00:00My man got his boss pregnant.
00:01Now we're a poly family.
00:03I gave birth to his kids, and then I fell in love with this girl.
00:06Now she's mine, too.
00:08Ow.
00:09How did you feel when Shai got pregnant?
00:11Was there any jealousy?
00:12It was a season of emotions, OK?
00:14I didn't know how to handle it.
00:16People always say that our kids are going to grow up confused.
00:18That little boy going to think it's OK to have two girls
00:21at the same time when he gets older.
00:23So?
00:23I thought my mom was cool with our poly family,
00:26but Mike isn't so sure.
00:27Today, we'll find out.
00:29Do y'all ever worry about how y'all relationship
00:31is going to affect the kids when they get older?
00:36Mommy be shy.
00:38Hey, mama.
00:39Aw, you're making breakfast.
00:41That's so sweet.
00:43Hey, mama.
00:44I'm Mike.
00:45I'm Des.
00:45I'm Shai.
00:46And we're a poly thrupper with three children.
00:48Do you want to eat, Bubba?
00:49I want to eat.
00:50You want to eat, Bubba, kids?
00:51You want to eat, mama?
00:53Say yes.
00:53No.
00:54She's like, no.
00:55Me and Mike met in high school.
00:56We're high school sweethearts.
00:57And it's been 12 years since?
01:00Yeah, 12 years.
01:06We started poly when we was in college,
01:09two or three years after we started dating.
01:11She said that she wants to have a girlfriend.
01:13And I said, I'm cool with that.
01:14There you go.
01:15How and when did you meet Shai?
01:16How did you come to be a thrupper?
01:18He told me there's this girl he thinks I'd like.
01:21She was my manager, actually.
01:22She was my boss.
01:23So then I started coming to the job to kind of peep it out and see who she was.
01:27I was like, OK, I like her.
01:30Go ahead and flirt with her a little bit and see if she's feeling it.
01:37Then we planned a whole friend's trip in order to get closer to her.
01:40We have very, very fun moments.
01:43Yeah, I enjoy it very much.
01:45Our relationship is four relationships, me and Mike, Mike and Shai.
01:50Shai and Mike, and there's all three of us.
01:52We're all in love.
01:53We're all intimate together.
01:54We all sleep together.
01:55Oh, don't mind if I do.
01:57Damn.
01:59We all have three children together.
02:01Shai had the first one, which is Skyla.
02:03And then she also had Mikkel, which is the smallest, our last one.
02:08And then Des had our middle child, Royale.
02:11You can say we weren't the types to actually want kids.
02:15We wanted kids, but like no time soon.
02:19You know how people say don't have kids in the same relationship?
02:22It kind of helped ours.
02:24We all have different parenting styles.
02:26I'm a little rough and then also a little soft at the same time.
02:30Des is just all soft.
02:32Mike, he's mainly the hardest parent.
02:36He's a stricter parent.
02:37It evens out because, you know, the kids need all that.
02:40They need, they need strictness, but they also need love too.
02:46Hello.
02:48Yes.
02:50Good girl.
02:51Des, how did you feel when Shai got pregnant?
02:53Was there any jealousy?
02:54How did you deal with it?
02:56Ah, yes.
02:57The golden question.
02:58When Shai got pregnant, it was a season.
03:02It was a season of emotions, okay?
03:06I didn't know how to handle it at first.
03:08It was hard.
03:09I think a big part of it was trust.
03:11It was feeling like, okay, am I loved enough for all of this?
03:15Is this, are we ready for all of this?
03:17I think over time, once we like realized like the child is coming,
03:21we got to get our together.
03:22We were just like, you know what?
03:25It's going to be okay.
03:26And the first thing she said to me was, she was like, well, looks like you got to get off
03:30birth control.
03:30Cause you're having a baby next.
03:32Were the more recent pregnancies planned or surprises again?
03:36None of our pregnancies were planned.
03:40They all caught us off guard.
03:42Every last one of them.
03:45What was it like being pregnant at the same time as each other?
03:48Oof.
03:49Ooh.
03:50Ooh.
03:51For me, that was the experience.
03:53Dealing with different hormones, you know, different cravings, fighting, yelling, you know,
03:58and then having our first kid there as well.
04:01It was stressful.
04:02I like being pregnant together.
04:03I told her she was going to breastfeed for me.
04:06I rubbed her belly.
04:07She rubbed mine.
04:08I almost didn't want it to end.
04:13Having three parent figures in a family home is beautiful.
04:19I don't know how people do one parent.
04:21Like, oh, kudos to the moms that have one parent in the house.
04:25Having two wives raising kids, it feels like a blessing.
04:28Because, you know, it's double the love, double the care.
04:31And we all helping each other out.
04:33It's like our little village, you know?
04:36When our kids grow up, we plan to be very open about our relationship.
04:40I think they understand that they have two moms and they have a daddy.
04:45And I think that's all they got for him right now.
04:48We're going to be transparent and just reassure them that we love them.
04:51It is okay to be in whatever type of relationship you want to be and be yourself.
04:56Mikey, we want red velvet cake.
05:00Have you experienced any judgment as a result of your relationship?
05:03Oh, yeah.
05:06When we're out in public, we do get stares a lot.
05:08We also get a lot of comments about our relationship online.
05:13Hey, so this is insane.
05:16No, see, this is too much.
05:18The other one we get is, did she get pregnant because she was jealous of having a baby?
05:23Oh, my.
05:24Oh, yeah.
05:24I remember that one.
05:25I was like, F these kids.
05:28What are you talking about?
05:29Nobody's having a baby just because she had a baby.
05:32They even get worse to the point where it's like, best two of them be together.
05:36You're just the second wheel, hun.
05:38I thought it was the third wheel.
05:40Right.
05:42There are also positive ones for people who support our relationship and understand it.
05:47Sounds like the perfect life.
05:49Enjoy y'all's blessing and family.
05:50And another one we got was so much negativity in the comments,
05:54but I guarantee you a lot of the women that got a problem with this have been cheated on
05:58and stayed with their man.
06:00For the people that leave nasty comments, thank you for leaving comments and liking.
06:04Yeah, you're only helping us out.
06:07My mom did express her disagreement with me having kids in this dynamic.
06:15Family is one of those where they love you, but they can have a hard time,
06:21you know, covering up their emotions about it.
06:25Mama!
06:26What's up, mom?
06:28Hi, baby.
06:29Hey, mama.
06:30How you doing?
06:31Everybody's in here.
06:32Mama!
06:34How the baby's doing.
06:35They giving us a run for our money.
06:37I'm waiting for you to take them.
06:41You say that every time.
06:43Ma, what did you think about, you know, when we started dating Shai and
06:47her getting pregnant and everything like that?
06:50Well, first, I thought you was just playing.
06:52I was wondering what was going through your head at that time.
06:55I was upset.
06:56You know, I was mad.
06:57I was angry.
06:58I was like, I don't know who this girl is.
07:00I was just want to know, do y'all ever worry about how your relationship is going to affect
07:04the kids when they get older?
07:06Mom, I think they're going to be all right.
07:08I think there's going to be people that, you know, may judge them and there might be people that
07:13that love it, but we're going to be there for them throughout the whole thing.
07:17They're going to be like, you've only got two parents?
07:20I got three.
07:21How do you feel about our family now?
07:24Now, I'm glad that you're happy and y'all family dynamics, it actually inspires me.
07:31It's just so different, but it's amazing that I'm going to just end it there.
07:36Like, it's amazing.
07:39Y'all got this.
07:40Y'all rock.
07:41Y'all inspire a lot of people and I love y'all.
07:44Oh, we love you too.
07:45I hope to see y'all soon.
07:47What would you say to people who question the way you do things as a family?
07:53You can either get on board or get off the train, honestly.
07:56Oh my baby.
07:57Are we ready?
07:58Hold on tight.
07:59We're going for a ride.
08:01People are so used to things being a certain way and people fear what they don't understand.
08:06I'm very excited for what the future holds for our family.
08:11Being able to just like live and be who we want to be.
08:16Would you all like to add more husbands or wives in the future?
08:20Can you handle more?
08:21We would not like to add no more.
08:23I don't think we can handle it, but I'd be open to it.
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