don't know about the caption yet.
00:19:25And now we're pregnant with our third child, and we're really excited.
00:19:29We actually did plan this one.
00:19:31Probably sounds really crazy because we have two under two already.
00:19:35Yeah, people think we're nuts.
00:19:37They will think we're nuts.
00:19:38We enjoy it.
00:19:39We love it.
00:19:40You know?
00:19:40Right now we're posting our pregnancy announcement for baby number three.
00:19:45Yep.
00:19:46Are you with an apple?
00:19:49Yes, I have an apple.
00:19:50I'll take one.
00:19:51Thanks for the offer.
00:19:53Thank you so much.
00:19:55You say you're welcome.
00:19:57You're welcome.
00:19:58Posey, do you want to click the button?
00:20:01Oh, we did it!
00:20:07I'm nervous.
00:20:09How do you guys think the response will be?
00:20:12I think our followers right now will probably be supportive.
00:20:16So someone commented, bro, free already?
00:20:19Congratulations.
00:20:21Got another one that said happy for you.
00:20:23But if it starts reaching a lot beyond that, that's where a lot of negativity will come because
00:20:28that's where you get most of the assumptions is people who don't know us at all and just
00:20:32see, oh, 303 at that age?
00:20:35Oh, I don't know.
00:20:36We planned it for a few reasons.
00:20:39For one, our wedding is in next September and so I didn't want to be pregnant at the wedding
00:20:43and we also didn't want our kids too far apart.
00:20:46It's like buying at Costco for babies.
00:20:48Yeah.
00:20:48You know, just do it all at once, buy in bulk and get it done.
00:20:52What do you guys think it'll be like having three kids?
00:20:55I think it'll just be slightly more crazy.
00:20:59We do really well with both girls already and so we feel like we can handle a third and obviously
00:21:05like we'll find out down the road how hard it actually is, but we're really excited about
00:21:10it.
00:21:11Why don't you believe in birth control?
00:21:15With birth control, I don't believe in it for myself.
00:21:18I prefer natural ways of prevention or I get pregnant.
00:21:22This is just going off of my own theories, my own personal beliefs.
00:21:26So take it as you will.
00:21:28Obviously, I'm not a doctor, but I know from so many experiences like my friends have had,
00:21:35my family has had, and just so many other women online who have come to me, birth control
00:21:40has messed with their hormones, it's messed with their fertility and it's just, it disgusts
00:21:45me personally.
00:21:46How do people respond to you when you share that opinion online?
00:21:49I had mixed opinions on that for sure.
00:21:52I think majority of people actually were supportive because a lot of people were standing by the
00:21:58fact that, yeah, it did mess with my hormones.
00:22:00It did mess with my fertility.
00:22:02And then there were other people who were like, no, there's no statistics.
00:22:05People like saying there's no proof, like, you know, fighting on it.
00:22:09Personally, it's not something I have or ever will put in my body, but I don't judge anybody
00:22:13for either.
00:22:15Hi, Paisy.
00:22:16Hi.
00:22:19Wow.
00:22:20Oh, I got my nice seat right here.
00:22:23He's going to sit on you.
00:22:25So, Desiree, tell me, how did you feel when Bella and Reason told you that Bella was pregnant
00:22:30the first time?
00:22:32Oh, Ari wants a toy.
00:22:35Well, I actually knew before they told me.
00:22:40I was excited and nervous because they were young, for sure.
00:22:45Told Reason that he needed to straighten up and get his stuff together.
00:22:51Yeah.
00:22:51Because he could, yeah, he was being a teenager and having fun.
00:22:57At first, I was kind of worried, but they stepped up and proved me wrong.
00:23:01Now they got these beautiful kids.
00:23:03And everybody that sees them makes the same comment.
00:23:06They're just like, oh, my gosh, they're really good parents.
00:23:09And you don't hear that from a lot of people with teenage kids or teenagers with kids, you
00:23:14know.
00:23:15So they've impressed a lot of people.
00:23:17The fact that they don't want to do birth control, like, how is that for you?
00:23:20I am okay with them not doing it.
00:23:24It's a personal opinion.
00:23:27I just don't know when it stops.
00:23:31We need to plan on being married.
00:23:32Now we're engaged and we're planning to get married next September.
00:23:37We proposed at the exact same time.
00:23:39At the same time at a rocket lunch.
00:23:41We're excited for it to finally happen and even more excited that all three of our kids
00:23:45are going to be at the wedding.
00:23:48So that's going to be really cool.
00:23:49Would you guys like to have any more children?
00:23:51We feel comfortable with four.
00:23:53Our idea was if we, this third one, if it's a boy, we most likely will stop.
00:24:00But if it's not a boy, we're definitely going to have a fourth.
00:24:03Having a seven-year-old son as a 22-year-old is fun.
00:24:11It feels like we're growing up together.
00:24:13He is my little ball of joy.
00:24:18Do you want me to help you?
00:24:19Yeah.
00:24:20Okay, grab me a crayon.
00:24:21I would say Milo has a very fun personality.
00:24:24He's very into sports.
00:24:26He loves being active.
00:24:28Now we're both writing cards.
00:24:30What's a goal of yours for 2024, Milo?
00:24:35What's something you'd like to accomplish?
00:24:37Let's play flag football.
00:24:38Flag football?
00:24:41You're going to do it?
00:24:47Okay, grab the pink one and let's cheers it.
00:24:50Ready?
00:24:51Cheers!
00:24:51You're going to say cheers!
00:24:52When I found out I was pregnant, I was definitely terrified.
00:25:00I don't feel like I got to enjoy my pregnancy being a teen mom because it was something that
00:25:04I hid and was very, like, scared of telling people and kind of, there was a lot of shame
00:25:08around it.
00:25:08So when I saw him for the first time, it was magical.
00:25:12What do you want to do today, Milo?
00:25:13Did you want to go over to Nani's?
00:25:15Yeah.
00:25:15Woo-hoo!
00:25:16I told my parents pretty much as soon as I found out I was pregnant.
00:25:26They were pretty disappointed.
00:25:34I felt like, well, being a teen mom myself, I felt like a failure.
00:25:41It, like, really hit me hard.
00:25:43If I could go back, I would definitely change my reaction.
00:25:47Really?
00:25:48Because I was like, I feel like I could have been much more supportive to you.
00:25:52It's a whole learning thing.
00:25:54You learn from it.
00:25:54I don't feel like anybody's ever prepared for that.
00:25:57You know, you're never prepared to tell your parents that you're pregnant at 14 and you're
00:26:00never prepared to hear that your 14-year-old's pregnant.
00:26:03I think being young moms has bonded us in a way because we're almost kind of like sisters.
00:26:08We grew up together.
00:26:09Our relationship is, it's so beautiful.
00:26:12The first year of motherhood for me was definitely difficult.
00:26:16I was 15.
00:26:18You can't even drive yet at 15.
00:26:21You did everything for Milo.
00:26:23You got up with him.
00:26:23You took care of him.
00:26:24You were a very independent mother.
00:26:27We truly had a better relationship after I moved out because I felt like I could just
00:26:32be the head of my household because I was trying to be that for Milo.
00:26:37When I moved out, I was 18 and Milo was three.
00:26:44Well, you've done a great job with everything.
00:26:46I'm so proud of you.
00:26:47I wouldn't change anything, honestly.
00:26:50Let's talk about your love life.
00:26:52All right.
00:26:53So.
00:26:53That's going to need to be a whole other, a whole other episode.
00:26:59I have high standards because I'm a mom.
00:27:03Like I, I, I've had people that have almost degrade moms and they're like, you should lower
00:27:08your standards because you're a mom or you're expecting too much as a single mom.
00:27:11Like, no, if you're a single mom, you should have higher standards.
00:27:14Why would you lower your standards when you have children?
00:27:17That makes zero sense.
00:27:18Dad's here.
00:27:19I've seen such a strength over you.
00:27:21I just know that you're going to be successful at whatever you do and anything that you put
00:27:25your hands to.
00:27:26I'm so proud of you.
00:27:28I'm so thankful for you.
00:27:29Such a good mother.
00:27:30I think being a grandparent is the greatest thing ever.
00:27:33I experienced a lot of judgment when I found out I was pregnant at 14.
00:27:42It got through the school pretty quick.
00:27:45A lot of people would call me names in the hall and there was horrible rumors that were
00:27:50going around.
00:27:53I think that when people hate on you, it says more about them than you.
00:27:59I didn't drop out of high school.
00:28:00I persevered through high school.
00:28:02I did, however, stop going to public school after I had Milo.
00:28:07I started doing online school, so I was able to graduate and I still walked at my ceremony
00:28:12with Milo on my hip.
00:28:15I do still experience judgment.
00:28:17I've gone out multiple times and people will be like, oh, you look really young.
00:28:21You know, you don't look like you'd have a seven-year-old.
00:28:23I certainly experienced more judgment online.
00:28:26I've received tens of thousands of hate comments that are pretty brutal.
00:28:30What have some of the more negative comments said?
00:28:33I don't even know if I can say.
00:28:35Most of them are honestly just them calling me a ****.
00:28:39People will be like, how dare you promote teen pregnancy?
00:28:43I would never, I wouldn't wish this on anybody and I would never promote it.
00:28:47I totally believe that you should wait till you're married.
00:28:51A lot of the more positive comments are people just proud of me for being a good mom, for giving
00:28:56Milo a good life.
00:28:57I really thrive off of those and I don't pay any attention to the negative.
00:29:01There definitely is a stigma around being a teen mom.
00:29:04A lot of people have their own opinions.
00:29:07They think that the child is just in a bad situation.
00:29:11I think that being a young mom also doesn't determine how good of a mom you are.
00:29:20Hello.
00:29:22Hi, beautiful.
00:29:24You guys look so pretty.
00:29:26Good to see you.
00:29:27Good to see you.
00:29:27When we first met, you didn't know that I was a mom, right?
00:29:32What did you think when I told you that I had Milo at 15?
00:29:36I was surprised, but I also, you're just such an amazing person that hearing that made me
00:29:42really happy for Milo to have you as a mom.
00:29:45I thought Milo was your little brother.
00:29:48Alia definitely brings out my goofy side.
00:29:50Having Milo so young, I feel like I've always had to be grown.
00:29:55And so when I don't have Milo and like Alia and I get together and we just like,
00:29:59kind of, we're just like high schoolers again.
00:30:01So you guys are business partners now.
00:30:03Tell me about that.
00:30:04How's it going?
00:30:05So good.
00:30:06Oh yeah.
00:30:07And something that Jocelyn and I love to do is like when we're out, we'll be anywhere.
00:30:12We'll be out at a bar.
00:30:14We will be out at a restaurant.
00:30:16I don't care where we're at a party.
00:30:18We're selling houses.
00:30:18And we're selling houses.
00:30:19Having Milo at such a young age definitely caused me to be more driven because I wanted
00:30:25to be able to provide a good life for him.
00:30:28I am a real estate broker.
00:30:30I would say I'm successful.
00:30:32Am I where I want to be?
00:30:33Probably not.
00:30:34I think there's always room for growing.
00:30:37I think Alex is just such a role model for women.
00:30:40I feel like sometimes I see, you know, these teen moms, you get labeled as a teen mom and
00:30:43it has a negative connotation.
00:30:45She did everything and so that's something that like you should be like proud of.
00:30:48People need a role model like you.
00:30:50Like people need a role model like you to know they can do it too.
00:30:54Aw.
00:30:54Well, that's crazy you guys say that because you guys are my role model.
00:30:57So that means a lot coming from you guys.
00:31:00I really would like to use my platform as a platform to like encourage other moms, encourage
00:31:04other teen moms or single moms and like building success and building their dream
00:31:09life and not letting their circumstances prevent them from that.
00:31:12I feel my life is way better with Milo than without.
00:31:17I couldn't imagine it any other way.
00:31:18I told him that he can achieve any of his dreams if he just works towards it and if he
00:31:22really believes that he can.
00:31:24I would describe my teen mom journey as honestly a wild roller coaster.
00:31:30If I could go back in time and tell my younger self when I was 14 and found out I was pregnant,
00:31:36I would just say that, you know, life is really, it's really not that serious.
00:31:40People's opinions of you just really don't matter in the long run.
00:31:47Are you ready for your bottle?
00:31:49He's ready for the bottle.
00:31:50I'm Trina and I'm 19.
00:31:52I'm Wilson and I'm 19.
00:31:53And we're teen parents of two kids.
00:31:55One is two years old.
00:31:56His name is Amir.
00:31:57And then Jace, he's four months old.
00:31:59I would describe Amir as funny.
00:32:01He's always like dancing and like making everyone laugh.
00:32:04And then Jace, he's really like calm and hungry.
00:32:08Like he wants that bottle like right away.
00:32:12When Amir was born, I was 16.
00:32:16When Jace was born, I was just turned 19.
00:32:21I always see myself as being a mom, just not at this age.
00:32:24I never envisioned myself being a dad at such an early age.
00:32:28Never in the moving years.
00:32:29It was a big turning point at that time.
00:32:31My whole perspective changed my life.
00:32:34My morning before I had kids, I would just wake up and go to school.
00:32:38And then after school, I'll come back home and go to sleep.
00:32:40Now I wake up early.
00:32:41We have to wake up before 8.50 in the morning to give Jace's medicine.
00:32:47That's the huge responsibility I would say for now.
00:32:49It's like the hearing aids for Amir and his medicine.
00:32:52Amir.
00:32:52Music.
00:32:54Where's your microphone?
00:32:55Amir has a syndrome called Waterberg syndrome, which causes eyes to be blue.
00:33:00Comes with hearing loss.
00:33:02They gave him hearing aids.
00:33:04Jace, when he was born, he was extremely yellow.
00:33:06He wasn't waking up.
00:33:08He wasn't crying.
00:33:09He wasn't eating.
00:33:10Found out that he had seizures and brain bleeds.
00:33:13Right now we just know he has epilepsy.
00:33:15Use a lot of responsibilities add on to our lives.
00:33:19I felt like I was very immature.
00:33:20And I, like, made, like, a lot of mistakes when I was younger.
00:33:23Now I have kids, like, let me be mature.
00:33:25Let me grow up.
00:33:26We were really young.
00:33:27Only thing we were doing was going to school and coming home.
00:33:31Only thing that changed was, like, more so, like, us working.
00:33:34Us having, like, more things to do.
00:33:35Like, dropping the kids off to daycare, doctor's appointments, having more things to do, like, add to our list.
00:33:41I mainly work since morning to the afternoon.
00:33:44So all credits to her.
00:33:45She takes care of the kids from there.
00:33:47Then once I get home, you know, I help out.
00:33:49I can make a bottle.
00:33:51I take care of the little one.
00:33:53He eats a lot.
00:33:54Sometimes we feed him four ounces, and then he starts crying, and then we give him, like, two more ounces, and he just goes first to sleep.
00:34:03When and why did you guys start posting on TikTok about being a parent?
00:34:07I mainly just started posting about Amira's Wartenberg, just to, like, get, like, answers and, like, clarity of, like, will my son be okay?
00:34:14I just wanted to show off that I'm a teen parent.
00:34:15Like, I wanted to let that be known.
00:34:17I used to get comments, like, your life must be so hard now.
00:34:20People saying you guys can't take care of them right, or you guys know your life.
00:34:24I feel like there's a lot of stigma about being teen parents because they probably don't think we can handle it, or they probably think we aren't going to be as responsible as older people.
00:34:35You should be worried about school and being young.
00:34:37Not spreading your legs.
00:34:41Okay.
00:34:42There's a lot of people our age that do the same thing.
00:34:45They just don't get the same results, or they just choose a different result.
00:34:48We made that decision, like, to keep our kids, so for us, that's our own route.
00:34:54Single mom in the making.
00:34:56I love this girl to death.
00:34:57That would never happen for my part.
00:34:58Children shouldn't be having children.
00:35:00When you're 18, you're an adult.
00:35:02Just wait two years and finish high school.
00:35:04One, we graduated on time.
00:35:07Two, I'm still taking college classes.
00:35:10I actually brought my son on stage who grabbed my diploma, so that was a very big moment for me as well.
00:35:15And we went to her graduation as well, and we just shot him from the back, like, hey, there you go, mama.
00:35:20Having a baby doesn't stop nothing.
00:35:22I'm still doing the same thing that kids my age are doing.
00:35:25They're in school.
00:35:26I'm still in school.
00:35:27They're living their life, and I'm living mine just with kids.
00:35:32How did your families react when you found out you were pregnant?
00:35:35When I first got pregnant, I was living with my parents, and he was living with his mom.
00:35:41My family reacted very disappointed and upset.
00:35:46My dad was, like, didn't say anything.
00:35:48He was more so crying and wouldn't, like, really look at me.
00:35:51My dad was like, no, stay away from my daughter.
00:35:53I don't want you near my daughter.
00:35:55He just didn't want to see him or talk to him.
00:35:58It was just very negative at that point.
00:36:01I had a lot of anger in me because I wasn't thinking about his perspective or anything.
00:36:05I was just thinking about myself.
00:36:07I was thinking, oh, how can you not let me see her after this?
00:36:10Or, like, I was just really upset.
00:36:12Now that I look back at it, I understand his perspective.
00:36:14You know, his daughter, 15, having a baby.
00:36:18It was just our families clashing against each other because we didn't, we never had, like, a talk.
00:36:22We never had a talk at that point.
00:36:25Hey, guys.
00:36:26How are you?
00:36:26Today, we're going to have a conversation with my stem mom.
00:36:29We haven't had a conversation about it since I was pregnant for the second time.
00:36:32I'm nervous to hear her actual thoughts.
00:36:34She usually doesn't hold back.
00:36:36How did you feel when I was pregnant for the first time?
00:36:38Oh, my God.
00:36:40I was in shock.
00:36:41I found out two days before you tell me, and I was so upset.
00:36:47That was, I think, kind of weird those days when he called me that day at the room.
00:36:51I said, what is it?
00:36:52He told me at once, Trina is pregnant.
00:36:56And I was like, what?
00:36:58We are trying to do our best as a parent.
00:37:01Even I'm not your mom, but I try to do the best for you guys.
00:37:04And it hurt my feelings a lot.
00:37:07How did you and my dad feel about the second pregnancy?
00:37:10We were 18.
00:37:11We found out we were pregnant again.
00:37:13My dad, I told him first.
00:37:15He was like, why would you tell me this right now?
00:37:19My stepmom, she just didn't say nothing.
00:37:22She was just quiet.
00:37:23And I couldn't, like, see her reaction.
00:37:26I'd say they were very, like, shocked and disappointed.
00:37:30We were so upset.
00:37:32That means we were in shock, especially the way that we found out.
00:37:36We held it in for so long because we weren't sure if Jace was going to make it or not.
00:37:42Because during the procedures, they did tell me there was a high chance that he wasn't able, he wasn't going to make it.
00:37:47So we didn't want everybody to, like, deal with what we were going through.
00:37:51But I would like to know it before, even if something happened.
00:37:55I was upset about the pregnancies, the both pregnancies, the way that we found out.
00:37:59I understand that you guys, you and my dad, were very disappointed and didn't agree with our decisions.
00:38:05But I do respect that you guys were very helpful and still treated my kids like they were yours.
00:38:11I'm very grateful for that because most parents would have just kicked their kids out.
00:38:15So I'm very grateful for that.
00:38:16I see the responsibility that you guys have.
00:38:18And you guys are doing so well.
00:38:20I'll be there for you always.
00:38:22All right, guys.
00:38:25Do you have any regrets about having kids so young?
00:38:27Me, personally, I have no regrets in my life.
00:38:30I feel like this is probably the best thing that ever happened to me because it's changed my perspective
00:38:35and, like, made me mature early on.
00:38:37It makes me work harder every single day.
00:38:39Like, that's my why now.
00:38:42Parenting, actually, like, it's, like, fun.
00:38:46Kids are always happy.
00:38:47They're, like, little angels.
00:38:49They're looking at us and they're just, like, smiling.
00:38:51And it's just, like, why am I sad right now?
00:38:53I have my person.
00:38:54Like, I have my babies.
00:38:55It gave us, like, a purpose in a way.
00:38:57What message do you have for those who might judge you for being teen parents?
00:39:00There's no need to judge people for making their decisions at a young age.
00:39:05We're still doing what we have to do for our kids and also for ourselves.
00:39:08And if you do judge, it's not really our issue.
00:39:10Keep on hating.
00:39:12We're still living.
00:39:13We're still going to take care of our kids.
00:39:15We're still going to grow together and have fun.
00:39:17Just be positive, man.
00:39:22Kids are starving right now.
00:39:24They are hungry.
00:39:25Every morning, that's the first thing they want, breakfast.
00:39:27So I'm doing the five kids first and then I'll do the babies.
00:39:31I tend to feed them together.
00:39:32So how many kids have we got in here?
00:39:34We've got seven kids all together.
00:39:37Guys, breakfast time.
00:39:39Hurry up, come on.
00:39:41This is Kaseya.
00:39:42She's my eldest.
00:39:44She's 10 years old.
00:39:45We've got the twins, Isaac and Isaiah.
00:39:48Yeah.
00:39:49We've got Jeremiah.
00:39:52And then we've got Saraya Nicole.
00:39:54And we've got Azari.
00:39:56And then we've got Kehlani Ray.
00:39:58This is my partner.
00:40:00He's very camera shy.
00:40:02And then my brother, Ezreal.
00:40:04Hello, hello.
00:40:06And I'm mum.
00:40:07I'm mum.
00:40:09My house is very chaotic.
00:40:11It can get very noisy, but it's full of love.
00:40:14And I wouldn't change it for the world.
00:40:16My kids are very loud.
00:40:18I don't even speak.
00:40:19You're loud.
00:40:20You're not loud.
00:40:24So in the morning, the kids will get up, brush their teeth,
00:40:27have a shower, come down for their breakfast.
00:40:30And then they'll probably go straight on their tablets for Sunday.
00:40:33So we tend to do some homework, do some uniform prep.
00:40:37And yeah, it's quite a busy day.
00:40:39But once the kids are in bed by 6.30, I will, yeah, 6.30, that's when I get me time.
00:40:45All right, upstairs, let's go, let's go.
00:40:47What are you doing?
00:40:48Why are you walking to me like this?
00:40:50So this is the boys' room.
00:40:52I had to get a triple bunk bed to make use of the space.
00:40:54Are you happy with your beds?
00:40:56Yeah.
00:40:56I was 16 years old when I fell pregnant with my first child.
00:41:02Being a mum at 16 is definitely very overwhelming.
00:41:05I was very overwhelmed.
00:41:06I'm still a child myself.
00:41:08Having my first child, I felt a lot of judgment from others.
00:41:12I felt embarrassed.
00:41:13I felt like I let my mum down.
00:41:15It wasn't a nice feeling.
00:41:16I was very scared to tell my mum, so I spoke with my sister.
00:41:19I wrote a message to my mum on Facebook, and I said to her, like, it was a paragraph of
00:41:24me explaining how much I love her and how she's so lovely and she's not any less of a
00:41:28mother, and then I told her I was pregnant, and all I got was seen.
00:41:33No response.
00:41:35Look, you draw me on this side, and you draw me on this side, and don't make my head look
00:41:38big.
00:41:38When she came home, she didn't speak to me.
00:41:41She stayed in her room.
00:41:43We didn't have any conversation, and then eventually my mum came upstairs, and she literally
00:41:48said to me, so, are you not going to speak?
00:41:51I said, about what?
00:41:53And she's like, what's in this?
00:41:56And immediately after that, she gave me a hug, so that made me feel like she was going
00:42:00to support me.
00:42:01Isaiah?
00:42:02What?
00:42:03Who's that supposed to be?
00:42:05Me.
00:42:05Me?
00:42:07That does not look like me.
00:42:08That looks fine.
00:42:09That does not look like me.
00:42:10Do you like having a boys' room?
00:42:13Yeah.
00:42:13What do you like about a boys' room?
00:42:15You like about a boys' room.
00:42:17If all of us were split into one of them, probably we would be scared.
00:42:20Because we don't like monsters.
00:42:23You don't like monsters?
00:42:24No?
00:42:25Are there monsters under the bed?
00:42:26No.
00:42:27I hope not.
00:42:28Why wouldn't there be monsters?
00:42:29So, this is the girls' room.
00:42:32Hello.
00:42:33Hi.
00:42:33I wanted to give my daughter a double bed, because she's going to high school, so she needed
00:42:38that space, and then Soraya's at the top.
00:42:41Are you drawing?
00:42:41I'm proud of you, Kazeel.
00:42:44She shows me that I'm doing a good job, because she really does help with her siblings.
00:42:50Like, she genuinely helps them.
00:42:52Like, when it comes to school, she helps them in the morning.
00:42:54Like, she tells them, like, guys, remember, you brush this way when you're brushing your
00:42:57teeth, or she will guide them with how to do their laces instead of doing it.
00:43:01These are orange.
00:43:03Orange.
00:43:03So, this is the baby's room.
00:43:05This is the smallest room in the house.
00:43:07It's like a very small box room.
00:43:09We've got Azari in this bed, and then we've got Kalani in this bed.
00:43:12Are we going to change your nappy?
00:43:13Because your smell.
00:43:14So, I have three baby dads.
00:43:16I had one child for the first dad.
00:43:19I had four for the second.
00:43:21And my current partner right now, we have two children together.
00:43:25Me and Mario, we've always known each other.
00:43:27We would talk online.
00:43:29So, around 2021, you know, we just started talking a bit more.
00:43:33He was coming over a bit more.
00:43:34He was playing with the kids.
00:43:35He made me feel like, okay, let's go to the park with the kids.
00:43:40He would come to my house and bring nappies, and he would just do things that I never asked,
00:43:43and I instantly, like, fell in love with him for that.
00:43:53Two.
00:43:54Now we can start cleaning.
00:43:58So, in my TikTok videos, I post a lot of voiceovers, and I do a lot of clean with me's.
00:44:04Come and organise the boys' wardrobe with me.
00:44:07After I've done my video, I'll try and trim it down to about three minutes,
00:44:11and I'm going to start my voiceover.
00:44:13In this video, I'm going to be charging up the baby's room.
00:44:15The baby's room looks very messy.
00:44:17The kids were playing up and down all day today, so there's a lot of things that I need to do.
00:44:21When I first started, I got quite a few hate comments.
00:44:26I mean, I still do sometimes.
00:44:27I get comments like, maybe you should have kept your legs closed.
00:44:31Why don't you use contraception?
00:44:32This is shameful, that many kids at your age.
00:44:35And then I've got any fathers knocking about, the benefit check of my tax must be good.
00:44:40I'm not going to lie, it used to really bother me.
00:44:42I used to cry about it.
00:44:43They used to just have such an input on my life.
00:44:45Now I'm like, you know what?
00:44:47Say whatever you have to say.
00:44:48Cuss me out.
00:44:49Just give me a comment, whatever.
00:44:50It's helping me.
00:44:51It's paying me.
00:44:52People are going to say things no matter what.
00:44:53It's not going to change my kids.
00:44:55It's not going to change how I parent them.
00:44:56My mum and my sister are going to be coming over today.
00:44:59Hello.
00:45:00And I'm looking forward to that.
00:45:01They always help me with the kids.
00:45:04Hi.
00:45:05Hey.
00:45:06Hello, princess.
00:45:08It definitely takes a village to raise a child.
00:45:11Like, without my support system, genuinely, I don't know where I would be.
00:45:14How many grandkids all together then?
00:45:16So you've got 24, mum.
00:45:17You've got 24.
00:45:18That's so greedy.
00:45:20How greedy.
00:45:21How did you feel when you found out I was pregnant at 16?
00:45:27I didn't like you.
00:45:28I was very disappointed.
00:45:29To be honest, I felt wounded.
00:45:32I felt like, I can't explain.
00:45:34I felt like I'd lost you.
00:45:36And I was thinking that because of her age, she might not be able to give them what they
00:45:41need because she was still a child herself.
00:45:45But she proved us wrong.
00:45:47I remember her coming in and saying to me, and I was like, oh my gosh, you're
00:45:51pregnant, like, oh my dear, oh my dear.
00:45:53God works in mysterious ways because I feel that the way me and her relationship was prior
00:45:57to having Kezea, had she not had Kezea, I don't think you'd be like this now.
00:46:02Because she was different.
00:46:05I told you you'd be best friends when you got older.
00:46:07I'm open to having another child.
00:46:10I don't know if my mum and sister know that I want to have more children.
00:46:13And I'm really nervous because I want to talk to them about the potential thought of
00:46:17having another baby.
00:46:18How would you guys feel if I was to have another baby after marriage?
00:46:26One thought that made no difference.
00:46:28I was going to say, you've got like, you've got to be shocking.
00:46:30I know, I just want you guys to drink like, you know, a bit.
00:46:33I'm so used to it now.
00:46:34Absolutely not.
00:46:35So you're happy with the kids I've got you two?
00:46:38I love my grandkids.
00:46:39I'll always support her.
00:46:40I don't agree with her most times, but I love my grandkids, so I'll always support her.
00:46:44She has been looking after children from she was 12, because her older siblings have always
00:46:48had children.
00:46:49So I've never been actually worried about her looking after kids.
00:46:52There will be a lot of young girls out there today who are going to be in your situation
00:46:55and are going to get the same stigma that you get.
00:46:58And I feel you telling your story is going to help a lot of others.
00:47:02And just because you've got seven children, I don't see why that wouldn't make me proud
00:47:06of you.
00:47:06It doesn't make sense.
00:47:08I'm saying keep it up.
00:47:09Having kids don't, it doesn't change anything.
00:47:13Guys, come downstairs.
00:47:16It's a staircase.
00:47:17Good girl.
00:47:18I hope one day that my kids, you know, come out of school, you know, have their education
00:47:24and basically, you know, just do well for themselves.
00:47:31I can't even do it.
00:47:32They do it.
00:47:32I wouldn't mind going back into work, but whilst I have so many young kids now, being
00:47:39a stay-at-home mom now, it just, it works best for me.
00:47:46I'm super excited for my future with my kids, because I just know that we're going to make
00:47:51it.
00:47:51I just see it.
00:47:52I just have really good hope and faith that we're going to make it and that they're going
00:47:58to see that this was all worth it.
00:48:02Treasure, I need you to come down with your brothers.
00:48:06It's time to clean.
00:48:07Hi, my name is Turquoise and I'm a mother of four.
00:48:10My oldest is Ta-Ead.
00:48:12He's 19 years old.
00:48:13Then I have 17-year-old twins, Marcel and Treasure.
00:48:16And then I have an eight-year-old.
00:48:18His name is Amir.
00:48:19Do you think it's fair that everyone kind of does a little bit to chip in and help?
00:48:23Yeah, I think it's, yeah.
00:48:25I think it's mandatory, actually.
00:48:26They all have their own home one day and I want them to, you know, keep their homes clean.
00:48:31What was it like, you know, having such a young mom, you know, growing up?
00:48:35Was it fun?
00:48:36Was it hard?
00:48:37Um, there was hardship and fun.
00:48:41We're close in age, so I guess you could say we kind of relate a little bit like that.
00:48:46And then the harsh, harsh shifts is that she's also growing up as well, being a young adult
00:48:52with children.
00:48:53So when I found out that I was pregnant at 16, I was super nervous.
00:49:00My mother was pretty disappointed.
00:49:01I actually hid it from her.
00:49:03Then I was 17 and I had got pregnant again and I found out that I was having twins.
00:49:08And so that's how I end up having three children by the time I was 18.
00:49:12How would you describe life as a teen mom with three children?
00:49:19Really hard.
00:49:20I don't advise anyone to do it.
00:49:22You know, at 18, you're supposed to be figuring out what you want to do with your life.
00:49:27You're not supposed to be raising children and then not on your own.
00:49:32What kind of stuff do you help your mom with?
00:49:33Like sometimes I take out the trash a lot when I be helping her.
00:49:38Do you think your mom is a good mom?
00:49:42Yeah, she's a great mom.
00:49:45Zemir and Jameer, they were my second twin pregnancy.
00:49:49I did enjoy that pregnancy, but it was really rough because they were premature.
00:49:53I found that out at five months.
00:49:55I found out I was having identical boys and they shared the placenta.
00:49:58And Jameer, which is Zemir's twin, he wasn't getting everything that he needed.
00:50:03And unfortunately, he passed away 23 days before his first birthday.
00:50:08So, um, I need the, um, the lettuce and cheese.
00:50:13And you could just put it like, um, you know, on a plate like we do so we can place it on the table.
00:50:19We're having tacos.
00:50:21Um, tacos is one of our favorite things to eat.
00:50:28So who do you guys think is the best cook in the family?
00:50:31Um, I would say the best cook in the family is my mom.
00:50:36But Tait thinks it's him or mom.
00:50:38No, I was going to say my mother as well.
00:50:40And then me.
00:50:43Like, if you was in the cooking contest, you would get first, second, third, third, third, fourth.
00:50:51You're not even fifth.
00:50:52Do you guys think, um, your mom is strict?
00:50:56No, not at all.
00:50:58I think that I'm strict when it, when it matters.
00:51:01Um, I've been living long enough to, to know, like, what's important or more important.
00:51:07Do you guys feel like you can talk to your mom about anything?
00:51:11I feel like, yeah, because, like, I'm really open with my mom.
00:51:15You know, I don't keep no secrets, you know.
00:51:18I really come to my mom a lot.
00:51:21So do you guys all get along as siblings?
00:51:23I feel like we get along.
00:51:25As siblings, we, we get along sometimes, but nobody's perfect.
00:51:29So we have our ups and downs.
00:51:32Hey guys, welcome back to our channel.
00:51:35So right now I'm editing our New York vlog.
00:51:37We were there for Tait's 19th birthday.
00:51:39I love that I've captured so much happy moments with my kids.
00:51:51They going around, they going around, they going around.
00:51:52Oh!
00:51:54I started sharing my story online in about 2022.
00:51:58So some of the responses I've got on social media have been good, but some have been bad.
00:52:05Um, we receive a lot of negative comments, um, in regards to me being a teenage parent.
00:52:13Um, it's as if people want me to go hide in the house.
00:52:16So some of the negative comments are comments like, you need a chastity belt and straight jacket on that.
00:52:23Just another grown woman I will look at as an example of what not to do.
00:52:28How is having three kids before 18 to flex?
00:52:31That's sick.
00:52:32With a sick emoji.
00:52:34Let's stop flexing this because that's showing this new generation that being a single teen parent is okay.
00:52:40Another person said, what happened to morals?
00:52:44OMG.
00:52:46You shouldn't have a child or, especially not three kids.
00:52:49I'm so young, but, um, you know, this is my life.
00:52:53Sometimes I respond back to negative comments, but I've learned that it's best to not respond because a lot of the people on social media, they can go back and forth for days.
00:53:02Do people at school judge you guys or think it's weird that you have such a young mom?
00:53:06Um, I wouldn't say judge.
00:53:09Like, no, no, I'm older.
00:53:10I wouldn't say judge.
00:53:10They'll be, like, more shocked, like, no, that's your mom.
00:53:13Like, sometimes, like, me and my mom will walk on a stair.
00:53:15They'll probably think that's my sister or something.
00:53:18For the people that judge, they would say, like, things like, discredited my mom or something.
00:53:23Like, seeing she really don't take care of us or whatever.
00:53:26How do you feel about your mom posting, you know, videos of you guys online, doing, like, the vlog and Instagram?
00:53:32Uh, no, I do not mind being online.
00:53:34I actually absolutely love being online because, like, uh, yeah, you get negativity, but I'm not really worried about that.
00:53:42I'm more focused on the positivity, and it's, the positivity outweighs the negativity.
00:53:47I would say my family is really creative, if you want to call it that, or, like, um, adventurous because we, as you can see,
00:53:55we really, like, going on trips and stuff.
00:53:59I feel like we're a great family.
00:54:07How are you?
00:54:08I'm pretty good.
00:54:09You know, we're going on a cruise to the Bahamas.
00:54:12Hopefully, you're able to, um, come with us.
00:54:14Yes, absolutely.
00:54:15How does it feel, Mom?
00:54:17Like, you see, looking back, you know, we're talking about how, like, I had three kids by the time I was 18.
00:54:22I was so upset because the one time, okay, but the other right after, I'm like, what is going on?
00:54:28If you remember, I felt the kids.
00:54:32I felt that you was pregnant again.
00:54:34I wanted to scream out the window, it's going to be twins, that's what you get.
00:54:39But, again, I have to take blame because you were still a young teenager, and I should have been watching you way better.
00:54:47Like, making sure that I was, like, just more focused on, you know, if was you taking birth control, what was going on, and being more open to talking.
00:54:55How would you feel if, um, any of your children had kids at a young age, like you did?
00:55:01I would not be happy.
00:55:05I would be really sad because although I overcame many things, being a teenage parent, I don't want that for my children.
00:55:12Me having teenagers myself now, I see that it's really important, like, being aware and, you know, having those hard talks.
00:55:19Yes.
00:55:20Because you just look and your daughter's 18 with three kids.
00:55:23Yes.
00:55:24So I definitely understand.
00:55:25At the time, it just seemed like, it was just scary, just not knowing what you're going to do with being so young, with small children.
00:55:37Like, thinking back to all those years ago, and now here we are, like, what do you think about, like, your grandkids and you?
00:55:43Oh my God, I feel like I'm about to cry with that.
00:55:50You need a minute?
00:55:51Mm-hmm.
00:55:51You're good.
00:55:52Okay.
00:55:52They're amazing, and when you're in it, the time seemed like it goes so slow, but in actuality, it really goes so fast.
00:56:01Yeah.
00:56:02You did a great job with them.
00:56:04They're smart.
00:56:05They do so much, and the world is there.
00:56:08They're just beginning to live.
00:56:09Yeah, I'm excited, and I really do appreciate that.
00:56:12Like, when you text me and write me, like, oh, I'm proud of you as a mother.
00:56:16I know that how rough it was for you, knowing that I had three kids so young.
00:56:22But if I don't tell you enough, I'm super proud of you.
00:56:25You're so amazing.
00:56:28I love you.
00:56:29I love you, too.
00:56:29Being a parent is hard at any age, but as long as you do your best and you love your children, things will be good.
00:56:39I definitely feel like I've grown up with my children.
00:56:41I'm super proud the way that I raised my children and the woman that I am today, the mother that I am today.
00:56:47I hope that all my children live successful, happy lives and then one day make me a grandmother.
00:56:54But we have some time for that.
00:56:57We're speaking future.
00:57:07She says she wants a milkshake for breakfast.
00:57:10Girl, I always start with me cooking breakfast because they demand breakfast.
00:57:16Hey, girl.
00:57:20My name is Linaya.
00:57:21And my name is Tyra.
00:57:22And we have five kids.
00:57:24The oldest is eight.
00:57:25His name is Princeton.
00:57:27Then we have Messiah.
00:57:28He's six.
00:57:29We have Legacy.
00:57:30He's five.
00:57:31And we have Treasure.
00:57:32She's three.
00:57:33And we have True.
00:57:35Look at True, baby.
00:57:35Oh, she's waving.
00:57:36And she's one.
00:57:38And she runs the house.
00:57:39As you can see.
00:57:40Usually, for breakfast, everybody eats the same.
00:57:46For dinner, everybody is picky.
00:57:48So I have to try to get everybody fed.
00:57:52How much do you spend on groceries per month?
00:57:54If you put grocery and out to eat put together, it's easily going over $2,000.
00:58:01How do you split your household responsibilities?
00:58:05I cook some days.
00:58:06He cook some days.
00:58:07Um, I wash the laundry and he folds it normally.
00:58:13I feel like all he do is play with me all day.
00:58:17He's a goofy, fun parent.
00:58:19And I'm the parent that means business.
00:58:22Which one of you is this picture of parents?
00:58:25Oh, definitely her.
00:58:26Oh, I'm the cool dad.
00:58:29All we do is have fun all day long.
00:58:32Is he actually fun?
00:58:33So what is some of your favorite stuff to do, kids?
00:58:38Uh, I like playing sports and playing video games.
00:58:42And I also like going to sleep.
00:58:44All right, then we'll see you.
00:58:49Is this a nice moment for you guys while they're eating?
00:58:52Yes.
00:58:52Oh, yeah.
00:58:54Yeah.
00:58:54They occupied, so that's all that matters.
00:58:56There you go.
00:58:57If we can get all five of them occupied at the same time, yeah.
00:59:01We cherish it.
00:59:02There you go.
00:59:04How long have you been married?
00:59:06August, it would be five years.
00:59:09When we met, I was 16 and she was 13.
00:59:13I was 14 when I got pregnant with my first kid.
00:59:17How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?
00:59:21It was just lack of, a disbelief.
00:59:24Yeah, when I found out at first, I about didn't believe it.
00:59:28Just as it settled in, I kind of like got nervous.
00:59:30How about both of your families?
00:59:34What did they think when you told them?
00:59:36My mom, I think she felt maybe a little disappointed.
00:59:41About the same thing, about disappointment.
00:59:44It's pretty much like, you know what you got to do now if you got a child on the way and everything.
00:59:49How big of a task is it getting everybody ready for them?
00:59:56It's a really big task, actually, getting them all ready.
01:00:01You have one crying, you have the other ones.
01:00:05They running all over the place, won't be still.
01:00:08What is your day-to-day life like as a period of five kids?
01:00:11Imagine if every day you had a tornado on the way.
01:00:17You know a tornado was coming every day in the weather.
01:00:20We got one kid that's always crying.
01:00:22We got one kid that's always into something.
01:00:25We got another kid that can't never find his socks or shoes.
01:00:30It's a lot of energy in this home.
01:00:32It can be, at times, a little draining.
01:00:36But it has its moments, you know.
01:00:38It's a lot of love and caring about each other and everything like that.
01:00:42So, I always wanted a lot of kids, so I'm happy with it.
01:00:45Here we go.
01:00:48Legacy, you like that stick?
01:00:51Yeah.
01:00:53Are your kids all well-behaved?
01:00:55Yes, for the most part.
01:00:57Every single teacher believes that we have the best kids ever.
01:01:01But they have their moments where all they do is fight.
01:01:05Good morning, my friends, and happy Wednesday.
01:01:13I'm trying to figure out why ain't nobody tell me these kids' last day of school is on Thursday.
01:01:19I share my life on TikTok by just doing day-to-day routines
01:01:23and sharing my life as a 24-year-old mom of five kids.
01:01:31Listen here now, I'm 24 with five kids.
01:01:33And if it ever seemed like I was trying to promote teen pregnancy
01:01:37or to have your kids young, baby, go call them people on me.
01:01:42How do you feel when someone says you're glamorizing teen pregnancy?
01:01:46I don't like that because I'm not.
01:01:49Some of the negative things that people have said is,
01:01:52why would you do that?
01:01:54Bro, she's really ruined her life at 14 years of age.
01:01:58Being 24 with five kids isn't it.
01:02:01I don't care what nobody says.
01:02:03That is really not a good look.
01:02:04How does that make you feel when you hear stuff like that?
01:02:07Honestly, it don't make me feel bad.
01:02:10It just makes me feel like, you know, everybody should mind it being me.
01:02:14Do you experience the same sort of, like, judgment-type stuff that she's experienced?
01:02:20Actually, I haven't experienced any, like, judgment towards this situation.
01:02:26And I feel like it's kind of fair.
01:02:30Can you tell me about how some of your family supports you?
01:02:32If we need anything, they help out a lot.
01:02:35And they help with the kids if needed.
01:02:39Hey, I like your dress.
01:02:41Hey.
01:02:41Hey, Drew.
01:02:43You're so pretty today.
01:02:45Uh-oh, uh-oh, uh-oh.
01:02:47Tell me what it's like to have all these younglings in your life.
01:02:51It's great.
01:02:52I mean, it's amazing, like, to see them all hanging out.
01:02:55If I wouldn't trade them for nothing else in the world.
01:02:58Oh, that is so pretty.
01:03:00That's a flower.
01:03:01Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.
01:03:03Did you have any concerns about the age that you got when they first started getting injured?
01:03:09No, not really.
01:03:11No, I didn't, because my daughter's very mature.
01:03:16What about when they first had the kids?
01:03:17Was it kind of like, oh, my?
01:03:19Yeah.
01:03:20At first, with her being so young, it was a little upsetting.
01:03:24Because it was a story about how I found out.
01:03:28But it was very surprising.
01:03:31What's the story?
01:03:31Oh, so tell us the story here.
01:03:34Her and her cousin was on a moped, and she fell off.
01:03:39I had to come take her to the doctor, and they was like, well, do you know she's pregnant?
01:03:43No, I do not.
01:03:47Do you think being 24 years old and having five kids is a lot?
01:03:53Yeah, it is.
01:03:55Because they're not cheap, but they are doing a great job.
01:03:58She's doing a great job, though.
01:03:59I can't imagine myself with five kids.
01:04:03I'm sorry.
01:04:04How old are you right now?
01:04:05I'm 30, but I don't, no, no, no.
01:04:08What do you think makes a good parent?
01:04:14I think patience.
01:04:16Just being there.
01:04:17Just show up for your kids.
01:04:19Would you like to have any more children?
01:04:21No, the funny thing is, is after we had our first one, I want to start in five, like a
01:04:28basketball team.
01:04:29So, to me, five is the perfect number.
01:04:32I got to get out.
01:04:33My knees hurt.
01:04:34If financial sanity was a problem, then I have more.
01:04:59I have more.
01:05:08I got to get out.
01:05:11And let's get to five.
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